
Forbidden questions on first date?


Wouldn't say anything is forbidden as long as it's framed appropriately, at the right time and so on. Like I've had girls tell me their weight without me having to outright ask.
Because truthfully I'm good at guessing female weight based on height, build, muscle mass and so on. Every now and then I'll say something like, *stands up straight* "my goodness you're short"
She'll almost always say, "I'm not short!" Or some variation. I'll say a height guess like 5'3. She'll tell me if I'm spot on or correct me slightly. Then I follow with "145?" (If I'm confident that's about her range.
She'll tell me "close" or "YES!" If I'm off I'll say "I can't imagine you're any more than 148 tops. But you look 138-145". Then the girl tells me her weight. But by this point it was a fun little, playful experience where she wasn't getting all insecure or anxious about her weight.
Most girls are caught up in how close you are, if you're good at weight guessing. Similar to guessing astrology, their age, what they do for a living, if they were a dancer or an athlete. Something about them you just seem to know
going on a date, should be like hanging out with a friend.
Yep definitely
If it's a first date, keep it light and general.
No, tell me about your ex...
No mental health questions.
No how many children or do you like children.
Ask about how they like to spend their free time etc. What's their fave movie, TV show, are they savers or spenders? Hobbies. Where they've traveled to. What college, first job?
Let THEM do the talking and let their talking GUIDE you to additional questions.
And then, forget all the questioning and go for a walk and sightsee. Don't make it too heavy.
@yofuknutz its not your usual dating situation tbh. 1st time we went out , i thought it was a friendly "hang out" and he thought it was a date. 2nd time we saw each other, he thought it was a "hang out" and I thought it was a date... xDDD rofl. we've only been talking for 1.5 month. And we confessed to each other obviously, but we wanna get to know each other more before saying we want to be together and commit to that. We both have almost no filter though. So that's why its been kind of intense. But i really appreciate his honesty. We both have a lot of character and values we live by
I think a question better off being avoided is asking about past partners/sexual experiences. I understand why people ask that question, however, I don't think that's a super necessary question. I don't think it's very important either. You can't really enjoy your time much when you're thinking about someone's past like that.
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Previous relationships or previous break ups or previous jobs
Kinjite, forbidden subjects, only exist in Japanese culture, or similar backwards cultural norms. in countries who are socially advanced in other ways, but still behead people caught masterbating, which is a capital offense in Indonesia and the Middle East, if you believe the unsupported, unsupportable misinformation that is circulating the web. That's not to say that none of these rumors are not true, only that it says that they are, in fact rumors, and not established supportable fact by any means, available on the web that I've seen.
Don't tell old school traditionalist this, or they may start sharpening their Katanas and Scimitars.
In regards too first date ethics, a date is not an engagement for marriage, so discretion is basically common sense, or should be, anyway.
If you are dating...

than be polite.
There is a nice mnemonic you can remember, it's a acronym.
The acronym is R. A. P. E. It stands for Religion, Abortion, Politics and Economy. That's the most important topics not to talk about on a date. And of course, don''t talk about your ex (es), body counts, heath problems, psychological problems etc.
Things to talk about on a first date, this is also an acronym. The acrionym is F. O. R. D. It stands for Family, Occupation, Recreation (leasure, hobby etc), and Dreams (what are yoru dreams etc). It doesn't matter where you start, you can talk first about occupation and then dreams, or recreaction or family. There isn't an order.
The ford method
i always say to ask all the deal-breaker questions first so do ask the forbidden questions first. Maybe ask them after some getting to know the basics but i for sure want to know the deal breaker stuff on first date. Cause date 2 would be a waste of time for me and her if we have a deal breaker.
Always a great idea to ask the following questions:
-Ask questions about her ex A LOT
-About her sexual preferences and kinks
-Personal questions (like her weight and history underneath the sheets)
-Ask if she could confirm her age
-How much she's making
-What she's driving
-If she brought her wallet
-If she knows how to take care of children
-If she likes housekeeping
-If she's stupid
-If she knows how to read
-If she can walk and talk like a normal person
-If she's secretly a suicide bomber
-If she's ginger underneath that wig
-If mouthwash isn't common where she's from
-If she had a fight with her stylist recently
-If that's her natural skin colour
-If she's naked underneath her clothes
-If she's also against women rights
-If she considered becoming a camgirl
Did you catch all that, Gents. 😌👌
You forgot about asking her what her bra size is.
That's stupid but I know it works depending on the girl, YES the majority of this questions it's to know better the girl, but you surely don't need to be that subtle and ask her if she's a suicidal bomber squad! 😑c'mon dude! You can do better🤣
Imagine:
"How much you make?" - you
"50k this year" - her
"Nice! Because I would need some extra ca$h..😈!"
She asks "why?"
"It's For my health insurance 🚬💊💉🪔🗞💰💸🛒"
Her "sure!😄"
@romeo_and_cats
Please, for my sanity's sake, tell me you understand I was being sarcastic with every single question... 🤤🥴🤯
No dude seriously I'll make a nice effort to put this series of questions to the next girl😈
And I hope she's japanese🇯🇵 and understand english🇬🇧 well
You better come back and tell me how that went. 🤣
Not worries! I took a screenshot of it! Only the "if she's stupid" would be a hard thing to ask but I'll try
May God have mercy on your soul. 0-07
I had a guy as part of a group I went out with who asked two girls "So do you have 'Daddy issues'?" And I'm pretty sure that's a terrible pickup line and a terrible first date question. Realistically a taboo first date question for me would be "Tell me your life story?" That takes trust, and this is a first date.
