Are guys typically more logical and women more emotional when it comes to love and relationships (on average)?

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Of course there are outliers, I just mean in general

ChristianMan21 · Accepted Answer

There are four main points I'd like to make.

1. In talking to a LOT of people about dating and their experiences, I have found if anything, the opposite is true at the beginning. Guys may try to hide it, but I'm referring to whether they're actually emotional underneath it all. We get attached more easily at first than women, hence our difficulty actually starting a relationship. Guys make the first move and keep things rolling - that's why women aren't as attached at first. We have already thought about the person we're pursuing and have taken action to achieve that relationship. We're already attached at least a little bit.

2. Actual measure of emotions is a tricky subject, but it is my belief that neither gender actually has more than the other. They simply show it differently. Men do put up fronts to seem less emotional, however, we can sometimes be more emotional than a woman in a given circumstance.

3. In general, all people have a level of maturity, and that is really the key factor in how we see someone's emotional level. If someone is mature, they don't feel as much like they have to hide it. They also have probably seen enough life to have knowledge and patience enough to know when and how to express themselves.

4. Personality type matters a lot here, not gender as much. For example, I'm an ENFJ (Extroverted, Intuitive, Feeling, Judging). I am an emotional person, but I also know how to manage it and know how to be logical as well. An INTJ (Introverted, Intuitive, Thinking, Judging) is going to be much less naturally emotional.

jgibsonian1986 · Accepted Answer

I've found in study and life that ladies are intuitive thinkers while men are lateral thinkers.

So while a guy thinks through each option and evaluates each one's applicability, a lady will likely compile the ideas together and pick en-mass of information.

Hence why women prefer medical careers and men STEM. Engineering, science, and machining are all step by step processed without room for diviation, it simply doesn't satisfy the brain chemistry of women to work in such a slow boring step by step process. I also think this is where people get the notion of mansplaining. Just because the female mind can compile the idea the man needs to walk through doesn't mean it's offensive.

My reasoning for why women prefer medical is because they are natural prognosis givers. Women can look at someone andall of their symptoms then compile the most likely answer from it.

In a way guys are typically more logical because their minds think in the style that logic is actuated, step by step with each step relying off of previous ones.
But women are far more intuitive, socially evolved, and brainy when it comes to a lot of things. It's also why women are the natural nurturer, she has the brain for raising young people that men can't aptly mimic.
Guys use intuition yes, but its not the default of thinking for us, hence why women don't always make sense.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I feel like for myself anyways, I would say I am but only because it actually genuine with my logic. I'm emotionally more mature than the guys I've encountered because I've been through shit. So it forces me to take my time and be logical. Because a lot of men are still trying to figure their emotions out. Its like waiting for someone to finish a lesson you already took honestly. 😅😅

So by default, I act logically when it comes to dating because I know what it takes to uphold whatever relationship you have with a person. Whether that be Friends With benefits, Fuck Buddies, boyfriend/girlfriend, and etc. Therefore, a lot of guys find me "unique" or weird because I act like similar to males with my approach to dating them.

I have options and I let that be known. Communication is something I'm great at, and I'm honest about everything from the beginning. I know what I want and what I don't. What I will and won't put up with. I can have sex and not get attached from it but I'm also choosey with that. I put energy and effort into who putting that back into me. I trust actions not words. Not with all the drama so I definitely cut people off if I'm not feeling them. I play my position, stay in my lane, and I enjoy being picky and single. 🤷🏽‍♀️

In conclusion, I feel like I'm actually cautious and logical because I've been there. While guys are like that because that's how they actually think, but their control on their actual feelings are lacking. So they get caught up on dumb shit a lot. So that makes me one step ahead of them by default.

natured · Accepted Answer

Yes, and this might be one of the main reasons why couples usually have little fights.  She thinks he doesn't care She thinks he doesn't love her She thinks he just doesn't appreciate it and so on  But as a matter of fact they do, they might not come and shower us with billion comments and dedicate love quotes for us daily, but they do all of this their own way, as long as we're able to tolerate and still understand that  MEN  are build differntly when it comes to their mindset and expressing feelings and emotions, then a couple can actually grow pretty strong together. Been there done that, and it's not that tragic 
 -D-

MrOracle · Answer

Inexperienced guys (I'm talking dating/relationship experience here, not sexual experience) can be just as, if not more emotional - those feelings of attraction can be very powerful. But more experienced guys are generally more logical and less emotional, yes.

