My friend keeps flirting with the guys I date?

[Anonymous]

My friend “stole” my ex from me (they’re still together though so I thought we would never compete for guys again) and now that I’m dating someone new, she jokes about “stealing my man again” and having a threesome with me and him. She also followed my current boyfriend on social media and likes all his posts. I think her behaviour is very desperate. Should I confront her about this?

[donkeyde]

From the sound of it she wants what yours and to have the satisfaction of making it happen. She took your ex after you all broke up and now joking about your current. If it was a harmless joke then it would have stopped with ex and been done. With her start looking into removing her from your circle because if she trying to take everything you have or want you to share what you got then she only looking for her interest and not yours.

[Asker]

Thank you 👏🏼 I literally don’t know why she’s doing this, I’ve been nothing but a good friend to her. And I want to confront her but she always denies having done anything, makes it out like I’m overreacting and says “what a cute couple” me and my boyfriend are. but this is what she said about me and my ex before she “stole” him.

[donkeyde]

Welcome to the life of having a hater for a friend who is unable to find something good for them and will seek whatever good you have for you for themselves believing they deserve it more than you. Have an asshole at work who do similar shit but claims the awards and recognitions I get is meant to be for him. Kick her to a distance where I will be civil but we ain’t friends and don’t ask for shit.

[ralphphilip83]

You’re too nice. Tell her to stay the fuck away from your boyfriend.

[Asker]

I have and she acted offended and said she doesn’t even like him and that she was “just joking” about the threesome comment, but she’s been liking his photos still

[Wise4myage]

She is not your friend and she is a snake in the grass. I suggest you unfriend her and never speak to her again.

[Asker]

Thanks for your advice, Unfortunately I can’t unfriend her, we are living together and have all the same friends. And she’s going to play the victim to everyone else if I unfriend her. I do want to keep her and my boyfriend separate though. She’s very sneaky.

[Wise4myage]

Then you need to rip into her a bit and speak your mind. Tell her joking about it isn't funny. If it should happen again, then you really need to think about moving out.

[Asker]

The problem is I wouldn’t know if it’s happening again, since she tells me I’m overreacting at her following/liking my bf’s social media. Im tempted to tell her he would never be interested in her, but that would be stooping to her level.

[Wise4myage]

I say tell her and the sooner the better.

[sunnyshe]

This is not someone you should continue to be friends with.

[Celtero]

You must not take your relationships very seriously.

[Asker]

No I do, it’s just that I wanted to give her the benefit of the doubt because she always feigns ignorance when I confront her.

[Anonymous]

This is no friend