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Are guys usually hesitant to or against dating single mothers? Do they generally harbor ulterior motives? (Page 2)
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Yes, many are hesitant-- less so if they have kids of their own as well.
Ulterior motives-- well that's more individualistic. Not sure if you're referring to the guy or the single mother but either has potential to carry a motive.
i wouldn't just because i dont really ever want kids and i dont want drama with her ex lol. i just couldn't handle it lmao it would be bad for everyone involved
If I were single, I would have no problem dating a single mother. However, it seems that a lot of guys are concerned about taking on the responsibility of a child.
I mean if you love the girl and she loves you back you should do it. I mean personally for me yes I would prefer if she didn't have kids already from another relationship but it wouldn't stop me from being with someone.
Absolutely yes. There’s 3 reasons why:
1. Baby daddy will always be in the picture.
2. You have to help raise another mans baby.
3. She will rely on you to provide more than ever.
All 3 are major deal breakers.
Sorry a lot of single moms have a job. I think it does make a difference with how many children she has. But if she has a job and he pays child support, there should be no reason those problems exist. Also, I think talking about horrible it is to raise someone else’s child is a huge slap in the face to foster children and adopted children. You aren’t fit to be a father with that attitude. Children are a blessing.
As long as your personal boundaries preclude getting serious enough to get attached to her kid (s) or heartbroken when she turns out to be banging baby daddy on the side, then why not?
Single mothers are no different than any other ladies. They want someone steady that they can fall in love with. It's difficult to be in their situation but you should be happy if one of them loves you. You start out with a ready-made family to boot.
Sorry, that's why most women post pics without their kids until first few dates. It's off putting instantly. Cuz then we get to never spend time with each other or in picking up the mess of another man's kid. Not cool
I don't assume they have ulterior motives. But I still stay clear of them, cause I don't want another dudes child in my life.
You will always be second to the kid & a lot of people want to be their lover's #1.
Usually yes but personally no
Saves me a job and allows me all the perks of having kids without the perpetuation of my corrupted genes
Depends a lot on the age and circumstances, but by default, most are. And not without reason. The only universal thing that can be said is - it's quite a bit of baggage. Not everybody can handle it and not everybody wants to handle it.
Yes children are a big responsibility. That’s why many men are not fit to be fathers. To think we are all baggage as we were all children once is a red flag of someone not being adequate parent material.
@Orangesareyummy children are a big responsibility, true, but that's not the difficult part here. Raising someone else's children is quite unnatural, and the vast majority of men aren't willing to do it. Also many women aren't fit to be mothers, I don't know why are you trying to turn it all on men.
Shame on you for degrading orphans who are in the same situation. Children are a blessing. Men who dislike them or judge them aren’t fit to be fathers to begin with.
@Orangesareyummy I'm not degrading anyone, don't be a snowflake. It's an undisputable fact that most people out there who want children, want children of their own. Now with adopting an orphan, it's usually something a couple decides and agrees on. Single parenthood, on the other hand, is often a package deal, nor are the two sides in the same position, only one of them is expected to accept it.
Not to mention the fact that there are many single mothers out there who were cheap whores when they were younger, and got pregnant and dumped by some random degenerate. And being in a relationship with such trash, and raising such a child is about the last thing any man would want, so that's an additional risk.
Snowflake? How fuckin lame and outdated are you? I read what you said. Don’t try to backpedal. Again children are a blessing.
@Orangesareyummy I'm not backpedaling out of anything, I stand behind everything I wrote. And yes, you're kinda being a snowflake, randomly accusing me of degrading children, when it was clear from the beginning I never did such a thing
I didn’t even read you last comment. It just the same hateful bullshit. I rarely check gag anymore because of the hateful fake bull shit.
@Orangesareyummy So you don't even read my comments but still feel the need to reply? What a fucking snowflake!
I can only speak for myself. I do not date single mothers. My motive is to date a woman with no kids around.
I wouldn't date a single mother currently, at least not for a serious relationship as I don't want to deal with the consequences of her failed relationship (s).
Yes, more than likely the just look for a man to leech off his resources. When theyre done with him, they go to the next one.
Nothing against single moms, as I understand unfortunate things happen and we make mistakes as humans, but single moms aren't for me personally so I won't waste her time nor mines.
A smart man ignores a whore who carries so much baggage.
They are because then they’re going to take care of the kid for the rest of their lives
Many men will date single mothers because that way they can date more attractive women.