How to get boyfriend to stop calling me racial slurs?

[Anonymous]

It makes me uncomfortable but i don’t know how to tell them.

I’m blasian and they keep referring to me as ch*ng ch*ng n*g3r (I abbreviated cause I don’t feel comfortable saying the words cause they’re harmful)

How do I get my boyfriend to stop and educate them?

[ohshee]

There's only one way tell him to fuck off and die you know as well as I do this relationship is not going to last anyway he's a fucking prick you honestly want or allow somebody to take Olivia to call you that come on think about it to treat you this way right now just what's going to happen later the whole relationship is not going to work and tell you that right now and before any other bullshit starts you need to get out of it now I can see it happening right in front of me. But you are better than this don't allow this in your life don't allow people like him in your life

[Grubhub]

All white men are the same. She should just date a man of color if she’s sick of racist people

[ohshee]

Well I believe I'm even more sick of racist people and she should just date whoever she wants to date it doesn't matter the color

[anylolone]

Look, my first girlfriend called "my n**" all the time, I was a few shades lighter than most people would consider brown and she was herself brown.
Another linked me to edward and vampires, which I thought was way worst.
Just don't care, make a joke back.

Is he white? Call him my "white trash for this trash panda", "my hillbilly cracker", "my cotton-eye-joe", you think something creative or just funny.
Is he black? Call him "my lump of coal for this bad girl", "my nagging n**", anything funny and witty.

[PeacefulRainDrop]

Well he has no respect.. dump him. Anyone who called me that would become a stranger pretty quickly! Dont have patience for that type of bullshit! You deserve better! He should know better by his age he's just a poor excuse for a man! Dump him find a man that calls you like the beauty you are!

[Sarahr123]

Is he White?

I dunno tbf other than leaving a racist there is nothing that can be done. You can’t change a racist.

Are you East/SouthEast (Mongolian Asian) and Black or Central/South (Persian/Indian Asian)? because it is not made clear.

[FunkyMonkee]

1. Who is "them"? I thought we were talking about a him.
2. Kick him in the nuts every time he does it! He'll learn REAL fast!
3. Why would you want to be with such a flaming asshole? Chances are, no matter how many times you play testicle hockey, it's not gonna change him in the long run.
4. Words can only hurt you if YOU give them to power to hurt you!

[Asker]

Sorry about the confusion, English isn’t my first language so my Grammars not the best.

[FunkyMonkee]

Oh! Okay. No big fat hairy deal. Sometimes, I forget this is an international site. Other than that, you're doing very well with your English!! Most American's can't get it right!
Oops! And, that SHOULD'VE been, "testicle soccer", not hockey!!

[Miah02]

Dump his punk ass rn.
Very few things that are completely unacceptable but to be completely racist to a person is unacceptable, and even worse to someone you are dating.

You deserve better find someone who doesn't mock you for being a certain race.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

You want be with him but at the same time, he is saying these hurtful things to you that just makes no sense, I would not be with a girl, who called me Honky that is a disgrace so you need to think this one over with this guy and this guy is being racist to you I'm sorry you deserve better

[Grubhub]

Is he white? That’s what happens when you get involved with a white man and I believe non white women who date white men become topic to society. A woman will more likely become prejudice around black men if all she dates is white men because white people spread hate. They’ve been doing so since slavery. If you read the Bible why is white good and darkness bad? Because a white man wrote the Bible

[kyleelyn199723]

If he doesn’t respect that it bothers you, then he doesn’t respect you.

[Anonymous]

Next time he does it, punch him in the face, tell him as aggressively as possible to “F*** Off!” and then go home (or if you live with him, go to a friend or family member’s place) and then wait until he contacts you back to see where to go from there.

[FilmGuy93]

Why the hell are you dating someone who feel comfortable calling you stuff like that?

[007kingifrit]

you use the word educated incorrectly. education cannot change someone's views. it can only teach facts

he knows the facts. there is nothing to teach him

you're just going to have to break up it seems

[Synikal]

This is just as stupid as the idea to date someone who calls you this. He will call your kids and fam the same shit because you allow it. You accept the toxicity that he is blatantly displaying to you.

[Diversity_Hire]

Have you voiced it to him before? If you don't like it, he needs to stop; while one might think it obvious not to use that language, maybe he's not all that bright.

[Surely]

Tell him that this blank blank girl will find someone that will respect her for being a loving woman.
What he is doing isn’t respect!

[Anonymous]

Tell him to never use those words again. If he doesn't respect your wishes he needs to find a new girlfriend.

[AdithyaR]

Why are you even with him? He sounds extremely racist. Surely you can find someone better. Dump him.

[Anonymous]

Just tell him directly that it’s very rude to you and makes you feel uncomfortable even though that he is joking around

[Asker]

He says it as a pet name, which doesn’t make sense to me because it’s not romantic

[Opinion Owner]

Just tell him you don’t like it, maybe call him something he wouldn’t like if he doesn’t get it

[PeacefulRainDrop]

Tell him to get a new pet! Thats outrageous! Im sorry im not closer to tell that asshole off for you! Thats not loving, kind, sweet, funny thats hatred... im sorry sweetie but I dont believe he loves you if he did hed apologize for upsetting you not try and convince you its a pet name! he's a poor excuse for a man! Your better off alone than with him! Just trust me on this and please break up with him! You have nothing to prove or educate to him he's not worth your time or energy... he's probably the type who won't let you go easy.. so change your phone number.. if he comes to your place bangs on your door let him bang turn up music so you can't hear him.. leave dont ever consider him again.. you obviously love him or the idea of him but from what I have read he doesn't feel the same.. so leave him and love yourself more.. take yourself to the spa day hair, nails, with a massage you dont need a man to spoil you! Spoil yourself and get rid of that jerk! Please! Trust that someone better will come along and cherish you the way you deserve!!

[Anonymous]

You can get counseling on how to deal with this instead of trying to change him.

[slatyb]

Who is doing this? And where?

[Overmind]

Leave him & show him you have other options.

[DarcRefractions]

if he dont what u gonna do about it lol

[legalboxers]

Step one. LEAVE HIM... Plain and simple.

[msc545]

you need a new boyfriend.

[Drumlin2001]

Just leave him.

[bananastandbae]

Dump him wtf

[Dinosaursandanime65]

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