He told me he wanted to date others and I blocked him afterwards. Now he's texting me. Why does he care?

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Was dating this guy and he basically told me he wanted to date others so i respected his decision and said “okay” then i blocked him now he’s texting me and asking me why i blocked him. Why does he care?

Citizenkirk · Accepted Answer

Did he clarify whether or not ending a romantic relationship situation with you meant ceasing all contact completely, or if not, expected that you were on board with continuing a casual aquantaince interaction if a platonic nature, like when friends come over too watch hockey on my set, drink beer, eat pretzels, and badmouth American hockey coaches for outsourcing foreign players on American teams with half the populations in Minnesota and Michigan ready to show what thiey are made of on the ice.
I did date one of them a couple times, but neither she or I would seeing anyone at the time, and we for hanging out with each other in our other buddies like that before we started exchanging body fluids so we ended up the same way we started without breaking the routine on hockey and road racing events on TV and such, spending more time lying next to each other fully clothed on the couch watching the tube and bad mouthing hockey coaches they only did in bed naked with mouth's pressed together or against other body parts. Two buddies who tried dating out of sheer boredom of not doing anything else at the time, and ending up back at just being buddies again, without the pretense of the "with benefits" addition to "friends."
If you have reason to believe that he had something like this in mind continuing a casual friendship contact with you then perhaps clarification between the two of you specifying whether or not the two of you would be agreeable to this type of friendship dynamic or not, might have to choose you to clear up any confusion.
If he's one of those retarded flakes who is trying to keep you on the back burner as a convenience item, like a spare girlfriend or backup booty call in case someone else doesn't show or isn't available, then a shot of mace or pepper spray directly into his exposed eyeballs or sinuses, is an appropriate response to that kind of 🖕'ed ☝️ attitude.

ScottStevens · Accepted Answer

He wanted to date around, it appears as though your wanted an exclusive relationship. I assume that means you were having sex together and didn't want to be with a partner that was sleeping around (or should I say dating around?) We both know what he was saying is that he wanted to date (Sleep with others).

I think you were right to walk away. Honestly tell him that being intimate with someone is a very personal thing for you and you do not want to be in a relationship this is not exclusive. If he comes back and says well we can still be friends, tell one day that may happen, but right now you need a clean break.

It is very hard for people like you and me to be half in a relationship. I had a girlfriend a long time ago that wanted to us to stop sleeping with each other but stay friends. I told her going back to hold hands after being intimate needs a clean start. Now years later we are fine with seeing each other and enjoying a good conversation. I am glad I stuck to my guns and made it a clean break.

Smoke-n-Growls · Accepted Answer

Well, you said "okay" but were clearly not okay. Of course he's confused.

You're valid in not wanting to be in an open relationship (probably what he thought he was asking for but he chunked it). But likewise you didn't really explain to him how he hurt you, why you don't want anything more to do with him, or what you expect him to do in relation to you and your relationship in the future.

It can be as simple as "Ok. To be clear, I'm not interested in an open relationship. So this, between us, is over and you're free to date others. Please don't contact me again, I will be blocking you. Have fun, thanks for the memories, good bye."

You gotta be more clear when you communicate. Especially when you do so angry. Your ex isn't a mind reader - no one irl is - and he won't know what you mean by just saying "ok" and blocking.

Be clear. Not for him, but for you - so you don't have to ask this question in the future.

natured · Accepted Answer

I think he wanted to try something else before he wanted to settle, and I honestly admire when men are honest and say what they want from the get go. But I would feel like plan B, I would feel kind of played and last choice... It's not fair, I mean he might care because you just let him go like that, and he could be curious.
But don't trust him so easily, let him sweat a little.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

He wanted to stroke his ego and be playing the field. He thought you were gonna cooperate and stay at home waiting to see if he calls wanting to see you this weekend. That would have made him feel like a stud.

Brainsbeforebeauty · Answer

Which one is this? The ex, the guy getting money from you, the friends with benefits, or is this another one🤔🤷

Account · Answer

Tell him that you have different wants and just leave it at that.

