i have a friend on twitter who has a crush and i commented she was intellectually superior and he said yeah that's why she's out of his league... is that true? he's nice person, that counts right? he's kind of an airhead, who skipped highschool. but he has ambition and listening skills, those are nice to have.
I usually- ideally- pictured us to be balanced, I. e.:
I would be smart at things he wasn’t, so he could grow with my assistance and I could enjoy being part of that
and vice versa, that he would be smart at things I wasn’t, so he can assist me to grow and be a part of my journey.
If we were both well rounded and smart at the same group of things, I’d hope he’d be smarter than me in certain topics of those groups, and the groups we specialized in or “hobbied in,” and that I’d be smarter than him in other (certain) topics of those groups.
Balance would be ideal and for us to be equals. That we could admire each other OR grow together.
If that’s not achievable in this life. I’d at least have to have someone match my internal objective, or see who I got along with, regardless of smarts, and such.
Let’s say some mental guy was sweet to me and independent, but clearly not adept in any subject.👐
If he was fond of nature or expressive beauty; some small talks and sports, and interested in me…. God… I’d crumble and hope no one ever hurt him. I think I’d be fine loving him and living and spending time with him. I’d keep intellectual conversations for certain events or work, is all… like visiting a live Ted talk or some conference/conference-meeting.
If he’s sweet on no end, loving, and yet not the brightest… yes, I’ll still love him. With all my heart… ♥️
It's easy to become insecure if the person you're dating is smarter than you. Any corrections they make to what you say can feel like smackdowns or condescending insults or something. It's not anything intentioned that way, and we all rationally know that, but it can definitely wear on a person over time if they feel like they don't have something that makes that person their equal in some way or another. Like if they had in-depth knowledge on other subjects that apply to their lives just as easily as what their partner knows. We all know that intellect can never truly be measured, it's why IQ tests' best students are usually the rich and white and proof that we have no idea how to measure one's capability for taking in knowledge. It really depends on the people involved, if they're okay with meeting someone who can seem to never keep up with what they're talking about, or if they're okay feeling like the person they're with knows more about everything they do, there are insecurities and mixed feelings that can come up with that. If people communicate well there shouldn't be any issues, but sometimes things can't always be solved by talking it out and sometimes people are just bad matches. The world is complicated like that.
I would have trouble dating someone with a 70 IQ, but that's a pretty extreme situation. I test in the 98-99 percentile, so while there definitely are people smarter than me (I've met some of them, including a few women), chances are that I am going to be the smart one.
I don't need or expect my girl to be on my level in that respect, she just needs some common sense and basic intelligence and we'll be fine. I got brains but not looks - no one gets everything, and you just have to learn how to leverage what you have and not get caught up in what you lack.
As far as intelligence goes, I'm fine with the vast majority of women, including the few that are smarter than me. It's only those really low on the scale that would be a problem for me.
There's a difference between being educated and being intelligent--This is what people need to get in their heads-
I wouldn't much care that someone has not been higher than high school or have a big degree-even if i'd like them to have basic education and can hold a conversation
But I do care that they are well travelled; have had a good familial integrity and upbringing, which predicts good emotional and psychological health, and have had their share of valuable life experience... That is more crucial as it relates to intelligence-
Believe it or not some people go to grad school and are still the dumbest mofos you'll ever meet
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I do not need to date another me as I am already enough to handle.
You would have to be reasonably intelligent to enjoy me and keep up with my dry nuisance and “shocking”🙀 statements rollercoaster 🎢 .
Small waist, gracious, soft eyes, deeply felt respect are all things that can not be appropriately Valued. A decent guy is not complicated.
Well If I don't then there would be nobody to date.
No and that isn't so much a matter of level of intelligence but interests.
I don't often find people with who enjoy the same kinds of things I do and are actually intelligent and or knowledgeable enough to have a conversation about them.
