Why Do "SOME" Women Seem To Get So Petty And Jealous Of Other Women?

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BigSis · Accepted Answer

I've been a victim of this a lot. I think it's a behavior rooted in stupidity, and doubled-down with the desire to keep thinking in a wrong and stupid way. If a woman gets off on something like this and it doesn't harm her perceivably (even though it does eventually limit career potential, etc), she's not going to care enough to fix the behavior.

It starts with the premise that someone's life is similar to their own life. So, if the bully is upper-middle-class, the target's life is as hard as an upper-middle-class person's. If the bully has a supportive family, the victim must as well. Etc.

Then, the woman sees what you have going for you. Your career success, your beauty, your friendships, etc. They feel like in order to be "fair," you need to "share" some of this, as a family would share a meal. Essentially, their brain had an error along the line and learned the wrong lesson about sharing.

For example, you don't share your effort or money with this adult child so that everything is "equal". If they don't work, they don't get paid. If their work isn't helpful, they don't get appreciated. That is real life. If they "can't understand why" other people are doing better, it's because they're stupid.

Finally, they expect an equal share of "the pie" (that you made), if and only if they haven't struggled in some way. Because if they got a divorce, it deducts points from you and what you deserve. Or if they had a bad day, they should be given something of yours to compensate. Etc.

Because they'll never understand what someone else might have to go through and don't actually care. It gives them ADD just thinking about other people, how boring.

aWes0MeNeSs · Accepted Answer

I've often wondered this myself.

I think it is because there are a lot of women who tend to have very competitive personalities, and I think this could be in part due to human nature. Humans have always competed to be the most appealing to the opposite sex so that they can attract the best partner, for example. Humans are also greedy by nature, so some do not take it well when someone else has something they don't.

To be honest, a lot of my female friendships have been strained by jealousy, mostly over them thinking I was prettier than them (which is ironic, considering I felt the opposite) or over the fact that they thought I was getting male attention they weren't (news to me, lol).

coachTanthony · Answer

I think that first picture says it all!

Elsa143 · Answer

Are you my twin? I relate to so many of your questions.
But yes it is more common in women. When I was 18-19, some jealous girls purposely tried to socially isolate me, defame and exclude me. They got offended after I gossiped about their behavior and i confronted them. They couldn't tolerate me getting back at them and acted like a fragile ass that will shatter. So they got even more petty and SNEAKY. My ex roommate also LEECHED ON ME FOR SUCCESS but couldn't tolerate when I was doing well. Hypocrisy.

caring__1 · Answer

Because females are often very cruel.

When young, their daddies train them to believe they are princesses. In the 5th grade, all these princesses compete to be the queen. One minute, you're my best friend; the next, you're the biggest piece of garbage that ever existed. Boys may fight with each other, but they never nurture cruelty like girls do. In a fight, boys do their best to hurt the other, whereas girls do their best to embarrass the other. Girls don't like feeling that everyone feels superior to them, but that experience often leads them to feel insecure, which is the source of jealousy.

Jjpayne · Answer

I am going to aim to say lack of self confidence, not having as much as a successful life as them, selfness...

I tend to look at it this way, in life we are all passengers on the same journey together. We should be cheering each other on. Take a dining room table, let's say a wedding with 4 other women you don't know. I think its about acknowledging that we all want good will and people to encourage us in our lives. It's saying can we be happy for others because they were gifted so much or do we choose to be bitter and wonder why they get to have the dolly that I want. It's good to be happy for each other and want the best for people. To me that is one of the highest callings in life. To want what's best for others, including yourself. Now, what's best for yourself may not be money or a new car but it might just be something you are over looking that can be right in front of you...

Sorry went on a tangent there :)

MrsJaximus-Lion · Answer

when i started dating current husband i didn't think of jealousy until things got very serious after we had a fight and we got back and more connection i felt i am all vulnerable when am with him but we went through a lot till we reached this point and i didn't want to lose it so every time we are out meeting friends or just out it just happen to be my man charms new people to him and am serious that really nice looking women approached him and i just stood there and felt jealous with having the thought of me losing him to a better looking women. He assured me that the path we gone through was worth the pain and the tears and he will never think the same of another woman just because she looks better than me and it took my few years to understand it and he never felt jealous and he always said no one will love you and take care of you the way i do and so far for 12 years he shows me that and i do the same for him. no jealousy

Unit1 · Answer

I heard they are having such an invisible "competition" to "attract the best man they can possibly get". AKA Hypergamy (marrying the social class upwards).

It may mean attracting the rich men and when your friend gets the rich man and you don't, that's kinda a loss, isn't it? It could have been yours. The fancy dinner dates. The trips to exotic Havana beaches (or Bali). The Gucci bags, the red bottoms, the Chanel coats and so on and so on. At least that's the feeling I get.
Or alternatively the rich men can always be polygamous, cheat and get away with it.

