Well, as a guy you can catch an STD with a condom on. You know those times you get super wet, so much so it's coating his balls when he pulls out? Yeah, all that you can catch something... I have before.
Completely besides that, you have other things that come up from sex and can be very similar to an STD, but are not. Like as a guy, the first time you catch a yeast infection from a girl is very confusing, and will send you scampering off to the doc until you realize you just have to buy some vagisil cream and rub it in your penis. It's only embarrassing the first time.
This is worse if you have things like diabetes that may put sugar in your urine. Just as some women have negative reactions to certain birth control, some men can have a negative reaction coming into contact with the small amounts of it in your wetness and vaginal lining.
So, him going to see a doc, its a good thing, it means he actually takes both of your health seriously, even if it's a minor chance.
On the flip side, make sure he isn't seeing anyone else, because in every relationship I've had that STDs got mixed in, there was always a third party that I found out about later.
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Oh wow, I wasn't expecting sure a honest and thoughtfully written reply. Thank you for this, yeah you're right, it is really good that he is being cautious. I guess initially I just took it personally
It's fine to take, you know, personal accusations personally, you just have to be cool and calm about it, even when it's tough. Now, I read in another comment where you said you got tested too. If you both talk to each other, and work together, this won't be such a big dramatic thing. Even if the relationship is over, you need to figure out who does or doesn't have what, and what impacts that will have.
Obviously the trust you two have is, well, busted, and not from this, it just wasn't there to begin with or you would have started by approaching this together... I did with my first girlfriend, STD, and finding out I had been cheated on. It was painful as all hell, but I think knowing is a lot better than thinking it's normal to have drippy dick, aching balls, and down the line kids that don't look like you.
Oh wow that's awful. Im sorry to hear someone did that to you. I just ranted of in the deleted message, I think I said somehing along the lines of how insulted I felt. I got my results from my tests today which were negative, just awaiting blood results. Always been negative for stds, but did another test cos I felt I should for his peace of mind. I'm wondering if I should send them him, and not put a message with it. I dont feel I can talk to him anymore. But at least then he will have some peace of mind to know my results were negative
I think the trust is ruined and tbh, I'm not sure how things will be, if next week he tries to approach me to continue a sexual relationship. His results will be back then, but i feel things are sour
Well, you know for the future. You can't expect yourself or others to be open books, but you have to be open when it concerns the health and fundamental relationship you have. It'll hurt and be frustrating for a bit, for both of you, then you move on and hopefully learn from it.
He might also have cut off communication because he popped positive and thinks you're wanting to play hackey-sack with his balls. As you said, he doesn't know your results, if you're clean and the communication is gone, just walk.
🤣🙈 omg what does hackey sackey even mean? Yeah you're right, at least I will learn a good lesson from this. Still hurt over him implying shit an beating round the bush. Hopefully his results are negative, but again he might've been fooling about. Nevermind
Nevermind is right, push what could be happening on his side out of your head as he obviously wants to cut you out anyway. What would the point of getting back together be anyway, to simply not be lonely while you both look for people who you can trust and feel comfortable/happy with?
Hackey sack is a game where you kick a small bag filled with beans around and try to kick it as many times as you can without having the bag hit the ground. I haven't seen anyone playing it in years.
Just hold on to your results, if he did cheat and pop positive he also might not be talking to you because he's saying you're the one who gave him something. Let it blow over, you're clean, this is a him problem at this point, the only you problem, if it is one, is that you're single now.
So this convo basically means he's been sleeping with another girl and he's worried he doesn't want to give you an STD. So you both took STD tests. He also thinks when you meet you're likely to hookup, nothing wrong with thinking that he just doesn't want you to feel rejected and doesn't want either of you to feel horny enough to ignore the doctor's advice. I think your reaction may have put him off a little and maybe needs time. I get why you felt that way tho, he just didn't like himself having to defend himself and so you'll have to wait til he talks to you again.
so basically someone fucking around and getting an std and someone else whining and bitching about not having sex and the i'm sorry you feel that way bullshit when it's the flat out truth. so why am i reading this pointless dribble?
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Cos you seemingly have nothing better to do but whinge yourself. So you know where to go...
He's likely just being paranoid. I'd see how things go.
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Hmmm, I think he is paranoid tbh, but it certainly doesn't make me feel good. I'm not sure if I should message him or leave him alone and wait to see if he contacts me. He gets his result next week. I too went and got tested but I haven't communicated this too him
strange is he sleeping with other girls? or he might have doubt that you sleep around?
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He told me he was only seeing me. I have told him I am not seeing anyone else.
I had told him how many previohs partners I have had, but that was across the span of my early 20s. Not sure why he refused to see me just to hang out, still feeling shit over it
