Do you agree that women are hypocrites when men have preferences with looks in dating but have no problem with women having them?

[Anonymous]

If a man doesn't want to date a woman because he doesn't find her physically or sexually attractive (or both) many women get mad at him and are like,"You are such an asshole for not wanting to her for that reason." They even tell hot guys that don't want to date a fat woman, etc. the same thing. All men get shitted on for this. Now if a woman doesn't want to date a man because she is not physically or sexually attracted to him, women say," She can date whoever she wants." Big time hypocrites.

[Pandupillu]

That's cause they are not used to being rejected based on looks. In the coming years women will have to get used to this cause there are plenty of resources now a days. You just need to have the money to access them. Men have started getting into grooming and perfecting their faces and physiques, in time their standards will be higher and women will have to try harder to keep up with this that is if they care of course. Same goes with finance for men. plenty women getting into high paying jobs and entrepreneurship, they will raise their standards for the income, men will have to try hard to keep up. Brace your self lol

[weasley8]

I don't think any gender is more hypocritical than another. We all have standards. Some people - of all genders - just get really upset when they don't meet someone else's standards.

If you're trying to make it seem like women are the only ones that this is true for, I'm going to have to point you to the fact that the MGTOW and Incel "movements" are comprised mostly about guys whining that women are "shallow," and that they don't stand a chance, when in reality, the reason that most of these guys aren't getting dates has a lot to do with their personality, combined with the fact that their own standards are likely too high.

If you're having trouble getting a date with the people you're currently interested in. The issue isn't that their standards are too high. Because if they can find someone who meets their standards, they're not too high. If you're the one having trouble finding a date, your standards are the problem.

[Jake99999]

You are stereotyping. Not all women or even most are like this. It’s just your opinion. Or maybe it’s been your experience. It’s simple - some women lash out when they are rejected. Some guys do too. It’s a defense mechanism. They want to blame the man rather than feel inadequate. Everyone has a right to select who they want to go out with. And the person who gets turned down - they usually don’t like it. Not worth getting upset about.

[RawIronhide]

Yeah, someone just called me shallow for swiping left on tinder too much. It's not really fair, I can't control who I find attractive any more then the next person can and it's actually quite cruel to pretend to be interested in people you're not attracted to, it's a disappointment time bomb... I don't know man haters gunna hate, just keep it moving pimpin.

[Asker]

Do you agree women are the biggest hypocrites out there? They tell men that they should date a woman regardless how they look like yet those same women have no problem with women having preferences in looks in dating.

[RawIronhide]

I see the hypocrisy but I don't think it's exclusive to women and I'm not trying to play the "who's the biggest loser game" I have seen that behavior in some women but ya know some guys are pretty shitty too. I wouldn't just call women hypocritical.

[anniisa97]

No, I dont think women are hypocrites. I think its just people of low IQ who stay stuck on things like this and think the whole world is unfair to men when it isn't. 🙃

there's plenty of men who complain that pretty women don't want them and don't do anything to improve themselves, theyre called incels. Its not just women who shame people for having standards. Only an idiot would think its limited to one gender.

The world has bigger issues.

[Subarugirl]

I think that there are always outliers. There will always be extremes at either end of the spectrum, there are men and women that are superficial that won't change. Neither sex likes being objectified. At the end of the day you are entitled to you preferences, just don't be an ass about it.

[Asker]

You don't get my post. I said women are hypocrites and talk smack about guys that have preferences with looks in dating yet don't talk smack about women having preferences with looks in dating.

[Subarugirl]

I did, I just think that is a gross misconception about the grand majority of the population. Men can be just as superficial about how they want their partner to look.

[Asker]

When did I say I have a problem with people caring about looks in dating. I never said that. My post has to do with women getting mad at men for having preferences in looks in dating but not when women have preferences with looks in dating. That is what I'm referring to. You just don't get it.

[Subarugirl]

I do, I am saying that women aren't the only ones who do this, and that the majority of the populations aren't like that. It's and extreme, but it is also a minority.

