Why Do "SOME" Women Seem To Get So Petty And Jealous Of Other Women?
I've been a victim of this a lot. I think it's a behavior rooted in stupidity, and doubled-down with the desire to keep thinking in a wrong and stupid way. If a woman gets off on something like this and it doesn't harm her perceivably (even though it does eventually limit career potential, etc), she's not going to care enough to fix the behavior.
It starts with the premise that someone's life is similar to their own life. So, if the bully is upper-middle-class, the target's life is as hard as an upper-middle-class person's. If the bully has a supportive family, the victim must as well. Etc.
Then, the woman sees what you have going for you. Your career success, your beauty, your friendships, etc. They feel like in order to be "fair," you need to "share" some of this, as a family would share a meal. Essentially, their brain had an error along the line and learned the wrong lesson about sharing.
For example, you don't share your effort or money with this adult child so that everything is "equal". If they don't work, they don't get paid. If their work isn't helpful, they don't get appreciated. That is real life. If they "can't understand why" other people are doing better, it's because they're stupid.
Finally, they expect an equal share of "the pie" (that you made), if and only if they haven't struggled in some way. Because if they got a divorce, it deducts points from you and what you deserve. Or if they had a bad day, they should be given something of yours to compensate. Etc.
Because they'll never understand what someone else might have to go through and don't actually care. It gives them ADD just thinking about other people, how boring.
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I've often wondered this myself.
I think it is because there are a lot of women who tend to have very competitive personalities, and I think this could be in part due to human nature. Humans have always competed to be the most appealing to the opposite sex so that they can attract the best partner, for example. Humans are also greedy by nature, so some do not take it well when someone else has something they don't.
To be honest, a lot of my female friendships have been strained by jealousy, mostly over them thinking I was prettier than them (which is ironic, considering I felt the opposite) or over the fact that they thought I was getting male attention they weren't (news to me, lol).
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I think that first picture says it all!
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Are you my twin? I relate to so many of your questions.
But yes it is more common in women. When I was 18-19, some jealous girls purposely tried to socially isolate me, defame and exclude me. They got offended after I gossiped about their behavior and i confronted them. They couldn't tolerate me getting back at them and acted like a fragile ass that will shatter. So they got even more petty and SNEAKY. My ex roommate also LEECHED ON ME FOR SUCCESS but couldn't tolerate when I was doing well. Hypocrisy. -
Because females are often very cruel.
When young, their daddies train them to believe they are princesses. In the 5th grade, all these princesses compete to be the queen. One minute, you're my best friend; the next, you're the biggest piece of garbage that ever existed. Boys may fight with each other, but they never nurture cruelty like girls do. In a fight, boys do their best to hurt the other, whereas girls do their best to embarrass the other. Girls don't like feeling that everyone feels superior to them, but that experience often leads them to feel insecure, which is the source of jealousy. - 766 opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic.
I am going to aim to say lack of self confidence, not having as much as a successful life as them, selfness...
I tend to look at it this way, in life we are all passengers on the same journey together. We should be cheering each other on. Take a dining room table, let's say a wedding with 4 other women you don't know. I think its about acknowledging that we all want good will and people to encourage us in our lives. It's saying can we be happy for others because they were gifted so much or do we choose to be bitter and wonder why they get to have the dolly that I want. It's good to be happy for each other and want the best for people. To me that is one of the highest callings in life. To want what's best for others, including yourself. Now, what's best for yourself may not be money or a new car but it might just be something you are over looking that can be right in front of you...
Sorry went on a tangent there :) -
when i started dating current husband i didn't think of jealousy until things got very serious after we had a fight and we got back and more connection i felt i am all vulnerable when am with him but we went through a lot till we reached this point and i didn't want to lose it so every time we are out meeting friends or just out it just happen to be my man charms new people to him and am serious that really nice looking women approached him and i just stood there and felt jealous with having the thought of me losing him to a better looking women. He assured me that the path we gone through was worth the pain and the tears and he will never think the same of another woman just because she looks better than me and it took my few years to understand it and he never felt jealous and he always said no one will love you and take care of you the way i do and so far for 12 years he shows me that and i do the same for him. no jealousy
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I heard they are having such an invisible "competition" to "attract the best man they can possibly get". AKA Hypergamy (marrying the social class upwards).
