Why does it seem vast majority of men are low quality nowadays?

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You see situationships, men who sleep around, men who require you to "put out" by a certain date, guys who are "touchy" on first dated, men who never want to call you his wife even though you are doing all his work washing his underwear, cooking his lunchboxes, raising his kids, paying his bills, guys who go online dating looking for a relationship and complain they can't find a woman YET, they ghost, stand you up. Guys with amazing personalities but have no respect for a woman, 30 yr old guys who never want to settle down until their 60s. The rare good men with decent character usually lack personality.

The list just goes on... it makes me feel like I am forced to either stay single or settle for a low quality bad man.

Men today are a far cry from the gentlemen they used to be.

Lionman95 · Accepted Answer

First of all when people look back in time they idealise the past. Guys back in the day had certain character traits many guys today don´t have but none the less they were not the ideal guy many people portray them as today.
The reason it seems many guys are low quality is because some are and they are more talked about than the good ones. The guys that are good to date are taken for granted and they are therefore easily forgotten. The guys are seen as extremely bad at the same time are more often talked about either on social media, or they are portrayed in sitcoms and movies. So the picture people have of guys are more likely bad than good.
I think there are many reasons why guys turn out bad for dating but one of them is that parents, churches, social clubs etc. take for granted that boys turn into father figures once they are old enough. But that´s often not the case. The problem is that in history boys were faced with the necessity to mature early. Like guys often had to start the family at 18-20. That´s nowadays in the West nowadays time where people try to figure out who they are either by fly around the world or working some low paid job to get know the business but it´s rarely a time where people start a family and get into responsibility.
But since there are so many comforts boys grow up into manchildren meaning they are a child at heart by they are 25/30 of age without much of a problem since they can get food delivered work a lower job and get through life, too.
The issue is that many guys are not taught by their parents how to be responsible for life since the parents handled all their youth or they had someone else do that.

Friendlybro79 · Accepted Answer

I think it looks like that to you because you're unconsciously decided most men are like this based on your anecdotal experiences. There a women also like as you describe but that doesn't mean the vast majority are.

Based on your age, and the fact that young adults nowadays have a harder time being financially capable to an adult life (not to their fault alone) until way later than past generations, it might lead to possibly less likelihood of feeling a need to settle down until they are older.

virtualwasp · Accepted Answer

not true, everyone is different and depending on when and how you see them. sometimes a challenging day can turn anyone into a wally or ass, doesn't mean a guy is low quailty. Maybe they dont match your morals and ambition but you only need one guy in your life.

LazerBean · Accepted Answer

Because many are low quality. Most women are not any better, though. Such things are irrelevant though, since good men and women have no trouble finding eachother.

RavVid · Answer

It goes both ways. Girls aren't happy with guys. Guys aren't happy with girls.

With 80% of marriages being unilaterally terminated by the wife after 8 years, any sensible man will not marry and will avoid impregnating a woman.

Marriage for life was the compromise point between guys and girls but that is dead so on a societal basis guys and girls don't work any more. We just have to accept the family is long dead.

Oh one of the compromises was that men were gentlemen and women were ladies. That's dead as well.

Finchie40 · Answer

Because most females are low quality as well these days , I feel social media played a big part on damaging the foundations of
Relationships these days , most people today don’t value each other , they just like the convenience of each other , When things don’t go their way they run to someone else thinking that person is going to save them or some shit. Most people today have a hard time admitting they are wrong , they always assume they are right

Billlewis · Answer

Well, for one thing, there aren't as many good jobs as there used to, so there are fewer guys who have money. Aside from that, I think it's just a case of women having the upper hand, and the luxury of being much more selective than they could be before. I don't mind being turned down as a partner for intimacy, as long as she'll let me serve her in some other capacity.

Joshydavid25 · Answer

Wouldn't say the vast majority are low value.. But it's because society is not cultivating men like they are women.. Masculinity is all but being said to have wanted to be extinct, while at the same time being praised in certain individuals.. People talk all types of sh! t about men, even if they aren't sh! t.. And men are not only not appreciated, but looked down upon even by other men.. The amount of men never told to be the best they can be nowadays is astounding.. Even me..

DextroShade · Answer

This the world feminism has created, these men aren't gentlemen because you females aren't ladies. Most of you are entitled, narcissistic whores who think they are better than the men you qualify for just because a high end guy fucked you once. No guy wants to be the flower cuck in the line of naked dudes.

Anonymous · Answer

Porn? Dating can involve a wide range of behaviors and challenges, from mixed signals to ghosting. It's important to maintain your standards and boundaries while seeking a partner who values and respects you. While challenges exist, there are individuals with both good character and engaging personalities to be found with patience and open-mindedness.

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

The dating pool needs chlorine. I can assure you the average caliber of women isn't all that extraordinary either.

BarryLiverstone · Answer

One reason is the traditional dating and courtship rules have fallen away. You know you used to go on a date and not even kiss. That meant both people took their time to get to know and rely on each other.

jimmy2 · Answer

When Dad left the home and never returned, mom was left to work 2or 3 jobs. Little Jane mom taught how to love her man. Little Johnny was left out in the cold. Now little Johnnys have grown into men and don't know how to love a woman.

If looking for a loving man you have 2 choices
One teach your man how to love you or get with a okder man who was taught by dad

OfMiceandMen · Answer

Men today are a far cry from the gentlemen they used to be..

YAsQuen · Answer

Feminism has feminized men and masculinized women. We are that far gone that we dont even realize that.

Anyways this has created a generation of low T males hence they have no drive to accomplish and are butt ugly. The only ones (most) not feminized men are those from the fringes of society (criminal adjacent).

So you get Simps 33%

Doomers (boys that have realized but are to low t to fight) 45%

Players 10 %

And decent men

Choose wisely modern women

Truthatanycost · Answer

'The rare good men with decent character usually lack personality. ' What do you mean by lack character?

Anonymous · Answer

That's easy. You're a negative person. You CHOOSE the worst men and then decide to label on men when it doesn't work out. This is a YOU problem. And it's up to you whether you want to fix it, or remain negative. Good luck!👍

Anonymous · Answer

If I could vote this a thousand times I would. You're speaking the truth and it sucks. I had an ex proclaim he cared about me for a while and then just out of the blue, he leaves me.

zagor · Answer

And the same goes for women. Take off your blinders - you probably don't notice as presumably you aren't dating women, but the pool there looks pretty dismal as well.

genericname85 · Answer

asking the same question in different words: why is your expectation in men higher than what the vast majority of men can deliver?

Anonymous · Answer

If you can't find a guy, you either have unreasonable standards, or you're a toxic person so you attract toxic men.

Anonymous · Answer

They aren't. Men are what they always were. Get over it. You asshole. You aren't perfect!

jahaims · Answer

Most people are low quality. Societal and cultural values have changed

Twalli · Answer

All the good men are taken, and we don't have problems so you don't hear about it.

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