Are white girls ok with being approached by random handsome black guys?

[Anonymous]

I'm a black guy that prefers tiny women. There's not much of that in the black race but there seems to be no shortage of them on the white side. Obviously some will by racist but what I wanna find out is if it's the majority that are like that or are they open to any proper manly man?

[FriendlyDrugDealer]

Some do like it. They probably prefer a more smooth approach while some like a direct approach.


Just be smooth to be safe in my opinion, worked for me

[Asker]

My style is more smooth and suave. I've never been into doing the whole ignant nigga thing. Also I'm not attracted to women whomresoond to that either.

[FriendlyDrugDealer]

Perfect! You’re gonna succeed with ease then bro

[NotARobberYet]

Lol at the insecure black boy.

"it's the majority that are like that or are they open to any proper manly man?"

LOL!!! Do you think you're "manlier" than men of other races as it's subtle in what you said? Why are you struggling to get female attention then?

Hate to say this, but if you can't get a white girl, you can get nothing... They're the sluttiest women out there. Easier than them, only actual prostitutes. 😆

[Asker]

You're definitely a Black female. Anyways this space is intended for raw unfiltered honesty and no judgement. If u think my question is stupid then that's ur problem. Also I never suggested that I was manlier than any other "race" of men, it was merely to point out the attributes females typically respond well to.

[iseekpinetrees]

Yea id be fine with it but I'd turn you down if you offered something. Black guys aren't what I'm into now a days sexually. But anyone can be a friend.

[kyleelyn199723]

I’ve dated someone Dominican before and he looked black. As of right now I would have an issue with it only because I have a boyfriend

[SamA_nold]

I wouldn't mind 🤷If someone approaches me, and I turn them down, race isn't ever really a factor for me. It's more if they're rude, disrespectful, or just not attractive to me

[hannahjo022]

I am white and I've been approached by handsome black guys and they ended up being good friends of mine.

[Asker]

U're brutal

[hannahjo022]

how? cuz I don't date them?

[Asker]

To me my room that in a thread like this. Now I'm gonna think that's what every white girl's gonna do.

[JosyJosy]

I don't care who you are as long as you're a decent human being

[anylolone]

Depending on how handsome, you might not need to approach.

[Asker]

From my experience, beautiful women NEVER approach. The only women who will approach u as a man are women u wouldn't ever be interested in. I get approached quite often for a guy and it's never an attractive woman.

[anylolone]

Are you sure?
Maybe you aren't that handsome.

[Asker]

Good point. I don't know why people keep saying I am though. Got me all fucked up.

[anylolone]

Or you are clueless and have the "I'll approach" vibe.

Women rarely compliment a guy on his appearance.

Also might be that you are pickier than you can afford.

[Asker]

I get compliments galore but what do u mean by "I'll approach" vibe? Also I don't understand how picky came in there. Explain.

[anylolone]

Those are theories to why you don't think hot women will approach you.

One is that you might be a bit clueless over how women approach and display interest and/or you behave in a way that shows you'll approach regardless.

And the picky part is another theory.

[Asker]

Practically every guy I've ever known agrees that women don't approach men. For various reasons such as they lack the confidence, they get stuck I'm their heads, fear of rejection or just the general entitlement of the belief that it's a man's job to approach the woman and if she does it then it's a sign of desperation. I've personally spoken to many women who have that exact opinion that women who approach men are desperate.

[anylolone]

Practically any guy I know have the "I'll approach vibe" and are clueless about women's body signs of interest because they expect what they themselves don't do, because women or other men told them to.

[Asker]

That's quite intriguing. Please do tell what those signs of interests are?

[anylolone]

What are your signs that you are interested?
What are your friends?

Empathy is frequently a great tool.

[Asker]

What do u mean by empathy?

[anylolone]

As in, extrapolating from your experiences into other people's experiences.
IE, imagining yourself in their foot.

[anylolone]

Try this, go out, dress to accentuate your qualities (be as much of an eye candy as possible), and try to make friends, but don't hit on anyone but be friendly to everyone.

Then you tell me how it went. It's not likely that you are going to be approached (assuming you are giving the wrong signals) right now, but you might pick up some clues.

[Asker]

Your explanation of extrapolation accurately describes who I've become funny enough I had far more success with women back when I was an arrogant ass incapable of seeing past my own nose. Like I said before it isn't getting women's interest that is my issue. I'm quite the eye candy as it is right now and it's due to exactly what u said, wear clothes that accentuates ur features. I'm just saying the really attractive women don't approach. But I will humble my ass and actually try what u said because going out and being friendly with everyone isn't something I do because where I'm from it's soon as being goofy. However I'm no longer living where I'm from so maybe that mindset needs to go. I've never been taught how to socialize and "make friends", I've always just winged it withe the little observational knowledge I have. I'll ask a stupid question if u bare with me, I've never approached anyone and introduced myself except for women I approach, as a matter of fact I'm the only guy I know that has success with women outside of our social circle. How would u suggest I innitiate those conversations?

[anylolone]

Find something in common, listen in to conversations to gauge people's interests, clothing also says a lot.

You know when you'd want to jump in but don't because you might see it as weird, rude, or are afraid of rejection? Well, just jump in and talk about what you'd wanna talk, or maybe inform something that you might think they might wanna know, etc. Just like you do with girls for courtship purposes.
Also, being attractive will help you with that, interestingly enough.

And it makes sense that it would be hard for you, given what you said, you seem to come from a clique oriented culture.

[Asker]

Well there u go, u solved it. I'm projecting my lived experience into situations that may not apply, therefore possibly depriving myself of valuable opportunities.
Also I really do believe it may all be in my head because people have been pointing out to me in recent years that I get treated differently than most other people wherever I go. So maybe I really have been holding myself back.
I'll take on the challenge and try your advice for a week and see how it goes. I have nothing to loose and the world to gain.

[anylolone]

Also, just a question, are you nordic? The nords have a big clique culture. (technically so do the french, there's a big difference between the french and italians in that aspect, lol.)

[Asker]

Are there any Black Nordic people?

[anylolone]

If they move to the nordic countries and adopt the culture, yes.
Not many, and bound to continue to be not many, but there are some.

[NorthAfrican]

I'm not white but I think this is a troll question

[Asker]

Stop!!! Just stop. This is a space for raw honesty and nonjudgement.