He wanted to date around, it appears as though your wanted an exclusive relationship. I assume that means you were having sex together and didn't want to be with a partner that was sleeping around (or should I say dating around?) We both know what he was saying is that he wanted to date (Sleep with others).
I think you were right to walk away. Honestly tell him that being intimate with someone is a very personal thing for you and you do not want to be in a relationship this is not exclusive. If he comes back and says well we can still be friends, tell one day that may happen, but right now you need a clean break.
It is very hard for people like you and me to be half in a relationship. I had a girlfriend a long time ago that wanted to us to stop sleeping with each other but stay friends. I told her going back to hold hands after being intimate needs a clean start. Now years later we are fine with seeing each other and enjoying a good conversation. I am glad I stuck to my guns and made it a clean break.
Did he clarify whether or not ending a romantic relationship situation with you meant ceasing all contact completely, or if not, expected that you were on board with continuing a casual aquantaince interaction if a platonic nature, like when friends come over too watch hockey on my set, drink beer, eat pretzels, and badmouth American hockey coaches for outsourcing foreign players on American teams with half the populations in Minnesota and Michigan ready to show what thiey are made of on the ice.
I did date one of them a couple times, but neither she or I would seeing anyone at the time, and we for hanging out with each other in our other buddies like that before we started exchanging body fluids so we ended up the same way we started without breaking the routine on hockey and road racing events on TV and such, spending more time lying next to each other fully clothed on the couch watching the tube and bad mouthing hockey coaches they only did in bed naked with mouth's pressed together or against other body parts. Two buddies who tried dating out of sheer boredom of not doing anything else at the time, and ending up back at just being buddies again, without the pretense of the "with benefits" addition to "friends."
If you have reason to believe that he had something like this in mind continuing a casual friendship contact with you then perhaps clarification between the two of you specifying whether or not the two of you would be agreeable to this type of friendship dynamic or not, might have to choose you to clear up any confusion.
If he's one of those retarded flakes who is trying to keep you on the back burner as a convenience item, like a spare girlfriend or backup booty call in case someone else doesn't show or isn't available, then a shot of mace or pepper spray directly into his exposed eyeballs or sinuses, is an appropriate response to that kind of 🖕'ed ☝️ attitude.
Well, you said "okay" but were clearly not okay. Of course he's confused.
You're valid in not wanting to be in an open relationship (probably what he thought he was asking for but he chunked it). But likewise you didn't really explain to him how he hurt you, why you don't want anything more to do with him, or what you expect him to do in relation to you and your relationship in the future.
It can be as simple as "Ok. To be clear, I'm not interested in an open relationship. So this, between us, is over and you're free to date others. Please don't contact me again, I will be blocking you. Have fun, thanks for the memories, good bye."
You gotta be more clear when you communicate. Especially when you do so angry. Your ex isn't a mind reader - no one irl is - and he won't know what you mean by just saying "ok" and blocking.
Be clear. Not for him, but for you - so you don't have to ask this question in the future.
I think he wanted to try something else before he wanted to settle, and I honestly admire when men are honest and say what they want from the get go. But I would feel like plan B, I would feel kind of played and last choice... It's not fair, I mean he might care because you just let him go like that, and he could be curious.
But don't trust him so easily, let him sweat a little.
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u He wanted to stroke his ego and be playing the field. He thought you were gonna cooperate and stay at home waiting to see if he calls wanting to see you this weekend. That would have made him feel like a stud.
Which one is this? The ex, the guy getting money from you, the friends with benefits, or is this another one🤔🤷
Tell him that you have different wants and just leave it at that.
I think he cares because you essentially broke up with him and blocked him; breaking up doesn’t mean blocking a person for SPME people. Personally, I think you should block someone you break up with to give yourself space from someone just for a while, and if that’s the general consensus I’m not sure he got the memo. With that said, he’s surprised that you blocked him. Maybe tell him you need space for a week to a couple months or more and then talk to each other again if you still want to be friends.
Good for you well I think what he was trying to do is manipulate you and he thought maybe you were going to go along with it because you wanted him I think you did the right thing I wouldn't even answer his text let him think about it for a long while let him pick and choose what he really wants that him prove it to you I think he's a fool I mean I don't even know who you are but with your questions and answers I would love to know who you are I'm very curious there's just something very hot and sexy about you and if I know that and don't even know who you are then he knows it then
Because he's an idiot.
You should tell him that you blocked him because you have different needs, and you don't want to date someone who's actively dating others.
Be straight up you have nothing to lose. Otherwise you're going to waste so much of your precious time. If he likes you, he will understand and always make sure you are comfortable. Men are THAT simple if they WANT to be.
Young guys stupid. He cares because he still wants to have sex with you. He may or may not be successful in "dating others", so I think he was just trying to keep the door open. You did the right thing. That guy wasn't serious anyway... he just wants to play. Move on & feel good about the fact that you didn't waste any time with a guy like that.
He wanted to try out several potential girlfriends to see which one he liked the most. Apparently he's decided he likes you more than the other girls he's dated since. It's kind of like test driving several models to make sure you've picked the right one. Now it's up to you to decide if the model he wants is still available.
He feels like the situation was unresolved (for him). He probably doesn’t want you to be mad at him bc he feels guilty as well. In this situation, you should do what is right for you. You don’t have to give him closure if you do not want to. You are completely within your right to leave him blocked.
I think he probably wanted to keep the relationship most likely which is why he was asking. I think it was a good idea to block him from what you were explaining it sounded like he meant well but he couldn't get over the fact you blocked him sometimes it just be like that that's how life goes.
CARE? CARE?
His ego is bruised and his one option got reduced so that's why he's bothering you again to make sure that you don't forget him.
He never cared about you as he wants to date other hotties. He only cares and is offended about feeling unwanted by you!!
You were an option for him. Once you blocked him, you were no longer an available option anymore and that bothers him because he's playing games. He doesn't really "care" in the true sense... he's bothered because you took control away from him. Leave him blocked and move on to someone who deserves you.
He wants what he knows he can't have, also, he could have memory issues... If he wants to date around, that his choice, but saying that he wants to date others means he has doubts or has lost interest. He might just be desperate form getting rejected, just ignore him and DON'T engage! How many guys do you date?
Don't mind him, you did the right thing in blocking him, you just comply to his wishes. If he got angry, that's his own problem. If he wanted just to play mind games (eg, he only told you that expecting you would beg him to still dating), then it didn't work for him and things went upside down for him.
She either said no to him, she wouldn't sleep with him, or she wasn't any good in bed, or she dumped him.
Do yourself a big favor, move on.
If it happened once what's to say it won't happen again.
Don't be someone's safety net, that they can keep coming back to you.
You deserve to be treated better.
I believe that he cares either because he still wants you in his life either as a friend or as a person that he knows admires him in a romantic way. But it’s your decision whether or not your comfortable still associating yourself with someone that you once had feelings for. You can even ask for some time away from that person until you feel comfortable communicating without their being romantic tension.
He wanted an open relationship, he wanted to date others and you at the same time. If that's not what you want, then tell him you want to be exclusive.
He thinks you blocking him was unnecessary as you could have simply ignored him instead but it is also possible that he still wants to keep contact with you at least as a friend so he was surprised when you did that.
Doesn't matter why he cares. If he wants to date others, it is obvious he DOESN'T care. It sounds as though he has been wanting an open relationship. Anybody into that style isn't worth the time, to me.
You did say OK so to him you were OK with it and accepted it. If you weren't you should have flat out told him then so you wouldn't be having these problems.
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