But yeah, "get help" is a good response :)

RingOfFire · Answer

Genetic competition. Men and women both do it, but in different ways. Women want to be seen as desirable mates to as many men as possible to give themselves more selection of males to choose from to father children with the most desirable male genes they can attract. When another woman threatens to interfere with their ability to attract other men and represents a threat to limit their number of options, they revert to primal instinct and tribal aggression.

I love when that happens and the claws come out! You just cannot beat a good catfight!

MROWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW !

Smoke-n-Growls · Answer

I'd day it's due to their own insecurities.

I know when I worked on my insecurities and overcame them, I basically stopped jealous.

I've often found when I confront other women who've been terrible to me that they struggle with some internal issue. I just happened to be around when they triggered or something about me (often my more grounded demeanour) sets them off.

iceland1 · Answer

In my opinion, not just women. Everybody gets jealous! No matter what the gender, race or sexuality... nobody is perfect and everybody gets jealous time to time.
Jealousy is an emotion, just like happiness or sadness. So, It's just not women who get jealous.

mamamai · Answer

For me I’ve only been jealous when it’s a woman getting the attention from my man. Otherwise i don’t get jealous. Mine stems from the pain it causes me, I suppose others have similar reason. I’ve never hated or treated another woman badly for it though, that would be wrong. But sometimes you can’t help your emotional response to something. Definitely agree that it’s bad though.

lifelearner011 · Answer

I've never understood quite well this. There's enough room for every woman in this world to be admired and appreciated for their strengths and achievements. And when jealousy's there, a collaborative learning and friendly environment are way difficult to create.

Avicenna · Answer

I was hoping you’d be able shed some light on that.
the main things women insult each other about are physical appearance and promiscuity. I once praised the foreign language skills of a professor of ours and a female friend of mine jealously insulted The professor‘s looks.

fonduegirl · Answer

Guys are like that too. I don't know a single guy who hasn't bad mouthed to me about his brother / male friend / male classmate.

Only diff I can think of is they don't do it as often as ladies (gossiping I mean) and if they're jealous, may be they cover it up good.

Plus I'm kinda the "mommy friend" for most so it's weirder if you don't whine to me lol.

ChiTown33 · Answer

I don't know if i can answer this. Because i can understand a woman feeling ignored, minimized, pushed to the side by other women resenting it and as a result being that way. But it's been my experience that most of the women who do this are women that already have everything going for them. It's like it's not that they need attention it appears like they need all the attention.

TCredo · Answer

lol love that first pic... the answer to your question has gone unsolved since the caveman times... thankfully it is, as you noted in your question, only "some" but goodness those who are can be such an annoyance lol :)

Myk13 · Answer

So many people have a big hole right through the middle of them. Somebody will always have something that the don’t have. No matter how much they have or continue to get. It will never fill that void inside. We need to figure out what it is in our lives that is really keeping us from being happy, and fix that first. Then all of that petty bullshit that consumed us before won’t even matter.

worldscolide · Answer

Women being petty and jealous toward other women is obvious. Its competition. Jealousy and pettiness raises its ugly head when they feel threatened. Take all these women that call women sluts for having big breasts.. Or for the way they dress.. Jealousy..

Gedaria · Answer

I don't know about the petty and jealous bit. But that top picture, always puzzles me.
Trying to read her expression.
Love a pair like that
Or why has she got them on display
The naughty one
I would love to play with them lovely babies...

Samoht_Sirrom1 · Answer

Bad self image, insecurities... Maybe they were berated and insulted growing up "Washboard", "fatty", "slut" and due to this they see other women as everything they think they. aren't and resent them for it.

lovelyguy787 · Answer

Well i would say not some but most of the women are really jealous of other women. Whether it's at work, In university or any other part of life.
I have seen mostly it's women who are pulling leg and degrading other women than men do

humanearth · Answer

Guys do the same shit. If they say they don't. They are lying

Just watch men working, at the gymnasium, fishing, sports.

Someone always has to be jealous of someone. Gender has no boundaries when it comes to jealousy

MelisssaW · Answer

Funny pic. Yeah women and girls do seem to get way more jealous than guys. I've had lots of jealously from other girls because i have big boobs!

HowAwkwardToBeAlive · Answer

Insecurity, them jealous bitches need to work on their self esteem and stop trying to want what others have

ariadneR · Answer

Comparison is the thief of joy. I honestly see no reason to be petty. Be confident in your self, your being, who you are and what you bring to the table.

navyrobin · Answer

I don’t know, the same reason why some men seem to get so petty and jealous of other men to the point of flirting with their girlfriends.

