I know none of what us say is going to make you leave him right now, but I hope you think about doing it ASAP. You don’t doubt his intentions or loyalty because you’ve instilled a lot of trust in him, but maybe in doing so you’ve turned a blind eye. There is absolutely no reason he should have pics of his friends in a personal place and not you. No reason why you should have to ask him repeatedly and the most you get is a wallpaper. This guy is creeping and maybe you don’t have clear evidence of it but that’s a huge red flag.
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He's sending mixed messages, and only he can give you the clarification you seek. You can ask him to tell you about the friend in his wallet. Make sure it comes across as curiosity, not criticism. As you've discovered, adding pressure on him won't give you the result you want. My concern is that there may have been so much pressure in the past, he'll assume whatever you do is still pressure.
Clear, open, honest communication is key to a healthy relationship. If you've never been taught communication skills, seek out a therapist who can teach the two of you together. Never assume you're born with the skills. It's about understanding the other, not focusing on being heard or getting your way. I hope the two of you can feel safe enough to openly share. Best wishes for success.
I think that is very disrespectful in the first place, but even after you have made him aware of it AND you gave him a photo too? Nah! That's not right.
The question though is what lengths are you prepared to go to to make him fix it
I would've asked why it's there. I would've explained why it makes me uncomfortable and that it's disrespectful and not normal. If he doesn't want to understand that would be my sign to peace out ✌️. I am not going to be stressed out by someone who clearly doesn't respect me.
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