Would You Date A Person Who's Not As Intelligent As You?

Question

i have a friend on twitter who has a crush and i commented she was intellectually superior and he said yeah that's why she's out of his league...  is that true?  he's nice person, that counts right? he's kind of an airhead, who skipped highschool. but he has ambition and listening skills, those are nice to have.

Rosexøxø · Accepted Answer

I usually- ideally- pictured us to be balanced, I. e.:

I would be smart at things he wasn’t, so he could grow with my assistance and I could enjoy being part of that

and vice versa, that he would be smart at things I wasn’t, so he can assist me to grow and be a part of my journey.

If we were both well rounded and smart at the same group of things, I’d hope he’d be smarter than me in certain topics of those groups, and the groups we specialized in or “hobbied in,” and that I’d be smarter than him in other (certain) topics of those groups.

Balance would be ideal and for us to be equals. That we could admire each other OR grow together.

If that’s not achievable in this life. I’d at least have to have someone match my internal objective, or see who I got along with, regardless of smarts, and such.

Let’s say some mental guy was sweet to me and independent, but clearly not adept in any subject.👐

If he was fond of nature or expressive beauty; some small talks and sports, and interested in me…. God… I’d crumble and hope no one ever hurt him. I think I’d be fine loving him and living and spending time with him. I’d keep intellectual conversations for certain events or work, is all… like visiting a live Ted talk or some conference/conference-meeting.

If he’s sweet on no end, loving, and yet not the brightest… yes, I’ll still love him. With all my heart… ♥️

CupcakeTheDestroyer · Accepted Answer

It's easy to become insecure if the person you're dating is smarter than you. Any corrections they make to what you say can feel like smackdowns or condescending insults or something. It's not anything intentioned that way, and we all rationally know that, but it can definitely wear on a person over time if they feel like they don't have something that makes that person their equal in some way or another. Like if they had in-depth knowledge on other subjects that apply to their lives just as easily as what their partner knows. We all know that intellect can never truly be measured, it's why IQ tests' best students are usually the rich and white and proof that we have no idea how to measure one's capability for taking in knowledge. It really depends on the people involved, if they're okay with meeting someone who can seem to never keep up with what they're talking about, or if they're okay feeling like the person they're with knows more about everything they do, there are insecurities and mixed feelings that can come up with that. If people communicate well there shouldn't be any issues, but sometimes things can't always be solved by talking it out and sometimes people are just bad matches. The world is complicated like that.

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

I would have trouble dating someone with a 70 IQ, but that's a pretty extreme situation. I test in the 98-99 percentile, so while there definitely are people smarter than me (I've met some of them, including a few women), chances are that I am going to be the smart one.

I don't need or expect my girl to be on my level in that respect, she just needs some common sense and basic intelligence and we'll be fine. I got brains but not looks - no one gets everything, and you just have to learn how to leverage what you have and not get caught up in what you lack.

As far as intelligence goes, I'm fine with the vast majority of women, including the few that are smarter than me. It's only those really low on the scale that would be a problem for me.

lucasnabizada · Accepted Answer

There's a difference between being educated and being intelligent--This is what people need to get in their heads-

I wouldn't much care that someone has not been higher than high school or have a big degree-even if i'd like them to have basic education and can hold a conversation

But I do care that they are well travelled; have had a good familial integrity and upbringing, which predicts good emotional and psychological health, and have had their share of valuable life experience... That is more crucial as it relates to intelligence-

Believe it or not some people go to grad school and are still the dumbest mofos you'll ever meet

Guy13 · Answer

I do not need to date another me as I am already enough to handle.

You would have to be reasonably intelligent to enjoy me and keep up with my dry nuisance and “shocking”🙀 statements rollercoaster 🎢 .

Small waist, gracious, soft eyes, deeply felt respect are all things that can not be appropriately Valued. A decent guy is not complicated.

coachTanthony · Answer

Well If I don't then there would be nobody to date.

Phoenix98 · Answer

No and that isn't so much a matter of level of intelligence but interests.

I don't often find people with who enjoy the same kinds of things I do and are actually intelligent and or knowledgeable enough to have a conversation about them.