ConnorJHutton531 · Answer

I think he cares because you essentially broke up with him and blocked him; breaking up doesn’t mean blocking a person for SPME people. Personally, I think you should block someone you break up with to give yourself space from someone just for a while, and if that’s the general consensus I’m not sure he got the memo. With that said, he’s surprised that you blocked him. Maybe tell him you need space for a week to a couple months or more and then talk to each other again if you still want to be friends.

ohshee · Answer

Good for you well I think what he was trying to do is manipulate you and he thought maybe you were going to go along with it because you wanted him I think you did the right thing I wouldn't even answer his text let him think about it for a long while let him pick and choose what he really wants that him prove it to you I think he's a fool I mean I don't even know who you are but with your questions and answers I would love to know who you are I'm very curious there's just something very hot and sexy about you and if I know that and don't even know who you are then he knows it then

Alyssa11 · Answer

Because he's an idiot.

You should tell him that you blocked him because you have different needs, and you don't want to date someone who's actively dating others.

Be straight up you have nothing to lose. Otherwise you're going to waste so much of your precious time. If he likes you, he will understand and always make sure you are comfortable. Men are THAT simple if they WANT to be.

Bright_blue_eyes · Answer

Young guys stupid. He cares because he still wants to have sex with you. He may or may not be successful in "dating others", so I think he was just trying to keep the door open. You did the right thing. That guy wasn't serious anyway... he just wants to play. Move on & feel good about the fact that you didn't waste any time with a guy like that.

Leavesbound · Answer

He wanted to try out several potential girlfriends to see which one he liked the most. Apparently he's decided he likes you more than the other girls he's dated since. It's kind of like test driving several models to make sure you've picked the right one. Now it's up to you to decide if the model he wants is still available.

designer1 · Answer

He feels like the situation was unresolved (for him). He probably doesn’t want you to be mad at him bc he feels guilty as well. In this situation, you should do what is right for you. You don’t have to give him closure if you do not want to. You are completely within your right to leave him blocked.

Anon621 · Answer

I think he probably wanted to keep the relationship most likely which is why he was asking. I think it was a good idea to block him from what you were explaining it sounded like he meant well but he couldn't get over the fact you blocked him sometimes it just be like that that's how life goes.

Azura_88 · Answer

CARE? CARE?
His ego is bruised and his one option got reduced so that's why he's bothering you again to make sure that you don't forget him.
He never cared about you as he wants to date other hotties. He only cares and is offended about feeling unwanted by you!!

socksguy · Answer

You were an option for him. Once you blocked him, you were no longer an available option anymore and that bothers him because he's playing games. He doesn't really "care" in the true sense... he's bothered because you took control away from him. Leave him blocked and move on to someone who deserves you.

Xitomyth · Answer

He wants what he knows he can't have, also, he could have memory issues... If he wants to date around, that his choice, but saying that he wants to date others means he has doubts or has lost interest. He might just be desperate form getting rejected, just ignore him and DON'T engage! How many guys do you date?

Rei02 · Answer

Don't mind him, you did the right thing in blocking him, you just comply to his wishes. If he got angry, that's his own problem. If he wanted just to play mind games (eg, he only told you that expecting you would beg him to still dating), then it didn't work for him and things went upside down for him.

Fireguy17 · Answer

She either said no to him, she wouldn't sleep with him, or she wasn't any good in bed, or she dumped him.
Do yourself a big favor, move on.
If it happened once what's to say it won't happen again.
Don't be someone's safety net, that they can keep coming back to you.
You deserve to be treated better.

Silvermist26 · Answer

I believe that he cares either because he still wants you in his life either as a friend or as a person that he knows admires him in a romantic way. But it’s your decision whether or not your comfortable still associating yourself with someone that you once had feelings for. You can even ask for some time away from that person until you feel comfortable communicating without their being romantic tension.

Savage_Wisdom · Answer

He wanted an open relationship, he wanted to date others and you at the same time. If that's not what you want, then tell him you want to be exclusive.

serious · Answer

He thinks you blocking him was unnecessary as you could have simply ignored him instead but it is also possible that he still wants to keep contact with you at least as a friend so he was surprised when you did that.

Interstate · Answer

Doesn't matter why he cares. If he wants to date others, it is obvious he DOESN'T care. It sounds as though he has been wanting an open relationship. Anybody into that style isn't worth the time, to me.

