Would you prefer a mate who doesn't use social media?

Question

Some people think social media puts them at a disadvantage in the dating world by making them easy to find, contact, and figure out more about - losing mystery. Other people believe that for that same reason, it puts them at an advantage in the dating world - making it easier for things to initialize.

I know personally for me, I prefer men who don't use social media and I am starting to wonder if people who don't have/use social media too often are taken more seriously. What do you all think?

NyceGuyFinishingLast · Accepted Answer

Yes, I would love to find someone that doesn't have their phone glued to their face 24/7. I mean that is all you see are people eating at a restaurant and instead of talking to each other they have their phones in their faces. Driving, phones glued to their faces. Sitting in a movie theater, phones glued to their faces.

I mean my last girlfriend would ask me to watch stuff with her and as we are sitting on the couch she is constantly browsing Facebook or Instagram. I mean why not pay attention to the TV where the show is playing. I hate missing anything from the show or movie. If I have to use the bathroom I have to pause it so that I don't miss anything.

I have no social media account of any kind. I used to but when I deleted them all. I have never felt more free. I actually get to see life happening instead of trying to live through a post or picture.

I would love to find someone that pays attention to me and not what her friends are for dinner.

NathanDavis · Accepted Answer

First, I don't have any social media myself, I just don't use them.

But I wouldn't mind if my partner has social medias, that's their choice if they wish to, so be it.

What I'd prefer though, is that they were not so obsessive about it, and so constantly involved and invested on them, I'd prefer they use them and have them because it is fun and useful, entertaining for them... reasons that are positive and not a drag, the less drama the better.

MzAsh · Accepted Answer

I don’t mind as long as it’s not a ridiculous amount and it impeded on our relationship.

The only guy I dated who had anything to say about my social media use was threatened by the attention I received from other men. And he eventually admitted that too. Needless to say, we’re not together anymore and I found someone who is fine with the way I use social media.

kidvid80 · Accepted Answer

far to much drama which has made the general public/population just as confrontational and dramatic. where anything you say can be taken outta context and spun to fit someone elses toxic behavior and needs.

i dont use it, won't use it, prefer a mate no to unless its absolutely a must have for like outta town friends- family- kids etc

Youryeodongsaeng · Answer

I don't use social media like that. I'll only go on Instagram to look at posts for 3-5 minutes then get off of it.

I rarely use Facebook - only for when I'm looking for jobs and to post videos of me playing VR games.

I'd want a lover who isn't on social media like that, but at the same time, it shouldn't be any of my business what they do on there. It's their phone. They pay their own phone bill. I'm not going to tell them off and they're not going to tell me off for being a weird little shit.

MTC29 · Answer

Where is this woman of which you speak? I have a Facebook account which I use to follow my sister and my niece and nephew. For my sister, posting photos on FB is a huge time saver when compared to emailing them individually. As for me, I want nothing to do with social media.

ElvenMr · Answer

What if i match with someone on tinder, but i don't really use instagram and i want to move the convo off of tinder.. So i have no followers for example and just a few posts. I prefer to use it passively (like looking at stuff i'm interested in) and for chats only. I don't want to share my life on instagram at all.
Would she think i'm not worth it or i'm fake or something, when she sees my instagram profile?

JSmuve · Answer

Most women prefer a guy who has social media because their lives revolve around it and it makes it easier to vet guys and find guys to cheat with. I, personally, prefer a woman who doesn't have social media because it shows me her life revolves around something more than superficial pursuits and that she's more likely to be a better candidate for a healthy, successful relationship.

crazy8000 · Answer

I'm after someone that live their lives in real life. plan their online time around their real life in real life.
Someone that aren't an electronics addict like majority of people in western society.
Some that are present not artificial presence.

With other words someone that are real.

NoLookingAtSoleil · Answer

Most certainly.
Most of what gets published there is either fake or gets misconstrued.
We expect someone reasonable to be the audience, but 90% of social media puppet masters are crooks and downright criminals.
So why let them know about your life? (Think of it as the bronx guys being your secret followers, or Iranians, or the North Koreans, or local Taliban sympathisers).

TheUniqueOne96 · Answer

I would prefer a mate who has social media but is discreet/reserved on it (doesn't share too much life detail/doesn't use it too much).

I myself only use social media to watch videos, lol and I've never posted a picture of myself on there.

JackSmy · Answer

OMG, yes!! No social media, no ideas for the scammers trying to steal identities!! But also, the ones I like, are shy types, and very private, super-smart ones, that never post on social media!

MCheetah · Answer

I would much prefer that! And it's interesting how all the women said they want a guy who is on social media, but reserved on it. Meaning women value social media a lot more than men do.

Tiptoetamm · Answer

I don't care either way most people have social medial so I can't exspect him not to have something on social media. I do

Leavesbound · Answer

Social media has it's place but if you constantly have your phone out so much that it disrupts your life then I don't want to be with you.

weysally · Answer

my husband only use a lap top for business, he says social media is rubbish,

Dontaaa · Answer

I can't help but to think about the irony in all of this. Y'all do realize this website IS social media, right?

Anonymous · Answer

I voted B and my partner is actually a B, he has social media, but uses it rarely, i don't like to put everythin on there it's stupid to me, and luckily to him as well

Alyssa11 · Answer

I don't care about social media, as long as it's a *healthy* relationship.

TheFlak38 · Answer

Good luck finding a woman who doesn't use social media. That's one of the most important things in a woman's life today. It's basically a buffet of dicks for her to choose from.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Using it is fine, believing EVERY WORD IT SAYS is just plain STUPID!!

Goatmeal · Answer

I guess. Just because I personally find social media empty and alienating and socially competitive - which I don't like.

Shihab91 · Answer

I just have Facebook and barely use it. But i don't mind of she does use social media unless she is addicted 🙂

JesseJayNeak · Answer

Social medias break mind. Better not having it or having a discrete profile

COMMODOREII · Answer

You wouldn't date a guy using gag?

HiveBee · Answer

Social media is poison.

Kudos4U · Answer

Ahem! Yes Thank you that's my time

Iron_Man · Answer

She really doesn’t need it

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