What is he trying to say?

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Guy I’ve been going out with for a month texted me. His texts said “i haven’t seen you in a week. I want to see you because i feel like you think i don’t want to be with you. I love being with you nobody treats me like you”

JEndigoBleue · Accepted Answer

So I would ask him..."Why did you ignore my call? Since you miss me and I treat you better than anyone and you enjoy my company."... He gives his spill... Listen carefully. Listen what he says and how he say it. Don't reward him with seeing you. Remember actions speak louder than words. If he was all of things, he would have not ignore your call. You want to be treated like you treat him.

Then you tell him how you feel since he wants to be open... You tell him you don't take kindly to disappearing acts. Because "yes" it come across there's no interest. Better yet... to be honest, there is no interest. I'm one if the vibe is changing and a person wants to act froggy, I leap. I don't have time for the crazy back and forth. No matter of we're serious or not. My time and peace is precious.

You can test the waters and be blunt with him how you feel since he want to share his thoughts and give another chance but don't sleep with him. That's rewarding bad behavior. I don't care if you all are being casual. People treat you how you you want to be treated. So if you give to his bad behavior, he'll know he can get away with it. But, if you feel it's going to be a waste of time after talking to him. Leave the situation. You will be disappointed moving forward. The red flag 🚩is showing itself. Move with caution ⚠️

jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

It seems like he is trying to lower your self esteem so you will be easier to date

ohshee · Accepted Answer

I always say when some one is lying to you they tell you the truth in the same breath of air,, he's saying he likes you , but he never tried to see you or get a hold of you for a week and yes trying to find out if your mad at him but saying I know you don't think I wanted to be with ,, all week , but I couldn't and hi love being with you because you treat me so good

So sorry wasn't around for a week
I didn't want to be with you all week
So your probably going to think that.
But this week is yours just treat me good
I don't even want to talk about, what I could have called you didn't , because I only like you when I want to

No I don't know I can tell you he is a dead end road sorry
I don't mean to be rude

Xitomyth · Accepted Answer

Well, he obviously wants to be with you. He probably thinks that you don't want to be with him for some reason, if I recall there was a misunderstanding in a previous text? He also might just be paranoid about loosing you due to some past experience. He clearly likes how you are with him, apparently you treat him good relative to how normally is treated. I suggest either asking why he thinks that or at least going and checking on him soon in case something is going on with him. Some people, both men and women, can get possessive or clingy, so it could be that. At the least he want's you around.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

What part do you not understand? It sounds very sincere and straightforward.

Bright_blue_eyes · Answer

Forgive me for generalizing here, but most guys don't mix messages when expressing their feelings. Of course, all guys are different in their emotional intelligence, but for the most part we typically don't have complex messages when expressing our emotions. Here is what I think he said, 1. I want to see you. 2. I love being with you. 3. I appreciate the way you treat me. 4. I want to give you reassurance that I want to be with you. This guy must be busy because he is saying, he is concerned about how your perceive his intentions. It sounds like you too just need to have a nice, honest, deliberate conversation about spending time together. That's easy.

Anon621 · Answer

I think this message is a bit confusing but I think he was trying to say he feels like you don't want to see him because you have not seen him in a long time and he wants to see you because he enjoys your company. I personally think this can be a potential red flag because he could potentially become jealous even if you genuinely get busy some weeks for whatever reason (s) if he is implying you do not want to see him so I think it would be a good idea to communicate with him that you do want to see him but sometimes that might not happen due to conflicting schedules and other things like life changing events or emergencies.

Anonymous · Answer

It means what he said. He likes you. He ignored your texts and didn’t want you to look at it wrong.

Guys ignore girls texts to let them miss him, so she doesn’t get desensitized to him before your feelings get stronger. Being too consistent in the beginning makes girls lose interest, unless she really wanted you in the beginning.

Reading through your comments, the fact that you had sex with already and he’s still saying this, he’s probably really into you.

Don’t overthink this. He could’ve also had something going on.

Whats your opinion about my poll?

Which situation would you rather be in?

Floppy2112 · Answer

There is no hidden meaning here. Guy's don't typically do that. We either are just direct or are simply not clever enough to be super indirect. Dude wants to see you, so just go see him. You are super insecure and you need to work on that before it destroys what seems to be a good potential relationship. Why are you so insecure?
I am being serious here, you are going to ruin a good thing if you don't stop. I am not trying to put you down, I am worried that you are going to ruin a good thing. Having to be constantly reassured is going to eventually drive him away when he sees that every effort he is making to assure you isn't taking, he's going to get frustrated, he's going to get mad, and eventually he is going to have enough. Again, why are you so insecure?

have_a_good_day · Answer

I think he's trying to say that he hasn't seen you in a week and he wants to see you because he feels like you think he doesn't want to be with you. I think he loves being with you because nobody treats him like you do.

