Why Do "Some" Women Get Competitive/Fight Over Guys? That Aren't Even Worth It?

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Floppy2112 · Accepted Answer

That's a good question. It seems every woman has a man that they want really bad, that don't want them back. And they will sacrifice everything, including their current marriage to try and be with the guy who continually doesn't want them.
And make no mistake, these are the worst type of women, the most despicable. They have no morals, not ethics, not scruples at all. They don't care if they ruin their own family and the family of the guy they are pursuing.
Of all the ways a woman can be a fucked up bitch, I think this type of woman is the worst of them, because they don't care who gets hurt in their pursuit of the tingle that will certainly go away if they ever actually accomplished their goal.
There's a woman on this site asking me for advice on how she can cheat on her husband with another married man. I engaged to tell her how wrong she was for even considering it. Did she care? Not one damn bit. She doesn't care about her husband or the other guy's wife. She thinks that as long as she can have a sexual relationship with this poor bastard, that her life will be complete. Eventually it just made me sick to my stomach. I hope her husband finds out and I hope the other guy's wife finds out and she gets everything she so richly deserves. She's miserable and she deserves to be. /End rant.

razelove · Accepted Answer

Well that one is simple. A man might be desirable, but is largely an unknown. If he has a woman or women, he's highly desirable, and you know he has enough going on to keep her/them around. Also men and women desire things they feel are less obtainable.

It's a snowball effect. When I start flirting I have more success saying I'm married with a family they get interested in me very fast. If I further say that my relationship is poly, and they could be a part of that too, that interest wanes. If I say my marriage isn't going as great as I wish it could be, it perks up. If I say I'm single, I might or might not get attention.

If I'm with two women at the same time, it's easy to keep that momentum as more women become curious and I no longer have to even approach them, they approach me when they see me out and about with two happy women, being romantic and having fun.

My wife and I have run a few experiments on this, on dating sites and practical while out and about. Granted that was a couple years ago. Human nature hasn't changed since then I wouldn't think though.

Men have an opposite reaction.

HOAAH · Accepted Answer

I did read an article about women wanting a married man because he has been screened by other women and deemed as good for husband material. This could be possible for just taken men. But i do agree with an anonymous person on that it could be that guy was playing them both and they got invested in him and was tricked by him to believe the other women was at fault. Who knows.

For the record, i have never tried to steal someone's man. I always ask to make sure he is single before dating him.

Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

It's basically a pride/ego thing... you know to prove that she got the man, or she's more attractive. Stupid I know...

Personally, I have never fought over a guy. Because if I have to fight over a guy, he's not worth it to me. That and my low self esteem will naturally assume he picks the other woman over me by default.

Jean-Marie_Céline · Answer

Honestly, I wouldn't know! Maybe it's the thrill of the competition?

coachTanthony · Answer

I would assume he would make great babies so they want his seed to reproduce. Or they are just caddy women lol

Account · Answer

They don't understand that those men are not worth it. They have also been taught to view other women as competition instead of allies.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

This high school stuff, where there would be one girl who always got a guy than she didn't like him afterwards then she moves on to the next guy, most likely it would never result in anything sexual and other times I'm sure it did., I remember there was going to be a Pep Assembly in the High School gym well these two girls got into a catfight and there was hair pulled right after the fight was broke up the principal made a statement over this microphone that there would never be anymore Pep Assembly and surely from 10Th Grade through 12 Th Grade the same principal held his word to it and them girls ruined it for everyone I believe both girls got suspended and it taught everyone a lesson but I think the principal was a little overboard with his discipline but these two girls were fighting over one guy just makes no sense?

broken_heart_at_48 · Answer

Hello how's the family? It's good to see you still on here. I knew you were too strong of a lady to let some idiots run you off. Anyways I don't think girls are just fighting over the guy but a lot of it is their misguided pride and being worried about how they're going to look to everyone. Pretty much the same reasons why guys fight over girls. I fought a guy over a girl one time I was about 16 or 17 and he was around 28 and twice my size. He got the better of me but as he drove off I through a brick through his window and he just kept driving. I got my ass whooped and he drove off with the girl. For me it was pride and all it got me was a black eye

kamalravi25 · Answer

Because she is only infatuated by that man's behaviour and she thinks its love.
She thinks that the ultimate goal of love is to get that man she desires.
That is why she keeps trying to win her man for herself.
That is why she competes other women.
She feels insecure and will not let her man even see other women.
Once she realises the actual meaning of love everything will be clear for her.
She will never fight to get her love.
And she will only focus on what makes her man happy not expecting anything in return.
Because ultimate goal of love is to enjoy giving total freedom and happiness to your lover.

