Hard to say just based on that information, but my advice would be this:
1. Maybe do a different type of date. I'm not saying you have to spend tons of money on a date, because I really don't think you have to. Fancy dinners can be intimidating, but maybe try something fun. Bowling? An arcade? If you want to stick to the park thing, maybe bring a blanket, a frisbee and grab lunch. You can picnic in the park and then play frisbee together. In my opinion, fun dates are the best, and they leave room for some flirty bets. My boyfriend and I went to a place similar to Dave & Buster's for our second date, and we had a ton of fun, and made flirty little bets. Good ice breaker.
2. I actually think it's important to text the night after the first date. You can frame it like, "Hey, hope you made it home safe. I had a great time today and would love to do it again sometime?" If she seems open to it, tell her you'll think of some fun things to do and will text her later that week to make plans. Don't text her all day everyday. After she says she wants to go out again, leave it alone for a couple days, then text her on Wednesday to make plans for the upcoming weekend. I only say this because you mentioned below that you think you come off as needy after the first date, so less contact might be good in the beginning, so long as she knows you're still interested/not playing games.
3. Tinder, at least as far as I know, is mostly for hookups. It sounds like you're looking for more than a hookup, so maybe try a different site? Hinge, OKCupid, Coffee Meet Bagel are all probably better options. And yes, you will likely have to pay to get the most out of these sites, but the paid OKC option worked for me! Met my boyfriend on there after just a couple weeks on the app, and we're still happily together to this day, almost 1.5 years later.
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You should have a date in a resturant rather than just a walk in the park. It'll make your date be able to get to know you better and if you're lucky, they'll ask you on a second date if they're interested. A walk in the park can be nice but it's also distracting and too lighthearted. If you really want to see that person again, you'd need to become closer to them by sitting down and getting to know them. A walk in the park is more of a 3rd of 4th date when you know the person and just want to be in their presence
I think meeting for coffee is probably better than a walk for a first date. It allows the two of you to face each other and have more eye contact while talking. If the date goes well, you could tell her you had a good time and would like to see her again. I would also send a text message a couple hours after the date letting her know you had a good time, thanking her, and (if you didnโt already mention it) letting her know you would like to see her again. Then a couple days later you can ask her if she would like to do something with you (your choice, a walk or outdoor activity might be good) for another date.
For one, never take dating advice from women. First impressions are better received IN PERSON. I quit online dating because you cheat yourself out of giving and receiving a genuine first impression. Tell her what you're looking for in a relationship, if she likes what you say she will want to go on another date. If a woman isn't into me id rather excercise other options than to waste PRECIOUS TIME
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Treat them properly the first time and provide an APPROPRIATE first date. Do what sounds APPROPRIATELY fun on the first date and go from there. A casual dinner and maybe a game of miniature golf afterwards is a great date. Just relax to make the two of you comfortable, and the two of you will have a great time. Granted, that is assuming the two of you have a lot in common.
Ask her. Maybe a day after the date text her and say something like โhey I had a great time with you the other day, would you want to hang out again?โ And see what she says if she says no or ignored you donโt take it personal.
Ask for one? How many first dates have you had? How did they go? It's usually pretty obvious whether a woman would like to see you again. If you can't tell, she's probably not interested.
Be yourself if they don't like that then there not the one. Also don't be over the top on the date just keep things casual and talk like you'd talk to a friend and see were things go from there.
After the first date call her (don't text ) and just say it was fun and maybe she would like to do something later. You need to step up your game. If first date was go for a walk second date you provide a nice picnic lunch.
Tinder or FB? Ya gotta be joking.
"What are you doing next Saturday?"
Where is your game dood?Do something more then walk, the most fruitful relationships had first dates that flowed perfectly without thought, but if anything, try dinner, and nice walk, just don't try hard, it creates anxiety under pressure
In real life is easier. Because if they date you to begin with, it means they are generally willing to date.
Make sure the girl has fun on the first date and build attraction with her. Then she'll say yes to date number 2.
If you have a second date it means you failed by first one. lol
By not boring her and offending her
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