In this new day and age, both men and women are dealing with a completely different predator when it comes to chat rooms. That predator here is, in common terms known as a scammer. These scammers have taken a completely different operation procedure when it comes to getting the numbers for there scam calling. With the new procedures, comes a difficulty in determining who is real and who is faking it to just to make money. now like I said, men and women are dealing with the same thing. No one wants to deal with a scammer in a place where they're trying to find people to talk with.
So, your question is how to keep a guy excited online. It's pretty simple ….. Prove that you're real as quickly as possible.
So how do you do that without giving out too much information about yourself? The truth is, real guys could care less about that kind of information. We don't wanna know the information that a scammer drools over. Guys just wanna know that you're real, you were born a female, and that we are not going to be bumping swards or our lips are not going to get tickled by a mustache. All we're looking for is an actual voice for this, Whether it be an audio message or a video message.
At the same time, not to put a fine point on it, but these very two things immediately identify scammers and put people on alert, hindering a scammers job.
Many of the apps or people are meeting have installed and allowed people to send 10 to 30- second audio messages to someone without any additional information added to their account. Anyway you want to defend not using these given tools to keep you safe, go for it, except, NO ADDITIONAL INFORMATION IS NEEDED. (whatever info the site is already keeping safe allows you to use it.)
Another thing, scammers immediately want to trying to get phone numbers from people they're talking with. (I'm using a Millennium term ‘talking’ : everyone else calls it texting, but this is what they have manipulated to make them feel better). What scammers do is they use your number to create other accounts on other media sites (such as Tinder, Snapchat, Instagram, KIK, even Skype) this is where hearing a person's voice or video chatting with them hinders their game.
The plan goes simple: within the first couple of messages, whoever you talk to tries to convince you they want to talk on the phone. They ask you for your phone number so that they can call you. You give them your number (in this day and age, 95% of the numbers given out are going to be to a cell phone number). What they do is they use this number in the application for a new account in one of the above media sites. Of course, put all new media accounts, they need verification. So, the scammer asks you to give them “the six digit code they have just texted you, so that they can verify that your an actual human being”. Hopefully, people have caught on and refuse to send them the six digit code and stop talking with them. Always be the one that calls them if they want to talk this way. (simply..."asks first sends number first")
(how do I know this, I actually kept a guy texting (sending them random numbers as the code) as I went through some of these media sites to verify whether I had an account with them that I didn't know about, attached to my number. Needless to say, I found a Tinder account I didn't apply for being activated as we spoke. I verified the account with the actual code they sent and immediately shut it down, adding my own email address to the account. That way, any further attempts to use my number to begin an account would result in the scammer being told “an account already exists with that number”. So why add my email address? Well, I'm pretty sure everyone has gotten that email when you change your password on Google. This is just an extra security that if someone was able to change the password on an app I have, the app would send me an email allowing me to say this isn't me and close the account again)
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find strong common intrests as a start, find a way to safely verify you both are real instead of some scammer, show some real personality. tip for everyone here, treat it a bit more like talking to someone you met out in public such as bar, store, concert but with it being the more you converse and get to know each other, allow yourself to get a little more comfortable with each other (somewhat guarded) then open up a little more as the comfort level increases.
Being yourself should be enough to keep his attention. You shouldn't have to work extra hard to keep him messaging you back. Not sure if you just want a friendship or a relationship with this person. Online friendship sounds great but trying to start a relationship when you know he's talking to other women could be a toxic way to start pursing a relationship so just keep that in mind moving forward.
Flirt, send sexy pics. Lol. That's about it, unfortunately..
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At this point you need to take the advice that I give to guys. You need to go radio silent and only talk to him to set up dates. If he likes you he will go crazy wanting to hear from you.
But when you are with him be super flirty and give him the best sex of his life. Then go radio silent again. Then he will be confused and won't be able to stop thinking about you.If you can't be with him in person, then you are just wasting your time.