It may mean attracting the rich men and when your friend gets the rich man and you don't, that's kinda a loss, isn't it? It could have been yours. The fancy dinner dates. The trips to exotic Havana beaches (or Bali). The Gucci bags, the red bottoms, the Chanel coats and so on and so on. At least that's the feeling I get.
Or alternatively the rich men can always be polygamous, cheat and get away with it.
But yeah, "get help" is a good response :) -
Genetic competition. Men and women both do it, but in different ways. Women want to be seen as desirable mates to as many men as possible to give themselves more selection of males to choose from to father children with the most desirable male genes they can attract. When another woman threatens to interfere with their ability to attract other men and represents a threat to limit their number of options, they revert to primal instinct and tribal aggression.
I love when that happens and the claws come out! You just cannot beat a good catfight!
MROWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW ! - 365 opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic.
I'd day it's due to their own insecurities.
I know when I worked on my insecurities and overcame them, I basically stopped jealous.
I've often found when I confront other women who've been terrible to me that they struggle with some internal issue. I just happened to be around when they triggered or something about me (often my more grounded demeanour) sets them off. -
In my opinion, not just women. Everybody gets jealous! No matter what the gender, race or sexuality... nobody is perfect and everybody gets jealous time to time.
Jealousy is an emotion, just like happiness or sadness. So, It's just not women who get jealous. -
For me I’ve only been jealous when it’s a woman getting the attention from my man. Otherwise i don’t get jealous. Mine stems from the pain it causes me, I suppose others have similar reason. I’ve never hated or treated another woman badly for it though, that would be wrong. But sometimes you can’t help your emotional response to something. Definitely agree that it’s bad though.
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I've never understood quite well this. There's enough room for every woman in this world to be admired and appreciated for their strengths and achievements. And when jealousy's there, a collaborative learning and friendly environment are way difficult to create.
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I was hoping you’d be able shed some light on that.
the main things women insult each other about are physical appearance and promiscuity. I once praised the foreign language skills of a professor of ours and a female friend of mine jealously insulted The professor‘s looks. - 718 opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic.
Guys are like that too. I don't know a single guy who hasn't bad mouthed to me about his brother / male friend / male classmate.
Only diff I can think of is they don't do it as often as ladies (gossiping I mean) and if they're jealous, may be they cover it up good.
Plus I'm kinda the "mommy friend" for most so it's weirder if you don't whine to me lol. - 1.8K opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic.
I don't know if i can answer this. Because i can understand a woman feeling ignored, minimized, pushed to the side by other women resenting it and as a result being that way. But it's been my experience that most of the women who do this are women that already have everything going for them. It's like it's not that they need attention it appears like they need all the attention.
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lol love that first pic... the answer to your question has gone unsolved since the caveman times... thankfully it is, as you noted in your question, only "some" but goodness those who are can be such an annoyance lol :)
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So many people have a big hole right through the middle of them. Somebody will always have something that the don’t have. No matter how much they have or continue to get. It will never fill that void inside. We need to figure out what it is in our lives that is really keeping us from being happy, and fix that first. Then all of that petty bullshit that consumed us before won’t even matter.
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Women being petty and jealous toward other women is obvious. Its competition. Jealousy and pettiness raises its ugly head when they feel threatened. Take all these women that call women sluts for having big breasts.. Or for the way they dress.. Jealousy..
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I don't know about the petty and jealous bit. But that top picture, always puzzles me.
Trying to read her expression.
Love a pair like that
Or why has she got them on display
The naughty one
I would love to play with them lovely babies... -
Bad self image, insecurities... Maybe they were berated and insulted growing up "Washboard", "fatty", "slut" and due to this they see other women as everything they think they. aren't and resent them for it.
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Well i would say not some but most of the women are really jealous of other women. Whether it's at work, In university or any other part of life.
I have seen mostly it's women who are pulling leg and degrading other women than men do
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