She likes the attention but thinks she can do better. It’s more of a trial run to prepare herself for someone she’s actually interested in.
I saw that you commented something about the guy chasing the girl? I don’t think any chasing should be involved. Games are a red flag and won’t land you in a healthy relationship. It should be equal interest. Otherwise, a toxic relationship is just around the corner and by chasing her, you’re falling into the trap. People want what they cannot have, not someone who is readily available. You need to have hobbies and other things that take up your time; friends, family, activities. Don’t be too pushy because all that does is push people away.
The funny thing about life is when you stop looking for someone to date, they will find you. This is due to the relaxed nature and energy that you give off. Desperation is easy to catch onto.
I’ve honestly always disliked dating apps for this reason. It’s hard to read people’s intentions. Meeting someone in person and hitting it off is going to be a much more reliable way of forming a relationship with no prior expectations or disappointments.
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Even if the girl just comes back and forth it doesn't mean that she will be comfortable to go on an actual date with someone they just met online. They agree because many times men just cling to them or keep on repeating the same thing again and again. They just intend to go snd dates and fuck. But first deep conversations are important. If a guy will be her friend first and would understand her, her situations that maybe it's her first time in dating and all, will respect her boundary and will accordingly give her time to decide she really wants to meet the person then she will certainly agree to come over a date and will actually show up. Some girls initiate chatting with men who can be their potential dates but maybe they don't find something reliable in the person and so they never show up on dates.
They’ll all meet a guy they’re attracted to. If they don’t meet you it’s just that they weren’t attracted to you and just wanted your attention.
What you have to figure out is how to gauge a girl’s interest. Chat for a little bit and get her number, then set the date up that week or the next. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again - you move too slow.
Girl doesn’t wanna move that fast? Next.
Women can also sense your energy regardless of how you try to act. You try to come off as non-needy by not texting every day but when you constantly try to get the girl on a date even after she’s refused one you signal desperation anyway. When your default response to a girl rejecting your number, a date, or standing you up is to lose interest and move on. m, that also will change your energy.
It can be a mix of things.
they did a pretty good survey here a while back.
first big one was the red flag or concerns that the guy sent out as his nature changed from just chatting etc to actually dating, a lot got too intense and personal. One girl said it went from chatting to trying to find out where they lived, worked and other really personal stuff.
the type of stuff you don’t share even if dating until you trust them.
another was just basically that move from social media interaction to real world, a lot (both sexes) said this was often suddenly a cliff edge.
I know I’ve had various responses, yeah odd did not show, but it happens, it’s also worth if think being catfishes just report to tinder etc.
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A lot of women are attention whores with serious self - esteem issues. They may be only for example be a 5 or 6, A cup, thighs that touch, weight issues, but they lie to themselves, and convince themselves they’re a 10. But, they know they’re not, and string guys a long just long enough to get enough self esteem from the guys compliments to go after the guy she really wants.
Other factors to consider, she dates all these corporate management types, so she can manipulate them into taking her on expensive vacations, and to pricey restaurants, and musicals. Then she complains to intellectual guys that the corporate schmucks bore her to death, and she wishes her corporate boyfriend was as intellectual as you. But, no matter how much she complains about what a moron he is, she’s a gold digging bitch who will never leave that life no matter how bored she is.Since the advent of the smartphone and dating apps, we've entered into something called the "attention economy" where women are the beneficiaries of it. They're given so much attention that they don't know what to do with it all so they string guys along until things start to get real and they have to make grown up decisions. They end up deciding to cut bait and move on to the next in line of guys who'll gladly give them attention to boost their ego. They literally don't have to do anything but exist and that's more than enough for a lot of guys.
They're not serious about you. They just like the attention. You wanting to message or wanting a date, gives them an ego boost. They get the boost and then bail. Some get the boost without the date, some get the boost by going on the date. If she's doing this, she's not that interested.
I scrolled past a guy on bumble and his profile said, "Update: if you're going to not show up, please don't make plans and then unmatch with me right before the date." Or something like that.
I thought it was odd but I guess it happens enough that someone would update with that. Pretty crummy if you ask me. If I'm not ready to meet up, I'll say so.
I'm sorry that I can't assist you in understanding to why this happens.if you are looking for a serious and healthy relationship, just don't go on apps. the probability of finding someone you really like, having luck with the algorithm and not to any mistake in order to lose trust in other person's eyes is just too big.
online dating is a rule of numbers. going to a casual event is a rule of allowing other person more freedom and opportunity to know you. and is far better in my opinion.I only do this when I'm actually being serious about dating. I'm currently waiting for someone and that someone is waiting for me. It'll start off as long distance, but hopefully it'll work out when we are able to see each other.
Maybe I could go on a dating app when I turn 18 and agree to date other guys so I can have more dating experience. If the relationship lasts for more than two years, I'll be damned.Because nomatter who you are, unless you're a celebrity or some shit, 90% of women are not going to want you.
That's why you have to go on many dates and find one you like who likes you back.
Dont waste your time. Girls will use you for a free dinner.
That's why you have to be brutal and honest and extremely picky. Because they are too.
You can't feel bad cuz girls flake. They do that to every guy. But, not all will.Because we’re bored and we like the attention.
PS I don’t do this anymore. I used to be childish and now I’m a high value woman so please don’t come for me lol. I’m just being honest. You asked I answer.Because trust issues. I get a thousand “date” offers from men online whom and how tf am I supposed to pick or trust any lol? Not to mention the amount of men who text me like im their slut; ill pay u and we will fuck like uh no tf we are not doing that. Then I question every guy and i need time to decide.
I don’t know to be honest, there’s some guys like that out there too. But I think maybe some are looking to hookup or maybe are just bored looking for new people to talk to. I honestly just don’t know, but I always wondered if you’re using a dating app then why aren’t you going on dates? Or why are you in a relationship and on a dating app? Cause there’s plenty of people like that too.
They are satisfied by texting attention. Its safe easy and there are unlimited men standing in line. Thats all they need to be happy. They lay in bed at their parents house and watch netflix and text all damn day. Pretty sad.
Im not gonna lie, normally I get on when am very bored and just looking to text back to back. BUT once I see that they have an intention of "meeting" I let them know and just stop responding.
Besides all of that, I don't do online dating anymore. Those meets can be very awkward.Because either it's the ego or they just don't want to go on a date with you and don't want to tell you to hurt your feelings, which is definitely bad as well and she can't come out and tell you. Consider that a good thing
Why'd you even trust an online dating site to begin with?
You're wasting your time, dude.Attention I guess, or got a better offer maybe. But yeah I’m probably 1 out of 4 or 5 planned dates actually going through with it
Some of them are in relationships and are just on these apps for affirmation.
Your assuming things you couldn't possibly know. It says more about you than women
What was the red flag? That she didn't had a date for over 3 years? I ve been also single for over 2 years 😒
Sadly a lot of women online want validation. This often means they want fans. even on dating apps and sites they don't want to date.. they want you to fawn over them.
We don't want to waste our time, we're not in a rush like you guys are, it's a way to determine if you're worth it
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