Why can't men make up their mind if they want a casual relationship or a serious relationship?

[CoolKatie]

when I was looking through the profile of guys. I see a lot with both casual & serious relationship. why bother with guys like if can't make their mind about relationship. i think these men will cheat more in a relationship if they can't decide which relationship they want at all. yes age early 20 are not deciding if they want a casual relationship or serious. this why I can't very annoyed.

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I already know what I want from a relationship. I will not men with STD This my dealbreaker.

[AllThatSweetJazz]

Because that's not how it works. It's no nothing to do with not "deciding", that's just not understanding their perspective. They've *decided* they're open to both.

They don't get to just pick what they want.
Girls pick what they ideally want and men only pick what they absolutely refuse to partake in, with the rest of the possibilities men have to remain open to as opportunities become available and be able to adapt and compromise as needed. It's just nonsensical to me to think that a guy would just pick one of those options. For most guys, it's just restricting them into isolation. Makes no sense.

[AllThatSweetJazz]

It's got nothing*

[CoolKatie]

yet I will never date men with STD. they already broken

[AllThatSweetJazz]

... did you just reply to the wrong person?

[CoolKatie]

I don't know but I getting stick of creapy trying to repy to me when I told the fuck off

[AllThatSweetJazz]

... okay.
... good luck with that, I guess.

[CoolKatie]

still having zero luck.

[KrakenAttackin]

She's not right in the head.

[CoolKatie]

@KrakenAttackin you not. it called tough luck.

[Jjpayne]

I will say that they are open to any kind of intimacy. They are there for a sexual experience or there for something deeper simply because they are trying to be open to any type of girl the other problem with that is that they actually scare off both 😂 causal girls don't want to commit and long term girls don't want something causal, they are want something lasting and stronger 😂 so it's a no win situation

[CoolKatie]

plus men could also have STD that be more common that some men sleep around more.

[Jjpayne]

Thank you for the mho 😊

[iseekpinetrees]

Many just take what they can get. Any attention is better than none. Basically they're thinking id like to be in love but hey this hot girl wants to use me for my dick okay sure!

[WarningerrorDetected]

Don't look for a man. Maybe take a break from relationships. Your stress levels will disappear.

[CoolKatie]

waiting never did anything for but begin more asshole.

[WarningerrorDetected]

What's the reason for a relationship right now, for you?

[CoolKatie]

just get rid off the asshole of back and went to have a long term relationship.

[WarningerrorDetected]

It will happen im sure honey

[CoolKatie]

@WarningerrorDetected. I all I keep getting is asshole. that I don't want at all.

[WarningerrorDetected]

😂😂😂 one day we can go together and i will help you pick a date

[CoolKatie]

I from the stupid UK

[GingerGuy]

I don't believe it's that they "can't decide", it's that they are OPEN to either. And as far as cheating goes, DO NOT make that assumption and judgement. I can only speak for myself, but I would never cheat and would be open to either as well, depending on what she wanted.

[GingerGuy]

Example I've been looking for a serious relationship for some time but believe it or not, I can't find a single woman that is looking also. They ALL seem to want something casual only. Any that have show any interest in me.

[CoolKatie]

I understood kinda but my experience with guys didn't made up the mind but still end cheating on me while in college. I don't want to have any type of STD users or men that just sleep around.

[Jhab96]

Sometimes what I want varys person to person. I'm a single man, sometimes I enjoy the perks of being single, other times I want nothing more than to be a part of a genuinely loving relationship. It's not that one day I feel one way and then change my mind the next day, it's just that until I find someone I see myself really being serious with I'm open to something casual.. does that make sense?

[coolhandroo]

here's the thing, if we could have a perfect world probably everyone would like rhe idea of being able to have guilt free sex with anyone and having their partnera in return want only them. But its not like that so because there are good things about single and friends with benefits and commited relationships dudes (some dudes) cast a lot of lines and see what bites and get what they can when they can

[CoolKatie]

more likely catch STD that I do not want from men. they have to be virgin or just get of my sight

[coolhandroo]

Well good luck with that. I imagine at your age you are limiting yourself to the least desirable unattractive and least confidant men in a dating pool from the worst. generation. ever.

[bamesjond0069]

Because it depends on the girl. For example i want both casual fun and a serious relationship. If a girl sleeps around casually im interested in doing that with her, if a girl isn't into that, i would like to date that girl. I do not however date any girls interested in casual sex, no exceptions.

[msc545]

I think a lot of men these days we regard serious relationships as being very dangerous to men. Casual relationships can be very fulfilling but they don't usually last too long. A serious relationship lasts longer but as I noted in the beginning they can become very dangerous in terms of divorces false accusations and things of that sort. A lot of men are unwilling to take the level of risk that's involved with a serious relationship.

[TonyV]

I think they are just open to both, might as well have fun till you find the right one that a totally thinks your the right one right?

[CoolKatie]

more likes get STD

[TonyV]

Yeah that is a risk, that's why you always use protection like a condom, STDs are bad but you also want to prevent getting pregnant too.

Casual dosent exactly mean 1 night stand or having sex the first time you meet, you can still get to know them.

[SquirtleSquirtle]

Hypothetically, what would happen in a society if all men wanted serious relationship, and in a society where all men wanted casual relationship?

[CoolKatie]

yet they chose both casual relationship and serious relationship. this sound a like cheater or open relationship type thing

[stupidgrls]

In a society where all men would want serious relationships, it'd just be "men possessing females" soon it'll be boring for both and hence an unhappy relationship.
And in a relationship where all men wanted casual relationship, women would friendzone a lot of men, a lot of females would try to "fix" these men and change them into "husband material".

[SquirtleSquirtle]

@CoolKatie yeah but that complements the not wanting either, and wanting both. So 4 options. When given options, people make their own choice.

Yup! True dat @stupidgrls

[CoolKatie]

I still end up with idots guys

[SquirtleSquirtle]

@CoolKatie yup, that's an effect of "plenty of fish in the sea"

[FriendlyEnigma]

It is NOT easy man. I probably met one of the nicest, kindest people a few weeks ago who genuinely isn't bothered by my sexuality and shared a ton of my interests. I ghosted her. I regret it but i was horrified of how perfect she was lol

[mich15smith]

Bassically most men especially online don't get many responses no matter what so they take what they can get. He might want a ldr but would be okay with having a hookup if he couldn't get a LDR

[KrakenAttackin]

Seriously? Women like you put the crunch in "flake". Modern women have absolutely no fucking clue what they want.

[CoolKatie]

I already know what I want plus more likely catch STD. I will not date men with STD.

[Tea-Spaghetti]

We don’t understand our feelings very well sometimes ok sorry

[Wewladdy]

Any man whose ever engaged in slut culture will always be a slut. Once you choose one you can't choose the other.

[COMMODOREII]

I know what i want.