Is this true? When a girl thinks about a future with her boyfriend it’s normal but if a guy thinks about a future with his girlfriend he’s serious?

[pink_and_inlove]

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My boyfriend talks about having a future with me all the time

[COMMODOREII]

Im not sure about your boyfriend ut i can tell you for me at the age i was mostly hopeful. Wanting to have things go the way that i wanted. Unfortunately life doesn't work that way. Its good you both make plans and express interest in each other but remember it is also early in your relationship. Im not trying to deter you from being happy but it would be best to step back from time to time and evaluate the situation. Continue to communicate and continue to make plans but small plans. Don't look so far into the future. Try working with him in down the week maybe no farther than a month. For example start planning for Halloween, maybe you both can dress up, go trick-or-treating or a party if it is allowed considering covid. Maybe plan something together with your parents or his. Take it a month at a time. It doesn't mean you can't have your long term goals of marriage and being together but now work towards it. See if you both really want that. Have fun and enjoy what you have now. In the future if you do get married and have kids you both will know how to deal with your own kids when your son or daughter wants to get married at a young age. Good luck to you for being happy is good. 😎👍

[Lionman95]

I don't like generalizations because they normally don't show the whole truth. If he's really talking about having a future it's a good sign for the moment. Because that means he's at least interested or in love with you. But there's a difference between a guy's thoughts and actions. Because state of mind is more validated by what he does than we thinks he likes. That doesn't mean I don't believe he's serious with you but you should watch his actions, because they decide the worth of what he says.

[Mollynotgemma]

Yes it’s true... and also your question is the answer!
A girl thinks about the future with her man is acceptable!
A man thinks about the future with his girl he’s serious?’
All that’s happened is you’ve mixed the words in the sentence around!
We all think females think of the future with our partner... and then you say of the man thinks of the future because of the girl! How about change that sentence to. The man thinks he has a future with this girl?
The reason we feel it more serious when a man says to his friends... she’s mine. I love her etc... Is hard for a man to do!
Women have it easy being emotional and we have to think of the future quicker due to our ability to have children!
Granted.. if a man says he sees a future to you. You crumble and feel truly loved!

[VIVANT]

@pink_and_inlove

I disagree but respectfully 😊😊 this comes Easy or hard for people depending on too many factors behind gender. It would for example be one of the _most_ difficult things for me to say.

... Is hard for a man to do!
Women have it easy being emotional

[VIVANT]

Beyond not behind 😊

[VIVANT]

No. in my opinion it’s serious if anyone thinks about it. It’s not a casual thing. This idea just comes from the trope that women are born freakin of marriage which isn’t true.
anyhow futures are a big deal so I don’t think it is ever insignificant.

[VIVANT]

On the other hand talk is nice but it’s talk. If someone any reliable in the or sent it doesn’t matter how much they talk if they future. I mean this in general not About him ln particular, But not excluding him.

[TadCurious]

Jay I think this is one of those quotes that makes for a good meme. But it really comes down to the 2 people involved. I guess I have a bit of a problem with the quote because it implies that it's normal for girls to think of a future but not be serious, and that only guys are serious when they think about that.
🙂🙋‍♂️

[pink_and_inlove]

I think both are serious

[nonratracereality]

Because the attitudes are completely different and possibly at times opposite. If both sexes were of the same integrity maturity and responsibility then its possible you're on the same page. You found someone who can have at least 90% compatible but that only occurs when you're a real person and love you to do the right thing. Otherwise the guy is not mature enough to take on a huge responsibility you. Also he's not even established job apt savings car looks intelligence sex appeal unawkwardness etc. Be in the same page otherwise all you'll do is flip the pages.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

It could be true? My very first girlfriend was age 21 and I was age 28, I gave her an engagement ring and proposed to her well after so many days, she broke off our relationship, and the engagement but this girl had mental health issues such as Schizophrenia also she was in State Hospital and her Mother told her not to date a guy of her own race but date guys that are only African American ( Black) so it's kind of sad to think that this girl followed her Mother's rules and the Mother was alcoholic and the girls step-dad was Black but was one of the sweetest guys anyone would want meet but we all learn in life

[ZackBan]

I think the saying goes when a guy thinks about a future with his girlfriend he's lying... 🙃

Not insinuating anything about your boyfriend but guys in general don't plan their lives ahead of time. And many guys are liars so it adds up

[VIVANT]

Lol I think you can easily say

In general, guys are planners

In general , Guys are not planners

Both will be equally true 😛

[ZackBan]

Nope the first isn't true.
No guy is a planner because eventually you realize that life has it's own plans.

