If a guy is interested, will he always make a move?

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JSmuve · Accepted Answer

Another day, another girl asks this question.

No. It depends heavily on the guy and the circumstances. For instance, let's say I see a girl I'm interested in but there's no opportunity for me to make a move. Maybe she's talking to her friends or is walking the other direction after she caught my eye. Am I interested? Yes. Will I make a move? No because she's 70 meters away walking in the opposite direction. What's a guy supposed to do, chase a stranger down?

Or, maybe she's at the gym, earbuds in, working away, giving off closed body language. Would I be interested in her? Of course. Would I make a move? Not when she's giving off closed body language.

So there's two very reasonable, every-day examples of when a guy might be interested in a girl and not make a move based entirely on circumstance and the woman's actions.

If the guy and girl in question are already on a first-name basis then a guy might not make a move because the woman isn't giving off any indication that she's interested in the guy, or even worse, she's giving off indications that she's not interested.

Apope16 · Accepted Answer

NO. NOT TRUE. A guy can be in love with you or have a crush and not make a move at all.

It is the responsibility of a modern woman in the 21st century to make a move on a guy or ask out a guy if she likes them. It is no longer the 1800s anymore.

I was sexually and emotionally abused as a child. I would get panic attacks at the thought of making a move on a woman. It was a terrifying thing for me. I remember making a move for my first kiss with a girl I was in love with and I was in agony. I think at the time when I was struggling that if she made a move on me first it would have made me better off.

It took years to get me to be the guy I am now. I lost my virginity at 27 years old. Now I am 33 years old and I am getting sex on the first date.

So no. If you feel the connection and you can feel that a guy really likes you a lot and thinks you are special? Then its probably true. You should help ease his agony or shyness. Make a move! If you would like advice on that PM and I can help you out.

Elsa143 · Accepted Answer

Definitely he should. I've also made moves when I was interested in a guy.
So a man also gotta go after what he want. Good things don't come for free. If he's interested then he has to put efforts. If not then you're a minor thing for him.
Don't give me excuses that they fear rejection. They're simply self absorbed and in reality fear about their ego getting hurt.

domo0906 · Accepted Answer

I don’t think so. It took my current boyfriend 2 years after we initially met to ask me out. The timing just wasn’t right when we first met and we stopped talking. I would admire him from afar but it wasn’t until he slide into my dms and we hung out a few times then he asked me out. I thought there was no way we could ever be a thing but 2 years later here we are.

btbc92 · Answer

Usually, the answer is a yes when he is serious about what he wants. That goes for women too. A guy can be interested and do nothing, but he is obviously not serious enough. Actions speak louder than words. Everything is a choice. But I don't believe in dating strangers in the first place. So if he doesn't even at least introduce himself (not his friends or sending a messenger to do it when he is less than 10 feet away from you) and start a friendship, not worth the disappointment.

GoodManDave · Answer

No. A guy can have a crush or be interested or attracted on some level, but not make a move. There can be any number of reasons.

There are a lot of women that I'm attracted to in some ways, but I would never pursue. I know that while I may be attracted on some level, it wouldn't be much fun for us to date. Even if I do think the relationship would get off the ground, it might not go very far.

Now, even if I felt a connection, she'd have to make it a little easier to ask her out. My experience is most women make it as difficult as they can for me to ask them out, even when they're supposedly interested (which is rare).

So there ends up being a lot of times when I won't make any move whatsoever, even if I'm attracted to them.

Floppy2112 · Answer

No. There may be various reasons. If he sees you as out of his league or your in a different group or click than him. No matter how much he may like you he may never make a move. Basically, if there is some barrier between you and him, he can like you all he wants and never make any move. He may have already decided you will reject him. Men don't like rejection anymore than women do, so we will mitigate our risks when outcomes do not appear favorable.
This is when women need to step up, because not all guys will. And who knows, that guy may be the best person for you, but for reasons only he knows, he will never make it known. Yes, guys have let women they are actually interested in, pass right on by without even a quip. It happens more than you think.

cth96190 · Answer

No, a male will not always make a move.
He will watch to see if you might be receptive, before he risks being rejected.
Today, he has to be extremely careful, because of the risk of career or education ending Title IX and/or sexual harassment complaints.
If he is in Britain, it is even less likely that he will make a move, because Feminists lobbied successfully for the introduction of an anti-catcalling law that was worded in a way that made it a felony for a male to approach to a female, if, after the event, the female decided that she did not like the way in which he was approached.
Because men lack the ability to read minds and the clairvoyance to predict the future, the only prudent course of action is to not approach a female.
https://www.brit.co/nottinghamshire-stop-catcalling/

