Is this true? When a girl thinks about a future with her boyfriend it’s normal but if a guy thinks about a future with his girlfriend he’s serious?

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COMMODOREII · Accepted Answer

Im not sure about your boyfriend ut i can tell you for me at the age i was mostly hopeful. Wanting to have things go the way that i wanted. Unfortunately life doesn't work that way. Its good you both make plans and express interest in each other but remember it is also early in your relationship. Im not trying to deter you from being happy but it would be best to step back from time to time and evaluate the situation. Continue to communicate and continue to make plans but small plans. Don't look so far into the future. Try working with him in down the week maybe no farther than a month. For example start planning for Halloween, maybe you both can dress up, go trick-or-treating or a party if it is allowed considering covid. Maybe plan something together with your parents or his. Take it a month at a time. It doesn't mean you can't have your long term goals of marriage and being together but now work towards it. See if you both really want that. Have fun and enjoy what you have now. In the future if you do get married and have kids you both will know how to deal with your own kids when your son or daughter wants to get married at a young age. Good luck to you for being happy is good. 😎👍

Lionman95 · Accepted Answer

I don't like generalizations because they normally don't show the whole truth. If he's really talking about having a future it's a good sign for the moment. Because that means he's at least interested or in love with you. But there's a difference between a guy's thoughts and actions. Because state of mind is more validated by what he does than we thinks he likes. That doesn't mean I don't believe he's serious with you but you should watch his actions, because they decide the worth of what he says.

Mollynotgemma · Accepted Answer

Yes it’s true... and also your question is the answer!
A girl thinks about the future with her man is acceptable!
A man thinks about the future with his girl he’s serious?’
All that’s happened is you’ve mixed the words in the sentence around!
We all think females think of the future with our partner... and then you say of the man thinks of the future because of the girl! How about change that sentence to. The man thinks he has a future with this girl?
The reason we feel it more serious when a man says to his friends... she’s mine. I love her etc... Is hard for a man to do!
Women have it easy being emotional and we have to think of the future quicker due to our ability to have children!
Granted.. if a man says he sees a future to you. You crumble and feel truly loved!

VIVANT · Accepted Answer

No. in my opinion it’s serious if anyone thinks about it. It’s not a casual thing. This idea just comes from the trope that women are born freakin of marriage which isn’t true.
anyhow futures are a big deal so I don’t think it is ever insignificant.

TadCurious · Answer

Jay I think this is one of those quotes that makes for a good meme. But it really comes down to the 2 people involved. I guess I have a bit of a problem with the quote because it implies that it's normal for girls to think of a future but not be serious, and that only guys are serious when they think about that.
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GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

It could be true? My very first girlfriend was age 21 and I was age 28, I gave her an engagement ring and proposed to her well after so many days, she broke off our relationship, and the engagement but this girl had mental health issues such as Schizophrenia also she was in State Hospital and her Mother told her not to date a guy of her own race but date guys that are only African American ( Black) so it's kind of sad to think that this girl followed her Mother's rules and the Mother was alcoholic and the girls step-dad was Black but was one of the sweetest guys anyone would want meet but we all learn in life

nonratracereality · Answer

Because the attitudes are completely different and possibly at times opposite. If both sexes were of the same integrity maturity and responsibility then its possible you're on the same page. You found someone who can have at least 90% compatible but that only occurs when you're a real person and love you to do the right thing. Otherwise the guy is not mature enough to take on a huge responsibility you. Also he's not even established job apt savings car looks intelligence sex appeal unawkwardness etc. Be in the same page otherwise all you'll do is flip the pages.

Jennyj1225q · Answer

All my ex boyfriends talked about future with me but all end up becomes "ex". But I always believed they were serious at that moment.

ZackBan · Answer

I think the saying goes when a guy thinks about a future with his girlfriend he's lying... 🙃

Not insinuating anything about your boyfriend but guys in general don't plan their lives ahead of time. And many guys are liars so it adds up

Itsmeh2002 · Answer

my boyfriend does the same in fact he actually take steps to show it not actually talk just to talk.. a real man won't just sit there and tell you how I want a wedding with you or how I want babies with you they would actually take baby steps to go into that route and show you how it is.

Sevenpointfive · Answer

something's wrong with your boyfriend. but i guess i was an oblivious teenager once too. i know he's not a teen but still

BoredNCrazed1324 · Answer

It depends on if he's serious about it. Talking about a future together though if he is serious is a great sign. What you have is young love though so enjoy it because it will probably not be THE ONE

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Not necessarily. A lot of guys say things like that but they're really lying. (Sorry I'm not helping you out here. In just answering the question in general!)

KungFuDoge · Answer

Depends. Guys usually aren't too concerned abot their futures and consequences to decisions, thats why we have so many single mothers. But if a guy does care about the future, then yes he is serious. Girls, I am not too sure. Some girls have a habit if dreaming hemselves having kids and running a family with their celebrity crushes, so meh. I'll leave it right there.

Aakash_Hangargi · Answer

Maybe normal for women is serious for men😀 it's depends on how expressive. Aperson is, it's common belief that guys don't imagine weddings but companionship so if someone is proposing then he really means it.

But again depends on people to people on now adays as people can talk the talk but not walk the walk you know

Anonymous · Answer

Possibly. I think in general, girls are more accepting of imperfections. They are less ‘black and white’ and more ‘grey.’ Therefore it’s easier for them to see themselves with a greater number of guys, long term. They are open to more possibilities. Guys aren’t, so that’s why when they are planning for the future it could mean they’re more serious. Not always though.

MindYourEyes · Answer

Hmm. I mean honestly from my experiences when a guy does say that most the time he is serious. Very few times I’ve known dudes that just say it for the fuck of it to get something.

Nick568 · Answer

This is he generally true at least in my opinion. Guys don't tend to think long-term like girls do unless they're really serious. I've never really thought of a future with anyone I've dated yet, but when I do that means I think she might be the one.

Phoenix98 · Answer

Possibly for most people but for me I'm always trying to think long term because I have no interest in something short term. Doesn't fit my goals in life.

SCRUMPSHUDILLIOCIOUS · Answer

Break down your takes on normal and serious. Is she not being serious by defining it as normal?

Nawlins34 · Answer

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DavidFox · Answer

That’s not true. Guys normally think about the future with their SOs.

Browneye57 · Answer

You can call things anything you want, it's just words.  Watch what they do, not what they say.

SexyAshh · Answer

No sometimes/ most times its just a natural part of the game

boggboss · Answer

No as it dont account for a guy lying

Cláudio475 · Answer

Yes, I think so, because almost every girl wants that

Younghungguy17 · Answer

I think there is truth to this as most women seek a partner for love and a future rather then physical attributes or gain

Smegskull · Answer

Not always. Stereotypically men think more in long term plans than women but that doesn't mean their plan is good.

CubanLove · Answer

Yes he should be if he's serious

imfreeze95 · Answer

Cultural perceptions most likely

Anonymous · Answer

most are not serious.

TallAnon · Answer

I would say that's normal in either case.

NightOwl8801 · Answer

One can hope that's true

zagor · Answer

Or he's just daydreaming.

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

Probably not. Girls pre-plan and guys post-date

GreenGold1992 · Answer

I don't see the difference

Snakeyes7 · Answer

That sounds about right tbh.

Jaffacakemucher · Answer

Yes definitely true

pigoat · Answer

What is normal?

RoufiMec · Answer

Not necessarily

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