Am I attractive? Why am I still single? Never approached? (Page 2)
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Well, what are you doing? Existing isn't good enough, you have to flirt, you have to make yourself approachable, you have to put yourself in a position to be approached, you have to have body language that tells men its okay to approach you, you have to be in an area where their are men to approach you etc. etc. So are you doing any of those things?
You didn't really post a pic of yourself did you?
It's time to take a look at your personality. You have to BE a friend to HAVE a friend. So far, you only focus on YOU. Never once did you ever consider what you would do for your man, or what you bring of high-value to a relationship. It's just all ME ME ME. Even your question is all about you.
This makes you undateable.
I actually have thought of what value I bring.
It sounds like I’m being self-centered but the point of the post was to address the issue because I’m open to others thoughts and growth. Secondly, I’ve always felt like it’s not so much my place to approach men because of the family I was raised in and how I often assume men aren’t interested in me.
"... how I often assume..."
And there ya go.
It's not about 'approaching men', it's about being approachable. About being a good sounding board, about showing interest and desire.
You feign incompetence, but my bet is you know exactly how to seduce a man. You just choose not to, for whatever reason.
So, tell us... what value you DO you bring? Cuz it's not empathy - every woman has that. And it's not your golden vagina. Every woman has one of those. So what exactly is it? You need to be able articulate this, cuz a high-value guy will expect it.
Do you adore men? Do you know how to KEEP a man? Do you know what a man needs?
Do you work with men or go places that you can be around guys in a social atmosphere? Physically I think most men would find you attractive so I can only imagine you aren't meeting people or maybe your a quiet person. Don't be afraid to make the first move either.
Yeah, I’m more on the quiet side. There are times where I feel more bold and talk to guys but I feel, they just aren’t interested or something. I tried messaging this guy from church group on Facebook once after we all hung out in a group and he said he’d love to hang out sometime after I conveyed some interest. Then the next week I saw him at group and he barely looked in my direction and didn’t say a word and yet he was leading the group for that evening. Also, with work I tend to be alone a lot of the time as I primarily work from home since I’m a realtor and when I’m out working, I am primarily meeting married couples.
I'm a little quiet myself so I understand. If I were who I was 7 years ago I would feel good about meeting and getting to know you.
If I could I'd like to message you just to get to know you better. I think there is some good advice on here and unfortunately I think you are going to have to leave your comfort zone and initiate talking even just to make friends and see if you like them. Real estate is generally a good career and if you are quiet more times than not people sometimes get the wrong idea and think this is someone who is not interested in being friends. Guys can get weird when it comes to approaching an attractive successful woman. Regardless I hope things get better and you find what you are looking for
I hope I don't offend you but you do sound a little entitled. Like you should be desired, you should be approached and you should have a boyfriend. It feel to me like you are focusing on external factors to define you.
Yes you are pretty but just go out and meet people. Any guy you might like will have been swooped away by a woman not afraid to interact.
One last thing, I hope you aren't Dutch. I kinda always feel like it is embarrassing to act like a tourist in the tulip fields.
guys are probably intimidated. you are quite pretty. most men nowadays meet their wives on okcupid and tinder. most men in our age group are too scared nowadays. most of the braves ones are above the age of 40.
You look quite average and have some physical features people might dislike such as very thin eyebrows and large square jaw. Of course in terms of personality I don't know anything about you but maybe it's due to you giving off vibes that you're not available. Don't expect men to do all the approaching because we don't live in the feudal times anymore and that kind of attitude reeks of narcissism.
Aw did I trigger a feminist?
Bitchy much! She is beautiful! Girls should stick together not be jealous and say shit like this!
You are beautiful and look very approachable with your smile, so your appearance has nothing to do with it. It's been very difficult to meet people the last year with COVID-19. Hopefully that will improve so you can get out into the world and meet new people.