“ do you have room for a dog/cat/ pet ”“ do you own a truck?”“ how do you feel about moving to another state?”“ do you have a spare bedroom you're not using?”“ how do you feel about adopting a pet?”“ do you have any friends not doing anything next Saturday?”
"Is it fine with you if I lock my kids in a basement when you come over?"
"I've a knife collection. Wanna see?"
"I'm still married. You can join us on this journey if you like."
"Fries with ketchup look like bloody fingers, right?"
Forbidden Questions don't ask on date
1.) How much do you make
2.) Could you lend me $20.00
3.) Don't take simple calls on
your cell phone that is not emergency
4.) I'm not the marrying type
NEVER ask about past boyfriend/girlfriend, or sexual things!!
Do those really matter, anyway?
I want to know WHO she IS, NOW, and what we share!!
No sex question, no dark question, don't ask her about potentially sucky experiences, don't ask her about anything boring (like how her grades are).
General rule of thumb, if it's not exciting/fun/interesting/non-sexual = don't ask it
I learned talking about ex / sex experience on a first date is not really wise lol
Depends on how mature you are about it.
How much do you make?
Tell me about your parents?
Oh I don’t really care. If I’m into you I’m gonna be into you. Talking about exes is definitely weird though. But I’ve never had that happen. Otherwise I say be open and honest, I want to see who you are.
I'm usually friends with a woman before we ever start dating so I already know everything about her.
In one case we even moved in together before we ever dated.
How much money do you make?
Do you swallow?
Do you do anal?
How many children do you want eventually?
How many men / women have you been with?
How much money do you make?
Can I borrow a few bucks?
If things work out, would you be open to getting married this year?
personally i go all out politically which is probably something to avoid. but i almost out of my 20s times to find a wife, so im looking for marriage not a quick fuck, so i want to have similar values and politics say a lot about values
Ask many questions, just avoid being to sexual. in my opinion it makes everything seem shallow.
Anything to do with religion or money of old relationships.
Talking about ex's straight away - or bad mouthing them without good reason.
"who were your previous ex's?"
"how much do you earn?"
"How much do you weight?"
"you wanna fuck?"
"you want some pot?"
Anything indicating something long term, talking about marriage kids etc
Anything about sex, politics or abortion, all no goes.
Are you into 3-somes? My wife and I want to experiment.
I'm Guessing asking her bra size and asking about her sexual experiences.
How much money do you make? That’s a big no, no, on the first date for both parties.
Just act like you’ve known the other person forever. Pretend it’s another time of just simply hanging out, and keep the questions minimal.
But since you asked, don’t talk about exes, body counts or money.
Or religion, politics and your personal baggage.
As a guy, i have learned NOT to ask my date for ANAL sex on our first date even if i get to fuck her that night
Do you have a sister?
Does your carpet match your curtains?
Do you do anal?
Do you mind if I call my mother?
“I’m not gay are you?”
Oh no no no no BUZZ LOOK A DICK
WHERE?
AHHHH N*GAA HAHAAAAA YOU GAY AF
Also “you’re not a femboy, right”?
Do you have any fetishes, like having your toes sucked.
You're a girl, you can't help asking me a shit load of questions.
"Do you like anal?" Probably bad for a first date 😜
Yeah probably especially if one doing it haha 😂
They can ask what they want, i have nothing to hide...
Are you HIV positive? You are legally rquired to say that you have hiv if you are positive.
I don't think there's anything that should be avoided
Don’t tell me about your ex and don’t ask me how big my dick is.
If i just wasn't fully human would you mind and how do you like my rope
Do you want kids? How much do you weigh? Do you like sex?
How much do you make?
Don’t answer any sexual questions
Do you have both kidneys?
Lmao
How many past sexual partners have you had?
Weight? Dick size?
Why is weight a nono? Can't you guess looking at them?
@Old_Golden I guess you can, a lot of girls get offended by the weight question lol so just speaking from their point of view.
Left out part, "so if you're attracted to them what does a number matter?"
@Old_Golden Because clothing can cover a lot. Spanx. Plus, makeup can also be deceiving.
Ahhhh totally understandable. In that case, guy asking girl, that's a guaranteed dumbass move
@Old_Golden Yeah, the weight part would be the "forbidden" question on the guy's part I guess.
@modelUN242 attraction is attraction, it's like saying "I'm attracted to you but we can't be together bc your car has 100k miles plus on it. What does that have to do with the price of vodka in Russia?
I get where you're coming from though
It'd be nice if people just weren't so chickenshit tho
@Old_Golden Uhh yeah, I understand your point as well, I think this would be plausible like for an online relationship, if the woman gives catfish-like pictures.
That's a fair assumption, everyone lies about themselves online though?
I'd say my weight for sure. Dick size... I mean if she prefers over a certain size, I'd rather save time and move on. I'm pretty weird and open like that though haha.
How many people have you slept with
Age , how you had sex with.
"Is your little brother into guys?"
How many yards of cock have ploughed through you?
@yofuknutz That's how we roll!
Body count. Income, Blood type.
Questions about body counts are best avoided.
How do you feel about herpes?
Are you a whore, like the many other whores i met?
Are you a white trash? Yes I am
"So how many guys have you fucked?
Political views
Everything you can ask
Do you enjoy anal?
What was your birth gender
Sexual questions
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