Why does he want to know if I’ve slept with someone? “we’re just friends”?

[Anonymous]

He wants to know if I’ve slept with someone when we’re just friends. He wants to have sex with me just hasn’t had the time. He asked me if I slept with anyone in the time being. Friends don’t get to question friends

[Anonymous]

Because he likes you. Chances are he would be jealous, mad if you said yes you have. Although you two aren’t exclusive sometimes men, maybe even women feel like there’s something between the two of you, something unspoken that even though you’re not dating you shouldn’t be sleeping w other men.

[Asker]

The feeling of something unspoken even though we’re not dating is constantly there. I’ve always felt there’s something between the two of us, it’s just knowing he can’t do be in relationship right now as we’ve communicated. I’ve felt he has been suppressing his feelings to avoid them growing.

[Opinion Owner]

Why can’t he be in a relationship right now?

[Asker]

Because he works two jobs Monday through Friday and he felt he wouldn’t be able to give me what I deserve. He wants to be able to put his all into something. We still communicate everyday

[Opinion Owner]

Lol so he works 160 hours every two weeks?

[Asker]

Yes Monday through Friday every day, every week.

[Opinion Owner]

So 80 hours each week? I work about 60 a week, I still have time for my girl. It’s all a matter of planning, communication. Unless you’re the type of girl who needs co start attention? How old is he? Why’s he working so much?

[Asker]

Yea basically. And his one job is part of his sports career so that’s why he always work that one as well. He stars work at 730 am and then doesn’t get home until usually 10-1030 at night each day. He’s in another city, as well

[Opinion Owner]

I see. You looking for a relationship? How old is he? I feel as though he isn’t as serious about you as you may think he is.

[Anonymous]

Honestly, that's a valid question. I'm also the kind of person who wants to know if the person I'm intending to sleep with is sleeping with other people. It's sort of an extra precaution in my head. like if they have multiple partners I'll take more precautions. It could also just be an insecurity of his. Either way, I think it's healthy to have that communication with people you're intending to be sexually active with. He doesn't need specific details or names but letting him know whether or not you're involved with others is respectful and important. Same for him letting you know.

[spartan55]

Tell him it's none of his damn business! Who cares WHY? Also, what does he 'hasn't had time to have sex with you' all about?

[Asker]

He said he was just curious if I had or not which to me I thought why we he care! He works 15 hours a day Monday through Friday and sports tournaments on the weekends.

[spartan55]

15 hours a day? I doubt that. I've NEVER heard of a guy making excuses why he doesn't have time to have sex. Is this clown your best option? Hopefully not.

[faithfuldude407]

I personally ask that question because it’s a turn on to know that your women has been with other guys. It activates sperm competition

[Asker]

So what’s the overall goal here?

[faithfuldude407]

To make the sec more ravenous. And to know the details about the different cocks you’ve taken.

[faithfuldude407]

If you make him feel comfortable enough he may even ask to see those cocks to compare them to his.

[faithfuldude407]

I do have a question for you

[Asker]

I haven’t pursued anyone else or done anything with anyone. What’s your question?

[In_Trance]

Clearly his idea of friends is different than yours