So this man is giving me anxiety. We just started talking 6 days ago. And here are somethings that aggravated me:
1. The first day we chatted on the phone he said, " do you want kids? If I was with you I'd reconsider and think about having more kids."
2. I said I was tired one morning and he text " oh I can massage your neck."
3. He said ," this weekends let's go here" the same day we first started talking. Like dude slow down.
4. Today, " would you like to come over for dinner. "
Why in such a rush. It hasn't even been a month. What is the rush...
Moving way too fast
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We have never met. Talked on social media on and off. We barely started talking on the phone Monday
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Sometimes I think people like the idea of some so they rush and once they get in they realize that ideal was unrealistic so then it doesn't work out. I've been there so im all for being friends with people and if it one day turns to more then it does
Once you hit a certain age the question of do you want kids is usually asked within the first 24 hrs. If you already have kids then that question is irrelevant, however if the other person wants their own kids they are going to want to know if you want more kids or they are wasting time even getting to know you. So it isn't too fast to ask that question ever. If you are at a different stage in your life and with dating it most definitely can feel rushed and too forward, so in that case just move on. He wants a family and a wife asap no question.
We're not dating nor even had a chance to be friends. It's just been ," boom boom" with the relationship questions. I prefer to know people on a friendship level before going to the route of pursuing especially so soon. Can a woman just have a male friend first? This is way too soon I just started talking to the man 6 days ago and on the first night he's talking kids? Second day massaging neck? No one touches me like that that I don't know. Men are very pushy then when it's done back they're like she's moving 5o fast
Yeah I don't like anyone touching me. Especially strangers. So dating is challenging lol. But being friends first is difficult for men they want a relationship or nothing. Sucks.
This is not a big deal honey. Talk to him tell him your thoughts and how you feel and take it from there. A man can not read your mind. Just talk to him tell him how you are feeling. Be straight with him. Yes there are some real creeps out there but we are not all creeps. Yes we get very excited when we meet a woman and she is beautiful that excitement of finding a mate for a man is extremely exciting that is how God made us. So please dont think the worst just be real with him tell him be straight with how you feel and do it all at your speed if he really wants you for more then sex he will take as much time a it will take
No it's not but I don't like being rushed and bombarded especially when we've only started talking on the phone last week Monday. Build a friendship first instead of trying to get into relationships with women you meet immediately.
When I meet a woman online, I hope to - and usually do - have her phone number within a week, and we are meeting for the first time within two weeks. But I would never comment about having kids or talk to her abut travelling anywhere with me before meeting in person.
people are dying young these days lol. he's just tryna make the most of it. But tell him he's moving a bit fast and im sure he’d dial it back some. Sadly most people hear that and hardly communicate with you at all anymore
I agree, I'm going to tell him because he has brought up relationships of his where he barely started seeing someone and it ended quickly. He needs to slow down. i feel that has a lot to do with it.. it makes me feel like he does this with most women he comes contact with
I think there is a balance. He might have been going fast but here's the solution. You pick a time you are comfortable with. For me, I'd say it should be at least once a week to keep it consistent and show that you are still interested.
Great idea but I don't want to give him a false sense of this is how it would be because I do not know him. I just started talking to him 6 days ago. And I don't want to make him get the idea we are in a relationship because we're not I dont even know the guy
That’s called love bombing. Narcissists do it. They gotta fit years of getting to know someone into a few days to make up for their lack of personality/good character to reel you in and become one of their narcissistic supply. RUN
Yup, he's moving too fast. He's either desperate for a relationship or there's something wrong with him. He seems creepy. Be careful with him, he's up to no good.
I agree, I've had this situation happen to me where a man moved to fast and it ended too quickly.. he has mentioned I've dated but somehow the women come up with an excuse not to be with me. I think it has a lot to do with him going way too fast. That rings red flags to me.
Yes, it definitely does. Men like that are dangerous and they might be crazy too. Perhaps you could make him understand that his behavior is not right.
I like to ask the guy I'm chatting with, when we first start, if he would be willing to play 20 Questions, nothing is off limits. But it does sound super fast. Especially if he's talking kids and weekend trips.
Leave him. He's only there for sex. He's trying to appear sweet by acting like he wants to have future with you. But it's just another male snake so run ASAP. Why to be with someone who makes you feel anxious and creepy?
He's talking so shamelessly means he has done the same thing with many other girls as well. Ones who moved ahead too quickly is only there for adventure. Then after getting bored it ends quickly.
He talked about having kids with you the very first time you talked? Yes, that is very creepy and a big red flag. If it was me, there wouldn't have been a second conversation.
I think he is low key fast but he might just be really into you if you guys are connecting and talking a lot. Maybe the truth is you’re just not that into him yet, so it’s overwhelming you lol.
I just started talking to him Monday. We have not met in person. This is called love bombing. How are you INTO someone you have never met and just started talking to Monday?
Welp that info was not part of your prompt that yalls never met, but it sounds like you’re really frustrated about the situation... so I don't know it’s up to you what you wanna do. He’s probably just really excited about you, but you’re not feeling it.
in my opinion , he is either - moving to fast N this relationship - or he is so desperate that he will date and ask these questions to just any 1 ! thanks
Yeah just take your time. Sometimes I think people like the idea of some so they rush and once they get in they realize that ideal was unrealistic so then it doesn't work out. I've been there so im all for being friends with people and if it one day turns to more then it does
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