Why do white men hate it so much when white women date a POC?

[Anonymous]

Genuine question. I get a lot of horrible messages on here and Twitter about it. They call me a race traitor and many other things which are much worse.

[abc3643]

Well, it's only RACIST white men.
However, there is a more basic instinct at play here.

People - of WHATEVER race or religion or ethnicity or whatever - have an instinct of dividing people into two groups: Us and Them.

What is "Them"? Anyone who is not a member of "Us".

So, the other evolved instinct is that we want members of Us to form couples with other members of Us. This way, we can better keep the number of members of Us from dwindling and Us and its culture survive.

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Unfortunately, bigots - and especially racists - are very narrow in their definition of "Us". People like you who are more open-minded have a more expansive and inclusive idea of what "Us" is.

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OK, as for dealing with the racist asshole who say things like you are a race traitor, fire back something like this:

"Well, if you think our race should be filled with people like you, then our race shouldn't exist and I would then be happy to expedite its extinction. Fortunately, most people in our race aren't like you since you belong to a special breed of our race - assholes - and I genuinely do hope and pray your breed goes extinct."

[Asker]

Yeah I’m just making a generalisation on white men sorry

[abc3643]

Well, that's in error then. What I wrote is what the reality is.

For example, think of all the people who complain about:

1. Interfaith dating / marriage.
2. Interracial dating / marriage.
3. Dating / marrying outside the ethnicity.

You can see questions here about that every single day.

This illustrates that the issue is more fundamental.

By the way, your generalization of white men is, de facto, racist. Do you realize that?

[Asker]

I can’t be racist to my own race lol

[abc3643]

Yes you can.

Watch: I'm going to do it:

"White men can't jump."
"White people don't have rhythm."

There. O M G, I am a racist.

Enjoy!
www.toptenz.net/top-10-racial-stereotypes.php

[Asker]

You can’t🤣🤣🤣

[abc3643]

Yes, you can.

Let's take a look at the definition of the word "Racism" per the Oxford English Dictionary, aka "The OED", which is generally regarded as "The Guardian of the English Language". When the OED adds new words or announces the Word of the Year, it's news.

Anyway, here is the OED definition of "Racism".
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racism
Pronunciation /ˈrāˌsizəm/ /ˈreɪˌsɪzəm/

NOUN
1 Prejudice, discrimination, or antagonism by an individual, community, or institution against a person or people on the basis of their membership in a particular racial or ethnic group, typically one that is a minority or marginalized.

‘a program to combat racism’

1.1 The belief that different races possess distinct characteristics, abilities, or qualities, especially so as to distinguish them as inferior or superior to one another.
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In neither of these definitions does it say that the person being the racist has to be a member of a different race from the group that they are being racist about.

[abc3643]

I forgot the URL:
https://www.lexico.com/en/definition/racism

[Asker]

Oh and yep whites aren’t an ethnic minority. You destroyed your own argument hun x

[abc3643]

Your comprehension of logic needs work.

Feel free to download and study this free classic textbook on the subject.

Introduction to Logic, 14th Edition, Irving M. Copi et alia.
dorshon.com/.../Introduction-to-Logic.pdf

[Asker]

Can’t be arsed

[Anonymous]

I don't hate it, it doesn't even bother me because I've accepted that I'm more attracted to women of other races myself.
When I try to date a white woman I'm just kidding myself.
She's not what I really want so I don't judge them for dating other races either.

[Asker]

Yeah I’m just generalising

[Anonymous]

Probably because many POC women just like white women go around thrashing their own race on social media?
Don't get me wrong. I know this Asian lady who got married to a white guy and was so so disappointed and hated the fact that all her kids came out looking Asian.

[Asker]

That’s shocking

[Opinion Owner]

It's not at all especially if you use social media. Like don't you see how many Asian women talk about wanting to get "colonised" by white men on tiktok or reddit?
Anyway it doesn't matter the gender or race. Everyone is talking shit about each other. White men about white women. Asian and latina women about Asian men and vice versa

[doopayo]

I have no idea. They feel entitled to white women or something or they’re just racist. I have a auntie that’s white and her family disowned her after she married my uncle (black) they’re happily married and have three kids now.