But with that being said I can talk with anyone almost about anything. But it's not to often I find people with the same interests as myself. But yes I would date someone even if they did not possess the same intelligence or even interests as myself it's not really that much of an issue to me. Though nice when I can find someone who does.

Quackthulu2 · Answer

It depends. There are many different types of intelligence. Some people are higher in some categories than in others. I can’t really be bothered to spend my time with idiots who can’t even carry a decent conversation. But that also kind of depends on the type of relationship. Like are we going for a “proper” boyfriend/girlfriend or girlfriend/girlfriend thing, or is it more like just having someone to work out your frustrations on type of relationship?

dynamicyandere · Answer

If I was single and in the dating scene, I wouldn’t mind dating someone more or less intelligent than me.

I’d need them to be trustworthy, I’d need us to have a deep connection, and I’d need them to have enough social and emotional intelligence and intuition to be empathetic and understanding.

It’s not so much: Do they have a high IQ?

But more: How strong of a emotional, mental, and spiritual connection are we able to experience with each other?

RavVid · Answer

Intelligence is over-rated in a girl and it is not a core quality I look for, nor is it that likely to equal mine.

Around an IQ 100 is fine. More important, I like a girl to be interested in the world around her - that's a different quality.

Only 3.1% fall in the range 130-139. Somewhat better in the the 120-129 range at 8.2%. So if I want a girl with similar IQ I have already excluded more than 90% of girls before I start filtering on breasts.

Nah I'll just filter on breasts.

SnowedIn · Answer

First, I hate the concept of leagues. No offense. I don't actually think they exist but I respect the thought and realize it's not your question.

Yes, I'd date (or marry) someone not as intelligent as me. It's not the intelligence necessarily but a willingness to read and converse and think and explore and ask.

exitseven · Answer

I have dated a couple of girls who were not as smart as me, and that's setting the bar pretty low. Once my best friend and me were having a discussion about who dated rhe dumbest girl. I won handily But seriously, she was not exceptionally bright but she was a sweet person and had a beautiful singing voice.

Manab · Answer

If I filter out as same intelligence level. I will probably never get anyone and that's not smart. But the last time I met one girl closer to mine was at a high-energy laser conference. The girl was 10 years older than me and now is a top director of the country's top research institute. At that conference, I proposed one solution to a problem that only she had understood, although there were pretty big-ass experimental physicists there.

However, dating too dumb can be tricky. I try to be fair as possible but then they ask questions like how to boil an egg or can't calculate taxi fares and changes.

However, they can have other talents in music but not a total bimbo.

boombastik · Answer

I skipped school a lot and didn't make good grades but not because I'm not smart. Just wasn't interested. But no, I won't date anyone who isn't intelligent as I am, I normally date teachers, nurses or others in the medical field or rich women. I cannot date someone simply for their looks.

AdithyaR · Answer

For me it's less about the actual intelligence and more about their thirst to learn.
I don't care what the person's IQ is but I do care about wanting a partner who's always willing to learn new things.
I used to have friends who looked at me confused because I said I liked documentary movies or that I read or watch educational material for leisure. I want a partner like me who's interested in knowing more about art, science and history.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

I'm a sapiosexual; so, no. Then again, I'm not claiming to be that intelligent myself. So don't cry, ladies! 😂

smilelots · Answer

the way i see it is there is always someone smarter then you me or them , but smarts are not always a tell time sign of what people bring to the relationship ,, one may be book smart or intelligent like you said the other can be worldly smart , etc.. we all have someone that knows more then we do in our lives ,, would you date a person that seems smarter then you if not why not ,, it takes more then smarts to make a good person..

Bricealan · Answer

At some point, that differential comes back to bite the "airhead' person on the butt, maybe not right away, but that differential will at some point be a 'problem' for the girl who is "ahead of him intellectually.

boggboss · Answer

Being nice is rarely reason enough to be picked for a relationship

Leopard23 · Answer

Absolutely. I find that women for whatever reason tend to steer to men that are smarter than them even if they are pretty smart themselves. Same with women who have money.

Being_a_good_Indian · Answer

You should date anyone you wish. On the basis of this question no one is is patently less intelligent.

Jennz6 · Answer

Most people are smarter than me, but I still get asked out? I don’t know who I could exclude because they are not smart?

