Boyfriend has pictures of other girls in his phone. Should I be concerned?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 2 years and today I was using his phone to take pictures because my phone camera sucks. I was going through the photos when I was done and I noticed a picture of some girl in her underwear (head cut off of course) that was dated recently. It is most definitely NOT ME. Now I'm not sure if he received it recently or just saved it to that specific folder recently but regardless, shouldn't it have been deleted anyways? I don't want to flip out over nothing but I have a feeling if I had pictures of random guys saved to my phone he'd be a little pissed too. Am I wrong? Note: I was using his phone WITH his permission.

[crystallinegreen]

It's not nice and it's not particularly respectful granted, but I don't really think it means anything. Even if it's someone he's dated in the past and not a random, he probably just views it as nothing more than p0rn - not like she's even got a face.

He'd probably go ape if you had something like that on your phone, you're right! Men have some real double standards with this type of thing. I guess you just have to think though - is it really worth falling out over?

[unhappygirl]

If you have been dating for that long and you found one. I would come right out and ask him. Does he like to look at other women when he's around you? Is he faithful to you? If he says he is then. I would say I found this pic in your phone. What going on? Make it clear that you don't like it and it needs to stop.

[CrystalMinds]

Would you be upset if your boyfriend looked at p*rn? Because I don't think you should be concerned. The girl is headless in the pic, so it's just to look at her body, not her head. So he sees her just as a nice body, not as a girl he has a crush on... I don't know if I'm making sense?

[SuperCurious]

Since its recently dated I'd definitely be upset, is he giving any signs that he might be talking to other girls or cheating?

[Anonymous]

Probably just getting some sexy pics sent to him. Not much different from surfing p0rn. It's about the variety--doesn't mean anything's wrong with your relationship.

Now if he's taking the pic in person, that's a bigger risk, but mostly because then there's probably much more going on.

[Brando]

He's got pictures of scantly clad women with their heads cut off?! :O

[Rei13]

Honestly you should just talk to him about it. If it bothers you, it bothers you. Just take time to collect yourself so that you’re not coming out of a place of emotion and just talk about it. You could tell him that you saw the picture when you were taking photos with his phone, didn’t know how to bring it up and it made you feel the way you did. You can ask him why it was there and just go from there. It is ok to talk about things like that and just trust your gut with it. I don’t think it is automatically him cheating, it is probably just porn and just talking about it is better than holding it in

[jshm2]

Firstly, he's your boyfriend, not your husband, so wind your neck in.

Secondly, you've got no idea of the source or context of the pictures, could be he's buying you lingerie, and checking out samples. Could be a family member or friend sending holiday snaps etc, etc.

Thirdly. Don't be so fucking nosey and go through peoples things like some sort of peeping tom. If you're given permission to use something, use it only for that purpose.

You seem like the sort of jack ass that would ask to use the neighbours toilet, and then start going through their bedroom wardrobes "just because".

[OnlyMeee]

Seems a bit harsh. She was only asking a question. I would be concerned if I came across anything like this on my wife's phone, perhaps she was looking at the pictures that she took on his phone, not snooping as you you suggested. telling someone to wind their neck in doesn't come across as particularly helpful at all. If it was all innocent why would the head be chopped off to disguise the woman in the picture. Could be a harmless explanation, but there was really no need for that response. Not in my opinion anyway.

[leahzrc]

you must not do well with the ladies

[OnlyMeee]

@leahzrc who?

[leahzrc]

jshm2

[OnlyMeee]

@leahzrc oh I see. Totally agreed

[Mmfleck27]

Nope not normal at all. You are worth so much more than what he is willing to commit to. If he is committed to you he will not have that on his phone. You have every right to confront him and tell him that is disrespectful to you. If he cares for you he will understand its very disrespectful and stop. It's very much not normal for a man to have that or use it to fantasize while he masterbate or whatever he does. That is cheating end of story. You are worth so much more my friend!! My boyfriend communicated everything to me. In our relationship masterbation is cheating to us so if it occurs we tell eachother about it because that's how much we both respect one another and the Lords purpose for us!!! I never doubt my boyfriends intentions and I trust him fully knowing he's not looking at women or masterbating!! You are worth a man revisiting temptation for you and only having you in his life for that stuff!! Im sorry that happened to you my friend

[sage2021]

You almost have to wonder if he has more pictures in hidden folders that you can't find.

I hope there is nothing sinister going on with choppoling off heads. That's weird too 🤷🏼‍♀️

[bobalife]

If it’s recent, of course it’s concerning. You should just ask him, he’s your boyfriend after all.

[Peter_Penetrator]

He could have downloaded it from the net.
Have you checked his browser history?

[Peter_Penetrator]

If you go to google check his browser settings. If they are set to allow explicit content, it is easy to go to the top of google, select images, search “girls in bikini’s” or “big tits”. You would be surprised what comes up. And yes, there is a reason I know this.

[sheikalana]

That's weird of him. You should probably ask him.

[Anonymous]

it's nothing, I get pics from girls from time to time, not a big deal.

[Anonymous]

Yes thats borderline cheating

[Anonymous]

Yes, time for a new boyfriend.

[leahzrc]

call him out for it