Obviously, it varies greatly in how or what context they're brought up. If you ask someone what they're looking for in a partnership, it's often a reference point to share reasons why you may not want this or that quality or experience again. Yes, I would like to hear about past experiences. (Un) fortunately, perception matters and if they're not thoughtful in their words, things might go a different direction.
I’d want to know of course.. most definitely not on a first date though but somewhere down the line.. I’d see if they still get in their feelings, how they’d been hurt, what they’ve learned from those experiences, how it made them grow, how they need to be loved, what they’re looking for in a partner and things like that. I would learn a lot about their personality too.
It is OK if not overdone. I know for a fact that I have done it on dates before. I don't think any woman was turned off by it. And I have listened to women talk about past relationships also and I am fine with it. But of course you don't want it to consume the date... LOL
I do want to hear about the past but totally without pressure, I guess when they are okay with sharing the information I found those people more bold and ready for relationship that people who don't like to tell maybe there's some reasons not to tell to a new person who just started to talk to you but that person would be already be living with their past and not in present with you.
Like you've mentioned yourself, it depends on the date and how far along into the relationship I am with him. If he's someone whom I'm deeply intrested in and have built a strong foundation with, I'd tend to be interested in learning the types of women and how his past relationships led him to me.
There might be some specific questions I'd ask about her past relationships, either on the date, or later on. So essentially what I'm saying is if there's something I want to know, I'll ask. If I don't ask, it means I'm not really interested. Although it would only actually bother me if it was excessive and became clear that she wasn't over them.
I do want to hear about them, to understand and avoid any issues that involved the breakup. And to see if there are any little red flags to look out for.
I don’t want to hear about them, if there is still some strong attachment there. And the person hasn’t completely healed yet to move on to a relationship.
it can be good to hear as gives an idea about how your date is as a person, whether or not they are over their ex, how they were in their past relationships, whether or not they have a complication which could effect you both or whether their openness is something that will be good for you both as a couple
Not until I've slept with her at least once. (doesn't matter how many dates that takes).
See if I know she's had them all over the world I'd be self conscious about outperforming them when it comes down to it and realistically speaking I'm not garanteed to be the best lover she's ever had so the pressure might make it less intense for us.
Now after she and i have established our sexual chemistry in bed then I can hear about war stories. Naturally I'd share mine just the same.
I would like to know because i want to know how experienced they are and what they did in there lives to see how they got where there at and so ik what im getting into and what to expect them to do in the bedroom and im a non jelious guy and wouldn't mind sharing if that makes her happy and makes her feel good about herself
I don’t mind if something comes up. I won’t ask anything direct about any past relationships. I believe in not asking questions that you don’t really want the answers to. Like, how many people have you been with? I don’t care. If you’re telling me a story and it involves an ex. Just say friend in place of ex and nobody would even know.
Sooner or later you're going to have to open up to a person and you're going to have to tell them everything that's happened to you and sometimes that can be good sometimes it cannot be good but you have to come clean so I would tell them about my past relationships and I would hope they would tell me about theirs if not the first date they will tell me in time hopefully
With the mindset I have now, if I was once again a young man and on a date, I would, at the beginning, want to hear only general information about her. And I would reciprocate. But eventually I would be interested in communicating with each other about more personal and intimate things such as our past experiences and comparing them to each other's
I want first dates to be about us but at a ceartain point it would be ok. Now if a person stated their last partner was toxic and the stayed together long term you are telegrapghing that you would probably do it again and a toxic person would see their next victim.
I dont really care about the past relationships your looking for a fresh start so just focus on that if while telling story's at some point that involves the ex partner then fair enough but surely that can be avoided on the first dates
Sure, everyone just loves to hear about the other's "baggage". It makes you feel like they are just using you to dump on. Maybe not purposely, but hearing them talk about their past failures makes me wonder in they will be in another one if they can't let the water pass under the bridge and let it flow on out of sight.
I don’t want to hear about exes when we’re on a date. It’s a big turn off to hear about his exes when we’re trying to have a date. If I know that we’re dating and we’re getting serious then fine, you could talk about exes in passing but still, not on a date night.
No I don't want to hear about it until it's much more further in the relationship because I feel like this person doesn't want to date me/know me, heck she doesn't even like me and she just wants a free therapist to talk about her own problems and get some attention and I basically mean nothing to her, so no thankkkkiyyoou
Voted do, but depends on her. I'd listen to anything she voluntarily wanted to share with me and I'd be interested (and part of getting to know her). Especially any bad experiences as it could explain how she might act in our relationship. Timing wise, first date might be just general and brief info lol. But share more as time goes on and/or if asked.
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Obviously, it varies greatly in how or what context they're brought up.
If you ask someone what they're looking for in a partnership, it's often a reference point to share reasons why you may not want this or that quality or experience again.