[Asker]

I know not only women do this but way more women do it then men. So many women are hypocrites with all types of things. Including with traditional roles. Expecting men to do the roles but if a man wants a woman to do those roles, he is sexist.

[Subarugirl]

That's the thing... I don't think that is true. I think that it happens about the same. I can't tell you how many times, I have encountered a lot of men who got angry and defensive because I wasn't attracted to them and "huge dick" or money or what ever. No one likes to be rejected, but I can assure you that women are not the only ones who do this.

[Halibut]

I think that men focus on looks more than women do... but I think that being attracted to a sense of humor isn't really much less shallow. We all have preferences for good genetics, and I think that we should just accept that, this isn't really much of a problem.

I think the thing to do is just be tactful unless joking around a group of people unlikely to be offended.

[MrMilti]

There have been articals written, titled:

- "When you do not want to date plussize women, you are fatphobic"
- "When you do not want to date transwomen, you are transphobic"
- "When you dont want to date careerwomen, you are afraid and/or intimidated by them"

Yet I still think, that is just a very very loud minority. The majority will still accept, that men have preferences too.

[YollyM]

Yup women can be hypocrites because everyone has a preference when it comes to who they date or find attractive.

However women usually say "I don't like short guys, I like my man tall😋". Where as men would say "I like slim-waist-ass-fat type of girls, all the skinny girls are ugly as hell". The difference between the two is the women simply state their preference but the men bring down or bash a certain type of woman to state his preferred type.

[InsertNameHerex]

Sorry that you met the hypocritical women but not everyone is lmao. It’s unfortunate you’ve ran into a lot though. Anyway humans are hypocritical creatures in general, I’ve heard men do this too, as well as women. Personally I think it’s dumb, like if you think one thing, you shouldn’t contradict yourself.

[Assi2k]

It’s true. Guys are vilified about their preferences. If you’re sure that by stating your opinion (and not being a jerk about it), you’ll offend people, it may be that you’re in the wrong crowd.

[Asker]

You admit women are hypocrites with this then?

[Subarugirl]

I think that she is saying that everyone can be hypocritical

[Avalanche_]

There is nothing hypocritical about having preferences about appearance when dating. You can't force yourself to be attracted to someone if you are not.

[Asker]

Um you don't get my post. I said women talk smack about men having preferences with looks in dating but not when have them preferences with looks in dating. I am not saying I have a problem with women have preferences with looks in dating. I am saying they are hypocrites for getting mad a guys for having them yet they have them

[Asker]

You can't read or something? I said women get mad at men for having preferences with looks in dating yet don't get mat at women for having them. I don't have a problem with anyone having preferences with looks in dating. I am talking about women getting mad at one group but not the other.

[Avalanche_]

Wow, Asker, you are so rude! Of course I can read. I even replied to your question! Both men AND women are justified in having preferences. No one should be talking smack regardless of gender.

Shame that you have such attitude with people who are simply helping you on the internet

[Drzen]

Excuse me Now days there's no fat they're either plus size or thick I don't know what's the other name they call themselves maybe curry full girl.

2021 dating game is hypocrisy. To win you should just not play the game. A wise man once said never argue with idiot he will beat you with his stupidity I believe. Runway so many chameleons out there

[Anonymous]

Honestly, yes, it is hypocritical. I remember talking to 6-7 girls once and I thought I was doing something wrong. One girl I know said “stop mentioning that stupid bitch”. Meanwhile the same girl would mention guys she dated prior or whatever. This is why I’m tired of women/girls. I can’t deal with modern day feminists, they are rude. I can’t deal with a girl who’s in her late 20s or 30s and still doesn’t have her shit together. This is why dating isn’t fun anymore.

[Asker]

Women are so entitled. They can complain but call men whiners when they do. They can have preferences with looks in dating but if men do they are jerks. Also if a man believes in traditional roles for women he is a sexist yet those same women believe men should still live by traditional roles. Too much hypocrisy man.

