WWhy is he asking me how many men I've slept with?

[Anonymous]

We're going on a date on Thursday

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I asked ehy did you ask and he said just wanted to know how much experience you have, cos if it was none, I don’t want to take anyone’s innocence haha

What!
Firstly he knew I was in a relationship so obviously I've had sex and I told him

[OlderAndWiser]

He is asking you this question even before your first date?

Tat means that he has one of the two purposes:

1. He wants to know how easy you are so he can gauge his chances of having sex on a first date, OR

2. He is trying to decide whether you have sufficiently high standards to be good enough for him because, if you don't, why should he waste money on a date with you?

I would never ask a lady this question, even after dating for six months or a year.

[Jamie05rhs]

I'm #2! And I wouldn't spend money on any woman regardless! But my time IS valuable. (And hers as well.)

[Leavesbound]

That is a common question. He may think you are promiscuous or he may simply want to know for health reasons. Or he is curious if you have had more experience than he has. In any case it's a rude question to ask. Personally I wouldn't care. The only man I'm concerned about you sleeping with is me.

[Ducky456]

Very nosy and kind of creepy. Honestly if wants to gauge your experience he could've told what's your experience. Unless that's what I think.

I don't know he doesn't seem all that worth it if that's the first thing that pops up.

[Babygirlsweetheart1]

Sounds as though he wants to defraud you - get forniation from you.

[Asker]

Can you please explain? I don't know what that means. But he's definitely giving me chills and bad vibes...

[Asker]

I got it now. He is lying about wanting a relationship and is tricking me and actually just wants sex , is that what you mean?

[Babygirlsweetheart1]

Yes. Many men will say and do sweet things that you want to hear and see them do just to steal sex from you.

[Babygirlsweetheart1]

Fornication is a sin. My advice is don't have sex outside marriage.

[Babygirlsweetheart1]

Thank you for MHO

[Not_Average]

He wants to see if you’re worthy of monogamy. Most women sleep around and aren’t for that reason. Women who sleep around carry baggage. If you let him know if you’re not a slut like most of the others, then he knows to respect you and pursue you emotionally. If you are easy, then he wants to waste no time. He’ll just smash and move on. Might sound harsh, but there’s a good chance he’s thinking that.

[ChrisMaster69]

Because he’s a dickhead , sorry

it does not matter how many partners, curries, pairs of jeans etc we went through prior to thst partner.

you could say 1 to 100 and you are same person

[Tomsta]

People can be in relationships and not have sex, it's not a 100% chance than having a relationship in the past = had sex. It's very likely but not certain

Also it might be he himself gets a bit nervous around women with lots of expierance (or even a lack of experience)

[RealMarek]

Some guys think it is important to know that, but asking before the first date is really inappropriate.

[Dazed0N0Confused]

🙄 for some guys it is important for the chick to not have a lot of experience to compare the guy to. It sucks to learn they aren't the best you ever had & that they need improvement.

[Still-alive]

yeah and sometimes girls judge a guys sexual performance pretty harshly. to a guy that can sometimes hurt

[Dazed0N0Confused]

@Still-alive agreed, sometimes it's best just to let the past stay in the past & both parties not bring anything up. And girls are some bitches sometimes, that's when you know it's not worth it & to move on.

[Still-alive]

very true

[spartan55]

Who cares why? Tell him it's none of his gd business.

[realDonaldTrumpJr]

>Firstly he knew I was in a relationship so obviously I've had sex
A relationship doesn't imply sex. Plenty of people have been in relationships but haven't had sex because they're waiting for marriage.

[Asker]

Nor a 20 year old at least not me. Anyway that's besides the poiny

[sullyk1234]

ask him the same question i would love to know the response to that one and remember this i was told if you sleep with a man that has slept with 20 woman you sleeping with them to

[bowenw]

He's assuming he has a right to know your private business. This could be a red flag.

[Asker]

May I ask why it's a red flag

[bowenw]

If he believes your private business is any of his business and has the nerve to ask, he may be the jealous type. Some jealous men can be controlling. It's just something to watch for.

[Asker]

Thank you

[TheOracle10]

He wants to know the status of your fidelity, its not at all uncommon, if he is asking for this he cares about the future prospect of a relationship. If men don't ask this they probably just want to fuck you, or don't think to ask.

[slatyb]

He’s an age wildly inappropriate before the first date, cancel it.

