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SOMEtimes 'pet names' or terms of endearment are strongly attached to specific relationships...
TRUE story. At a time when I was between monogamous relationships, I was employed as a nightclub's 'Cooler'/ bouncer when I was approached from behind and in the din of the club's music a female voice drew my attention with a softly spoken 'Babe'
Subconsciously this term, was routinely used by one of two women I'd been intimate with. Expecting to see her, it happened to be the OTHER young woman... and my subconscious caused my facial expression to telegraph my instantaneous intuitive disappointment. Oops!
I immediately apologized~10
Oh come on if the man is smitten by the girl he's going to love it!21
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I don't mind since I use it all the time myself, despite trying to use it different ways.
Case in point, one of the corniest things I have ever said, any age, to anyone:
"Kiss me my dear, of I fear I won't make it through the night" 🌃
(Without some personal context it is Exponentially cornier and sounds like a Victorian-age porn rag... Oh, boy! 🙄)0
Not really a fan of either of those. However it depends on who says it. If two girls call me "darling" it might be cringy coming from one, but really sweet from the other.20
idc. its just like me saying Oi oi oi oi oi oi
oi was up
I prefer both but in my language we usually use the word "sayang" and its basically means the same.20
I love terms of endearment. its the icing on the cake.20
It's more old lady-ish but I think it's sweet, and I like any names that signifies comfort and affection so.. Yeah.. 😅..13
I don't dislike it, but it's just a friendly thing, so I don't really care either way.10
I’m flattered by either, but “darling” has a more elegant sound to it, so I guess I’d prefer that 👌🏻21
I thought I wouldn't, but this one girl called me both and I grew to like it10
Yes love it. Admittedly it does depends on who says it...20
I would like to call her that, actually. She can call me "babe."10
I have a female work mate who mostly all the times calls me dear. And I have to say that I like it each time she says it.10
Well, yeah, sure, any mark of affection is highly appreciated.10
Some girls say that to every guy. I think its a bit weird but I don't mind it10
Nah I like being called babe or handsome by a woman10
only time I've been called darling.. was by my sis inlaw and she was drunk10
I am a dear type fellow. Darling just seems to long.10
Nah it sounds a bit patronising lol that's something a grandmother would call her grand children10
i hate being called dear sounds like some nigerian trying to con me out of my money21
Usually, unless the tone or actions are obviously demeaning, they are meaningless.
Take myself as example. Where I work we call women babe, chickie, hun, honey, darling, sweetie, dear, etc.
Sometimes it is because they work in a different department and don’t know the name or forget the name.
Sometimes it is because they actually like the person, not necessarily romantically but the woman’s (caring, charming, etc.) personality.
Sometimes it is because of their age or where they are from (southern states of America) and it is just habitual.
As a well educated, successful woman with a lot of life experience (most people who learn of my entire background say I should write a book) who is confident in myself & my abilities (and has never felt inferior to a man, in fact having joined the military before they lowered physical standards for women to entice weaker/less capable females I proved I can keep up with men) I personally enjoy these pet names. To me there is nothing demeaning - unless the voice tone or actions are condensing - about being referred in such a fashion.
In fact I find/feel that women who get offended over such dubs already feel inferior anyways or lack in confidence and thus they are easily insulted by what is just, in a way, meaningless banter.
In a way, after all, these pet names are related to the friendly dubs that men will give their closer colleagues as a sign of comradery. By getting their high-and-mighty knickers in a bunch over such behaviour the easily insulted (already inferior/lack of confidence) women come across as not team playing members. As people you can’t joke around with, who you can’t treat as friends, etc., least they whine like a kicked cur to HR over nothing.
If you asked around in many businesses you’d likely find those who protest such pet names have other far from complimentary dubs such as stuckup, bitch, etc. and are generally viewed unfavorably (as rude, ignorant, arrogant, etc.).
These “pet names” after all indicate that the person cares enough to address you by something instead of simply saying ‘yeah woman I’m talking to