Is this even real? If yes, where are such guys who only want hugs and cuddles?

[Anonymous]

I would really like to date these guys who are romantic and treat me well. All guys I've been with just wanted to have sex with me and used to literally tell me to fuck off of their house because he wanted to sleep alone.
I'd really love to settle down with some romantic guy.

[iluvtoknow]

I have to admit, I'm a little bit confused by what you're trying to talk about in the picture with sexual fantasies. But everything you wrote around it seems to be about finding guys who like hugs, cuddles, and romance more than all the sexy stuff, and that much I can talk about.

Yes, there are totally guys who don't go into relationships looking to sleep with someone, who love hugs and cuddling, being sweet with their partners, hang out, be really close friends, and just love each other. Honestly, that's my dream right there, so never listen to people who say it's impossible. (I don't even want to have sex until my relationship's so deep I can commit my life to her.)

However, I do have to admit it's uncommon in the purer forms these days. Sex sells and a lot of people think it's a critical part of the youth experience. Plus, it's addictive and the more you feed your sex drive, the more you feel the need to use it. But that doesn't mean that there is no one who wants to go the other way. The form of love you're describing is kind-of companionship, and I think that's really the ideal form of love that most people wish they could have anyways.

Just never give up if that's what you want. Things take time, but if you don't yield, eventually good things will come your way (or you'll figure out how to navigate yourself towards them.)

I don't know what I can say about finding people like that. They might not always be the most physically attractive of people, but look for the people who are smart, work hard, and are driven in other areas. People like that aren't generally the party people who might drink a lot. If you're not finding people like that where you're currently looking, perhaps change it up. If you're in college, go to clubs. Meet nice people. Get to know them first.

Oh, that's a big one. Always be friends first—it's always better to have a foundation in friendship and companionship instead of just physical attraction if you want a relationship like this. (Okay, maybe not always; there are exceptions to every rule based on context, but you know what I mean.)

And if you have any more specific questions, please feel free to comment! I'm not sure what I can say to help you best.

I'll just repeat—never yield when it comes to the things you value most, and don't listen to naysayers. Sex isn't everything to every guy—or even anything to some.

[MCheetah]

Yes, it's real. I'm one of these types of dudes.

"I would really like to date these guys who are romantic and treat me well. All guys I've been with just wanted to have sex with me."

Then stop dating 6 foot+ tall Chads. Seriously, SO MANY dudes are sick of women whining because they say "only six foot and taller" and require abs and bro-douche tattoos on guys, then whine when (surprise!) said guys treat them like sh*t. Men in general, are pretty much out of f*cks to give, now. And the first few shouldn't have even been free!

@Jjpayne, I think you'd love to answer this question...

[magiusX26]

well put

[Jaylaaa2000]

Lmfao no clue never met a boy who fantasizes about that 😂

[Susjsm]

No you have no clue.

[Aakash_Hangargi]

I am here lol and also voyureism 😂

[Nikola321]

Well, I'm one of those :D I don't care about sex, but I want dem cuddles and hugs and kisses :D
Though, I'm very shy, and out of all the guys I know, only few are like me about that, most just care about sex. Those who are me, are super shy just like me :/ Here's a little hint: Shy guys have problems doing stuff first and approaching, so you should put some effort and try ur best w him, instead of just giving hints and expecting him to do the 1st steps and that stuff. That's how u win most of shy guys :D

[jmr2191]

3rd wave feminism and sexual liberation destroyed it. The value of relationships, commitment, chivalry and romantic gestures were cast aside in exchange for meaningless sex, one night stands and instant gratification. The art of courtship has disappeared. If sex is nothing more than a commodity to be traded, why go the extra mile?

[MCheetah]

Couldn't agree more.

[BossBilly]

Oh its real, we are in fact perverts and want to have sex with you pretty girls cuz... you are girls and pretty with your makeup and bending over and... see? U gave me a seni already, but ve careful because most men have it wrong and love a girl for their own happiness which turms ugly fast, men should love his girl in a way she feels free and happy and always safe and good with the man whether they remain together or not. And for women reading this, if you want him to act like a man then treat him like one, if he's acting like a bitch, say it like his friends would.

[SandandWaves]

i love this one

[sixtyeightplusone]

Yeah feminism and gynocentric laws killed all that. Letting a woman into your life is too high risk in 2021.

If she gains a 100 lbs you have to act like you love it or be shamed, but make sure as a man you earn a lot and groom yourself like a model.

