I think it’s a nice gesture. I am very close to my Dad and I noticed that he always holds the door for me. It’s second nature for him and not an act because he wants to prove to anyone that he is respectful. Whether he knows the woman or not if she is near the door at the same time as him he’ll hold the door.
Some men still practices holding the door not just for a date but for any woman and I believe it shows an act of respect. That’s the term “ladies first” but some men these days believe to not show respect towards women means that they’re an “Alpha male”. Real men exist in reality more than they do on the internet.
"Some men still practices holding the door not just for a date but for any woman and I believe it shows an act of respect."
I always did this no matter where I was. If I was going into a store, for example, and there was a woman also going in at the same time, I would open the door for her and let her in first.
Then, around 10 or 15 years ago, some women wouldn't say "thank you." They would just walk through the door and not say anything. Then one time some woman said something like "You think I can't open the door for myself because I'm a woman you sexist?"
I could not believe it. That was the last time I opened the door for strangers. Now I only do it for women that I know.
Woke culture is destroying all of the pleasure in life.
It feels so right to do these things. It just feels right. It makes me feel good. I'm heartbroken that feminism and woke culture are ruining these pleasures in life for both men and women. It was happening well before Covid, so I don't think that has changed it.
If I was dating and had my licenses. I’ll open the car doors for my dates but I had quite a bit of rude ones but their wasn’t on dates but I was being polite to people with the doors anyways but I had a very very rude bitch who really didn’t like me opening the door for her and her friends out of politeness then the bitch just stumped on my feet so hard!! then she smacked the shit out me so hard on my face with a few marks and cuts because i embarrass her in front of her friends then she give me this 🖕😑 and told me to go cry to mommy and suck on her ugly tit then she spit on my face then left the scene
someone call the police but by the time they got to me the bitch and her friends was already gone and With the cops normal excuses there was nothing they can do but report it! But someone a guy give me a ride to the hospital and got patched up but still had to pay for my injuries.
Oh, wow! I would have checked her and her friends for you. That's so rude. I don't unkindness from nobody. Please being a gentleman. Don't a few bad apples ruin your heart. There's more women in the world that will appreciate your kindness.
Late 1990s and early 2000s were very different times compare it now and social media wasn't quite available back then compare now. Don't worry I'm always a gentleman and always stay old fashioned. I know there's women out there would appreciate my kindness but women understanding and liking old fashioned people like myself has been decided big time over the years.
I’d be flattered but its honestly too much. Holding the door is enough but only if he's steps in front of me. If i’m in front of him, i’ll hold the door til he catches it. But i dont need anyone just opening doors for me (unless its to get a position to a new, better job) lol
I open (and hold) shop doors for people all the time, for both males and females, because it's just the right, polite thing to do. Especially if they're carrying something. I've never had any complaints about it, because the recipient of the gesture has always been very grateful and would thank me.
I was raised to know that women do not need to be helped with quite simple tasks and then call that a "gentleman gesture"
But I always do this if you're an elder than actually needs help to get out of the car, if you're injured, if you're a little child that wants to jump off... then I'm more than glad to actually help. That's how I was raised, to be helpful when needed, not to pretend that help with small tasks are "gentleman gestures to impress the ladies"
I know it as a security tactic I used to be a bodyguard for a governor candidate nope I'm not telling you she was a certified psychopath so I was doing the state and her a favor. She was a big advocate for weed. FOLI 1st out, last in
I think a womans answer would depend on level of attraction to the guy but most women love male attention more than a lot of other pleasurable things. Plus you want any women you're attracted to to feel safe around you. Thats why I make the effort, to convey that she has my attention and protection for that time.
I wouldn't like it very much honestly. I will say one time someone tried to be sweet and open the drivers side door for me to get in, except my door handles a wee bit broken and there's a knack to getting it open so he wound up fumbling around for a bit and I was crying laughing cause he got such a funny look on his face. So that was fun
If I am being totally honest, I would probably just find it kind of weird, if it's done in a certain way. Simply the act of opening the door for me is obviously fine, but I wouldn't like it if it's done in a "man opens door for woman because he's a man and she's a woman". I wouldn't like it if he thinks I shouldn't open the door for him even though he should for me.
I don't open the door for my date. Not bc I wouldn't but I never told them to wait for me (bc it feels rude to tell her to stay) and they always got out of the car on their own. I have seen it as a missed opportunity but never felt to be concerned about it.
That reminds me of one time when I was on a metro , third of those sitting were men. And I was wearing high heels and about to faint from the pain charging from my soles to my legs. But not one of them had a chivalrous bone in his body to give up his seat for me. I really felt like crying. But then , why would they give up their seats for a stranger?
