Are you scared or nervous to do video chats with someone you really like?

[coachTanthony]

Yes

No

Other (well... let me explain) in the comments below

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[Cynicaldreamer]

I don't like doing video chats at all, even if it's with someone I know and like! You know how they say the camera adds 10 pounds?

... the camera makes me look even more unattractive than I already am :
Believe me, I've seen myself on a video call; it's bad y'all.

I don't do well in front of cameras or videos; I much rather interact with people via text, messenger, or as a last resort, in person, instead. So if someone that likes me requested to video chat with me, I'd probably deny it, or insist we talk over the phone instead. I hate phone calls as well, but it's better than nothing!

[DizzyDesii]

Yes i hate how the video cam makes me look at diff angles 😭 i dont even focus on the other person. I stare at myself like its a mirror the whole time 😂 if u wanna see me, come see me in person

[Cynicaldreamer]

@DizzyDesii Right? I don't know why but video cams make me look terrible, especially the lighting!!! :|
So instead of focusing on the other person I'm looking at myself thinking, "Ugh, I look so bad."
I look so much better in person, and I warn people that too: pictures and videos don't do me any justice.

[coachTanthony]

@DizzyDesii @Cynicaldreamer We should all do a video chat and post it here on GAG! What do you say! Ha

[Cynicaldreamer]

@coachtanthony I'm shoot you such a look right now...
I can only imagine what would happen: I would probably lose most of my followers if they saw my face, LOL

[Cynicaldreamer]

*shooting you such a look... too early to type dang it

[DizzyDesii]

Lmao girl im sure you’re not that bad 🤣 i mean im confident in my smile but thats about it haha. I’d prob say “Hi” and “Bye”. 60 seconds of my time will do 😂

[coachTanthony]

Ha Ha Ha oh come on now!

[DizzyDesii]

I hate bein on cam. Thats the most i’d do

[coachTanthony]

@Cynicaldreamer You would lose most of them because they will find out you aren't really a cartoon? Ha

[Cynicaldreamer]

Okay, okay, I'll compromise: I'll do voice chat or podcast on here, WITH a picture of my avatar on the screen! 😂

[coachTanthony]

@Cynicaldreamer Remember those old 60 minutes tv shows where they blacked out the mans face and disguised his voice because he was part of the underground! Ha Ha Cynical Dreamer underground assassin ! Ha

[Cynicaldreamer]

@coachTanthony Lol! I sure do. Don't think I'm opposed to that idea either. Just "censor" my face and voice while I talk

[RingOfFire]

Here's the science.

People are used to seeing a flipped image of themselves in a mirror. So if they see a camera image that isn't flipped, it immediately looks weird and ugly to them. Even if they look BETTER in the camera image, they THINK they look worse! It is a weird psychological phenomenon.

If you have been having an online only relationship with someone you are naturally worried that something will happen that will ruin it... such as they see you in a videochat and don't like the way you look. But think about it. If that happens, is the relationship real anyway or just a fantasy? What is the point of a "relationship" if you are never going to meet IRL?

If I am serious about a relationship with someone I meet online, I want to meet them IRL as soon as possible... except now with the pandemic, videochat will have to do until it goes away and we can meet. If all it is is chat, that's not going to be satisfying for very long.

So instead of being nervous about videochat I think "what do I have to lose?" If it's real, it will survive. If it isn't nothing lost.

[ZumbiGeneral]

I dislike video chatting. Im a multitasker. For example while studying i got youtube in the background while also trying to squeeze a round of pub g between each chapter.

The first time chat a crush ill be alil nervous but after that its whatever.

[Chikky]

I hate video chat, makes me look so ugly. But funny enough, they say i look so pretty in a video chat, I do it just to be sure the person is real or I gotta show the person something

[el_Te_de_la_Rosa]

I'm fine, but...

I'm afraid I'll scare my date instead.

[coachTanthony]

Ha Ha Ha

[DizzyDesii]

At first but its also a relief to get em over with. Regardless of if it goes well, i let them know its only happening once a month and that they can always feel free to come see me in person 🤣 i hate how i look on cam. I stare at myself in the bottom corner the whole time and never make eye contact with the other person

[Dongtai]

Not really. I just prefer face to face interactions. But if I’m dealing with someone I met online I won’t take them serious until I video chat with them. Way too many catfish out here

[triff]

Scared is the wrong feeling its more to do the fear of rejection I don't video call for this very reason

[Katerina_Belle]

I hate how I look on video calls, it makes me look so ugly and definitely nothing like what I see in the mirror so that makes me really insecure that people can’t see me the way I see me in the mirror 😂😂 but if I really had to I would. That being said though I video call my nieces and sisters all the time and I don’t care how I look to them but it’s just with a guy I’m interested in I get like that with.

[KenReidCoach]

I really like video chats but I LOVE voice chats simply because it removes us from texting and trying to interpret meaning in the texts which drives me crazy.

[AlongCameCindy]

No i just hate video chatting i prefer phone calls, i find them invasive lol, i prefer phone calls or being with them in person i'm usually just in my pjs or comfy clothes i feel good in at home with my fizz hair, i don't feel comfortable going on a call like that, and i just don't see the point of it.

[Luna1998]

I would suck so bad at video calls lol, im much cooler and smarter via texts, funnier and talkative via calls, but via video calls, im sooo shy and always worried if i would look horrible from the other person views lol. My insecurity would be reaching tge ceiling.

[CoolKatie]

I would prefer video calling over calling. I prefer to see the people face and talk

[coachTanthony]

I think that will be the new trend.

[CoolKatie]

I don't like calling from the phone. it feels weird my self. I always ask people if they prefer video call or calling.

[Paris13]

lol!! How else Will you Know if They are your Type? xx

[EclecticEmapath1111]

I used to be uncomfortable and nervous before but, since the pandemic I've gotten used to it and I actually look half way decent on Camera so it's not a big deal but it can get to be awkward if there's nothing to talk about with the person.

[Yads_Is_Back]

Nope. I like to video chat. Better than being just on the phone.

[denver25]

I don’t like video chats for the simple fact if the wifi mess up i’ll be caught looking ugly as hell frozen lol also people love taking screenshots so I keep my Facetime off

[Hazelstar99]

No. I am cool at it. I can video chat with a handsome stranger too.

[Jjpayne]

I would actually like to start doing that! Only problem is I don't have a good place to start doing them yet... But I hope i will sometime next year

[katiesmuff]

I really really like my husband and we would video chat often when he actually had to leave the house to work. Now I am the only one leaving home for work and at my work we don't have that available.

[Cowboy6666]

i dont mind video chat for a while once..
i prefer texting a girl.
but no girl wants to video chat with me. LOL

[AlexanderAnttila]

Not at all, I look forward to those if I like someone. But I always have the misfortune of women who are shy in front of the camera so it's always an ordeal to get them to do one.

[Keble]

Other, if I know the person well and have seen them in real life then no. If I don't know them well and haven't seen them in real life, yes.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

I just feel uneasy video chatting when I just see myself on the cam. I prefer hiding it because I feel like talking to someone with a mirror. I feel comfortable that way and it doesn't matter who im talking to.