Like you can decide what to do over the next couple of years but there's no way to know what or who you'll grow old with. Not until two years go by and you're happy together.

But no guy on earth would talk to a girl for one month and decide "aight you're the one for me Im done with the rest of the world" that's just psychotic

[VIVANT]

Planning doesn’t mean it works out it means you want to try

Many people plan every moment of their day. Portion of those people are ken

Results don’t equal the activity

Plans are dashed constantly but that doesn’t make it not a plan.

Going to school is a plan. Some guys don’t do that some do. You can’t prepare for school or a job or a relationship without some planning. How far ahead a person tries to plan depends on the person. If it works or not depends on many factors.

I do agree talking about something no matter how much you want it, doesn’t make it a plan. A goal is a fantasy without a Plan.

You g people often want all kinds of things. They forget the planning part. Thrn life happens while you are busy wishing on a star.

But msny you b people do plan. And life still happens. Sometimes with the plan sometimes without.

But a plan is a plan whether It comes to fruition or not. It is meaningless to say guys don’t plan. you can say plans often don’t work out🤷‍♀️😊

[VIVANT]

Anyhow she didn’t ask about plans just thinking lol

[pink_and_inlove]

Lol yeah I was quite skeptical about that too lol but now we’ve known each other longer and have done a lot together and he still remains feeling the same.

[pink_and_inlove]

I would ask my parents is that normal lmao? And my dad responded with i told your mom on the first date that I wanted to marry her. That’s why I have hope lol but I definitely do not want our relationship to end up like my parent’s

[ZackBan]

I'm confused. Why are you in such a rush to settle down? You're 19, when I was 19 nothing could have convinced me to do it, im almost 23 now and that hasn't changed.
Sure to each his own but I'm curious as to why, dont you wanna live more, experience new things, meet lots of people, make a career?

[VIVANT]

Not me her lol

They don’t plan to marry till later
But def people marry young.

Depends what part of the world you are in I guess. I know people from middle America who are married at 20 I know people from Western Europe same thing. Then there are people who never marry or wait till middle age

Everyone is diff but it does happen and not alwats bc of psychosis though sometimes 😛

I think she just wants to feel like his words are genuine. I think tyey can be genuine feeling. We do what will happen no one does. But I don’t think wanting to be with someone at that age is cray at all. Life will settle it either way 😊

[Jamie05rhs]

@ZackBan You're wrong. Many guys do like to plan ahead (including myself.)

"And my dad responded with i told your mom on the first date that I wanted to marry her."
@pink_and_inlove Your dad is my type of dude! Lol. (JK haha; I probably wouldn't say it THAT fast.)

[pink_and_inlove]

@Jamie05rhs lol yeah and he was a player

[Jamie05rhs]

@pink_and_inlove Ok. But he kept his word, didn't he?

[Itsmeh2002]

my boyfriend does the same in fact he actually take steps to show it not actually talk just to talk.. a real man won't just sit there and tell you how I want a wedding with you or how I want babies with you they would actually take baby steps to go into that route and show you how it is.

[BoredNCrazed1324]

It depends on if he's serious about it. Talking about a future together though if he is serious is a great sign. What you have is young love though so enjoy it because it will probably not be THE ONE

[pink_and_inlove]

Why is everyone so negative? We’re both adults and college students he is 23

[BoredNCrazed1324]

I don't read other people's comments but what I'm saying is it's a rarity for it to be THE ONE. When I was younger I fell in and out of love ALL THE TIME. Thinking this is the one and it wasn't sadly. I could be wrong though maybe it is the one

[Lokibebe21]

@BoredNCrazed1324 what? Rarity? I know a lot of people who settle down at that age. My mother dated my father when she was 21. Got married and pregnant at 24. Married for 22yrs. What works for you may not work for others and same in reverse. Lets stop putting peoples life in a box. Anything can happen and we all have different time lines.

[BoredNCrazed1324]

@Lokibebe21 Why do you think I said what I did? I'm a big as a realist that's around, that's why what I say is as true as it gets. Of everyone I've ever known that's dated which are thousands when including all people throughout school. I don't know a single couple that is still together but I do have 1 friend that married right after high school that's old.

[Sevenpointfive]

something's wrong with your boyfriend. but i guess i was an oblivious teenager once too. i know he's not a teen but still

[pink_and_inlove]

Why are you saying that something’s wrong with him?

