How to be an asshole to women to get women to chase?

[casanova411]

It's very obvious being natural and authentic does not work with most if any girls. So i guess i should try something different. Everyone says nice guys finish last, but how does a nice guy behave vs an asshole? All i do is be natural i feel i don't talk to much or too little. I ask girls i meet on a date and every time they say they are busy. Almost every girl i met said they are busy and did not seem terribly interested in me so how can i be an asshole to finally get women to give me some attention. FYI im 6'3 been told im very handsome, im in good shape, and im a tennis coach. I can often get numbers and hook ups but girls never want to spend anytime with me. Being 25 im tired of one night stands but i can't even build the slightest relationship with any girl because none of them care about me in the slightest and i want things to change. So how can i be an asshole? Is it about not responding when girls message me or insulting them or what? all i do now is just be myself but it never works.

[slatyb]

It doesn’t work that way. You don’t have to be obnoxious, just honest. “I ask girls I meet...” Where? How long do you talk to them before asking? Are you able to tell whether or not they are interested? Do you listen to them, or just ask them out cold?

I expect your problem is your approach. I expect your conversations with women are one-sided as you are focused on getting a date instead of meeting a person. How many female friends do you have — unrelated women you greet by name? Zero? Fix that and you won’t have any trouble dating.

[casanova411]

ok maybe thankyou

[mindNsoul]

Change the lake you usually fish from so you can catch different type of fish. Basically ask yourself what type of women you usually attract or be attracted to? and where?

You sound like a person who wants something deep and meaningful. Something stable and long lasting. But perhaps you are approaching or responding to shallow women who only want you for the taste of your body or the experience.

Another thing you mentioned is having the looks of a fuck boy. If that's what you give when people meet you than good women who want good men will definitely reject you. Usually it is a red flag and a headache to be in a relationship with a fuck boy and they're rarely faithful. I'm not saying that you are one. All I'm saying that might be the issue right there. False advertising.

[casanova411]

Yes well i only meet girls in clubs and bars. I have tried to meet girls in other places but it does not work. I want something stable and long lasting and deep but the girls i meet seem very shallow. Everyone i know thinks i look like a fuck boyand girls call me that often maybe because im really tall , and athletic but its not really true but i can't change my appearance. I see what you are saying though maybe i can try meeting girls other places but i dont know where?

[mindNsoul]

Sure I'll suggest few places but if you really want my honest opinion I must say in a dating app fack boys do tend to have a certain look so women judge them based on their looks. But in real life it is actually a behavior as well. I hope with an open mind we can talk because my aim is not to put you down but to try and explore different aspects of something that obviously bothers you.

A fuck boy tends to come across super arrogant because he wants to show confidence. He also self absorbed and is very flirty with women especially those who flirts with him. He tend to care about every fiber, hair, and muscle on his body to attract women. So he is overly shallow but he thinks that's style. He tends to have a reputation of sleeping around and never rejecting an opportunity with women who open their legs easily to him. So faifulness and stability is not his best qualities. Nor does honesty. Also he runs at a higher risk of conveying a disease to his partner.

It can't be just your looks that causing people to think that. Do you enjoy women attention, have reputation of sleeping around, come across as arrogant and self absorbed? you need to ask yourself that. Your external behavior has to match with your internal desire.

[mindNsoul]

Concerning where to meet good women. I would say social clubs like hiking, sports, reading, science, charity, church etc are all good ideas to find a woman who share your interests and is not around looking or sleeping with fuck boys. My friends and I for example in our twenties have enjoyed traveling, musicals, theater, opera, movies. There are many traveling enthusiasts who you can join. It is great not only for experiencing new things but get to find intellectual people who talk about nature, history, and architecture. Making new friends for life. I think bookstores and coffee shops are good places to mingle too. But all of this might sound boring to you. So find something that you are interested in and join a society or be friends with people who are in that circle. So you get to meet women from there.

Most good women who look for stability faithfulness don't really go clubbing all night, get wasted and have one stands. So by default they wouldn't want a partner who is living that life style.

