Guys, how long would you go without sex before losing interest in someone you're dating?

[Anonymous]

I'm 26 years old and I grew up hearing about how men were pigs that only cared about having sex and it truly scared me from dating. Now I'm 26 and I understand that there are a few bad men out there but most are good and want to find love like everyone else. Because of my past fears I never dated anyone and I am still a virgin and I don't feel ready at the moment to have sex. I am worried about how this will affect my dating life now that I am ready to date.

Guys, how long would you be willing to date someone without having sex?

Also,

When would be an appropriate time (if at all) for me to bring up the fact that I am not ready to have sex?

[ohshee]

First of all you're right about guys being pigs and being nice guys and wanting sex. So probably 85 out of 100 guys still have not grown up and there are basically pigs and they make it all about themselves
Okay so if you have a beautiful heart if you're confident your kind you're happy you're smart you're intelligent and you can smile can you just very good person I would date you yes.
I would understand and I would respect your wishes because I think that is cool you are way better than me you are stronger than me because I didn't make it past 15 and 1/2 we're having sex
And as we talked about it I would ask you a question I have lots of passion I have lots of Desire I love to make a woman feel good I love to make it all about her and I love to make love.
And then I would what are the rules I mean I need passion I need affection I need to list I need seduction I need to feel your energy I need to get you off I need to make you feel good I don't need to have sex to do that but I have to come close to having sex to do that
My question to you would be can we make out can we be naked can we masturbate each other can I put you on top of me just slide you forward and back forward and back pulling your hips sliding you a top of my cock but there would just be no penetration would you allow that to happen

[Jlegacy]

I could date a girl and then marry her before I would think of sex. I can ever go beyond that and she would be the one to say let's have sex.

I think you should be upfront about your views or decisions on sex from the start. I once dated a girl and told her I didn't want sex and she was cool with it. We never kissed, smooched or did anything sexual. It was amazing.

Love yourself. No other person in all of creation as you. If he doesn't want you, his loss but never compromise you for nobody unless the person is God.

[Jlegacy]

Thanks for the MHO

[itsnotkevin]

Thinking about it, its not that there's so long I can't go without sex but more like if it seems there's no advancements in getting physical. Taking it slow is perfectly fine I think for the greater amount of guys. It can be like end one date with hug. The other you hold hands. Then kiss in another and so on. Having sex can be a build up and not necessarily the next step. But if there's no progress it can seem like you'd rather be only friends instead of not being ready. So guys too need to get comfortable sexually, it's just some more faster than others.

[Bram852OOO]

I'm not someone who wants to have sex too soon. when i'm in a relationship, i often wait at least 2 months. However, if it's longer/sooner, depends on my SO.
I'm flexibel around when to have sex but i only do it when i'm in a relationship with the other person.

[K-I-S-S]

The main reason for a man to date a woman is for sex.

So it is a big deal for men.
In terms of when? Depends a lot on the guy.
And also the reason why.

For me maybe a month or two.

No need to hate men for it, we are just different from women. Evolution kind of made us this way, to want to bang everything that moves.

Some guys have lower sex drive, maybe keep an eye out for them.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't date her at all if I knew that up front. If I don't get sex after the Third Date then my interest is gone because I take that as a lack of attraction on her part. Sex is very important to most guys. I suggest you get your Past Fears of men taken care of first to where it's no longer an issue. Don't take it out on good and Descent Men. Many guys will assume you're not attracted to them.

[slatyb]

A few weeks. Being that I would figure she just has no sex drive, or is just using me for entertainment.

[Feelicks]

Dating without sex isn't that just being friends? It's not very reasonable to try to claim someone's sexual exclusively and just shut down that element of their life.

I wouldn't go more than few weeks personally.

[Reyow]

Personally i dont need sex. I need physical intimacy. Kissing, cuddling, just being held would be all that id need physically any real guy worth his salt will understand your reasoning and respect it till you are ready.

[PoliteSpeaker]

If he is committed to finding a wife than he would do it easily. If he is interested in finding a wife then he will not do it for long.

[Slartybartfast]

Waiting is a good thing. If he doesn't want to wait, he's not for you obviously.

[Hanrej]

I wouldn't date her even once unless some form of intimacy was involved. That said there are plenty of substitutions to sex.