Listen. There is no point in dating. And I could tell you this as somebody who never did, and at the seam in hearing what everybody's going through on this site and everywhere else, I wouldn't. Why? Because a lot of people don't understand what relationship is about and they don't want to get married, and a lot of people don't understand what marriage is, and this is the old big mess. You got to ask yourself why you putting your hope in men when you just need to be having your hope in Jesus? And in God. That is where your focus needs to be. The key here is knowing who you are, what kind of woman you want to be, understanding the decisions you made, and why you're attracting those kind of people. You keep going out to strangers instead of building relationships with other people. It is simply the basics of socialisation that you've learned when you were a child. If you was not socialize much, you going to struggle with the same socialisation problems when you're older. If you didn't make much friends growing up, you can still have the same problem as you get older. These things tend to be adaptive in your life, and you got to figure out what's going on.
It's not that it's hard to meet people unless you're living in a place where there's not much people. But it is hard to find compatible people. But if your focus is solely on the man's personality and the physical appearance, that's where your problem is. Otherwise you wouldn't be getting engage men and you wouldn't be getting creeps. Start with WHY do you want to be involved with a man. Why did you do so in the first place? What is your intentions with a man? What do you expect his attention should be about with you or any woman? That is where you need to start at. Start with the basics.
If you don't know things about yourself like standards, morals, principles, Etc, that's why you got problems. Until you understand yourself, you can't expect people to understand you. You can do some self journaling prompts like what's your favorite color, your favorite time of day, what was your best childhood memory, things like that. Start digging deeper get to know yourself. Once you start understanding self, once you start understanding your background, your family, your morals and beliefs off, then you can start getting towards that step. People care too much about getting sex as opposed to finding partners that are like-minded and compatible.
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Sorry this is going to be a tad big long this is from personal experience.
I am 27, and suffered from heartbreak after heartbreak after heartbreak. The inconsistency from guys. The constant let down from guys who “seemed interested”. The emotional roller coaster from guys when they don’t text back or when you don’t hear from them days, weeks, months. The sadness and anxiety you get when you get ghosted, rejected, and cheated. All of this caused my heart to become cold, bitter, hopeless. I started to think that I was the problem and felt unlovable and guarded my heart to protect myself. This led to me becoming insecure, I started to overthink and over analyze, and question every guys motive. I stopped believing in love and gave up hope. Last year right before the pandemic, I developed a crush on someone, the guy was everything I thought I wanted in a guy. Tall, sweet, handsome, smart, funny, a guy everyone adorned. I thought he had a crush on me because he asked for my number and started to hangout with me more. I realize that he didn’t like me after I asked him to meet up in which he rejected me, nicely and respectfully. However we are still friends. I self-reflected during quarantine and noticed that I was so busy trying to catch guys attention or getting a boyfriend that I forgot I existed. I never fully accepted the single life and never appreciated my own privacy and life. I started living for me, enjoy my own company, paying attention to me and allow myself to become selfish with my time. If I wanted it I got it, if it didn’t help me grow I left it alone, if I didn’t like something I’ll speak my mind. I started to live for me and love myself.
But then…just as I started to enjoy my self, quarantine lifted and a guy, who I’ve known for years, came into my life unexpectedly and made me believe in love. He showers me with attention, understands my needs, and is pretty much the male version of me. He is the only guy that has made me a priority and invested time in our relationship. He is more reserved, funny, decisive, respectful, awkward. Nothing like the guys I’ve liked or dated before.
Soo yea there hope!
My best friends told me this that has helped me with my dating life:
Before you get into a new relationship, crush, or situationship ask your self these questions…
* Instead of asking “does he like me?” Say “do I like him?” (like genuinely like him don’t say yes because your lonely)
* Can I be myself, vulnerable, and comfortable around him?
* Do I have doubts about his interest and intentions?
* Does this person respect me and my boundaries?
* Do or could they help me grow as a person and can I see myself being in a relationship with them.
I hope this helps. Please don’t give up. Your guy is right around the corner, he just making sure he has his ducks in a row.
I too have given up on dating. But then again, I am "old" and I have definite beliefs, principles, standards, and values and very specific turnons and turnoffs; so that might make me a weirdo 😂😂.
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