Do you agree that women are hypocrites when men have preferences with looks in dating but have no problem with women having them?

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If a man doesn't want to date a woman because he doesn't find her physically or sexually attractive (or both) many women get mad at him and are like,"You are such an asshole for not wanting to her for that reason." They even tell hot guys that don't want to date a fat woman, etc. the same thing. All men get shitted on for this. Now if a woman doesn't want to date a man because she is not physically or sexually attracted to him, women say," She can date whoever she wants." Big time hypocrites.

weasley8 · Accepted Answer

I don't think any gender is more hypocritical than another. We all have standards. Some people - of all genders - just get really upset when they don't meet someone else's standards.

If you're trying to make it seem like women are the only ones that this is true for, I'm going to have to point you to the fact that the MGTOW and Incel "movements" are comprised mostly about guys whining that women are "shallow," and that they don't stand a chance, when in reality, the reason that most of these guys aren't getting dates has a lot to do with their personality, combined with the fact that their own standards are likely too high.

If you're having trouble getting a date with the people you're currently interested in. The issue isn't that their standards are too high. Because if they can find someone who meets their standards, they're not too high. If you're the one having trouble finding a date, your standards are the problem.

Pandupillu · Accepted Answer

That's cause they are not used to being rejected based on looks. In the coming years women will have to get used to this cause there are plenty of resources now a days. You just need to have the money to access them. Men have started getting into grooming and perfecting their faces and physiques, in time their standards will be higher and women will have to try harder to keep up with this that is if they care of course. Same goes with finance for men. plenty women getting into high paying jobs and entrepreneurship, they will raise their standards for the income, men will have to try hard to keep up. Brace your self lol

Jake99999 · Accepted Answer

You are stereotyping. Not all women or even most are like this. It’s just your opinion. Or maybe it’s been your experience. It’s simple - some women lash out when they are rejected. Some guys do too. It’s a defense mechanism. They want to blame the man rather than feel inadequate. Everyone has a right to select who they want to go out with. And the person who gets turned down - they usually don’t like it. Not worth getting upset about.

RawIronhide · Accepted Answer

Yeah, someone just called me shallow for swiping left on tinder too much. It's not really fair, I can't control who I find attractive any more then the next person can and it's actually quite cruel to pretend to be interested in people you're not attracted to, it's a disappointment time bomb... I don't know man haters gunna hate, just keep it moving pimpin.

anniisa97 · Answer

No, I dont think women are hypocrites. I think its just people of low IQ who stay stuck on things like this and think the whole world is unfair to men when it isn't. 🙃

there's plenty of men who complain that pretty women don't want them and don't do anything to improve themselves, theyre called incels. Its not just women who shame people for having standards. Only an idiot would think its limited to one gender.

The world has bigger issues.

Subarugirl · Answer

I think that there are always outliers. There will always be extremes at either end of the spectrum, there are men and women that are superficial that won't change. Neither sex likes being objectified. At the end of the day you are entitled to you preferences, just don't be an ass about it.

Halibut · Answer

I think that men focus on looks more than women do... but I think that being attracted to a sense of humor isn't really much less shallow. We all have preferences for good genetics, and I think that we should just accept that, this isn't really much of a problem.

I think the thing to do is just be tactful unless joking around a group of people unlikely to be offended.

MrMilti · Answer

There have been articals written, titled:

- "When you do not want to date plussize women, you are fatphobic"
- "When you do not want to date transwomen, you are transphobic"
- "When you dont want to date careerwomen, you are afraid and/or intimidated by them"

Yet I still think, that is just a very very loud minority. The majority will still accept, that men have preferences too.

YollyM · Answer

Yup women can be hypocrites because everyone has a preference when it comes to who they date or find attractive.

However women usually say "I don't like short guys, I like my man tall😋". Where as men would say "I like slim-waist-ass-fat type of girls, all the skinny girls are ugly as hell". The difference between the two is the women simply state their preference but the men bring down or bash a certain type of woman to state his preferred type.