I might be wrong but I think maybe that's what he is trying to say

The_Maphio · Answer

That he feels weak and doesn't want to lose you, probable first story of his life.
He feels like he's a victim of the whole world and you're his only bastion of safety.

If you feel like it, while you're at it, collaborate with him to find a valid replacement for his backbone made of marshmellows.

spartan55 · Answer

Why didn't you include the complete context in your question? He may have wanted some space, or had other things going on... I don't get what the issue is?

Thatusernameistaken · Answer

Seems as though some conversation is missing! ... I get he ignored you! And then you received this afterward saying he wants to see you! ... Have you actually verbally spoken ... Like someone else said, texts can be misconstrued! If after a month of dating you think it's leading to a relationship then start taking! ❤️

PaynefulPleasures · Answer

During the week did he contact you? If not why Did you contact him during the week Something sounds a miss here To me very suspicious just my opinion ✌️

007kingifrit · Answer

you kno... win; all of your questions seem to have the same underlying problem. you just don't take men's words literally

i don't understand how you can ask us what this means... its really REALLY straightforward

MsTaniaUncensored · Answer

Tbh he kind of sounds a bit possessive and insecure for some reason. I have seen the type before.

Anonymous · Answer

'I want to see you because i feel like you think i don’t want to be with you.'

Sounds like he wants to see you because he feels obligated, as opposed to simply wanting to spend time with you. Is he emotionally unavailable?

Savage_Wisdom · Answer

Men don't double talk. So you should take his words literally.

REALSTEEL · Answer

wow that's very obvious he has not heard from you in a week and that he never had a woman treat him so good so girl he is totally into you!!

2018life · Answer

I say go for the gold girl you got this! If you want it, say something back ;) good luck :D

cth96190 · Answer

He meant what he said and he said what he meant. He wants you. He wants to be with you.

Browneye57 · Answer

Don't try to read anything into a text. He's saying, "let's get together and see each other, cuz I'm interested in getting to know you better." It means, let's go out on a date.

Waldoe · Answer

If English is not your regular language you can use an online translator to translate it into German, Spanish or whatever you speak... the words are very clear... no one can make them MORE clear in English

WesBrewer · Answer

He might be trying to play “hard to get” for no reason.

kkirk4442 · Answer

He's saying just what it says. he wants to be with you. He likes you.

serious · Answer

Well it is clear he likes you and likes being with you and around you.

Anonymous · Answer

He is trying to get around ignoring you. Actions comes before words. He is not even apologising. Red flag for sure.

seanras · Answer

He's letting you know he likes you and wants to be with you. Did you have trouble understanding that text?

MikeTheBartender · Answer

You have been going out with him for a month and there is already drama? Next!

Iron_Man · Answer

What makes you think it’s not a booty call? guys are real big time players

jerdanro · Answer

Have you had sex with him yet? Either he is sincere and he likes you a lot. Or he's trying to get laid.

LogicalGal123 · Answer

It means he's reaching out to u and wants to be with u.

princeofromance · Answer

You need to be very cautious about this one. This type of behavior in men is a sign of controlling behavior to come.

Dinosaursandanime65 · Answer

Hmmm... I think he wants to spend some time with you

TheBigGuy9 · Answer

Self-explanatory, but their already seems to be some friction in the relationship

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Its really straight forward he means exactly what he said

RCLJT · Answer

He loves how he feels around you and he thinks that you think he’s not in contact with you enough.

townhouse · Answer

Rushed responses really really suck cause things can be misconstrue so fast to many lips sink ships

rodeschaap · Answer

He's afraid that you'll leave him.

DJB72 · Answer

Why not take it at face value?

msc545 · Answer

I think what he said is pretty easy to figure out

Likes2drive · Answer

He thinks you’re losing interest

Ryfyle · Answer

Are you Illiterate? Dudes don't play mind games.

Wise4myage · Answer

He really likes your company, believe it.

JamieLoves · Answer

Did you fail “ Reading Comprehension “ ?

EaterPeter · Answer

He is trying to say what he has wrote.

krin_m · Answer

He may be has a crush on you?

Asianguy123 · Answer

it sounds like he want some food.

Massageman · Answer

He likes you.

dudeinohio · Answer

He misses you.

MasterOfReality · Answer

Face value.

ToastyOats · Answer

Smash.

ItsMeItsMe1989 · Answer

Nothing

Marioz86 · Answer

He has another.

Calgarydirty69 · Answer

he's horny

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