Splatzonelover1 · Answer

This what happened in my previous relationship in college. Girls just became friends to tried to ruin the relationship that I did have in college and yep one of my first relationship with a guy that I. did then his female friend threated me to break up with all because she one that sent a message about he was cheating but I didn't believe at. He broke up with me through text. Then I ask one of person and he did cheated . He blame his learning disabilities that made him cheat and did blame me as well. My last ex boyfriend that was a girl I knew that she like same guy that I also in a relationship in college and she only cause drama to me. . she said are you still going out with this guys I said yes and I said can you stop it. now and she got mad at me just asking a friend instead of her from my high school.

Bang5luts · Answer

I believe some women fight over men who aren't with the effort mainly because of the idea of losing to someone they might feel is of lower value (uglier, heavier, skinnier, or maybe younger, older what have you) than they are.

Too much of society (I believe) fixates on a person's outer appearance, social status or other unimportant aspects rather than a person's qualities, whether they are a faithful, kind, generous, compassionate or empathetic person.

The bible said the world will get worse and so will the people in the end days.

ShadezMcgee · Answer

I feel women do that because they tend to be territorial and don't like competition. Speaking as a man who has been caught between women a couple of times, it is very uncomfortable and unpleasant.

At the end of the day, I don't feel it is so much about the guy as much as it is about beating the other woman threatening them. The guy just is a means to the goal they are trying to achieve by having him choose her over the other woman. Losing would bruise their ego more than losing the guy in my eyes.

Lliam · Answer

Sounds like they aren't so much interested in the man, than succeeding over one another. They're in competition with each other. They feel that if they can win the prize, they are a winner. And if they don't get chosen, they are a loser. So it feels like a life or death struggle even if the prize, itself, is complete crap.

Biancam13 · Answer

I don’t know. I find that behaviour embarrassing and makes the women in question look kinda desperate. If a guy likes you ENOUGH, he will choose you and you won’t need to fight anyone else to get him. I guess some women just have no shame or self respect.

The_Maphio · Answer

The fact that a man might be worth it or not is subjective. You find no value in taht man, the two that fight over him evidently can.
Is he a bland, insignificant man? That speaks volumes about the two fighting over him.

Dontaaa · Answer

I think its has to do with pride and just wanting something while not letting the other person to have it.

Not wanting to lose to someone else because it could make you feel inadequate (depending on how much you care).

I just always think that if you have to fight for someones love, then it's just not worth it.

That's not how love should work in my opinion.

Anonymous · Answer

It's not the guy. It's never about the guy. It's about winning. From old times till now (can say that), women have been calued by her beauty and the number of suitors she had. Winning a fight against another woman implies that she was chosen as the better woman

PaynefulPleasures · Answer

Sounds like a bad episode of sister wives (all bad lol 😆)

zed-789 · Answer

I think pride mixed with low self esteem and control. So far all the women I know that ever fought over a guy. The guy had some sort of value they felt they needed that they couldn’t get on their own, like being wealthy or very good looking. I think it all boils down to self esteem. Even within my own friend group I’m hurt to know that many of my friend’s self esteem being low first started started from not getting that love and validation from their parents. I mean y else fight for anything unless u felt u needed it and thought it was one of a kind?

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

Women will fight each other to make me muffins but i chose miss brains muffins because she bakes the most delicious muffins BUT it ain't enough, what about the broasted chicken? 😒

I know that miss brains have the secret recipe for making the chicken crispy but she's teasing me so she gets a bite 😬

YUM YUM, I'm feeling hungry 😋

exitseven · Answer

It is like my kids. A toy would be lying on the floor and as soon as one of them picked it up and started playing with it, the other one would try and take it away from him and it would escalate from there.

TurboKid · Answer

Because we are like a drug. It's not worth it but extremely addictive. I'm like crack cocaine to a small minority of drunk women.

ZackBan · Answer

I've never been in that situation or if I have I've never noticed it.

I think it's psychological thing that you want something more as soon as you see someone else's hands around it.

Because it's one thing if a guy choses you and another if he choses you over someone else there's a major self esteem boost in that

Jazquee · Answer

I don't get that at all... i wouldn't fight OVER anyone... if you have to fight over someone. Well they were not ever yours in the first place.
I will always fight FOR the one I love... but never over.

Newhead · Answer

I wonder the same thing, what's meant for you, you will never have to fight over it and a man who wants women to fight over him is a no good deal. It's embarrassing and disrespectful.

Sunnybabe23 · Answer

They've lost hope on meeting the right guy, due to low self-esteem, so they settle for this guy, only to find out that he's been stolen, which hurts their self esteem even more!

nekminnit21 · Answer

'A fool in love' I guess... She can have him, To much drama lama. Next!  Haha sorry been there before and you are right, so wasn't worth it, love can be blind.