But with that being said I can talk with anyone almost about anything. But it's not to often I find people with the same interests as myself. But yes I would date someone even if they did not possess the same intelligence or even interests as myself it's not really that much of an issue to me. Though nice when I can find someone who does.
m It depends. There are many different types of intelligence. Some people are higher in some categories than in others. I can’t really be bothered to spend my time with idiots who can’t even carry a decent conversation. But that also kind of depends on the type of relationship. Like are we going for a “proper” boyfriend/girlfriend or girlfriend/girlfriend thing, or is it more like just having someone to work out your frustrations on type of relationship?
If I was single and in the dating scene, I wouldn’t mind dating someone more or less intelligent than me.
I’d need them to be trustworthy, I’d need us to have a deep connection, and I’d need them to have enough social and emotional intelligence and intuition to be empathetic and understanding.
It’s not so much: Do they have a high IQ?
But more: How strong of a emotional, mental, and spiritual connection are we able to experience with each other?
Intelligence is over-rated in a girl and it is not a core quality I look for, nor is it that likely to equal mine.
Around an IQ 100 is fine. More important, I like a girl to be interested in the world around her - that's a different quality.
Only 3.1% fall in the range 130-139. Somewhat better in the the 120-129 range at 8.2%. So if I want a girl with similar IQ I have already excluded more than 90% of girls before I start filtering on breasts.
Nah I'll just filter on breasts.
First, I hate the concept of leagues. No offense. I don't actually think they exist but I respect the thought and realize it's not your question.
Yes, I'd date (or marry) someone not as intelligent as me. It's not the intelligence necessarily but a willingness to read and converse and think and explore and ask.
I have dated a couple of girls who were not as smart as me, and that's setting the bar pretty low. Once my best friend and me were having a discussion about who dated rhe dumbest girl. I won handily But seriously, she was not exceptionally bright but she was a sweet person and had a beautiful singing voice.
If I filter out as same intelligence level. I will probably never get anyone and that's not smart. But the last time I met one girl closer to mine was at a high-energy laser conference. The girl was 10 years older than me and now is a top director of the country's top research institute. At that conference, I proposed one solution to a problem that only she had understood, although there were pretty big-ass experimental physicists there.
However, dating too dumb can be tricky. I try to be fair as possible but then they ask questions like how to boil an egg or can't calculate taxi fares and changes.
However, they can have other talents in music but not a total bimbo.
I skipped school a lot and didn't make good grades but not because I'm not smart. Just wasn't interested. But no, I won't date anyone who isn't intelligent as I am, I normally date teachers, nurses or others in the medical field or rich women. I cannot date someone simply for their looks.
the way i see it is there is always someone smarter then you me or them , but smarts are not always a tell time sign of what people bring to the relationship ,, one may be book smart or intelligent like you said the other can be worldly smart , etc.. we all have someone that knows more then we do in our lives ,, would you date a person that seems smarter then you if not why not ,, it takes more then smarts to make a good person..
For me it's less about the actual intelligence and more about their thirst to learn.
I don't care what the person's IQ is but I do care about wanting a partner who's always willing to learn new things.
I used to have friends who looked at me confused because I said I liked documentary movies or that I read or watch educational material for leisure. I want a partner like me who's interested in knowing more about art, science and history.
I'm a sapiosexual; so, no.
Then again, I'm not claiming to be that intelligent myself. So don't cry, ladies! 😂
At some point, that differential comes back to bite the "airhead' person on the butt, maybe not right away, but that differential will at some point be a 'problem' for the girl who is "ahead of him intellectually.
u Being nice is rarely reason enough to be picked for a relationship
Absolutely. I find that women for whatever reason tend to steer to men that are smarter than them even if they are pretty smart themselves. Same with women who have money.
You should date anyone you wish. On the basis of this question no one is is patently less intelligent.
There’s different kinds of intelligence. I’m very book smart and yes I would date someone who wasn’t as intelligent as I was in that way as long as they respected my hobbies and interests.
Most people are smarter than me, but I still get asked out? I don’t know who I could exclude because they are not smart?
Women rarely date down, so she is by default out of his league. But if he's got game, he's got a chance.
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