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Just do what you want to do, if you want to flirt send nudes, sext then do it, if you just want to talk about things then do that. If he wants you you'll have his attention. I'd say if you were really trying to keep his attention be really sexy, send pictures, talk about what you want him to do to you or you to him, that sort of thing. If you want his attention for a more serious relationship be a little flirty sometimes but also just talk about he is interested in, what you're interested in, better yet what you're both interested in, and ask questions. It really depends what kind of attention you're looking for
You have to sort of either decide to ignore or or believe everyone that says you are the only one…..
to keep things going learn to write descriptively and be fun.
it’s really hard keeping online conversations going, if the other person is not able to put sentences to together. It’s not all about keeping him or her excited, it’s about chilling n chatting, having a laugh and being interesting.
Then yeah slip in some excitement when you both feel like it etc. Again, though being descriptive, deciding who leads and how much input is expected when it’s getting ‘warm’….
,However you manage to do it. You’re in a far better position to answer this question since you know the person that any of us that literally have no clue about them.
If you’re afraid they might be losing interest in you don’t think about it. That’s simply going to become a self fulfilling prophecy if you let it consume you in any way shape or from.
If it’s not meant to be nothing you can do to change that. If it is then nothing you have to worry about in first place. Just some irrational insecurities nothing else.
What’s not healthy at all is the perceived jealousy that they interact with other people of the opposite sex. That’s a red flag for me personally, and a massive turn off. That’s how you treat a dog or fish not a human being.
People aren’t possessions you cans simply scoop up and demand give you their undivided attention at any time you demand.There´s nothing special about that. Treat like you would a friend with regular texts, talking about your life asking about his, should be enough.
I don´t know if there is anything special you could. Just show genuine interest in him and give him some time to respond because some guys like me we´re not always responding immediately so be patient with him.Some guys who talk to others who may be players, You are in for heck of a ride in keeping them interested. Bad habits never die. However, If he finds you are the one, he will accept you unconditionally and no one else will do. He will just be speaking to u.
Go on other dates and post it on insta, so he knows he’s got competition. Or post a cute selfie so he sees a bunch of guys hitting on you. But what are you doing trying to talk to a divorce guy who’s talking to a bunch of girls , sounds like a huge red flag
How does a cupcake keep the interest of a fat ass who would eat the whole tray if he gets the chance. I only talk to one woman at a time, like I only get one plate at a time on the buffet. Does that put me behind the fat asses that stuff their face, trying to fill that gaping hole in their soul?
You shouldn't be thinking about whether he talks to other women or not. That's an unhealthy mindset from the get go.
Why would you want to talk to someone whose attention is not completely for you? I like full attention for myself, I don't like to compete with someone else to get his attention.
I think it is sick but its just like what you like , kinky sex i guess and you can always find some one just like you on line who can not get enough sex in real life , or could be a 300 pound women or ugly person on the other line trying to fulfill their fantasy
Sooner or later its gonna come down to being naked for him, so if that's out of the question than its going to be hard to keep his interests. No pun intended, lol.
Have you discussed meeting?Well he's choosing to talk to you both so he's attracted to both of you of course. You don't have to try
Why do U feel inadequate as if his other girl is better? Both are jus as good... All girls are the same... Jus be lucky your on his list of 2... There's 9999999999 other girls in the worldApparently you haven't netted him yet.
Here's the thing: either y'all are gonna be in a relationship or not. If you want him to stop talking to other girls, ask him to be your boyfriend. You gotta lock it down.You can't. You cannot forge a relationship 'online'. You have to DATE. You have to spend quality time in person - IRL.
Very easy- you be the one to invite him out on a fun date first. Meeting someone in person will beat online messaging or texting every time.
You have to be yourself.
Can't be boring but can't be clingy either.
Get to know the guy and then you'll know how to keep his attention.Being able to talk about stuff with passion and interest would be enough for me. You would immediately stand out of the crowd.
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