[Sevenpointfive]

it sounds like things are rushed. i think if he asked you to marry him tomorrow you'd say yes. it's not a typical type of relationship you'd see because you are both so young and inexperienced. i want to be wrong about this and everything is fine

[pink_and_inlove]

Oh no he doesn’t plan on marrying me now lol but years ahead he told me. When our careers are set. He is 23 and about to graduate college then he has to work for a year and get into pa school but I still have 3-4 years of college left ahead of me and we don’t live that far from each other only 10 minutes away

[Sevenpointfive]

it's a starry-eyed promise i've seen too many times. i hope he's sincere

[Jamie05rhs]

I disagree with @Sevenpointfive. I don't think there's anything wrong with him. I just think he's a romantic guy like I am.

[Sevenpointfive]

@Jamie05rhs you always disagree with me lol

[pink_and_inlove]

Sevenpointfive have you ever wanted to marry someone and have kids?

[Sevenpointfive]

when i was 19 :P

[pink_and_inlove]

Well he’s 23 lol

[Jamie05rhs]

@Sevenpointfive No, I don't lol.

[Sevenpointfive]

me at 23 was a very different boy just saying

[Sevenpointfive]

@Jamie05rhs at least you don't admit it

[Jamie05rhs]

@Sevenpointfive Admit what?

[KungFuDoge]

Depends. Guys usually aren't too concerned abot their futures and consequences to decisions, thats why we have so many single mothers. But if a guy does care about the future, then yes he is serious. Girls, I am not too sure. Some girls have a habit if dreaming hemselves having kids and running a family with their celebrity crushes, so meh. I'll leave it right there.

[Anonymous]

Possibly. I think in general, girls are more accepting of imperfections. They are less ‘black and white’ and more ‘grey.’ Therefore it’s easier for them to see themselves with a greater number of guys, long term. They are open to more possibilities. Guys aren’t, so that’s why when they are planning for the future it could mean they’re more serious. Not always though.

[Jamie05rhs]

Not necessarily. A lot of guys say things like that but they're really lying.

(Sorry I'm not helping you out here. In just answering the question in general!)

[pink_and_inlove]

I don’t think my boyfriend is lying at all

[Jamie05rhs]

@pink_and_inlove I don't think he is, either! I was just answering the question that you asked. I wasn't really talking about him or you. :)

[Aakash_Hangargi]

Maybe normal for women is serious for men😀 it's depends on how expressive. Aperson is, it's common belief that guys don't imagine weddings but companionship so if someone is proposing then he really means it.

But again depends on people to people on now adays as people can talk the talk but not walk the walk you know

[MindYourEyes]

Hmm. I mean honestly from my experiences when a guy does say that most the time he is serious. Very few times I’ve known dudes that just say it for the fuck of it to get something.

[Nick568]

This is he generally true at least in my opinion. Guys don't tend to think long-term like girls do unless they're really serious. I've never really thought of a future with anyone I've dated yet, but when I do that means I think she might be the one.

[Phoenix98]

Possibly for most people but for me I'm always trying to think long term because I have no interest in something short term. Doesn't fit my goals in life.

[Jennyj1225q]

All my ex boyfriends talked about future with me but all end up becomes "ex".
But I always believed they were serious at that moment.

[pink_and_inlove]

Why did you guys break up?

[Jennyj1225q]

Grew apart

[pink_and_inlove]

Did they promise you that they were going to marry you?

[Jennyj1225q]

All three mentioned marriage.

[pink_and_inlove]

But did they promise you it? Did they also mention having children with you? How old were you?

[Jennyj1225q]

Promise? They mentioned it because they wanted to not because I asked them to promise me.
19
25
29

[pink_and_inlove]

Same lol but I was wondering if any of them promised you that they would buy you a rung one day because my boyfriend did

[Jennyj1225q]

19 - he got me a silver ring
25 - didn't offer a ring, but closest to get married
29 - asked what kind of ring I like

Don't overanalyzing with what he said, just enjoy the moments...

Just

[pink_and_inlove]

How exactly did you guys grow apart? Did it become a long distance relationship?

[Jennyj1225q]

Lol, you can message me if you are interested in my love stories. :)

[pink_and_inlove]

It doesn’t let me

[Jennyj1225q]

Long story short... you are too young to worry about it. :)
Just enjoy the moment and go with the flow.

[SCRUMPSHUDILLIOCIOUS]

Break down your takes on normal and serious. Is she not being serious by defining it as normal?

[DavidFox]

That’s not true. Guys normally think about the future with their SOs.

[Browneye57]

You can call things anything you want, it's just words.
Watch what they do, not what they say.

[SexyAshh]

No sometimes/ most times its just a natural part of the game

[Nawlins34]

I don't care what a guy thinks,I don't care what a guy says,

Show me