[mindNsoul]

I can't deny the irony for the character chosen for your username. Casanova name cross borders and generations is used as synonym for a womanizer. The old term of the new fuck boys. You might not want to be seen as one but perhaps unintentionally you express yourself as one. If that's the energy you send out than sluts (female equivalent of fuck boys) are all you're going to attract.

[casanova411]

I am not arrogant or easily sleeping with women the only time i did that is when my ex left me and later i realized that was not me. Im not really over arrogant or something. I see what you are saying but not many events like that exist and even then its really hard to meet women they are very judgmental it seems and its hard to do anything with them. I have so much bs from different girls im just becoming numb almost to them with each girl any feeling i have go down and i just dont care more and more.

[mindNsoul]

It saddens me that you feel that way. You are obviously a good person with a good heart. I hear a lot of men your age over GaG mentioning the same observations you did about young women their age. So it might be a generational issue or something that will change as you guys get older.

It would be a shame if a young man like you changed. or felt the need to lose himself and be an asshole so that young girls will like him. But I don't think they will make you happy. And in few years they will grow out of it and start searching for the good guy. It is a losing situation for you.

[Flower7]

This is a horrible idea and it won't work. This will backfire hugely.

[JackSmy]

@casanova411 I think you are sabotaging yourself. If you want to try being an asshole, you won't get my 'blessing', like that would matter!
I think you missed the point, and let society tell you to be something that you are not, and women aren't wanting that.
I don't know you, personally, so just guessing, based on what you said, and maybe I am wrong.

[casanova411]

I like to think im very kind and genuine to all i meet but whatever my personality is it doesn't work. So i need to do something that will attract women or ill be single forever.

[JackSmy]

@casanova411 Sometimes, you need to just stop, and maybe take some time, alone, and not try so hard!! Women sense 'desperation'!!
I have been alone, almost a year, and I have other reasons to be alone, as I think, but sometimes, taking a break, and NOT LOOKING, and just investing in yourself, and being YOU, alone, and figuring out daily things, and what you really want, alone, will help you be a better partner, later.

[casanova411]

you are right I've been single two years and trying to work on myself but i would not say its brought a girl but I've been happy with who I've become

[JackSmy]

@casanova411 Can I share a little secret? Sometimes, having a woman in your life in NOT in your best interest!! sometimes, some of us need to be alone, and "Man CAVE" and they cannot understand, and I don't know of ANY, that have tried!!
It's like men MUST CHANGE, for women, and "MeToo" SHIT, and whatever that takes, and how much it messes with him, and then they judge, when you "Don't do it right"!!
I LOVE WOMEN!! I always will, but I am NEVER just going to be someone's little 'Boy Toy' and submit to whatever she wants, whenever!! What she has, isn't worth my self-esteem, and INTEGRITY!
I am open to an equal relationship, but not going to be someone's punk, like so many of my married friends!!

[Anonymous]

If you can get one night stands but not relationships, that means that you're physically attractive enough to get laid but you lack the kind of personality that a woman would want in a boyfriend. You probably come across as a fuckboy. You can't solve that by being an asshole.

The women you hook-up with, do they not ask to see you again? Not to be an asshole but when the sex is really good, they'll almost always call you again. If it's not they won't.

[casanova411]

I hate to say it but im not a superstar at sex. I have banged like 25 girls last year but my experience is low because i haven't really been able to practice. My appearance probably looks like a fuckboy but id rather just have a long term girlfriend because i dont really want to keep sleeping with randos.

[StickStickity13]

Yup, stop caring about women and focus on your life. Women are AT BEST an accessory to your life. A partner to do things with and have sex. Stop viewing them as great beings that will improve your life.

[casanova411]

I stopped caring and im happy but i think it help if i had a partner in my life.

[Avicenna]

Never do that- I wil damage your rep and be counterproductive. That is no way to treat anyone.

[Avicenna]

* it will

[Anonymous]

Change your attitude and be more cocky around them. Be friends with a military guy he knows how to get their woman to bend down on their knees then they start sucking their fat cocks without asking 😑.

[disgustingweebtrash]

6'3 and doesn't get women instantly

Its over for lankletcels

[casanova411]

I get bangs just can't get a girlfriend

[Anonymous]

Treat them like the children they are.
If they play shit tests and games... shoot that shit down.