Daniela1982 · Answer

You did say OK so to him you were OK with it and accepted it. If you weren't you should have flat out told him then so you wouldn't be having these problems.

Walamagicc · Answer

How is he able to text u if he’s blocked? Anyways, the reason why he cares is because he’s playing games. He wants to put you on the back burner as an option.

menina · Answer

Because he wants to play with your feelings. He's probably doing that to many other girls and he thinks it's funny and ok.

Dazed0N0Confused · Answer

Just tell him what you're feeling & let the pieces fall as they may. Nothing much you can do after that

Screenwriter · Answer

He doesn't care. He just wants to have a stable of women that includes you. You made the right choice. Move on.

Tunasub · Answer

He didn't want you to block him because that gives you the control. He expected that you'd still try to keep in touch and that he would have things in his terms. You blocking him changed all of that.

ArztSchlachthof · Answer

He either plays games, cannot decide or is desperate after being rejected by all the other girls.

Gwenhwyfar · Answer

He wants to date you and others too You forgot to block your number

Tomsta · Answer

He is asking if you're into an open relationship it sounds like. If you're not into that then tell him, don't have him guess "Okay" can be very vague of a response

Chris2769 · Answer

Were you clear that you are done with him when you said “okay”? Maybe he still thinks you guys are dating?

ShadowWins · Answer

well now that he's not with you, the skullfucker misses you and fuckin realizes that the dumb fuck can't live without you, and he is thinkin with the wrong head more than the head on his neck that donkeyfucker

slatyb · Answer

Why do you care? Block his texts. Block him everywhere and DO NOT RESPOND EVER. It's over.

MotorcycleMan · Answer

Maybe he still wanted to date you too.

Anonymous · Answer

he's messing around with your feelinga and trying get to you, don't let him...
The only thing that you can do is ignore him. trust me being in a relation ship with a person like that is going to get worst trust me.

I had a boyfriend that used to manipulate me just cause he liked seeing what my reaction was going to be, but I didn't take in and broke up with him.

So yeah...

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Because he doesn't see the need to terminate the relationship entirely.

Anonymous · Answer

Girl, you’ve been tripping over the same dude for weeks now. All the questions are simply the same and funny enough, everyone has been giving you the same answers.  dump him… simple as that.

DJB72 · Answer

Trying to have his cake and eat it. Block him from texting too.

TessCasie · Answer

Let him go ! Tell him I’m dating others too  Good luck

he-takes-a-part · Answer

Coz he knows that somewhere you would also be considerate if he approached again and hence your question

Hotboy_booblover · Answer

I think its because the girls he wanted to date didn't care..

JosyJosy · Answer

He didn't think that mentioning that was a big mistake.

Prof_Don · Answer

Things didn’t work out with the other girls he was pursuing so he came back to you!

WhiteWolf69 · Answer

It sounds like he wants to date other women and doesn't want you to date other men. It sounds like he wants to control you.

Browneye57 · Answer

He wants his cake and eat it too. LOL He'll do you if you let him.  NEXT!!

dudeinohio · Answer

You should give him the courtesy of telling him why. I can understand dumping him.

Janessa2021 · Answer

It sounds like he wanted u to chase him and realized it didn't work , he's playing games with you

Dinosaursandanime65 · Answer

I would just say, “oh…. Well good luck with that. I enjoyed my time with you”. Or something like that

den71 · Answer

He wants you to be one of the others stay away from that

Shy_Steve · Answer

He sounds like a player so you are better off ignoring him.

Asianguy123 · Answer

it's not a surprising. America is sodom and Gomorrah.

Anonymous · Answer

You got him by the balls. You have to take advantage of this opportunity.

Calgarydirty69 · Answer

he's should never have left you, hiss loss be strong babe

scentoflavender · Answer

He wanted his cake and to eat it too.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

I think you did the right thing

Lliam · Answer

You did the right thing.

devilish-cutie · Answer

he doesn't, he just wanted you as an option

Gatorademebiatch · Answer

He just wants attention - ignore him

Vikkrram · Answer

Coz he didn't find other...

sheikalana · Answer

Well, you shouldn't care.

OnTheLevel · Answer

He still wants to date you, just not ONLY you.

Iron_Man · Answer

Basically because people don’t want to get blocked

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