'Cause some of us have good mothers and fathers who raised us to. Women forget men were boys once. I can't imagine what it's like to walk down a street at night and not know if that guy walking towards you is potentially dangerous or not. I'm a big tattooed guy and I've NEVER felt an ounce of fear in that situation ever because I know even if I'm walking and I encounter a group of scary-looking guys and they decide to try something on me odds are a couple of them at least are ending up dead. But I can try and empathize being a small woman and afraid of strangers bigger than you. In my mind I'm 12. It never occurs to me that the lady over there while I'm waiting for the subway thinks that I might be waiting to do something to her when in reality I'm just going home. Some guys were raised decently. Some weren't but still are just fundamentally decent deep down.
I think I just naturally go to open my door that it would be done before a guy had time to get round and do it. I dont know. Like- I suppose if be like oh, thanks, but yeah I'm not sure I'd give them a chance.
Been ages I've been on a date. But I've never been on a date I had to pick her up. But honestly, I find it strange to open a car door for a woman lol. I'll open and hold doors for sure. Come on, why you need a car door opened for you? Do you just sit there and wait? Lol
I always try to open car doors for girls I'm on a date with or even if I'm dating that girl. Even going into a building or someone's house I always try to open the door for them. I do it because I was raised to treat a girl with respect and always show that chivalry is not dead.
haven't had that done for me for a long time, the only one was my husband, that's what I mean. about being married, those things like being undressed by some one before sex
Yes, I have done this recently. I drive a pickup truck and it is taller than a regular car and my wife is 5 foot 3 so I open her door first and help her in. She usually climbs out on her own.
I was taught a king guides his queen. And he protects her. And by holding her hand, you are telling her, as we are going up or down the stairs. I am your guide and your protector. You have nothing to fear.
@Imcmullan What you call Chivalry I call being a sucker. Why is it that men have to perform chivalrous acts towards women and not the other way round hmm? If I can sum up chivalry in one sentence it is this: "Men will act like dogs for their women to appease their laziness." Many women in Western Societies will desperately cling to outdated notions like "Chivalry" or "Tradition" to absolve themselves of responsibility. If women don't want to get of their lazy arses and be proactive and approach a bloke that they like. No problem they'll just say that believe in chivalry and expect the man to do all the work. If women don't want to pay for their share of dates because they are cheap and entitled freeloaders. Again no problem they'll just claim that it's "traditional" where the man pays. I know exactly what chivalry is or at least what women consider chivalry to be which is precisely why I reject it. I refuse to participate in this practice as I have dignity. Now I will however extend common courteously to everyone but I refuse to give women preferential treatment.
@AzzaBlue why do you look at being kind to your woman as a sign of weakness? You do k own that a relationship is about who can be the sweetest to one another, right? While a man may be chivalrous a woman can be too.. but in a feminine matter. Women like to be treated like delicate adored beings... someone who is cherished... actually both men n women like to feel adored and cherished- just expressed differently. It's not about absolving responsibility. You seem to be very bitter towards women. Perhaps, you should figure out the source of this anger... n get over it.
@Imcmullan It might seem like that I am bitter, but I can assure you that it is not the case. Perhaps I am a little bit jaded, but I am definitely not bitter. I believe that all relationships whether they be platonic, professional or romantic should be based on mutual give and take. At least from what I can gather, chivalry seems to be extremely one sided where the man has constantly prove his worth while the woman does what? Grace him with her presence? Now you might be one of those rare women that actually contributes towards a relationship, if so, then you are good in my books. However I can assure you that there are many women out there who behave exactly like how I've claimed and many men (especially on GaG) can attest to this. Most of time what us blokes hear from women is "me, me, me" or "You're not a real man unless you do x, y, z for women". And most of us blokes are tired of it. I know that not all women are like this, but a great deal are.
There is nothing wrong with being sweet to a date, but there is a fine line between being sweet and being a pushover. Dating for me (at least at the beginning) is like a pseudo type of interview where I am 'vetting' my dating prospect to determine if she'll be a good fit for my life. Now once that we've established that we are "exclusive" or "going steady" than I am more than happy to treat her like a queen, on the proviso that she treats me like a king. Does that make sense?
My approach to dating may not be very romantic but I consider it very practical.
I understand where you're coming from.. and I think in a nutshell , we're saying the same things. You'll treat her well provided she treats you well. This I can agree with.. but it doesn't make you weak simply bc you open a door for her. I like to feel like I'm being treated special. I was primarily raised by my dad and my 6 brothers so, im the definition of spoiled... on the flip side of things, I've always treated the one im with just as great.
I use an electric bike and would probably drive a motorcycle if I could be arsed to get the papers for it. So, no, wouldn't even come to mind. (Do have a license)
Yes, i am 65 and we were taught it is a sign of Respect and love for your Date and also a sign of admiration for the women's role in our lives as equal partners
Yes, but when it comes to women who are strangers I’m not a gentleman because black men are so disrespected and they treat white men well so that’s why I’m not a nice guy
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