[Милашка]

He sounds pretty mature. Only immature cucks don't care about women's body count.

[RHK36]

He's probably a slut and assuming he'll be able to have sex with you. I don't recommend dating someone who thinks that way.

[Pterodon]

He’s asking if you’re a virgin or wants to know if you’re what he considers to be a slut. Run from this one

[Asker]

Wow. Why run? He wants a relationship he says

[Pterodon]

He either only wants to pop your cherry or he’s extremely judgmental. He’s lying. This is a big red flag. Run

[Asker]

I want sex anyways

[Pterodon]

If all you want is a sexual relationship you can find those anytime with anyone. This guy is a lying controlling judgmental jerk. You can do much better

[Pterodon]

Everyone on here is telling you the same thing. You’re an idiot if you don’t listen to us and take our advice

[Asker]

Thank you

[Asker]

Uhm well I will think about it..

[Asker]

I think your right

[Pterodon]

It isn’t just me but thank you. You asked our advice and we gave it to you

[Asker]

:):)):

[Asker]

I got a bad feeling about him, might be a psychopath

[Pterodon]

Don’t know that but his question brought out a huge red flag to all of us guys

[Asker]

Because? He wants sex

[Pterodon]

That or to judge if you’re a slut

[lycanthrope3]

aside from whether or not you are a virgin, he does not need to know any more, sounds like he may want to judge you. if he presses for more info than you freely want to give, let him go

[Asker]

I don't think so but perhaps

[Jamie05rhs]

"so obviously I've had sex.". No; it's not obvious. Not everyone has sex when they're in a relationship. Many people don't (such as myself.)

[Pete671]

He's bullshitting, imho he's just looking for sex with a girl he can pump and dump, sorry,,,

[Asker]

No he wants a relationship

[loveslongnails]

Eh... I think he wanted to know if your body count was larger than his !!!

[Wise4myage]

You should have said "that's none of your business".

[genericname85]

Just tell him that's none of his business if you're uncomfortable talking about that xD

[genericname85]

He basically just wants to know if you're loyal or if you're promiscuous.

[DaveToo]

The next question will be how big is his dick compared to others.

[amazing07]

Maybe he wants to know what you like on your first date if you'll go on to have sex so that he doesn't disappoint you and can take it further from there.

[OnTheLevel]

He's trying to see if he has a chance to get lucky on your date.

[Tstrbrainer]

Because he wants to know whether or not you meet his standards

[rebeliouse]

@Indiepop123
maybe trying to gage if your good in bed

[The-Wise-Phoenix]

Because the more men you have been with the less you will be able to really bond with him.
Yes it does matter.

[Asker]

Really shouldn't matter at ALL!

[Asker]

And not appropriate

[The-Wise-Phoenix]

I am just telling you how men think. This may come as a surprise to you but many men DO have standards when it comes to the women they choose to get deeply involved with. Our past actions shape who we become. If it makes you feel any better I don't think it's okay for men to be sleeping around a lot either and for the same reasons.

[spartan55]

Is this a question to be asked before the first date though? Pretty inappropriate, and something I would feel incredibly slimy asking at that point.

[Asker]

@spartan55 are you asking me?

[spartan55]

@Indiepop123
No, sorry. It was directed @The-Wise-Phoenix

[Asker]

@spartan55 Yeah realized it hah x

[The-Wise-Phoenix]

@spartan55 No I wouldn't ask that on a first date. However if the relationship was developing yeah I want to know where she has been. And if she gets defensive about it that's a sign of a guilty conscience.
I am old enough to have seen the damage that being highly loose does to a woman. And it will effect you if you get closely involved with her.

Read about the "Thousand cock stare"
It will explain why a woman who has been with lots and lots of men is going to have issues.

[BlacklightShade]

He wants someone who knows how to fuck.

[Agape93]

No idea. It’s not his business anyways

[JennBITx]

That tells me he is insecure

[TallAnon]

Probably wants to know the odds of getting an STD

[designer1]

He’s insecure maybe?

[malik_nyc]

Cuz he wanna b the next

[Anonymous]

He be lyin. He checkin if you a whoirwe

[Anonymous]

Because he thinks you’re a ho

[Asker]

Well I'm not.

[Opinion Owner]

You’ve never sucked on a guys wiener?

[Asker]

Dosent make a woman a slut. fuck off

[Opinion Owner]

I wish you’d do it to mine. I bet it’ll feel like heaven