Guys, do you like getting called “dear” or “darling” from a girl?

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JasonQ · Accepted Answer

Usually, unless the tone or actions are obviously demeaning, they are meaningless.

Take myself as example. Where I work we call women babe, chickie, hun, honey, darling, sweetie, dear, etc.

Sometimes it is because they work in a different department and don’t know the name or forget the name.
Sometimes it is because they actually like the person, not necessarily romantically but the woman’s (caring, charming, etc.) personality.
Sometimes it is because of their age or where they are from (southern states of America) and it is just habitual.
As a well educated, successful woman with a lot of life experience (most people who learn of my entire background say I should write a book) who is confident in myself & my abilities (and has never felt inferior to a man, in fact having joined the military before they lowered physical standards for women to entice weaker/less capable females I proved I can keep up with men) I personally enjoy these pet names. To me there is nothing demeaning - unless the voice tone or actions are condensing - about being referred in such a fashion.
In fact I find/feel that women who get offended over such dubs already feel inferior anyways or lack in confidence and thus they are easily insulted by what is just, in a way, meaningless banter.

In a way, after all, these pet names are related to the friendly dubs that men will give their closer colleagues as a sign of comradery. By getting their high-and-mighty knickers in a bunch over such behaviour the easily insulted (already inferior/lack of confidence) women come across as not team playing members. As people you can’t joke around with, who you can’t treat as friends, etc., least they whine like a kicked cur to HR over nothing.
If you asked around in many businesses you’d likely find those who protest such pet names have other far from complimentary dubs such as stuckup, bitch, etc. and are generally viewed unfavorably (as rude, ignorant, arrogant, etc.).

These “pet names” after all indicate that the person cares enough to address you by something instead of simply saying ‘yeah woman I’m talking to

TheorionMage · Accepted Answer

SOMEtimes 'pet names' or terms of endearment are strongly attached to specific relationships...

TRUE story. At a time when I was between monogamous relationships, I was employed as a nightclub's 'Cooler'/ bouncer when I was approached from behind and in the din of the club's music a female voice drew my attention with a softly spoken 'Babe'

Subconsciously this term, was routinely used by one of two women I'd been intimate with. Expecting to see her, it happened to be the OTHER young woman... and my subconscious caused my facial expression to telegraph my instantaneous intuitive disappointment. Oops!

I immediately apologized~

meetkitty123 · Accepted Answer

Oh come on if the man is smitten by the girl he's going to love it!

MAC1983 · Answer

I don't mind since I use it all the time myself, despite trying to use it different ways.

Case in point, one of the corniest things I have ever said, any age, to anyone:
"Kiss me my dear, of I fear I won't make it through the night" 🌃

(Without some personal context it is Exponentially cornier and sounds like a Victorian-age porn rag... Oh, boy! 🙄)

MysticDevice · Answer

Not really a fan of either of those. However it depends on who says it. If two girls call me "darling" it might be cringy coming from one, but really sweet from the other.

Zealashton · Answer

idc. its just like me saying Oi oi oi oi oi oi  oi was up oi  oi  oi  oi  same shit

AffifHaziq · Answer

I prefer both but in my language we usually use the word "sayang" and its basically means the same.

Cyfris · Answer

I love terms of endearment. its the icing on the cake.

JDavid25 · Answer

It's more old lady-ish but I think it's sweet, and I like any names that signifies comfort and affection so.. Yeah.. 😅..

StephenCF · Answer

I’m flattered by either, but “darling” has a more elegant sound to it, so I guess I’d prefer that 👌🏻

Gooblegobble · Answer

I don't dislike it, but it's just a friendly thing, so I don't really care either way.

SomeGuyCalledTom · Answer

I thought I wouldn't, but this one girl called me both and I grew to like it

Gedaria · Answer

Yes love it. Admittedly it does depends on who says it...

Fromdusktilldawn · Answer

Some girls say that to every guy. I think its a bit weird but I don't mind it

Jamie05rhs · Answer

I would like to call her that, actually. She can call me "babe."

TheAfrikan · Answer

I have a female work mate who mostly all the times calls me dear. And I have to say that I like it each time she says it.

Guanfei · Answer

Well, yeah, sure, any mark of affection is highly appreciated.

PeterCharie1991 · Answer

Nah I like being called babe or handsome by a woman

Joe1956 · Answer

only time I've been called darling.. was by my sis inlaw and she was drunk

D0891w · Answer

I am a dear type fellow. Darling just seems to long.

Machiavellio · Answer

Nah it sounds a bit patronising lol that's something a grandmother would call her grand children

Anonymous · Answer

i hate being called dear sounds like some nigerian trying to con me out of my money

InferiorElegy · Answer

No, gives me a false sense of hope and I know she's just being nice and probably talks to every guy in such a way.

JackofSpades · Answer

Not particularly...  Sounds kinda cringe to me.

Nottoxic · Answer

Yes I love it. Never fails to make me feel good 😀

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Yes, absolutely!

Bluemax · Answer

I prefer "honey" or "sweetie"

PurSeduction · Answer

darling sounds round and smooth

Smoothing · Answer

I prefer to be called darling. Not dear.

humanearth · Answer

Just call me by my name

Makeushiver · Answer

Depends on the girl, darling.

jestergent · Answer

I don't, It's almost like a claim for territory.

Unit1 · Answer

Sure do. Why wouldn't I.

Larson7 · Answer

I did but I haven't heard it in a long while.

Anonymous · Answer

She calles me the impaler... Cause ya have to feel sorry for her vajaja...

bulletbob555 · Answer

Yeah and babe never gets old

FriendlyEnigma · Answer

AJAKSKSKKS UM YES VERY MUCH SO 😭

LEADFOOTboi · Answer

i wouldn't give her the ol... RED FLAG for it...

Guardian45 · Answer

Sure! Why the hell not!

serious · Answer

I never mind being called as "dear" but that's it.

Girl-addict · Answer

Didn't get both also 😭😭😭😭😭 Single guy

KyleAbe · Answer

No i dont. Im not big on pet names.

msc545 · Answer

Not really - sounds insincere.

thatgirlinlove · Answer

he likes it when i call him boss

FCDALLASFAN · Answer

It isn’t really something I dwell on. 😂

dsrice1966 · Answer

Yes, I like it a lot.

Unstoppable20 · Answer

Yes I do. It's better than baby.

Dreamshards · Answer

No, call me demon, angrl

JasonCruz · Answer

Dear sounds better to me personally.

p0ltergeist · Answer

girls can call me just about anything...

Keyboardkat · Answer

I love it!

berwise13 · Answer

Yeah it beats loser or otg  Her nasty na es

gandolph3 · Answer

I think she wants something

Slim57 · Answer

Yeah means its going somewhere

Laozi · Answer

Absolutely.

Jerre · Answer

It does not bother me a bit

StickStickity13 · Answer

Doesn't really do anything for me

Mr_Peterson · Answer

No, I like getting called Mr Peterson or sir.

ThisIsMyOpinion · Answer

Babe is good too.

chriscdi · Answer

sure i guess

EssenceOfLight · Answer

No...

Anonymous · Answer

O yeah! That's so adorable.

jasco · Answer

No not at all

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