Would you ever consider rejecting somebody as a date entirely based on what they do for employment?

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zeitgeist057 · Accepted Answer

Hmmmm... I don't know. I feel like almost every job I can think of I would have to consider the person as a more important factor than what they do. I could be wrong, but my impression of what I've seen on GaG so far I think hardly anyone on here would accept any and every job. A few I'm fairly certain would weed out 95% or more of Gaggers:

1. Prostitute
2. Assassin/contract killer/soldier/agent
3. Politician (a left wing to weed out the right wing nuts and a right wing to weed out the left wing nuts. I mean, seriously I've seen a ton of people on here who wouldn't date someone based on who they VOTED for, let alone if it were an actual representative of [insert party here].)
4. "poor people" jobs - minimum wage burger flipping, trash collectors, or other low status jobs.

I'm sure I could come up with more but that's plenty to disqualify the vast majority.

oldasIfeel22 · Accepted Answer

If it’s genuine work I could care less. She could be hired from the city of San Fran to clean up human feces off the street... but she is doing a legit work (those sanitation people actually get paid big bucks as they should)

But if the girl is a voluntarily a stripper, porn actress or worse a sex worker then don’t expect me to want to get in a relationship with that. This is especially true if she lives in a developed country (USA, Canada, Western Europe, AU/NZ, etc).

However some women in developing countries have very few options so I might a rare exception on that one just as long she is completely out of that industry.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

For me it honestly depends. My boyfriend sells drugs to make ends meet and I’m working with him applying jobs etc so he can completely drop that lifestyle ASAP because I really don’t like it and I know him and his background well enough to know that he doesn’t like it but feels like he has to do it and he was grown into that lifestyle (was basically raised in a boys home in a horrible neighborhood). We talk about it all the time and I don’t judge him but I regularly let him know that it ends in 2 ways: jail or dead unless he leaves the lifestyle. I've also informed him that if he decides he doesn’t want to stop that I won’t stay with him bc he’ll be hurting himself and his family and I won’t sit by and let that happen.

SueShe · Accepted Answer

Of course not because that qualifies him/her as a cheap person with little character and personality.

If the type of job is a criteria for not choosing a person, then it is indicative that they lack judgment and that they are probably materialistic above anything else. A job says nothing about the person's character, intellect or personality, whereas the denial of a friendship solely based on a profession says that this person is rather toxic and has probably no self-esteem.

That also indicates that he/she is a very shallow person that will not stand up by her/his partner should he/she need support.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

I will not date anyone whose job reflects on a lack of morality. That includes anyone employed by the DNC, CNN, and MSNBC.

MrOracle · Answer

I don't care about her earnings, but if I had a problem with her actual job (say, a sales rep or journalist that was always traveling and never home), then, yeah, I would pass.

Brainsbeforebeauty · Answer

Only if they were a drug dealer or hitman for hire... To look down on someone for the kind of job they have is pretty damn petty and shallow...

Xoxocutekitty · Answer

Yes.

I want someone willing to provide and enjoy security and stability. people with jobs with 'shifts' that can change 1 or 2 weeks out would be hard to stomach.

I want a partner I can 3 weeks out plan a dinner party or plan a weekend beach trip. I want someone who comes home to eat dinner with me.

Saldy, this rules out a lot of folks from construction, medical field, retail, restaurant, event workers.

I have an 8:30-6 lifestyle and I want to enjoy my time off with my person. There comes a certain point where unnecessary fights happen because the couple just isn't relaxing together.

I don't want to take off time from work on a regular basis and I wouldn't expect my partner to.

TruthBringer · Answer

Men (especially those who earn a lot) don't care much about a woman's career. Theyc are more about how she is as a partner and if she is material to become the mother of their children.

Women however don't date down. The more a woman earns, the more she seeks a man who earns even more if not be on her level. I'm speaking in general here, so no need to point to exceptions to the rule since they don't disprove the rule itself.

So woman are the ones who truly reject a man for whatever his career and earnings are, while men, especially those who hold traditional values don't care much.

FlutteringFeelings · Answer

I don’t mind but that guy has to be working towards something more than just the position he’s in. I’m a college student but I also work from time to time. The job I work isn’t the ideal job for a woman but it pays the small bills that I have so I have to do what I have to do. Some people will have back hand comments and some guys believe I shouldn’t be working too hard but who cares?

I’m interested in a man who’s ambitious and doesn’t sit around on a game system all day expecting money to fall on his lap. My job isn’t the best job but I don’t plan on staying in it forever while complaining to everyone how miserable I am for the rest of my life. Following my dreams is a priority and I expect that from a man who decides to date me as well. I admire a hard working man because I’m a hard working woman. Aside from a busy schedules I prioritize my relationship with God, family, quality time, and living life.

DWornock · Answer

That is what all women do. For no reason other than just because, eight times, I asked ladies a little below my league to dance, and because they were below my league, of course, they would accept. Every time, the first words out of their mouth were, "What do you do?" Obviously, that is the MOST important thing to women.