TheorionMage · Answer

NO ONE LIKES 'rejection'... no matter HOW 'diplomatic'...

when the girl's perspective of you is ambiguous
as Benj. Franklin's 'Poor Richard' almanac advised:
"Better to keep silent and be THOUGHT a Fool...
than to speak your feelings and remove all doubt"

But... conversely, "Faint heart N'ere won fair Lady!"
(She may be EQUALLY uncertain of HOW She's perceived! )

strawberrylipstick · Answer

I for one, never make the first move cause that makes me anxious as hell and then my tics go off which doesn't help with getting someone to like you, imagine going to ask someone out and then you yell "My aunt's got a kid in the cellar!" So... Definitely there are people out there who will not make the first move for whatever reason XD

BeenThereLovedIt · Answer

A lot of guys were taught by hollywood to make that magical eye-contact that somehow if you can give a girl the correct eye contact and whatever manly look you got to attract her, then boom, she catches your gaze and you both know there's a spark. Then the guy is safe to approach.

We all know this is horseshit, and the truth is that women think you are being creepy. Unless your a really hot guy.

Mewipaws · Answer

I won't make a move at all unless I really feel that the girl is somewhat hinting at me to do so. Even now, I still haven't make a move on the girl I am interested in. The most I have did so far is just message her about her pets and anything beyond that, I just froze. Maybe it is due to past trauma but the point is that if you feel that he is interested in you and you feel the same way too, just go for it. I mean there isn't a protocol now where guys must make the 1st move in this era.

soleil2000 · Answer

More often than not, the good guys won't.
The woman needs to be open for that - and, many, unless money is involved, like to be liked/pursued/adored - but prefer to wait for someone richer/someone who will make them wildly famous and similar idiotic desires based on watching too much TV and thinking there are all these 'possibilities' out there (which cannot be further from the truth - big money is such a huge responsibility none of it is any fun - think princess Diana).

Bang5luts · Answer

Unfortunately, even if a guy is interested he won't always make a move. With all things considered, some guys are shy, afraid of rejection, or afraid of looking like some type of pig. All I am saying is if you like him and you see any type of interest from him or like he's hesitant to make a move. Than let him know you like him or at least that you're willing to meet him half way. I hope this helps

BruceJender · Answer

It really depends.

I'm really forward, but after I've been gunned down by a girl, I'll tend to stop being so forward.

I expect some guys will continue to be forward no matter what, and others will never make the first move, or take a long time.

It may be that he's not sure how you feel about him, so it might help him if either you made the first move, or made it clear that you like him in another way.

HikerDude · Answer

No, it really depends on the guy. Some guys have balls of steel and will always go after a girl they want, but other guys are so painfully shy they would rather remain alone than admit what they want.

MrCommodore · Answer

No, not always. He will wait for multiple signs from the girl first, then when he might make a move. It depends on his personality usually, shy guys need more time and signs.

WesBrewer · Answer

Nope, this is especially untrue for me, when I find a girl I like all I do is think about what might happen if I ask her out, and I end up taking forever before I actually ask her out.

Anonymous · Answer

No, definitely not. Just like you women, men are afraid of and hate rejection. It just depends on the guy. I know guys who will not show interest in a girl unless she shows interest first. Doesn't mean she has to make a move, but at least do something to show she is interested. That's not too much to ask, is it?

rjroy3 · Answer

No. Reasons vary per guy and situation. Most commonly either, assuming he is in fact interested, he's either shy, has a girl already or concerned with social repercussions.

LogicalGal123 · Answer

Yes, but be very careful. Observe what he wants first and figure out if he really want u for u or he just wants to play? If he is really interested in u, he would get out of his way and pursue u.

Avicenna · Answer

Usually he will, but some guys are do afraid of failure that they don’t and lose out on the girl they like. Hesitation, not getting rejected, is your biggest enemy.

Wade8888 · Answer

No, he might have social anxiety, but love you to death, in which case he CAN'T make the first move, and needs you to make the first move. Been there, I know how it feels.

Alexandrubaschet08 · Answer

It depends on how confident he is when he wants to take the first step. It depends on each boy.
I was very interesting in many girls but I didn't make a move, I would have preferred them to have done in those moments.

