My boyfriend threaten to smack the shit out of me because he didn’t like what I said?

[NickiMinajAtVEVO]

I don’t know what to do this is the first time he has made the threat.

[btbc92]

Tell your parents, get this all recorded and leave that guy. Anybody who makes such a threat WILL EVENTUALLY DO IT. He is abusive and this is his true character. Don't play with your life, he will do it again. If you don't send the message that you will not be threatened or abused, they will keep on doing it because you let it happen. You scared to leave him. Why? Figure out why and change the pattern. Because either way, you need to leave one way or the other. Either the easy way: walking out of that toxic relationship. Or the hard way: six feet under while he is still alive.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

I don't know what you said... But that's not an excuse or justification for someone to threaten to slap the shit out of you... It was just a threat this time, but it could be the physical act next time... You need to let him know not only will you not tolerate physical Violence, you won't tolerate threats or being made to live in fear...
And if that causes any more friction, then you need to leave before it becomes a physically abusive situation

[NickiMinajAtVEVO]

He told me he has never hit a female before

[Jessica405]

There is always a first time!

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

@Jessica405 I agree

[Still-alive]

" don't know what you said... But that's not an excuse or justification for someone to threaten to slap the shit out of you."

Yes!

[spartan55]

"He told me he has never hit a female before"... like he would fucking admit that to you... are you that dumb?

[Still-alive]

@spartan55 don't blame the victim. that never works bro

[spartan55]

@Still-alive
I'm not blaming her for anything here... wtf are you talking about? I'm pointing out something she can't/ won't acknowledge. Abuse is NEVER acceptable, and is never the victims fault. I see plenty of better examples of victim blaming in this thread, so bug off.

[Still-alive]

@spartan55 "are you that dumb? "

thats blaming the victim dude. also straight up being an asshole won't change minds either.

[spartan55]

@Still-alive
Yeah that's great, bye idiot.

[Still-alive]

@spartan55 ok continue to think that badgering a possible abuse victim is ok... because its not byeee

[spartan55]

I'm not badgering anyone geez fuck outta here.

[genericname85]

well i know damn well what i'd do. Take my stuff and get out of their life ASAP! i don't live your life so it's up to you. but i don't want to fear that my partner hits me and if they threatten to hit me, i'll leave. simple as that. this to me is an ABSOLUTE no go. no exceptions.

[kkirk4442]

Time to find a different guy, immediately. Don't wait for him to actually smack the s--- out of you. His saying this to you, indicated that he gets angry beyond what is reasonable, and has a high likelihood of physically and emotionally abusing you.

[AmandaYVR]

You know it's a phrase, right? I've said it many times, yet never even remotely meant it.
You sure it's not an idle threat, for effect?

[Screenwriter]

IT's time to get the hell away from this asshole. Anyone who threatens to hit you eventually will work his way up to actually hitting you.
The fact that he threatened you at all is telling. Get out.

[NickiMinajAtVEVO]

He promised me he would never hit me

[Screenwriter]

Nicki, my dear, abusers say this all the time. The point is he THREATENED you. That is just as bad.
Get away from this guy. You are incredibly young and you have hundreds of people to choose from.
He's not worth it. PM me if you need to talk about it.

[Chloeangel18]

Wow he sounds really toxic, just because you said something he didn't like thats a bit extreme.
He's definitely showing his true colours. Toxic relationship alert!

[NickiMinajAtVEVO]

Damn he has never done this before but I guess that’s a sign of a toxic relationship

[420Rachel]

There's no reason excuse for such behavior. I've been in an abusive relationship and this is how it starts. With verbal threats and the. It escalates. Get out before it gets to that point. Again, there is no excuse and he needs to know that, even if there wasn't any intention behind the threat.

[The_Maphio]

Too little information.
I don't know what you two have been bickering about nor if that's bad enough to warrant a good ol' slapping. Either way, if you pissed him off that badly, you can blame him all you want, but also determine if you've been a bitch as well. Fault's hardly ever on one side only.

[Still-alive]

don't listen to this guy. if he threatens you with violence LEAVE

[The_Maphio]

@Still-alive Don't cut me off and encourage her to act as an irresponsible. He did not slap her, so she said. Threats are not a physical attack just yet. And if it does have a chance to become such, how much of that would be your fault? Think in depth before taking ANY decision, ever.
If you have no fault at all, of course he's not being logical and you need to avoid getting hurt, thus leave. DO NOT, EVER, be a superficial dumb person.

[Still-alive]

You sound like an abuser yourself. if a man threatens a woman with violence they need to leave that situation.. do not encourage an abusive relationship

[The_Maphio]

@Still-alive Keep your veiled insults to a minimum dude. Not warranted.
Do you know why he was going to slap her? Do you have ANY idea? You might be suggesting a couple to break up for something that is not even the dude fault, only because on a second rate board such as this you read a girl typing that he said he'd slap her.
I don't know if you honestly think that every threat comes to realization, which is silly, or you're just white knighting for the girl. A feud or a fight are to be seen through. This might never happen again if they come to a mutual agreement or if both parties admit their share of faults.
If running is your go-to solution for issues in life, you're not going far into it, just saying.