Each time, I replied, "Would you believe I clean tables at Denny's?" Six of the eight couldn't wait to get off the dance floor. One tried to be helpful and suggested, I apply at a certain more upscale local restaurant. One shook her head "No". So I replied, "Would you believe I'm an electrical engineer?" and she nodded.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

Yeah never dating a school teacher again.

over here they are at times really left wing, and this is proper far left wing stuff, none of your Democrats that really are not left wing.

I can’t stand politics at the best of times but when you are in the Air Force and then leaving to work as a Tech Director, it makes their little far left wing hearts burn 🔥

Going out to a restaurant for a meal with her friends was an act in not stabbing some fucker.

paradiseonearth93 · Answer

I think many do indirectly/subconsciously.. it kinda paints an idea of who a person is/adds to their image and either makes us like them more or less. And maybe you wouldn’t say you’d reject someone based on what they do but I think it affects attraction and the idea of them so people do without fully realizing. I do this.

Novacane · Answer

As a man, I can say definitely no, because obviously, we know that they are not going to be there forever if they do plan to move on to better things.

But I think for women it's different, most women like to be taken care of financially, therefore, the job that the man has mattered more to them. They want someone that can give them that lifestyle they desire.

The_Maphio · Answer

Unless they are employed in slave trading such as the ONGs or are drug smugglers or sicari, I'd take the potential partner without batting an eye. Cleaning up the streets is an IMPORTANT job. One that we should all be more grateful for more than how we idolize the dumbasses acting in TV.

JuliaStyles · Answer

Dating is for possibly meeting someone you would want to live your live with. I mean "real" dating, not this hook up culture baloney. So if the guy sold flowers on the street corner, did certain trades like doing asphalt or cleaning out porta potties, I would tend to look elsewhere. I'm sure most would.

Sonorous · Answer

Yes, but only because I could get an idea of the lifestyle they live and if we'd be compatible. For instance, I wouldn't wanna date someone that had a proclivity towards things that severely clash with my personality, character, motivations, interests, lifestyle, goals, etc.

hahahmm · Answer

When you're young you tend to think that there are big red flags and small red flags. Little white lies and big lies. Things that matter & things that don't matter. The older I get the more I think every tiny thing matters and ignoring any is foolish.

Coulis · Answer

Yes if they were a pimp or a drug dealer or a banker to some extent or a human trafficker like yeah of course I couldn't go out with them. But if they just had a low-paying job but they were a good person who was decent it would treat me well no I wouldn't reject them based upon their employment.

Dragonpurple · Answer

99% of the time no, I'm more likely not to date a unemployed loser than someone who is working at the worst job. At least working proves some sort of work ethics and willingness to not just look for someone to take care of her.

That said, off the top of my head I can only think of a prostitute, would not date her... if that was her real job.

purplepoppy · Answer

Absolutely. What a man does defines him as a person, it's one of the first things people ask each other regardless of whether they're intending to date or just making conversation. As for dating i want someone on par with me or better.

Goatmeal · Answer

It's funny, because in this comment section all the women are saying they would never date a drug dealer or similar. And in reality, bad boys like that seldom lack female company.

Also, just based on experience, some women most definitely reject based on career status. Not all women. But you can't be a slob and expect them to stick around forever.

Dchrls78104 · Answer

Yes. I could not date:
1. A sex worker of any type, because in my country they are often found in bad neighbourhoods and surrounded by violent men with guns.
2. A policewoman or soldier: I don't want guns in my house and I don't trust police officers or soldiers that much.
3. Somebody who is always around dangerous animals.
4. An enthusiast of certain extreme sports.

Mangospacho · Answer

I turned a girl down for being a steamfitter because I thought she only worked with steam and that was pretty weird but then I googled what a steamfitter does and I was pretty impressed because it’s a highly skilled profession and I realized that she is very good at using her hands and now I kind of regret rejecting her.

MeghanL · Answer

If they were a meth cook, human trafficker or other such criminal activity then I would reject that person. I have no desire to be kidnapped, killed or go to prison.

NamerOfStars · Answer

Yes, in some extreme cases. I don't care about social status, and money's just money; nothing wrong with making an honest living. But if they're a eugenicist, or a slaver, or something along those lines, then I'll have nothing to do with them.

hughmathews · Answer

very few circumstances where id do that, like in the case of something criminal being done. but beyond that, i dont mind! its good that you have a job, makes me think more highly of you, no matter what it is

Guanfei · Answer

Anyone with a job that is based on trapping, taking advantage or abusing people.
Any sex worker, and yes, that include anything online only too. I don't share my girl, even online.
Aside from that, I can't think of a job that would make me refuse.

SlavBoi · Answer

I wouldn't reject them based on what they do now, but what are her plans to move in the future. If she plans to stay in a shitty 9-5 job I'd probably reject her.
But if she had plans to start a business or move her career significantly in the nearest future I'd help her achieve the goals quicker

JamesRandiDebates · Answer

I know people that work in manufacturing facilities where the chemicals routinely floating in the air infuse their clothes and hair and make them stink to high heaven. Their homes stink of the chemicals. They can't wash it off good enough between work days. I could not date someone with that bad chemical smell about them all the time.

thathonestman · Answer

Yes if she was a prostitute, escort, cam girl or did anything in sex work. I don’t need that shit.