Bakry123 · Answer

Not at all he will let your emotion play untill u fall for him he is playing with u utill u the one come times after time to him then wither confess for him or he told u , many play that game 😬

BareTruth · Answer

It honestly depends if we get a good read on a girl or not. If we know that a girl is interested we will make a move if we got the balls for it. Sometimes though we don’t know if the other party is interested or not so it helps occasionally when a girl makes a move. Depending on the guy we find it hot

REALSTEEL · Answer

im 44 not always i flirt the women usually ask me out im a old school gentleman i like to make people laugh i do voices like Forrest gump yogi the bear tell jokes but not in all cases the men always maje a move im single

Unit1 · Answer

No, that doesn't happen so often. We feel discouraged if she ignores us or doesn't invite us.
Usually the players (those, who want to hook up) will obviously almost always make a move to land some pussy.

MCheetah · Answer

It's more likely he won't make a move, unless he's supremely confident. Or perhaps has some liquid courage on him.

lightbulb27 · Answer

no, depends on his confidence in himself. a sensitive person even less so... all the fear related of being rejected, being dumb, messing up, etc..

genericname85 · Answer

nope. a guy may just assume he has no chance anyway. i've been there before... i eventually made a move anyway after years xD turns out i was right to begin with :D

Blindguyplaying · Answer

Not always. Its a matter of their mindset being between "I don't want to screw up what might be my only chance and she'll say no" and "it's my only chance, if I find a chance to confess I will".

winterfox10 · Answer

No, not at all. In fact, many times men won't make a move, simply because it's not the right time or he because he doesn't think she's interested in him.

slatyb · Answer

No, some guys are shy and won't approach because they think the woman is out if their league.

loveslongnails · Answer

No, the fear of rejection is often stronger than the desire to succeed. Merely being interested doesn't guarantee that anything will happen at all.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't unless I'm certain she shares beliefs. I like to talk to pretty women, after talking for a while and I find out her beliefs, I may pursue. I am a Christian seeking a Christian. Very few follow God's word and serve Christ.

DWornock · Answer

Of course not because it is the girl's responsibility to make the first move. That means, she must smile and say "Hi" or otherwise do something to indicate that she is receptive to being approach.

herakleias · Answer

It changes, sometimes they wait for a signal I think.

CheeseBurgah · Answer

“If a guy is interested- will he make a move? Always?” Guys: No Girls: Yes  Dafuq is this?

RingOfFire · Answer

No, not if he is too shy or for some other reasons. You may never know he was interested.

AllThatSweetJazz · Answer

Nope. That's a myth girls like to tell themselves and each other.

massb · Answer

Sometimes yea but a lot of men are afraid of rejection so not always. But they will sometimes make subtle hints to show that they are interested

redskies · Answer

No some guy are very hesitant and full of seld doubt like they could be telling themselves that your to good for them so they do

rachel776 · Answer

no sometimes you have to

AkshiJanjua · Answer

Nah many men donot approach if they like a girl. I myself never approached a girl but also i am too shy lol. But still many men wait for perfect opportunity that never comes.

Kareem_z21 · Answer

No. Not always. Maybe he is shy to take the first step and waiting for you to do.

KillianK · Answer

No. I had interests in people in high school, but I never moved on any of them due to overwhelming anxiety.

Torari · Answer

Most guys are pussies who are too afraid of rejection to make a move. But I wouldn't worry about them. They're not the guys you want to date anyway.

jasco · Answer

No not always, he will talk to you for sure but make a move, not if he's shy he won't

Skankhunt · Answer

No, not always. Men can be shy too. Men are afraid of rejection.

Minahh · Answer

No they won't I'm sure about that. Some of them are shy or don't want to be rejected.

COMMODOREII · Answer

Nope not always. He may be shy and unwilling to be in the same room with you.

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

No, often they will not. It takes a lot of courage to make an advance on a female, and frankly it’s something a lot of guys don’t deal with very well.

dragoblack · Answer

Not always, but if you feel he might be, you should at least ask

ElvenMr · Answer

A lot of times yes, but a lot of times no. You will reject the guy 95% of the time anyways.

Anonymous · Answer

Completely false, can't speak for every guy, it's a reminder of my lifelong hatred towards this status quo or gender role

montyybello · Answer

Not necessarily, some guys are shy and/or lack the courage to 'make a move'.

supercutebutt · Answer

Usually they never do.

Anonymous · Answer

Nope. I never make a move and I see so many interesting and beautiful women. I’m just focusing on the things that will better my life. Career.

Anonymous · Answer

sometimes it depends if he's shy or intimidated by the woman

watrewks · Answer

Nope. He might be too scared

FakeNIK · Answer

Not always, Some guys are shy

sheikalana · Answer

most probably he will.

dudeinohio · Answer

Not always. What if he's shy or nervous.

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