[Still-alive]

The ONLY justification for this statement is if it was said in JEST... joking (just looking at her replies so far doesn't sound like joking). otherwise this threat needs to be taken extremely seriously and she needs to leave immediately.

". A feud or a fight are to be seen through." not when he threatens violence. look up what abusive relationships are and why if he starts actually hitting her its extremely difficult for victims to leave. Read it very carefully then come back and try to tell me she should stay.

so as i was saying we need to ignore your answer pretty much

[The_Maphio]

@Still-alive Threats are fucking WORDS! He might have said them in a spurt of rage and you'd end a relationship because of words spoken in rage? If he was the type of person you are describing, he'd have not threatened, but slapped! You're suggesting people to break up with nothing having happened. She is saying in this very board that she'll remain with him. It's not silly. He didn't do anything but TALK. All of these dudes telling her "leave fast!" is making me sick to the stomach. What a bunch of spineless pussies. If he actually hit her I would agree but he didn't.
You're lowkey attempting to ruin a relationship since you have nothing to lose in the equation.

[Still-alive]

"He might have said them in a spurt of rage and you'd end a relationship because of words spoken in rage?"

YES I would

"He didn't do anything but TALK."

WORDS are NOT spoken in a vacuum. they have consequences and indicate a persons positions, convictions, beliefs and predict a persons future actions. This IS the type of thing an abuser or would be abuser WOULD say. so she should take this threat seriously (yes i did see that she's not gonna leave which is unfortunate)

"You're lowkey attempting to ruin a relationship since you have nothing to lose in the equation. "

No im trying to warn her that things are very likely going to get worse if she doesn't take this threat seriously and leave now. Because once it starts happening its going to be extremely difficult to leave. again read up on how victims tend to stay in abusive relationships.

i bet you're the type of person who would blame the victim in an abusive relationship...

[The_Maphio]

@Still-alive The way today's people, especially in America, and specifically men, have become good for nothing pussies who constantly run from problems, independently of how dire they might be, is one of the reasons why the US are going to shit. Congrats on being part of the problem.
Never negotiate, never try to escalate. Just run. What a failure.

[The_Maphio]

I meant, De-escalate. But the rest remains. If you're not going to be reasoning on the issue at hand, don't even reply anymore.

[PinkGiraffee]

Girl you gotta have the courage in you to know your worth. Doesn’t matter if your boyfriend is the most handsome, big-dicked, muscular, sweetest guy. If he threatens to lay a hand on you, his filter is broken. He will lay a hand on you. What’s the big deal? You. You are a bigger deal that what this dude has to offer you: smacking the shit out of you.

[NickiMinajAtVEVO]

I’m gonna let it slide because it was a one time thing but if it happens again then I’m gonna be worried

[PinkGiraffee]

Alright you do you boo

[TadCurious]

You should take that threat very very seriously. His threat is a crime. Please don't downplay it and get away from him for good.

[NickiMinajAtVEVO]

I’m sorry I’m gonna stay with him

[TadCurious]

Sadly that's a very common pattern.

[Jessica405]

My thoughts, too!

[Pete671]

If you stay with him, you WILL get beaten, it might start with a slap, and the more he gets away with it, the worse it will get. I can only suggest get really good health insurance because you are going to need it,,,

[Anonymous]

Get his ass kidnapped and BEAT him.
He is definitely an abuser. What I mean to say is BREAKUP!!!
When I first broke up with my 1st ex , I used kinda foul language at him for lying to me and getting bored of me.
That bastard next day called me dirty names and then we both abused each other on texts.
Then after months and 1 year he constantly begged me to get back. But I NEVER WENT BACK.
I still wish for him to die.

[ChrisMaster69]

Leave him, get away from him, get in touch with someone you know and trust.

[NickiMinajAtVEVO]

Why is this a big deal? Wow is it that big of a deal

[ChrisMaster69]

Yes it’s a serious threat.

[Cdnowl]

You should leave him. There is absolutely no reason he should ever threaten you with violence. That is horrible.

[chrissykerdock]

you have to tell us what you said... i've never been with a violent man and i know what to look for... but tell us what you said... main thing he didn't hit you this time... maybe he's looking for a new girlfriend?

[TheorionMage]

He needs reminded EVERYBODY has to sleep sometime...

and it only takes 5 lbs pressure to CRUSH HIS LAYRNX
whereupon he'll DROWN in his OWN blood.

[spartan55]

So what are you going to do? Wait around for him to make good on his threat. If you stay with him, he will eventually kill you. Think I'm exaggerating? Take a look at the national news.

[Pogi-Paddy-2]

Run away from him as fast as you possibly can. A good man will NEVER raise his hand or threaten to hit his girl. Someone who is already saying words like this are prone to be violent and abusive.☯️

[H8INCHES]

Dump his ass fast!!! Any guy who threatens to hit you will eventually work his way up to actually hitting you if you stay.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Dump him, you either said something really horrible to him that made him rightfully furious, or he is a violent asshat. either way you two shouldn't be together.

