Why Do "Some" Women Get Competitive/Fight Over Guys? That Aren't Even Worth It?
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Well that one is simple. A man might be desirable, but is largely an unknown. If he has a woman or women, he's highly desirable, and you know he has enough going on to keep her/them around. Also men and women desire things they feel are less obtainable.
It's a snowball effect. When I start flirting I have more success saying I'm married with a family they get interested in me very fast. If I further say that my relationship is poly, and they could be a part of that too, that interest wanes. If I say my marriage isn't going as great as I wish it could be, it perks up. If I say I'm single, I might or might not get attention.
If I'm with two women at the same time, it's easy to keep that momentum as more women become curious and I no longer have to even approach them, they approach me when they see me out and about with two happy women, being romantic and having fun.
My wife and I have run a few experiments on this, on dating sites and practical while out and about. Granted that was a couple years ago. Human nature hasn't changed since then I wouldn't think though.
Men have an opposite reaction.
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That's a good question. It seems every woman has a man that they want really bad, that don't want them back. And they will sacrifice everything, including their current marriage to try and be with the guy who continually doesn't want them.
And make no mistake, these are the worst type of women, the most despicable. They have no morals, not ethics, not scruples at all. They don't care if they ruin their own family and the family of the guy they are pursuing.
Of all the ways a woman can be a fucked up bitch, I think this type of woman is the worst of them, because they don't care who gets hurt in their pursuit of the tingle that will certainly go away if they ever actually accomplished their goal.
There's a woman on this site asking me for advice on how she can cheat on her husband with another married man. I engaged to tell her how wrong she was for even considering it. Did she care? Not one damn bit. She doesn't care about her husband or the other guy's wife. She thinks that as long as she can have a sexual relationship with this poor bastard, that her life will be complete. Eventually it just made me sick to my stomach. I hope her husband finds out and I hope the other guy's wife finds out and she gets everything she so richly deserves. She's miserable and she deserves to be. /End rant.
I did read an article about women wanting a married man because he has been screened by other women and deemed as good for husband material. This could be possible for just taken men. But i do agree with an anonymous person on that it could be that guy was playing them both and they got invested in him and was tricked by him to believe the other women was at fault. Who knows.
For the record, i have never tried to steal someone's man. I always ask to make sure he is single before dating him.
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It's basically a pride/ego thing... you know to prove that she got the man, or she's more attractive. Stupid I know...
Personally, I have never fought over a guy. Because if I have to fight over a guy, he's not worth it to me. That and my low self esteem will naturally assume he picks the other woman over me by default.
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Honestly, I wouldn't know!
Maybe it's the thrill of the competition? - 2.2K opinions shared on Dating topic.
I would assume he would make great babies so they want his seed to reproduce. Or they are just caddy women lol
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They don't understand that those men are not worth it. They have also been taught to view other women as competition instead of allies.
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This high school stuff, where there would be one girl who always got a guy than she didn't like him afterwards then she moves on to the next guy, most likely it would never result in anything sexual and other times I'm sure it did., I remember there was going to be a Pep Assembly in the High School gym well these two girls got into a catfight and there was hair pulled right after the fight was broke up the principal made a statement over this microphone that there would never be anymore Pep Assembly and surely from 10Th Grade through 12 Th Grade the same principal held his word to it and them girls ruined it for everyone I believe both girls got suspended and it taught everyone a lesson but I think the principal was a little overboard with his discipline but these two girls were fighting over one guy just makes no sense?
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Hello how's the family? It's good to see you still on here. I knew you were too strong of a lady to let some idiots run you off. Anyways I don't think girls are just fighting over the guy but a lot of it is their misguided pride and being worried about how they're going to look to everyone. Pretty much the same reasons why guys fight over girls. I fought a guy over a girl one time I was about 16 or 17 and he was around 28 and twice my size. He got the better of me but as he drove off I through a brick through his window and he just kept driving. I got my ass whooped and he drove off with the girl. For me it was pride and all it got me was a black eye
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Because she is only infatuated by that man's behaviour and she thinks its love.
She thinks that the ultimate goal of love is to get that man she desires.