WhitneySnow · Answer

There’s different kinds of intelligence. I’m very book smart and yes I would date someone who wasn’t as intelligent as I was in that way as long as they respected my hobbies and interests.

Pegases · Answer

Women rarely date down, so she is by default out of his league. But if he's got game, he's got a chance.

Sunssong · Answer

People are defining leagues all wrong. It's not about being better than someone else. It's not about having equal results as someone else.

HippieVeganJewslim · Answer

I care not about intelligence but rather about personality. Everyone is a genius, but if a fish is judged by their ability to climb a tree, they’ll live their whole life believing they’re stupid.

WanderingLoveWizard · Answer

If I didn't want to date morons, I might as well not date anyone

Subtle_this_time · Answer

Someone or the other is almost always going to differ from your level of intelligence. There are other factors however to decide how mutually compatible you can be with your partner.

JordanianNumetal · Answer

The question itself is arrogant. Often the person that actively feels the need to express there superiority over others isn't necessarily the most intelligent, just the most ignorant.

aaron210419 · Answer

No one is just as intelligent as another person. There are some things you may be more knowledgeable about and some things they are, but together you can always learn.

Shy_Steve · Answer

Yes, Someone being smart isn't really a Requirement for us Guys.

That's just an example of Girls Standards, That's why it's so hard for us Guys in Dating, Because Girls standards are generally way to high.

melanieeeB · Answer

I don't even befriend people that I personally see as not intelligent enough, so no.

NathanDavis · Answer

yes... I've done every time before they're either smarter or aren't

Nikki1989 · Answer

I don't believe in leagues, therefore I open to date anyone.

Surely · Answer

The lack of formal education wouldn’t bother me as much as their everyday ambitions and desire to better themselves. A large dash of common sense thrown in would be appreciated!

LiamJHayden · Answer

I have dated less and more intelligent women. The less intelligent still knew more that I in many areas, and the more intelligent, save one, were no match for me in chess.

TJ1892 · Answer

Definitely then again it would be quite hard to find because I'm a moron myself🤣🤣👍

Jdjfjcjj · Answer

A lot of people think they're smarter than they really are so...

the_sinner · Answer

If we share a good vibe then I don’t mind how intelligent the person is.

BrookeS · Answer

If I find a person funny and nice to be with and that I would enjoy spending time with I don’t care how smart they are

Johnny4473 · Answer

Depends on the difference in Intelligence. Although, calculating Intelligence is a pretty nefarious affair.

Shiningtempest · Answer

@anon1903 I don't care about intelligence. All I care is whether a person has compatible values, emotionally & mentally stable, & easy to get along with.

UncleBilll · Answer

I prefer it that way, as long as she has a body to lust for.

SunnyRS · Answer

Why not we cannot matchbon every level.  And it's a fault that should change my view if I like the person.

Nigjt · Answer

If a Woman isn't as smart as I an yes I would still go out with her is long as I can get along with her. God Bless

Likes2drive · Answer

Yeah, but not too much of a difference or it will get very annoying

Yumix · Answer

Yes. Doesn't need to be smarter than me but I don't want someone stupid either

driven159 · Answer

It does not take a high IQ to be able to communicate.

maximumpower · Answer

Absolutely not. As the cliche goes - "you can't fix stupid."

Alex8736 · Answer

sometimes opposites attract and other times they don't

Raaj4you · Answer

Yes definitely. If she is a good girl I would date her.

EaterPeter · Answer

Ofcourse. No two people are exact equal. Somewhere in the league would be better though

Tstrbrainer · Answer

Someone smarter than me makes me nervous to approach them. They have so many better options

MrShaun · Answer

Crud. That would rule out the entire population of the world in my case.

LovingJo · Answer

It usually happens anyway 😂

KathrynTaylor · Answer

I already have.

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

YES I would date you.

Fireguy17 · Answer

Yes I have. It really was never an issue.

opheeowlscout · Answer

Yes!! Well... Only if they aren't  ignorant.

Agape93 · Answer

Yeap

Pete671 · Answer

I'm actually savantophile so yes,,,

Straight2thepoint · Answer

Because it creates a balance.

malwins · Answer

How do u know u intelligent 😅

strlb · Answer

I did. Hence why they are my ex lol

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