[Anonymous]

Tell him right off that you will NOT stand for being threatened with violence. This certainly isn't the proper way to deal with conflict. He's got a ways to go in his personal growth before he can be in a relationship if he has this attitude.

[Anonymous]

Women do love the bad boys. Used to date a woman I had to pretend to be a complete bastard too. It was exhausting but great sex.

[slatyb]

Dump him immediately. He’s abusive but he’s been hiding it. This thought wouldn’t even occur to most men.

[Browneye57]

NEXT him. Before he actually kills or maims you. SERIOUSLY. This isn't a joke.
And don't give us the 'oh but I just love him' bullshit either. GET OUT NOW.

[jasco]

MM what did you say? Because sometimes some people really do need a punch to the face depending on what they said and the tone. However he shouldn't have threaten you regardless

[The_Maphio]

You get it.

[Kas19]

Do you like being slapped by your boyfriend? If not, I would leave.

[sheikalana]

The right thing to do is to dump him. That's not something you say to a loved one what a f*cking coward.

[broken_heart_at_48]

If he's threatening violence then he'll inflict violence so don't stick around. It's not love it's not cool it's not passion it's just abuse

[Unit1]

Nicki Minaj?
yeah, dump him. Ask some white knights and simps to protect you from your abusive boyfriend. That's no way lovers talk to each other.

[modelUN242]

The fact that you didn't even write what you said to him makes me suspicious.

[verygurlxcv55]

You shouldn’t stay with someone who going to verbally abuse you.

[NickiMinajAtVEVO]

He only said it once

[Bellatris]

Once is enough.

[Wiredone]

You should leave him. Any guy who threatens to smack a woman around has a bad temper. Tell him you're leaving because you won't tolerate it. Don't wait until he actually hits you, get out now.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

He was in the wrong for saying what he did and tell him he owes you an apology

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

@NickiMinajAtVEVO Threats like that are not good , If you ever need talk I will listen

[bowenw]

If he continues to say it, or actually hits you, it'll be time to send him packing.

[Drumlin2001]

You should leave. Are you going to wait till he actually smacks you around?

[Waldoe]

how long have you been together? this is HUGE Red Flag or were you really being a Bitch?

[NickiMinajAtVEVO]

6 months

[Waldoe]

so, it's time to talk about it and possibly... move on

[crmoore]

You likely need to break up with him. There are few scenarios in where that sort of behavior should be tolerated.

[Anonymous]

Get out ASAP. Better to leave while you can than to be sorry you stayed.

[TheFlak38]

Just another dumb girl with dumb instincts that picks the best men possible.

[StunningANDbrave]

You probably shouldn't say whatever you said again.

[Turtleneck22]

I would speak to your parents or even the police. Don’t take chances. There is no reason any person should be threatened

[rebeliouse]

@NickiMinajAtVEVO
time to dump him and find a better boyfriend

this is sure sign that its defo exit time no questions asked

[jerdanro]

Run. Find a real man. Real men don't hit women or bully people weaker than them.

[Jmmmfi4]

You're gonna stay with him coz he only said it once lol

Let me know how much you regret that when you're getting your jaw wired shut

[Anonymous]

YOU chose him because he was "hot" not caring about his personality... now lie in the bed you chose

[Smashingdoozy]

Time to get the fuck out of there

[Little_Bumblebee]

Big red flag. Shit. I would leave.

[Toast792]

Shoot him in the kneecaps

[LiamSawyer]

Sounds like a physchopath, dump his ass.

[Coulis]

You mean your ex-boyfriend, surely.

[FilmGuy93]

What led up to that comment?

[seanras]

What happened exactly and what did he say?

[Anonymous]

He's an abusive prick!

[NickiMinajAtVEVO]

But he didn’t actually put his hands on me

[Bellatris]

He doesn't have to. Just threatening to do it is coercion, and that is itself abuse.

[JosyJosy]

I'd get out of that relationship if he was serious

[Anonymous]

Believe him and find a guy who can use his words.

[NickiMinajAtVEVO]

Why is i it that big of a deal wow

[Opinion Owner]

Because one would think you don’t want to be bruised, bloody, with an eye swollen shut, concussed, missing teeth, and suffering from internal injuries when he makes good on his threat? (It’s just a theory, though. Maybe you want that.)

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Red flag. Time to go.

[NickiMinajAtVEVO]

Damn what could this be a sign of

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

It shows his intent towards you. He doesn't respect you and is willing to physically assault you.

[Anonymous]

This why women need to control their mouths.

[Minahh]

It's a red flag, he might be abusive.

[joeldalton]

Stay with him at your peril.

[Iron_Man]

Let it go it’s just talk

[Jessica405]

Dump him! Right now!

[NickiMinajAtVEVO]

Why do you say this

[Jessica405]

If he can threated once, he can do it more times. Maybe actually carry it out. He is a potential control freak. Leave now because it will not be so easy, as he gains control.

[GreenArrow27]

It will only get worse if you don’t leave now

[Anonymous]

Maybe try listening to what he sayin

[Makeushiver]

Walk.