Also if she did something that required her to work an overnight shift because then our schedules would not align.

Other than the two aforementioned points, no.

TwistedTube · Answer

I was gonna say no, until I read fellow opinions and read about sex work. Yeah no.. I don't want to date anyone that wants or does do sex work.

Other than that, the current "level" of work they do doesn't matter.

cth96190 · Answer

Only if she was involved in something that I considered to be abhorrent, such as abortion or experiments on animals.

Sarahr123 · Answer

No I have never cared. Unless they’re a prostitute or it involves something which I’ll get jealous like they’re an actor and they do intimate scenes etc.

Puppystarfish23 · Answer

Yes for ethical reasons for example if their job meant they'd had to lie and manipulate people to succeed I wouldn't trust them.

A_Bell · Answer

Most people go into certain professions for a reason related to who they are. I would not necessarily reject someone based on their job, but for the reason they have that job.

Zelda_5 · Answer

If it was something illegal like a drug dealer, or even a legal drug dealer, cuz I don't like drugs, or a job where they were never home or always exhausted.

Dazed0N0Confused · Answer

I won't date or consider dating anyone if they work for FOX News or the GQP. i also won't date anyone who is a Republicklan. I dont date insurrectionists & traitors to their country.

Tiptoetamm · Answer

No way no judgement from me. Why would I have a problem with the guy I like having a job. Seriously he has a job. That's what matters and if he is happy where he is working even better.

Bella9191 · Answer

Of course, it can say a lot about their personality or what they enjoy or like. if the person is under 25 probably not as they may be hussling. if over 25 then yea that stuff matters,

Avicenna · Answer

In some cases, yes. I'm not going on a date with a prostitute, a cam girl, someone who is on Only Fans or a police officer, for example.

MissRomantic · Answer

Yes. If they are a porn star or Only Fans worker or they are in a corrupt kind of job that succeeds based on dishonesty and cheating people than yes.

MCheetah · Answer

Yes. I wouldn't date an OnlyFans girl, e-thot, a prostitute, or a criminal.

Anonymous · Answer

yeah i have actually. i knew two losers who worked at fast food joints and it was pathetic. one worked at taco bell another worked at johnny rockets. the one who worked at taco bell she was ok looking but god damn boring and the other at johnny rockets she had a guy that she never mentioned a word about. i found out when i saw her with him in a grocery store once. never of them had any money or a pot to piss in as the old saying goes.

NyceGuyFinishingLast · Answer

Nope. Some people can't help the job they are stick with sometimes and their job doesn't define their character or personality.

FoxnEagle · Answer

Yes Politics, big name singers/actors, and "social influencers" I will not even consider.

MotorcycleMan · Answer

Sure, if they were something evil like someone who steals old ladies pensions or human trafficking of children or a used car salesman.

Anonymous · Answer

I would avoid a guy who makes money from engaging in sexual activities with others, or by selling drugs. Otherwise I would not just reject dating a guy solely based on his job, or lack of job.

HawkPerception · Answer

The only jobs I'd avoid in a partner are sex work and governent jobs like police or military.

MTC29 · Answer

We all have to earn a living. Unless their job involves doing something illegal, I'm not concerned.

Adam1978 · Answer

Yes because some jobs you simply don't do, if you got good values.

BLMUSER · Answer

I would reject a date if she is a sex worker, far-left liberal, or transgender. There is nothing wrong with these professions, political beliefs, or gender. I would be their friends but not on an intimate basis. It's just my preference.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, attraction is the basis of dating and financial stability is the basis of marriage. But of course, if I am earning little, I won't be rejecting guys who earn the same wage. I don't mind if a guy doesn't want me because of my looks/background if they are actually way out of my league. I know I am not good enough.

Lionman95 · Answer

Yes depends on what she does. I wouldn´t date a porn star or stripper for example.

BCA6010 · Answer

Yes, but the list of what falls into that category is pretty small, and mostly illegal.

rosemilk · Answer

I never thought twice about someone else's job, as long as they have one 🌸

rievious · Answer

No. But the do need to have a job. I want someone who can help me when I'm down. Not a freeloader. It doesn't matter what they do as long as it's something or they're trying.

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

To an extent yes. If she does only fans, is a cam girl, or an adult film actress then I'm going to reject it

pleasestopthis · Answer

Yes, I don't want to date someone who's a sex worker or someone who does illegal stuff. Among some other things

Browneye57 · Answer

Sure. Not even them.  I dumped a girl cuz her name was smith and her dad was a janitor. :) It was going no place.

Jenngirl00 · Answer

On a job no, because that job could have a different meaning of to them, then it would to me. I would like them to have the same goals though

es20490446e · Answer

Only if they do something they dislike, or nothing at all.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Eh... no, but certain jobs definitely reflect badly.

Anonymous · Answer

Not unless she's a sex worker no. Even then I might be ok with her dancing or modeling or something. But I wouldn't be comfortable with her sleeping with other guys whether for porn of prostitution.

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