[hellionthesagereborn]

They don't, they don't care they have never cared. The only time they care is if she makes a big show of it i. e. she is doing it for attention or if she is virtue signalling OR worse, she is racist (hates white men and sees minority men as "superior") otherwise I've never known a white man who has cared about dating other races (to be fair I've never personally met any man who cared).

[Mofunfour20]

Where's the incentive in judging anyone's relationship if you aren't them and they're not asking for your advice? The only options is to keep stewing over it or improve yourself so you get the desired outcome. there's no prize in investing in their connections or who they date

[slatyb]

Most of us don’t care. The few that do feel entitled to an attractive white partner but have been unable to attract one. They are too insecure to admit that they might be the problem, they blame it on anything besides their own behavior. They can’t find a white woman because they are all dating POC. Ormelse they are all lesbian or bisexual or whatever.

[Anonymous]

I've seeing black men literally threat to kill famous black girls on social media because they're dating white men. And call them every sort of names: bed wenches, wh*res, sl*ts, traitors. Accusing them of being sellouts.

In addition, Asian women are called bananas, lulus, and the same other misogynistic names.

Latina women are called gringo lovers, perra de gringos and so.

But the stupid white girl thinks she's special because someone called her a name probably after you called white men another name.

[Asker]

Ok so this question is clearly talking about you

[Opinion Owner]

I'm much more concerned about the women of color facing hate for dating white men.

And no white girl is going to defend them. Why?

[Asker]

I’m not gonna lie all the women of colour I know avoid white men too

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah, the 3 other female incels like you, your only friends in life. 😆

[Asker]

Stop crying about it🤣🤣🤣

[Opinion Owner]

You need to meet people in real life, dear heart. Get out of your lone bubble.

[Asker]

I live a great life and know many. I also live in a hugely integrated society

[Bluemax]

They are racist white men.

I'm white. I wish you nothing but happiness.

[Asker]

Thank you

[Finchie40]

Me personally doesn’t care who anyone chooses to date , that’s their life not mine , it sounds like these guys that are saying shit are just jealous that you aren’t going for them , I wouldn’t sweat it , you like who you like , fuck what others think

[Kenzy009]

Beacuse men are territorial and feel a sense on possetion on their women. I know it sound messed up, but men a like that with everything. We feel like they are taking them away from us

[Asker]

That’s really weird tho because men of colour are still men lol

[weeee]

Thats fucked up. I don't give a rats ass about what race of men women of my race date. Does anyone actually care about this?

[Asker]

@weeee believe it or not yes. In most parts of Europe and the US

[ZackBan]

Keyboard warriors. Let me see someone say it to your face, most these people are trolls because they know they are unreachable

[anylolone]

That I know, no.
Most white men don't care.

Most white men, and men in general that I know, hate when any woman they would do anything to fuck, is fucking someone else.
Also true of women with men they'd just fuck.

[Anonymous]

No idea. I don't really see this happening in real life.

[Asker]

It’s mainly online

[Opinion Owner]

I guess I don't really see it online either

[JesseJayNeak]

Twitter (and the internet as a whole) doesn't represent all men. So, don't generalize

[Asker]

The only way to get an answer is to generalise

[Anonymous]

Couldn't care less and assuming only white men care is racist and naive. All groups have racist and are against what they call mixing races. There are no races so you're just some girl dating some guy, which is nothing to me.

[Thegreendagger]

I don't know
I didn't think white dudes cared. I thought they dated Asian chicks and the occasional latina

[Asker]

Have you not read some responses to posts on here?🤣

[Stormdoğan]

Your obsessed with race culture is fucked up, that’s why. Funny thing is most of you are not even educated about the basics of human history, identities, races, cultures. A hell of a gross mess.

[Asker]

I’m not obsessed lol I’m asking why my relationship triggers people

[Babygirl_S]

Men of colour hate even more when we like white men.

[Asker]

Why?

[Babygirl_S]

Jealousy.

[Slim57]

I dont its just when they do it to rebel or to follow a trend

[Asker]

Yep I’m sure a 20 year marriage is a rebellious trend

[Anonymous]

why would anyone care about you? You're obvious a male troll, probably a negro with a small dick

[Birdlegs]

Wow you went there

[Asker]

Lol try again I’m a young white woman

[MotorcycleMan]

Because they're racist and narrow minded.

[Anonymous]

You should report them for harassment.

[Asker]

I do

[SmokinAces2000]

Because they are insecure