That’s just some people. Some are assholes and some aren’t.

Jackblue · Answer

I guess life is competition. On the other hand in the first photograph of Sophia Loren eyeing Jane Mansfield's cleavage, I think I read Mansfield went to that dinner event wearing that outfit in order to take attention off Loren.

msc545 · Answer

Women who perceive themselves as less attractive than other women often feel jealous of them and angry. Physical appearance is a woman's currency in the world.

cjgsu · Answer

U pretty much said in ur question. Itz the petty ass jealous ones that do it. They see someone and wish they could be them.

EmmaMary · Answer

I shall enter just one word which I have always considered to be the most appropriate to this type of question... Competition .

1Sophisticatedme · Answer

I wouldn't know, but I get it each day. Its the odd girl that I would meet that would be a real friend and wouldn't be jealous of me.

mechee · Answer

Because how dare she be showing of those new video games knowing that I'm too broke to buy one? stupid imaginary friend !

Yads_Is_Back · Answer

That third one is a great point 👍🏼 I love your posts.

kamalravi25 · Answer

Its when he/she gets things easily without any effort, while others never get it even when they put efforts. Its natural in animals too. The jelousy starts when u keep losing the competition.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

This happens Women will be loaded with money and are still jealous

SphynxUK · Answer

That, I have never understood. I’ve seen it among others, and it’s ugly.

Chikky · Answer

They're not satisfied with themselves and get angry to see you are satisfied with yourself

pigoat · Answer

Why did you highlight the "SOME" Were you worried people were gonna anser not "ALL" women feel that way Lmao

SexyAshh · Answer

Id love to know the answer for this because I've been dealing with it my entire life.

Lexi08654 · Answer

Some women just don’t have that self confidence so when they see women that do have self confidence they tend to get envious, wishing they had what she had. Really they are inspired by the other women but show it through hatred.

SomeGuyCalledTom · Answer

Sexual competition. There's some evolutionary science involved, but I won't pretend to understand it well enough to be able to summarise it. Read books like The Selfish Gene or anything by David M. Buss or Geoffrey Miller, I'm pretty sure they cover intrasexual competition as an evolved trait.

Massageman · Answer

Because some women are insecure and putting down others- which is really what jealousy is all about- is their "defense".

jshm2 · Answer

It's human nature to be "jealous" of bigger boobs, better butt, more fulfilling relationships etc etc.  Women just are not able to start wars over such things like men can, is all.

Rebeccalu · Answer

I am currently a victim in this situation. I'm in college. There is a girl approach me as a friend and I asked her for help with AC situation. She acted like I was harassing her. And tell my guy friend that I was knocking on her and his door. But deep down I know she is the one who put on the act. I didn't feel well that day so it is really mean for her to say I'm harassing her. But I can tell she is evil. All because she likes that guy and want get rid of me

SweetDisaster · Answer

If you find out please let me know. I wonder that to.🤔 Women supposed to support one another.💗🙏💗

AndrewMG · Answer

Because there clearly not as funny as @brainsbeforebeauty lol

douride2 · Answer

Could be they are simply insecure. Might be they should get help.

Dsg1193 · Answer

They’re insecure and unhappy with themselves/their lives. When someone has something they wish they had, they want to make their life difficult.

monkeynutts · Answer

Yeah I'll have all of you, naked, staked like flapjacks, with whipped cream and a cherry on top, no need to fight over me.

Anonymous · Answer

tbh I'm that girl sometimes. if a girl is really really (like really pretty) I'll hate her guts because she's so perfect and I hate when other girls are prettier than me, esp a lot prettier than me. sometimes I'll talk shit about them with other girls (typically I'm not the only one). it's shallow ik, but that's how it is.

BoobMan · Answer

Sophia Loren could NOT have been happy about that picture! lol!

Anonymous · Answer

Because even though God made us all, God made some people perfect and more beautiful and attractive while he acted disgusted by seeing others and made them ugly. Any child would be jealous of their siblings who their parents favour more even though both was made by the same person

allenwants2 · Answer

My ex wife was like that mental illness is right mine ended up trying to have me killed

COMMODOREII · Answer

I don't think any guy will understand that about women. 😎

Distants · Answer

Because they’re insecure and possibly cuz their boyfriend finds another girl hot

scooogy · Answer

My exes ignored me until they faced the fact that some other girl was interested in me. It seems like they don't wanna see what they could have had.

vlx-na · Answer

That boob envy picture, though. Perfectly captured.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Who's the girl on the right? Is that your mom? Now I know where you get your good looks from!

The_unknown_memer · Answer

Compensation, this is not exclusive to women by the way men do the same

bklynbadboy1 · Answer

Cause the want to be like then or get what they have

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