With obvious exceptions, of course.

TheOracle10 · Answer

There are outliers, but I do believe women solve problems or at least solve problems as you show in an emotional manner, men judge more, and typically think in a more logical way. If your bestfriend's dog went missing, logically a man would dedicate his help to finding the dog in question and thinking of possible ways it could have gotten out/taken. A woman would console their bestfriend and give them emotional support, they would probably help too, but not in the same manner as the men.

In a matter of judging, women tend to be emotionally driven, while men view things in an objective manner. Say a person (ungendered) is being charged with murder, a story (conjecture and unproven) is given that is very graphic but does not do a good job of linking the suspect to the crime, the woman would probably be very emotionally driven by this story and feel hate towards the suspect. The man would view it in an objective manner, he may too feel hate towards the suspect if they do feel the suspect is guilty, but they typically tend to hold a neutral position, or use facts and logical statements to instill guilt.

Of course there are many outliers, speaking purely on hormonal levels, testosterone suppresses strong emotions in men, making them less likely to cry and whatnot. Women are simply more emotionally sensitive since they lack testosterone, low testosterone men typically exhibit more emotional behaviors such as crying/depression.

In short, testosterone makes men less emotionally invested, it is easier for them to shrug off emotional attacks or maintain an unbiased view, women on the other hand do not have testosterone, or have extremely miniscule concentrations. They have estrogen, I know for sure in an argument about a relationship, I would view things objectively and try to use factual statements to argue a point, women may use subjective statements that can be interpreted or viewed differently.

Smoke-n-Growls · Answer

Personally, I've found myself more logical and less emotional than each of my male partners. I've found myself to be also generally more logical and rational than about 75% of men I've worked with in an corporate setting (strangely, retail employees are more logical and rational I've found...).

But I also had a bit of an odd upbringing. I had to be logical and rational from an early age (as in elementary) to survive my mother's narcissism and my dad's enabling attitude.

Logic and reason are shields for me and I practically hide behind them in many settings. I've gotten better, but when I was younger I used to just bottle up emotion.

Rei02 · Answer

I think so, and that is because men see things or are normally trained to see them in a certain perspective, more objective while women are allowed to have a different one. But as you mentioned, there are some exceptions.

EG: Men should focus on the facts, in a more objective and realistic point of view so they can take more logical and accurate results, while women are trained to be more empathic and understanding to others' pain, feelings and woes, like good mothers, nurses, lovers, etc., so they can know how to cheer up and give the others what they really need emotionally.

PantherMime · Answer

I think boys are taught earlier on that they have to approach the world in a more logical-manner in order to be taken seriously. The pressure simply isn't there for women in this regard. As young girls, if we go by our gut or use more emotion, this is expected of us and permitted by society. The same is not accepted in boys. Thus, when girls grow into women and the consequences of not being as logical in our youth crop up, we're at a disadvantage. Boys simply had more time and pressure to adjust to it.

And, of course, there's the male ego which comes into play. Men are usually far more confident in their abilities, often to the point of overconfidence. Women who are in all intents and purposes equal to their male colleagues in any given situation lack that necessary ego. I see no reason why this wouldn't apply to the tired old notion of logic/emotion as well.

spearheadbt · Answer

Well, we'd need studies. Random people's opinion on this here doesn't do anything. Women being more emotional than men is probably highly overrated. I know at least that men are much more narcissistic than women. Lots of men like to think they are "rational", but often they just rationalize their emotions. They don't want to accept that they are also emotional creatures. Heck, just look at domestic violence. Clearly the guys doing that are not being rational...

As for me, yes! I'll admit it without shame, I am an emotional creature! I really don't always do the rational thing, and not just with relationships. I don't think there is anything wrong with that, what is wrong is pretending otherwise when you are.

