Intelligence is not the same as 'street smarts', so I like to have a mix of friends whose attributes I can utilize according to the situation. A perhaps more important trait is personality. If I wanted to have a good time then a Swedish accountant of high analytical skills would be a lousy choice compared to a good ol' boy redneck but a reversal would be better for assistance in solving a tough business problem. I have met only a couple of people whom I would regard as my intellectual equal so I never worry about relationships based on grey matter. I have read roughly two books a week, mostly on science, technology, and history for the past 60+ years so, aside from my formal education, I am well versed on just about every topic and can carry my end of a conversation with just about anyone.
99.99986% of people on the planet are probably less intelligent than me, if I were to guess. And not to sound sexist, but I've never met a woman more intelligent than me before, and I think she'd have to be in the top percentile on the planet in order to even qualify. (Trust me; I'm not trying to sound arrogant; being intelligent in a world of mouth-breathing simpletons is more of a curse than anything.) But if she was, I think I'd like that for a change. I don't get jealous or insecure at people who are better than me at some things. So I could go either way, but probably would be more likely to like someone less intelligent than me by the sheer numbers alone.
I mean I love super smart guys and nerds so it's a yes for more intelligent although I think I am quite intelligent myself As for lesser intelligent.. It depends on the level. I don't know maybe if he makes up for it in another area like being funny or something and isn't very dumb Then perhaps I won't date someone with a similar intelligence to Patrick Star though, sorry
Sorry, but I would never want to be in a relationship with someone who's less intelligent than me as I find intelligence very hot. I find it fascinating. I like my partner to be able to teach me new things, give me knowledge, help me out by giving me great solutions and all. I wanna keep learning all my life!
I am in a relatively high percentile for intelligence and I just would not have much in common with someone who was average intelligence and definitely not with anyone below average. I have dated women with average intelligence and I have dated women who probably had a 140 IQ and I had much more fun with the high IQ ladies.
If you measure intelligence by IQ (which I don't) then I haven't met anyone that I could have a potential relationship with that is more intelligent than me because I have a freakishly high IQ in the 99.9968th percentile.
But I believe that there are lots of kinds of intelligence and I also believe that both men and women have their own unique kinds of intelligence that the other typically has less of. So I think that there is no reason that intelligence would be a barrier for me since I expect a woman to have a kind of intelligence that is complimentary to mine as a man.
I've dated some very dumb girls and some very smart ones. Tbh intelligence doesn't matter at all really to me. The dumb girls are easy to laugh with make jokes be light hearted with. The intelligent girls are better to have deep conversations with. The best of the best that are super rare are intelligent ones who like to play dumb and live as an idiot most of the time.
Intelligence also comes with some headaches. Smart girls cause more trouble. Simple girls don't. Just some things to think about.
I would ADORE just meeting one, that is on par, with me, or even smarter, and we share some science-nerd things together! I would love a SUPER-SMART lady, and she MUST wear glasses!! LOL!! :) I think I am waiting, looking, casually, for a different lady, and this time, one that is REALLY SMART, and has a great career! I need more intelligent people around me, now, and I need to have those experiences, those 'challenges' that they bring!
Eh, the only time I ever meet women who have a resemblance of intelligence they're in their 40s or older. Young women... just aren't smart. Hardworking? Ambitious? Sure.
I know I was thinking about the philosophies of life at a rather young age... But from what I can tell women have more simplistic concerns.
I can deal with both. If they're less intelligent, I would like if they could keep up with me or ask questions when they don't understand, instead of pretending to be interested or like they know what they're talking about.
If they're more intelligent, I hope they'd be patient with me and are open to discussing things so that I can learn more.
I have met people who are mentally challenged but can be insightful in their own ways. I have also met really intelligent people are awful to be around because they are obsessed with their supposed superiority.
I *prefer* intelligence though, it's useful and interesting.
Never ever date a guy who says that he can marry someone dumber than him but not someone smarter. It is a huge indication that he has ego issues and is likely to be condescending at some point during the marriage.
As long as they aren't a dick about it, I enjoy being around people who are smarter than me. It challenges me to learn new things and analyze things mlre deeply. I feel like I'm a better person when I'm in that kind of relationship.
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I wonder if the roughly 50% who selected “I can date someone more intelligent then me but not less intelligent” are in the bottom 50% in intelligence and deep down they know it, lol. For me it doesn’t matter. I married someone who believes she isn’t smart because she didn’t learn to read until 9th grade. She is my wife and now she has a great family and more money than she will ever spend but... in fairness she spends modestly. For the record, she is quite smart I believe.
I could never be in a relationship with someone less intelligent than me. I could only be with someone as intelligent as I am or even better.
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I believe so. Seems to be a case with us women that no matter how, strong, educated, wealthy we are we need a man that's better than us. Whereas men will just marry some sweet waitress with a nice rack.
no. at a certain point of discrepancy in intelligence, there's such a big devision, that you litterally can not relate to each other. it's impossible to lead a good relationship with someone that can't relate to you and that you can't relate to.
I like intelligence, makes for great conversations in the car and whenever we are waiting around together. That factor fills in empty spaces in a relationship, where we learn from each other.
I'm not smart at all, I work so hard to make it through education I would consider someone smart a necessity, they see and understand things I would never have the time for.
I prefer to date someone similar to me intellectually. Conversation is important to me and if we can't understand one another, then we aren't going to enjoy each other's company.