InsertNameHerex · Answer

Sorry that you met the hypocritical women but not everyone is lmao. It’s unfortunate you’ve ran into a lot though. Anyway humans are hypocritical creatures in general, I’ve heard men do this too, as well as women. Personally I think it’s dumb, like if you think one thing, you shouldn’t contradict yourself.

Assi2k · Answer

It’s true. Guys are vilified about their preferences. If you’re sure that by stating your opinion (and not being a jerk about it), you’ll offend people, it may be that you’re in the wrong crowd.

Avalanche_ · Answer

There is nothing hypocritical about having preferences about appearance when dating. You can't force yourself to be attracted to someone if you are not.

Drzen · Answer

Excuse me Now days there's no fat they're either plus size or thick I don't know what's the other name they call themselves maybe curry full girl.

2021 dating game is hypocrisy. To win you should just not play the game. A wise man once said never argue with idiot he will beat you with his stupidity I believe. Runway so many chameleons out there

Anonymous · Answer

Honestly, yes, it is hypocritical. I remember talking to 6-7 girls once and I thought I was doing something wrong. One girl I know said “stop mentioning that stupid bitch”. Meanwhile the same girl would mention guys she dated prior or whatever. This is why I’m tired of women/girls. I can’t deal with modern day feminists, they are rude. I can’t deal with a girl who’s in her late 20s or 30s and still doesn’t have her shit together. This is why dating isn’t fun anymore.

Ninani · Answer

Not all women say these things, but the ones who do are hypocrites.

ElizaPam · Answer

Both genders get mad hearing the other one talk about preferences when they don’t fit those preferences

SynthKobra · Answer

I mean there is definitely a double standard when it comes to dating and it's heavily skewed in favor of women. With that said, who cares. You like what you like hypocrites be damned.

nella965 · Answer

Maybe if you were better looking and actually are able to attract any women At all, you wouldn’t have to ask dumb bitter questions like this

cloudspy · Answer

Yes, I agree it is hypocritical of women who do this. Both sexes have preferences, it's each to their own.

TheUniqueOne96 · Answer

Well, the ones who say it are. How many of them even look that good without makeup anyway, lol if they count that as their 'real look'.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Not really... women are people, men are people; people prefer things that other people who aren't that preference will get annoyed about. No harm, no foul. Just don't be a twat about it.

Babygirl_S · Answer

I prefer tall guys and I have come across many guys who got mad over it. At least, it is a trait that more men can have across the planet while saying something like "I prefer x race" is very narrow-minded in comparison.

Slartybartfast · Answer

Remember, there are more women under 100 pounds in the world , then men over six foot tall.  So who's being 'unrealistic' ... ?

TheFlak38 · Answer

women have become the most entitled living being in the cosmos. By default, just because they have a vagina.

This_Is_My_Opinion8 · Answer

That is hypothetical. But I don't think most women would act like that. Only a few body positive morons.

slatyb · Answer

Everyone has preferences, even the people who criticize others for having them.

Browneye57 · Answer

You're trying to make something out of nothing. Date whomever you want, no one cares. And quit this whiny nonsense.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes I think so, most people are hypocrites, both men and women.

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Yeah hypocrites but they are just basically children so I don't know why you would bother to listen to children. Do you also eat candy for breakfast?

Anonymous · Answer

Women are hypocrites about everything buddy they are essentially grown children. They will whine and complain when anything negatively affects them but they are OK with it as long as it benefits them

Shy_Steve · Answer

It's not hypocritical, It's just really unfair for most of us Guys.

Kevhanma · Answer

Gal gadot looks like my little sister with nonexistent tiddies she is not hot

MDollarBill · Answer

Everyone has their "type". It's only a problem when other people start offering their own opinions.

doopayo · Answer

Yeah, no one ever complains about that

Anonymous · Answer

A guy wouldn't date me cause he wasn't attracted to me for being fat. I never got mad at him. I thought "looks will always matter".

karaspara · Answer

No we don't but if we did yes it would be

Blackcupcake · Answer

that's not true but ok...

SomeStoner · Answer

Everyone is a hypocrite when it suits them.

msc545 · Answer

Yes of course I agree.

PinkLady21 · Answer

I agree 🤷🏻‍♀️

Asianguy123 · Answer

I think women are fake gold digging liars

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