That is why she keeps trying to win her man for herself.
That is why she competes other women.
She feels insecure and will not let her man even see other women.
Once she realises the actual meaning of love everything will be clear for her.
She will never fight to get her love.
And she will only focus on what makes her man happy not expecting anything in return.
Because ultimate goal of love is to enjoy giving total freedom and happiness to your lover. -
This what happened in my previous relationship in college. Girls just became friends to tried to ruin the relationship that I did have in college and yep one of my first relationship with a guy that I. did then his female friend threated me to break up with all because she one that sent a message about he was cheating but I didn't believe at. He broke up with me through text. Then I ask one of person and he did cheated . He blame his learning disabilities that made him cheat and did blame me as well. My last ex boyfriend that was a girl I knew that she like same guy that I also in a relationship in college and she only cause drama to me. . she said are you still going out with this guys I said yes and I said can you stop it. now and she got mad at me just asking a friend instead of her from my high school.
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I believe some women fight over men who aren't with the effort mainly because of the idea of losing to someone they might feel is of lower value (uglier, heavier, skinnier, or maybe younger, older what have you) than they are.
Too much of society (I believe) fixates on a person's outer appearance, social status or other unimportant aspects rather than a person's qualities, whether they are a faithful, kind, generous, compassionate or empathetic person.
The bible said the world will get worse and so will the people in the end days. - 1K opinions shared on Dating topic.
I feel women do that because they tend to be territorial and don't like competition. Speaking as a man who has been caught between women a couple of times, it is very uncomfortable and unpleasant.
At the end of the day, I don't feel it is so much about the guy as much as it is about beating the other woman threatening them. The guy just is a means to the goal they are trying to achieve by having him choose her over the other woman. Losing would bruise their ego more than losing the guy in my eyes. - 2K opinions shared on Dating topic.
Sounds like they aren't so much interested in the man, than succeeding over one another. They're in competition with each other. They feel that if they can win the prize, they are a winner. And if they don't get chosen, they are a loser. So it feels like a life or death struggle even if the prize, itself, is complete crap.
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I don’t know. I find that behaviour embarrassing and makes the women in question look kinda desperate. If a guy likes you ENOUGH, he will choose you and you won’t need to fight anyone else to get him. I guess some women just have no shame or self respect.
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The fact that a man might be worth it or not is subjective. You find no value in taht man, the two that fight over him evidently can.
Is he a bland, insignificant man? That speaks volumes about the two fighting over him. -
I think its has to do with pride and just wanting something while not letting the other person to have it.
Not wanting to lose to someone else because it could make you feel inadequate (depending on how much you care).
I just always think that if you have to fight for someones love, then it's just not worth it.
That's not how love should work in my opinion. -
Sounds like a bad episode of sister wives (all bad lol 😆)
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I think pride mixed with low self esteem and control. So far all the women I know that ever fought over a guy. The guy had some sort of value they felt they needed that they couldn’t get on their own, like being wealthy or very good looking. I think it all boils down to self esteem. Even within my own friend group I’m hurt to know that many of my friend’s self esteem being low first started started from not getting that love and validation from their parents. I mean y else fight for anything unless u felt u needed it and thought it was one of a kind?
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Women will fight each other to make me muffins but i chose miss brains muffins because she bakes the most delicious muffins BUT it ain't enough, what about the broasted chicken? 😒
I know that miss brains have the secret recipe for making the chicken crispy but she's teasing me so she gets a bite 😬
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It's not the guy. It's never about the guy. It's about winning. From old times till now (can say that), women have been calued by her beauty and the number of suitors she had. Winning a fight against another woman implies that she was chosen as the better woman
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It is like my kids. A toy would be lying on the floor and as soon as one of them picked it up and started playing with it, the other one would try and take it away from him and it would escalate from there.
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Because we are like a drug. It's not worth it but extremely addictive. I'm like crack cocaine to a small minority of drunk women.
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I've never been in that situation or if I have I've never noticed it.
I think it's psychological thing that you want something more as soon as you see someone else's hands around it.
Because it's one thing if a guy choses you and another if he choses you over someone else there's a major self esteem boost in that
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