Yes, I would like to hear about past experiences. (Un) fortunately, perception matters and if they're not thoughtful in their words, things might go a different direction.
Such a smart cookie 🍪
I’d want to know of course.. most definitely not on a first date though but somewhere down the line.. I’d see if they still get in their feelings, how they’d been hurt, what they’ve learned from those experiences, how it made them grow, how they need to be loved, what they’re looking for in a partner and things like that. I would learn a lot about their personality too.
It is OK if not overdone. I know for a fact that I have done it on dates before. I don't think any woman was turned off by it. And I have listened to women talk about past relationships also and I am fine with it. But of course you don't want it to consume the date... LOL
Yea I definitely cannot talk about mine... Maybe when we get a little more on a serious level its a topic but definitely not newly dating for me
I do want to hear about the past but totally without pressure, I guess when they are okay with sharing the information I found those people more bold and ready for relationship that people who don't like to tell maybe there's some reasons not to tell to a new person who just started to talk to you but that person would be already be living with their past and not in present with you.
Like you've mentioned yourself, it depends on the date and how far along into the relationship I am with him. If he's someone whom I'm deeply intrested in and have built a strong foundation with, I'd tend to be interested in learning the types of women and how his past relationships led him to me.
There might be some specific questions I'd ask about her past relationships, either on the date, or later on. So essentially what I'm saying is if there's something I want to know, I'll ask. If I don't ask, it means I'm not really interested. Although it would only actually bother me if it was excessive and became clear that she wasn't over them.
I do want to hear about them, to understand and avoid any issues that involved the breakup. And to see if there are any little red flags to look out for.
I don’t want to hear about them, if there is still some strong attachment there. And the person hasn’t completely healed yet to move on to a relationship.
it can be good to hear as gives an idea about how your date is as a person, whether or not they are over their ex, how they were in their past relationships, whether or not they have a complication which could effect you both or whether their openness is something that will be good for you both as a couple
however it should only be told if asked about...
Not until I've slept with her at least once. (doesn't matter how many dates that takes).
See if I know she's had them all over the world I'd be self conscious about outperforming them when it comes down to it and realistically speaking I'm not garanteed to be the best lover she's ever had so the pressure might make it less intense for us.
Now after she and i have established our sexual chemistry in bed then I can hear about war stories. Naturally I'd share mine just the same.
I would like to know because i want to know how experienced they are and what they did in there lives to see how they got where there at and so ik what im getting into and what to expect them to do in the bedroom and im a non jelious guy and wouldn't mind sharing if that makes her happy and makes her feel good about herself
I don’t mind if something comes up. I won’t ask anything direct about any past relationships. I believe in not asking questions that you don’t really want the answers to. Like, how many people have you been with? I don’t care. If you’re telling me a story and it involves an ex. Just say friend in place of ex and nobody would even know.
Sooner or later you're going to have to open up to a person and you're going to have to tell them everything that's happened to you and sometimes that can be good sometimes it cannot be good but you have to come clean so I would tell them about my past relationships and I would hope they would tell me about theirs if not the first date they will tell me in time hopefully
With the mindset I have now, if I was once again a young man and on a date, I would, at the beginning, want to hear only general information about her. And I would reciprocate. But eventually I would be interested in communicating with each other about more personal and intimate things such as our past experiences and comparing them to each other's
I want first dates to be about us but at a ceartain point it would be ok. Now if a person stated their last partner was toxic and the stayed together long term you are telegrapghing that you would probably do it again and a toxic person would see their next victim.
I dont really care about the past relationships your looking for a fresh start so just focus on that if while telling story's at some point that involves the ex partner then fair enough but surely that can be avoided on the first dates
Date 1 no - and it would suggest they’re not over it If they bring it up.
Later dates and before relationship - it’s good to know why things ended - it tells a lot about what’s important to them compatibility wise.
Sure, everyone just loves to hear about the other's "baggage". It makes you feel like they are just using you to dump on. Maybe not purposely, but hearing them talk about their past failures makes me wonder in they will be in another one if they can't let the water pass under the bridge and let it flow on out of sight.
I don’t want to hear about exes when we’re on a date. It’s a big turn off to hear about his exes when we’re trying to have a date. If I know that we’re dating and we’re getting serious then fine, you could talk about exes in passing but still, not on a date night.
No I don't want to hear about it until it's much more further in the relationship because I feel like this person doesn't want to date me/know me, heck she doesn't even like me and she just wants a free therapist to talk about her own problems and get some attention and I basically mean nothing to her, so no thankkkkiyyoou
Voted do, but depends on her. I'd listen to anything she voluntarily wanted to share with me and I'd be interested (and part of getting to know her). Especially any bad experiences as it could explain how she might act in our relationship. Timing wise, first date might be just general and brief info lol. But share more as time goes on and/or if asked.