If you come home and she's blowing the basketball team she's getting half your shit, the kids and half your future earnings.

Be sure to work all day and then come home and do half the chores even though she's been home all day too.

This list of expectations in 2021 is exhausting

[Jjpayne]

@MCheetah

Yup, I'm am one of those guys although it's more of a side cuddle

[DCooper]

"I'd really love to settle down with some romantic guy."

LOL ! Settle down? Or settle FOR? Lets be honest here. That dude is invisible to you, and will be for another decade or so, at which point he will have seen the error of his ways, and either walked away from dealing with women, or learned to emulate the behavior of the dude who actually got some.

I'm not roasting you here; just saying that the behaviors you reward are the behaviors you get more of.

[Anonymous]

Well , Romantism is a temporary respond due to the reproduction instinct. That's ephemeral.
Romantism is good when you are teeneger but as adult you should stop living in a Hollywood movie.
Relationship is a compromise between 2 human for reproduction and survival , for centuries romance haven't been the main couple's cement. Of course , you can get romantism sometimes , but stop building your vision of " love " around this.
Here is the real problem :
-women live in a Hollywood movie
-Men live in a Porn movie.
Just let's find a compromise in the middle.

[CallyKat89]

Are you alright?

[Browneye57]

Are you 18? Or 24? You need to understand that boyz your age are just that, BOYZ. You need to give them some time to actually grow into manhood. A guy's brain doesn't even fully form till about 25.
If you're on the higher end of your made up profile, you'll probably have to date up a little in age to find one suitable.

[TheSpaceGnome]

I would enjoy the hugs and cuddles, I'm romantic and would treat a girlfriend like she is the most important thing in my life. I've never had sex because I don't trust birth control as effective and O haven't found the right person as of yet.

I can't find a girl who doesn't treat a guy like he's a utility though...

[TheFlak38]

"I'd really love to settle down with some romantic guy." yeah thats why you're riding the cock carousel. You don't settle down with romantic guys because romantic guys turn your vagina into the sahara desert. They are literally invisible to you. Sex is the only thing you have to offer so stick with that.

[7Roses]

Just because a guy isn't sexual it doesn't mean that he is romantic. If a guy is romantic he may also enjoy sex. They aren't nessisarily traits that correlate. I know guys at my school who were very romantic to girls because he wanted to fuck them but wasn't interested in a relationship.

I think your problem is that you are finding guys who only want you for sex. In my opinion you should looking for a romantic guy who wants a serious relationship.

[NeverHadASister]

It's up to you to hold out on sex until the 3rd date or 30 days, whichever is longer. Your situation will never change until you do. Make him wait. If he can't, drop him and move on. The 3rd date/30 day Rule is an absolute Must! Do not give in or compromize. Your chances of a long term romantic relationship are about 1% chance if you break that Rule.

[Dinosaursandanime65]

Now THESE ARE THE RAREST OF THEM ALL. OH YEAH. I’m sure there’s at least 50-100 guys like this. I’d say about 0.98%-1.25%-5.1% of guys fit this description. But don’t get your hopes up. The skies belong to me. No where to run, no where to hide. Your journey ends here Pilot.

[lolman95]

the thing about japanese artists is that they make things look so adorable I wanna be there. I can't even tell if this is simply hugging or boob straddling i just wanna be there cause it looks so heartwarming

[Inexpensivefurniture]

Same honestly. Due to some health issues sex is uncomfortable/painful for me, and I'm much more interested in romance than sex. I'd rather spend a night cuddling on the couch than having sex, but it seems not a lot of other gay guys are into that

[serious]

Well, if you want men who only want hugs and cuddles then unless the man is asexual it is tough to come across one.

Only an asexual person would only want hugs and cuddles (non-sexual).

[TurboKid]

For me, sex and cuddling are the same things. I'm also a groper though. Unlike your guy on the right, my hands might be on her butt or boobs. But I'm cuddling in a sense.

[noob__master]

although I can’t speak for the girls side I can say all I want is a woman who loves me and wants to be by me. Close to me with me cuddling and snuggling.

[Redred56]

Looking for romance? How about a walk on the beach blank in with fill to watch
a sunrise/sunset. And/Or a small dinner you made for her taste really good outside.

[Levin]

I'm a romantic guy.

But I kind of like choking too.

But at the moment I want romantic stuff, please.