(1) Safe from physical attack by bad people and someone to help like when a natural disaster comes and I need that big strong hunk of a man to rescue me. The same kind of stuff your dad does for you when you are a kid, I want from a boyfriend/husband when I am grown up.
(2) Safe from sexual assault by the guy I'm dating. Yes, I like sexual contact, but I don't like forced sexual contact. The only way I will be sexually and emotionally fulfilled is if I can trust this guy to never ever take it to a place I don't want to go, even though I know he has the physical strength to do it anytime he wants to. The brain is the woman's biggest sex organ. If a guy doesn't exploit my vulnerabilities, I feel more safe, and as a result, I will give him far more than the basics that he could take without permission (if he was that kind of guy).
(3) Safe with personal/family secrets. Yes, I like it when you touch me there, and I enjoy pouring chocolate syrup a guys penis before I give him a blowjob (and no, you aren't the first guy I've done that with). And my mom is a closet alcoholic. That's stuff you know solely because you are dating me. I want a guy that I can reveal these things to and not worry that his mom, friends, or co-workers will ever know about any of them.
I want to feel protected and cared for at the emotional level and I want to feel comfortable and free meaning I should be able to associate and socialize without people trying to control my behaviour when I’m tired and want to relax or when I have done my best effort but still had minor oversights. I want the freedom to rest and relax without interference and I want to be treated with respect and consideration and if a guy offers his sympathy or compassion when I am in pain I will consider that to be a judge bonus. I also think it’s very attractive when a guy takes care of you such as putting his jacket on you when you are cold or cooking your meals when you are sick.
I can't speak for other girls on this. I don't say this, personally. But maybe it's a combination of physically safe (from robbers, bears, downed trees in a storm, ha ha) and emotionally taken care of - that he will be there for her, as a support when the world around her gets tough, or cruel; and also that he will be kind to her, take her well-being and feelings into consideration.
It means I want a guy who is trustworthy. Who would never hurt me and would always protect me from getting hurt be it emotionally or physically. It's a really nice and comforting when someone cares about you so much that they want to protect from lot of things. That's when I say being around him makes me feel so safe, secure and loved.
When I say that I want a guy that makes me feel safe, I want a guy that can protect me from harm. The possibility exists that women could find ourselves in situations that we're unlikely to handle, such as a home invasion, hostile men that can't accept rejection, disrespectful men in general, potential kidnappers and sex traffickers, and so on. I want a guy that is big enough, strong enough, confident enough, and courageous enough to handle such potential situations if they ever happened. If I get the sense that a man would be a coward in these situations, I wouldn't feel safe around him and therefore, I wouldn't be attracted to him.
I can only speak for myself. For me, safety is essential in a relationship. I want to know that my partner won't hurt me on purpose (he won't be abusive or manipulative). Secondly, I want to know that he's responsible, that he won't endanger my well-being (my health, my financial well-being, my professional one etc.) Thirdly, if an issue arises, I feel way better knowing that he can handle it - it doesn't mean that he must know how to do anything and everything, it simply means that he should be action-oriented in order to solve the problem. Feeling physically safe is a bonus.
A man who makes me feel safe is a man that I don’t have to question his love and commitment to me. I am comfortable to be my complete self and show vulnerability. I don’t fear he’ll hurt me physically, mentally, or emotionally (abuse). We strengthen each other, not weaken.
I think I’m capable of keeping myself safe. To a certain degree anyways. I think the one thing I really value about my partner is because I know he can keep me safe. I’ve seen him open a can of whoop ass on people in the rink as well as outside. But more so keeping me safe, I just feel protected and secured when he’s around. Like my personal body guard.
I’d like to think so. I’ve always found him to be physically attractive. I didn’t care much for his boxing fights until I actually saw him fight in person.
It's hard to put into words. Scientifically, the primary role of a mate is not just a sperm donor, but a protector and provider. In both instances, women (particularly pregnant and women on their periods) are in extreme danger from not just wild animals, but social enemies, medical issues, and lack or resources. We are built-in with anxiety and have lower testosterone so we spend most of our lives avoiding danger. A man who can protect us from that is an ideal choice.
I want a guy where when I'm near him I feel like I'm under my blanket after not sleeping for a week that relief that I can finally relax and feel comfortable is just the best I've only had one guy like that in my life Aidens can be the worst and the best lol
