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At 22 it's kind of silly to feel you're over the hill. People are just getting out of college at that age.
I hope you are doing something with your life as regards career, friends, other goals, while you are waiting to find a special someone.
Just keep getting out there and keep positive - depression is not an attractive attribute.
Keep trying. Try to be just friends with any boys that want to hang out
i truly do, but most of them don't try to be friends first, they dive in the relationship part and when i refuse demanding that we should be friends and get to know each other first they act so insulted and they start treating me horribly.
That is very immature of them. At least you are trying. Don't give up.
Go to GaG and read all the male opinions for different questions. You will be happy to know that you're single
you made me laugh 😂😂
LOL it's the only thing that makes me relieved to be single
Judge guys not by their words, but by their actions.
100% , love your icon.
Aww, thanks :)
Well we were not meant to be alone. Look at movies like vast away. Tom Hanks made a friend out of a beach ball. So what you ate going through is natural. However use this dingle time to find everything out about yourself. Date yourself in other words. Show yourself the way you want to be treated. That way when man comes into your life and treats you like that you don't instantly fall for him you vet him then deduce if he is right for you. You are never too old for love.
I’m very similar to you, my first real relationship was only 4 months long and I was 21, I have just been trying out dating apps but always get cold feet 2 days in, I suppose all we can do is let time pass and keep our minds occupied but you could always express yourself anonymously on apps like this and it might help
I've seen a lots of girl looking for their knight in shining armor with a long list of how their partner should be. I've seen girls ruin their current relationship with this and regret later.
Get out of your fantasy. Love like fairy tale doesn't exist. Give people chances. And you may or may not find love
You’re not even close to being too old. I have yet to meet a woman in today’s day of age that cannot find a man. Nonetheless, you have to love yourself first. Go on a dating website. I don’t think it’s possible for a woman to not get any guys sending a message. It’s summertime too. Go to the beach. Their are myriad activities you can do.
Hello there !! As an incel i used the blackpilled knowledge of being ugly and unattractive to stop caring about relationships with the opposite sex.
This took away all my depression , my anxiety , my unfulfillingness, my unmotivation... everything.
The '' need '' dor a partrner is just a state of the mind that u can manipulate...
Don't beat yourself up if you can't find a relationship. Telling yourself you're not going to find that kind of relationship only makes it turn out that way.
As a fellow introvert, my initial advice to you is see if you can get your friends to play wingman for you -- introductions are the hardest part for people like us. Chances are they can introduce you to someone, or perhaps tip someone off to your interest and get the ball rolling that way.
It's not much, but I hope this helps!
but it's so awkward to me being set up like that, i want it to happen naturally not through a set up. but yeah good advice thank you.
Overcome your shyness & stop being picky.
Also do some self reflection e. g. what type of guys do I attract that I don't like, why am I attracting them, how do I attract the one's I like that are my type, are my standards realistic.
Also get into fun hobbies and stuff where there's was to interact with people.
These are the things I personally had to reflect on to prevent feeling lonely (Obviously switch the gender in my case), hope this helps.
You have a bit of a conundrum there. It sounds like you are lonely and sad but on the other hand no one can meet your standards so you remain lonely and sad. Even worse, when you do try to find someone to be with as I suspect that you find things wrong with that person that make them unsuitable. I think you need some professional help to be quite honest and I don't mean that in a nasty way.
I'm just curious. What even are your standards? Because if you're what you think is an average girl who doesn't get any love, maybe it's because you tend to go for guys who are like bad guys while there are guys who are just as lonely as you you haven't given a chance yet.
Girl it's like I was reading my own life story considering I am same age
haha glad to know i'm not the only one struggling with this. but i hope we both can find our person one day.
I have anxiety too. And I can very much relate to this. It is very hard to put yourself out there. Do you find dating sites to be less intimidating? I feel very lucky I met my husband when I did and that he made moves on me.
22 is very, very young... That's hard to see when you are 22. It's important to learn how to love yourself and enjoy your own company. Otherwise, you will suffer horribly in e relationship because you will be constantly seeking from your partner. This will open the door to mistreatment and abuse. Prayer, meditation and exercise... also volunteering to help others will fortify your inner self so that you will be ready for a truly healthy and loving relationship.
1. Do not lower standards!
2. Only accept who YOU want and don’t worry about who wants you.
3. You are not old, and your time will come.
4. Dating and chat apps are your friend.
I didn’t lose my virginity till I was 23. I've still never been in a relationship. My advice would be if a guy you find attractive ask you out just go on a date with him regardless of how similar your personalities are, just cause you go on a date with him doesn’t mean you have to be his girlfriend
You’re not the only one. I’m 24 and have only been on one date with a girl. I know how it feels to know everyone around you is getting some, it sucks. My best friend and his wife are about to have a kid. You’re not too old, old is like being in your 40s. Best of luck and if you ever want to talk we can.
Cliche as it sounds. Work
on yourself and make your life all while having fun with friends/family and perhaps some dates.
I established my home, my career, traveled, purchased what I wanted, went out when I felt like it. All while having fun with my Family and Friends. Yes, I dated but it never stopped me from taking care of number one. Myself :)