How do I get my boyfriend to put in more effort?

[Anonymous]

Like what could I say or do?

[Siren777]

Communicate with your guy. What you want, would like etc. You're in a relationship right? So talk to him.

[BarryLiverstone]

Be specific. That’s too open ended a question. What exactly do you want him to do?

[Asker]

Just to try harder. You know like make it seem like he still cares

[BarryLiverstone]

Ok. What I’m telling you is guys need details. So what are 3 examples of him trying harder?

[Asker]

Messaging more, planning things himself, surprising me even with coming to see me without telling me doesn’t have to cost money

[BarryLiverstone]

Gotcha. So ask him to text you at least twice a day. Ask him to plan one date night a month. And ask him to surprise you occasionally. See how he responds

[Asker]

Thanks you’re really helpful

[BarryLiverstone]

You are welcome, happy to answer more if you need guidance

[BarryLiverstone]

Thanks for MHO. Did you talk to him?

[Asker]

Not yet. I see him tomorrow tho

[BarryLiverstone]

Ok, lemme know how it goes

[Asker]

Will do

[boggboss]

Speak to him about the issues u have addressed them and work out ways to fix them

[Wise4myage]

Talk to him and make sure you are getting your point (s) across. If nothing changes, then maybe its time to move on?