How about using an online dating site (but not a hook-up site)? Make a good profile with a variety of photos, explain who you are, what is important to you, and what you’re looking for, and see what happens. You might find a good match easily. If you don’t like the sort of men your age who match with you, you can consider men a bit older than you if you are willing to.
Sorry to hear about your troubles. You seem quite attractive to me. It could be due to issues with your personality (though this is unclear I don't know you). You could be consciously or subconsciously telling people to go away. To some extent it could be male insecurity, but many men don't have that problem, and the common denominator is you.
Approaching people and small talk isn't my strong suit. It isn't easy for some people to walk up to a stranger and strike up a conversation and keep it going. Especially if it's a cute woman around my age. I've tried several times in my life though. You are attractive and I like how you do your hair by the way 🙂. Hopefully the right guy comes your way someday.
The girl in the photos have been approached hundreds of times. When pretty girls say they are not approached, what they really mean is they are not approached by the super hot guys they want and approaches by all the other guys don't count.
yeah. "all the other guys" tend to be above the age of 60 and obese.
@DianaWest No doubt, in your opinion, guys like me are over 60 and obese.
That’s not true. Lol
@DWornock
This right here! Exactly! Women who look like her get approached several times a week. But if the guy is under six feet tall, or less than an 8 out of 10 in looks, it "doesn't count, because they're 'creeps'."
Assumptions don’t equate to facts. I’m not approached at all. My once or twice in college. I’m 26 now. So it’s been a while.
If you look like the girl in the photos, you cannot go to a club without being asked to dance not can you go out in public for more than a couple of hours without being approached unless you glare at everyone that appears to want to. When you claim otherwise, that is a strong indication, that anyone attempting to approach you that doesn't have moviestar looks, in your mind, doesn't count.
You look beautiful! Might I suggest some clothes that are just asking for you to be approached? Do you own leather pants? Something like this?
Yes you are. But me being me, would I approach you? I don't know, if we somehow get a random conversation going I would talk to you, but I wouldn't say I'm the type of person that purposely goes out to hit on women? Sounds bad putting it like that haha
Based on looks alone, I do not see a problem, you are an attractive woman.
Could depend on where you live, how much you socialize and how you act when men are in close proximity to you.
Personally I think you are attractive. I would approach you and start a friendly conversation. If I got good signals from you then I would ask for your number and later arrange a date.
Definitely.. both 'You' and your 'Camera Quality' are Supperbb😃😅
Being single is just your choice. You are single bcz you are looking for a serious relationship, right? Otherwise there are a lot of guys who are willing for relationship, with any girl..🤷♂️
It's really hard to believe that you were never approached.
Oh, this is an easy one! You're too prim and proper looking. You give off a super "good girl" innocent vibe. I find you attractive, but there's no way I would ever feel like I could be myself around you.
I’m pretty chill when you get to know me. I don’t judge harshly and I’m open minded. I just like to present myself with class and integrity. And stay true to my values.
I'm sure you're a cool person, but you asked why guys don't approach you and that's just going by surface level judgements. My guess is that they don't approach you because your marketing materials don't have a care-free vibe.
Attractive is only one thing, personality, getting noticed.. etc
Yeah, I feel like I’m not easily noticed because I am more introverted. A lot of times I fade to the background especially around loud people.
Your leg muscles look tense. Maybe you have anxiety and that turns people away. Actually just making this post makes you seem anxious.
Another thing is that highly educated girls tend to be less attractive. It's not that they're intimidating, they're just weird.
Weird in what way? I'm curious 😂
@GabyMontes dominant/manly.
I’m sorry but you seem too engrossed in your looks. I am 25 and single, I don’t think I will ever date to be completely honest.
This is very MIDDLE SCHOOL mentality your coming from. What’s your personality like? Do you have goals?
Why don’t you think you’ll ever date?
I was treated so poorly by men
Online dating is delusional, there's no hope in it. Did your parents raise you to be a wife? If so ask your father what good men want from women. If they didn't raise you to be a wife, you have to do the work before its too late