See I usually ask that before we date though with one guy it came out during our relationship since he wasn't able to bring it up but usually talk about that before we go anywhere so I know what I'm dealing with.
In what form are you communicating then... text, on the phone, video chat, or some casual in-person relationship before dating?
Me, personally, I would never ask these questions over text. I'm going to look the person on the eye and want to see their response that way. But I know a lot of people will do a lot of important communication over text, which is a very filtered form of communication. But these people seem to believe that it saves them from getting too invested, if they can find out some of these details before they even meet.
In any form available because If both me and him were really interested we wouldn't run away if that conversation didn't go well. Me and my ex had a conversation where he explained why we broke he claimed that he had cheated and was so ashamed of himself and as soon as school started back up wanted to apologize for breaking up (he was drunk with his family and him saying he cheated was after we broke up) like I didn't forgive his ass for a long minute from breaking up with me and he was just hurt like hell for a while and seemed to never forgive himself (when he told me about the cheating I was unfazed tho he thought I'd be upset even tho we weren't together by then.
It's those past relationships that we failed at, that makes uus the way we are today. Hearing their past may give valuable knowledge on how they see life with you can or can not be.
A lot depends on Number of dates you have been on. i think you need to find out more info if it looks like it might get to full on status then yes ask a few questions. good luck
Yes, I would want to know. I would want to know what triggers them and what doesn't do it for them. The topic can't be pushed through. If the person, or me, drift away then that is fine. This will leave more information for later.
I think it is important to share, but not right away, that what people tell me & you shouldn’t force them to tell you when they not ready. And also talk about their sexual history, I guess.
Hearing about past relationships is the last thin I want to talk about on a date. Even after we have been together for a period of time I would rather not hear about it.
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Maybe there are some red flags and knowing a little of the split might shed some light!
See I usually ask that before we date though with one guy it came out during our relationship since he wasn't able to bring it up but usually talk about that before we go anywhere so I know what I'm dealing with.
In what form are you communicating then... text, on the phone, video chat, or some casual in-person relationship before dating?
Me, personally, I would never ask these questions over text. I'm going to look the person on the eye and want to see their response that way. But I know a lot of people will do a lot of important communication over text, which is a very filtered form of communication. But these people seem to believe that it saves them from getting too invested, if they can find out some of these details before they even meet.
In any form available because If both me and him were really interested we wouldn't run away if that conversation didn't go well. Me and my ex had a conversation where he explained why we broke he claimed that he had cheated and was so ashamed of himself and as soon as school started back up wanted to apologize for breaking up (he was drunk with his family and him saying he cheated was after we broke up) like I didn't forgive his ass for a long minute from breaking up with me and he was just hurt like hell for a while and seemed to never forgive himself (when he told me about the cheating I was unfazed tho he thought I'd be upset even tho we weren't together by then.
It depends how far into the relationship we are. Not on a first date. Probably not within the first 5 or 6 dates.
I want to have that conversation before we even go on the date.
It's those past relationships that we failed at, that makes uus the way we are today. Hearing their past may give valuable knowledge on how they see life with you can or can not be.
When you know a persons past you can better navigate the relationship. And make informed decisions if you want to continue.
Something in passing is OK, but not a long monologue.
I wouldn’t bring it up on the first date, but I’ll talk about it if she asks.
If they feel comfortable to share than sure. It's not something I would intentionally bring up on a first date though.
A lot depends on Number of dates you have been on. i think you need to find out more info if it looks like it might get to full on status then yes ask a few questions. good luck
Not. But let allthings unfold naturally ... what they say is useful info. How they view the ex... for me to determine any red flags.
the date is about getting to know them better and not all about how bad their last date was or their ex- spouse was
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Yes, I would want to know. I would want to know what triggers them and what doesn't do it for them. The topic can't be pushed through. If the person, or me, drift away then that is fine. This will leave more information for later.
I need to no what not to do. If I want our relationship to work.
Only if I ask, not him bringing it up. And also, no details please.
As a matter of fact I would like to interview previous relationships to establish a pattern and how to avoid the pitfalls and our current relationship
I'm an open book so I like talking about it but I don't expect them to be, but I prefer it just to get some history
Yes, as a way to understand their past dating habits/attitudes/etc...
I think it is important to share, but not right away, that what people tell me & you shouldn’t force them to tell you when they not ready. And also talk about their sexual history, I guess.
Hearing about past relationships is the last thin I want to talk about on a date. Even after we have been together for a period of time I would rather not hear about it.