ProCoffeeAntiSleep · Answer

No (kind of)
I think internally its basically the same, however men generally are taught to think more logically and so will focus on the practical aspects of a relationship more; with the inverse being true of women.
The needs for both are their in both tho, its more a question of who focusses on what

MountAverage · Answer

Not in a significant way, no. The statistics on that, that people (men) love to throw around as "evidence" are being grossly misinterpreted. Yes, there are certain gender specific tendencies that can be found. But it's so much more complex and complicated than that. There are many many factors that contribute to how skilled someone is at logical thinking, and gender is not even close to being a significant one. Another thing is that this dichotomy of "logic/reason vs. emotions" is complete nonsense. It's just not how human psychology works.

And even all that aside, the idea that men tend to be less emotional is beyond delusional. Most of the bad shit that's happening in the world is because of men not being able to control their emotions of anger, jealousy, frustration, hurt pride, and so on. So can we (men) please stop bullshitting ourselves and women with this ridiculous "we're so rational" nonsense? We're not.

rienna888 · Answer

I think so because when my last relationship wasn't working out my boyfriend wanted to break up and all I wanted was to be with him despite knowing it wouldn't work out in the end. So either they're more logical or he doesn't like me as much as I did.

Browneye57 · Answer

This is the standard for everything.
A man's brain runs on facts and logic.
A woman's on feelings and emotion.

This isn't to say either gender doesn't have some of what the other has, but these are very basic differences that feminism tries to deny - the giant lie.

Women connect emotionally.
Guys connect physically.

The basic dynamics are very different between the two genders. And why you cannot simply and arbitrarily decide which gender you are.

ohshee · Answer

Well I think it depends on the guy if the guy is 100% into the relationship and he makes everything all about you then he is more logical and more emotional and if you knows how to fill with energy even more emotional to be honest I think it depends on both people and what type of relationship they really h a v e e

Philippa_Sallow · Answer

Both are just as illogical, just men usually try to word their arguments in a way that sounds more focused and to the point (regardless of whether the point makes any sense), whereas women can be a lot more all over the place or don't care to try and justify how they feel, instead getting more caught up on whatever illicited an emotional response

Anon621 · Answer

I think anyone can be logical in a relationship regardless of gender and the same goes for emotional. That's a big part of the Latin culture for relationships is showing emotion regardless of your gender and since I'm Latin I personally get emotional in a relationship.

Cutie0059 · Answer

What about trans men? I feel like they're more emotional just because they've experienced the crazy hormone fluctuations and periods, and are typically more caring in general. (I know from friends I have.)
Cis men are pretty concrete. Relationships are typically built on trust and respect with them, not always pure emotional bonding.

anonyni · Answer

I think so. I've noticed this in therapists too. Male therapists don't coddle you, they tell you things straightforward and rationally. Female therapists tend to try to comfort you and then work on the issues later. I prefer male therapists.

crazy8000 · Answer

Highly doubt it.

To much culture that says it is that and that we have to act a certain way to fitt in. majority tries to fit in due to the survival strategy they have chosen at early age. ( belong to a group and fitt in instead of walking your own way )

DiegoO · Answer

No. Both are emotional in different ways, which makes both emotionally vulnerable in different ways. Women, from a femenine construct, men's from a masculine construct.

Wile most women's relye on intuition (which is an unconcious analysis relying on previous experiences), mens tend to relye on concious analysis of concrete aspects of a person.

hahahmm · Answer

Yes. Unless the guy was raised by a single mom with zero good male role models around. Then he will act just like a woman.

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Yes. I feel like everyone knows this but then of course there are feminists. *facepalm*

pink_and_inlove · Answer

I don’t know man all I know is that I cry a lot when I miss him when I’m hurt or upset or feel unloved and he has never cried in front of me he almost cried one time because he was so happy and the other time over a sad show but I don’t think I’ve ever seen him cry more than one tear

Haru_chan · Answer

That’s not true. Not all women are emotional and can’t take decisions based on being logical instead of emotions. Also I know guys that have no logic in their lives and they’re also doing okay. We shouldn’t follow old myths and ignore reality.

45Fstraight · Answer

Yes, I think so in an overly general way. Men are logical or emotional (one thing at a time). Women are both at the same time.

HiveBee · Answer

It doesn't matter. There are ways to approach relationships that can be learned and applied in a logical sense which can improve any relationship.

Just because people are ignorant does not mean they could not act in a different way.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't think when it comes to relationships specifically, I think just in general period (with anything) that's often the case. But exceptions to that for sure.

jshm2 · Answer

No. There is no such thing as "more logical". Usually they mean "more of an asshole" or "more frank" when they say "logical" as human conversations are rarely "logical"

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

No, typically most of the population is very illogical, and logical people are exceptionally rare in both genders.