Deimy · Answer

They are very insecure. They think that they won' t find another guy.

Avicenna · Answer

I don’t see that very often, but it’s usually when there’s a shortage of men. I once saw a 70 year old woman pummel an 80 year old over a man.

Shihab91 · Answer

To prove that she is more wanted than the other woman, doesn't matter bad guy good guy just want to feel wanted

Jjpayne · Answer

Maybe the challenge or the false sense of a real catch 🤔

Nimphfromtx · Answer

Lack of self-esteem. If the guy is not into you it’s not meant to be. plenty of fish in the sea

Grond21 · Answer

Because they both are in their thirties, are scared, and they slept with him

TheBigGuy9 · Answer

Jealousy, Rage, revenge. The only thing bad guys are usually good at is sex. Many women seem ok putting up with the abuse physical & emotional for the sex.  It’s quite sad

douride2 · Answer

You read about the women that used Gorilla glue in her hair this past year didn't you? There is your answer.

Kas19 · Answer

No idea. Part of the reason I couldn't get along with my peers in junior high lmao.

msc545 · Answer

I don't really know. I guess guys have competitive Sports and women have competitive Sports too. They're just different.

Anonymous · Answer

Perry. Insecure. A need to be better than the other woman because their validation doesn’t come from within.

princeofromance · Answer

It is definitely not worth it. Nobody wins in these kind of situations. Sometimes, there is even bodily harm or death involved with what they call a love triangle.

BoobMan · Answer

Isn't that pretty much the plot of half of the episodes of Jerry Springer?

Mangospacho · Answer

I think it’s more like they are fighting the other person who is trying to take away something that’s theirs. It doesn’t matter what they’re fighting over. Neither of them may like the guy all that much but it’s just the fact that someone is trying to take something away from them.

BareTruth · Answer

Women want what they can’t have. Look at the bachelor for example. The guy could have any girl in that room but only one girl will be with the guy at the end

RingOfFire · Answer

MROWWWWWWW! I love it when womens' claws come out!

Dchrls78104 · Answer

I hardly ever hear of women fighting over guys that actually are worth it. Birds of a feather...

Anonymous · Answer

I watch Jerry Springer and wonder the same thing. 😂

Wowie101 · Answer

Why do children fight over a toy and then when they get it just throw it aside... same thing possion power control... im better then you... crap

yogrego · Answer

what if both women love the man equally and he loves both women equally then what... should they both concede and neither of them get the man. competition occurs in nature across all species of life, humans are no different. it's natural selection... survival of the fittest ensuring the legacy of the bloodline for another generation.
To think or believe otherwise is to be in denial and is foolish.

obtuseocelot · Answer

Winning and validation.  Same reason men do it on the reverse.

JamieLoves · Answer

I know why, but I’m not. touching thus question. You know what I’m thinking anyway!😆

Thepowderpuff · Answer

It’s all about self esteem tbh  Girls would bully me and be mean to me over a guy I didn’t even like.

FatherJack · Answer

Never witnessed that , but a lot of women do go for already taken men , Pre Selection by another woman , combined with the " I want what I can't have " syndrome

ManHater · Answer

Throw a Dildo between the two women and say fight to the death. Oh man...

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Territory. The same way dogs stake a claim by pissing on a fire hydrant.

OddBeMe · Answer

I thought we settled this. She means nothing to me!

TheAfrikan · Answer

Because he might be got some good loving and nice sex game.

fonduegirl · Answer

Because we're humans - the social desirability effect fuck's with us. If you see someone as trophy, chances are they become hotter to you.

midnightmoon05 · Answer

I am one of them 😊 I did and I got him because he is worth it.   Now he is mine 😂

Lilbrown · Answer

Men have a falsely they are the hunters. The truth is you are prey. Women become competitive because another lioness is taking something she has pursued and captured..

Tstrbrainer · Answer

I think I've experienced it on a quiet lower scale during my mid teens I wasn't interested and it more felt like they were making fun of my naiveness. So it quickly ended, plus they had better guys to give them attention

krin_m · Answer

Could'nt tell you! I have never been in that situation! :-)

BlckGrl · Answer

Natural instinct. The women before us had to compete for financially stable men to pretty much survive

genericname85 · Answer

because traits that are valuable can sometimes be extremely similar to traits that are shitty. for example: competence can seem like arrogance and vice versa. for the inexperienced layman not easy to distinguish in some cases.

DeltaCharlieEcho · Answer

Because women follow the example set by their peers. They do not make decisions on their own nor are they capable of individual identification of value. Because of this fact men are subject to preselection bias which is why men with women are attractive to women and why single men that other women find unattractive are considered dangerous.

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