MConfused · Answer

Being introverted I think everything through too much rather than taking a leap. Takes me time to find a connection/ trust people to share emotions with.

Lack of relationship experience (like mroracle says) is something that I realised I have recently after jumping at a millions miles an hour with someone I like recently.

Explorer91 · Answer

No. Just men put on more a front. Men are emotional too but emotions aren’t always displayed stereotypically aka crying etc. being emotional can be in many different forms.

Avicenna · Answer

When it comes to love and relationships, I would say no (as opposed to life in general). You see this when they make obvious mistakes in getting involved with a particular person.

Phoenix98 · Answer

Yup and that's typically the case with everything not just dating.

genericname85 · Answer

yes. i think that's true in general. not just in terms of love and relationships.

sp33d · Answer

That's the rumor, isn't it? I imagine guys might be calmer, but that doesn't necessarily mean we're more logical. Perhaps, more women want to be confrontational, where as guys don't? I actually prefer confrontation.

Anonymous · Answer

Younger women tend to more emotional but since some guys only want young women they dont consider older women's opinions and think all women are like that

Exterminatore · Answer

Yes, and that’s typically the case with everything, not just dating.

PinkMichae · Answer

Well it use to be that way. But I'm not sure that's the case anymore with how much men and women have changed.

jamesgoldman · Answer

Yeah but asking the guy with zero emotions that question as good as feeding it into a computer

Uptowngirl88 · Answer

Most of the times until a woman gets logical with them then they want to turn emotional

RoyalGuy_PRO · Answer

Nah. 'on average' Guys are stupid and girls are mean

Alejandro3000 · Answer

No, we all have feelings and emotions. Men just don't want to share that because women are mean and manipulate.

doopayo · Answer

Nope, guys are super emotional. At least the ones I’ve been with lol

Omario2049 · Answer

I thought that was pretty obvious all along. No matter how irrational a man can be there's always a woman who will outdo him. Hence why relationships are so emotionally taxing on men. Generally speaking.

Ayanna240 · Answer

Men are just equally as emotional but they just know how to curb it more. When women get emotional, they let it run everything.

HonestThoughts · Answer

Not really. Lots of guys are fucking idiots and lots of women are extremely logical. It depends on the individual

iseekpinetrees · Answer

I don't know I was more logical than the guys I was around.

NoLookingAtSoleil · Answer

Guys typically lie less. Girls call that 'being emotional' - but in fact it is 'I expect more than you do so I lie and cheat to get it' (and then when found out they cry, though men also do when hurt)

na2398 · Answer

Doesn't apply to me lol. I'm more of an emotional guy. Being so helps me understand how everyone's feeling better. :) Can switch to the logical mode instantly when I sense something fishy aha. :P :P

najekim · Answer

Well, my wife of 23 years and I are like what you describe in everyday life.

michael1469 · Answer

Yes. Making decisions based on emotions is, well, illogical and will endup fucking it up for you.

ShadowWins · Answer

honestly in my opinion, I think it could go either way in a relationship, i think some of it has to do with they're background and past experiences, it could probably go either way honestly

fonduegirl · Answer

Guys just conceal their emotional sides as women hid behind burkhas and stuff

SlightlyEccentric · Answer

It all depends on the individual. You can't generalize things like this about men or women.

captain_voidwalker · Answer

Dating in 2021

ToastyOats · Answer

Logical or emotional doesn't really matter. Being correct is what matters.

FakeNIK · Answer

I've seen a guy getting mental counselling after a breakup

maulstrum97 · Answer

Yes guys are more rational and women are more emotional.

DeltaCharlieEcho · Answer

Men are logical about everything; women are emotional about everything. So I guess yes.

he-takes-a-part · Answer

the question is very general why post it anonymously

Anonymous · Answer

Yes and its the biggest reason that they shouldn't have been allowed to vote. They are easier to manipulate with lies from the mass media

Anonymous · Answer

Generally speaking yes. However the majority of people are morons and don’t know how to conduct a healthy relationship

TheGreatAwan · Answer

Yes women only think with their clits, men are the the leaders and the thinkers of human society.

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