[Ninani]

Not all women say these things, but the ones who do are hypocrites.

[Asker]

Not all but most do.

[Ninani]

Nope, not the majority.

[anniisa97]

I'm guessing he's some kind of Einstein level psychological researcher that is keeping himself anonymous from the world or something

[ElizaPam]

Both genders get mad hearing the other one talk about preferences when they don’t fit those preferences

[Asker]

Not true, I have encountered tons of hot women that did fit the physical preference of dating for that one guy, yet think is an asshole for wanting to date a woman because he thinks she is below average looking, fat, etc

[ElizaPam]

Women just get mad easy because we want shit to go our way and we’re sick of men’s shit

[Asker]

It is just dumb. Sarah says: "I don't want to date him cause I am not physically attracted to him." Sandy responds"you can date whoever you want." Brandon tells Sandy that he doesn't want to date a certain woman because he is not physically attracted to her, Sandy responds: "You are such a douche." Women are the biggest hypocrites on the planet. Same with gener roles. Only want gender roles they affect them to go away yet still want men to do historical roles. Women are hypocrites in everything. Women are tired of shit from men that represent the minority of men and generalize most men but men accurately generalize most women as having u realistic expectations when it comes to dating. Most women are too dam picky and want to date models when she is not a model herself. Women get mistaken and think that just because a hot guy is ok with screwing them that it also means they are ok with dating them. They don't get that they are sadly mistaken.

[Sarairocketship]

I would have to say not all women. I wouldn't get mad at a guy for not wanting to date me for x reason. I know I might have features one guy might not like. When they tell me, I just leave them alone and move on. I wouldn't dare suggest a guy date someone he doesn't like. I don't care. I think some women do it because they want to be good wingwomen or they feel like it's some type of judgement on the guys part. For me, I personally had a guy like me, who I wasn't physically attracted to. It's kind of the opposite of this situation. I liked his sweet talk, but when it came to my tastes, he didn't cut it. He was upset about that and I felt bad for some time, but then I realized that if he can have tastes (I know I'm pretty. Not to everyone of course. That's a given) then I can feel good that I have MY OWN tastes and not date him.

[SynthKobra]

I mean there is definitely a double standard when it comes to dating and it's heavily skewed in favor of women. With that said, who cares. You like what you like hypocrites be damned.

[nella965]

Maybe if you were better looking and actually are able to attract any women At all, you wouldn’t have to ask dumb bitter questions like this

[Asker]

Caught the hypocrite here.

[nella965]

Someone’s bitter

[cloudspy]

Yes, I agree it is hypocritical of women who do this. Both sexes have preferences, it's each to their own.

[Asker]

Do you notice more women are hypocrites with this than men?

[cloudspy]

No, I don't.

[TheUniqueOne96]

Well, the ones who say it are.

How many of them even look that good without makeup anyway, lol if they count that as their 'real look'.

[FilmGuy93]

Not really... women are people, men are people; people prefer things that other people who aren't that preference will get annoyed about. No harm, no foul. Just don't be a twat about it.

[Babygirl_S]

I prefer tall guys and I have come across many guys who got mad over it. At least, it is a trait that more men can have across the planet while saying something like "I prefer x race" is very narrow-minded in comparison.

[zagor]

Sounds like rationalization. How is discriminating against one aspect of appearance (height) OK while discriminating against another (skin tone) less so?

[Babygirl_S]

I have already mentioned why. More number of guys can be tall and it is not racist. Discrimination based on skin colour will always be a more serious issue.

[zagor]

More guys can be tall? Hardly.

[Babygirl_S]

Guys from all races can be tall.

[zagor]

People of any race can be dark or light.

[Slartybartfast]

Remember, there are more women under 100 pounds in the world , then men over six foot tall.

So who's being 'unrealistic' ... ?

[TheFlak38]

women have become the most entitled living being in the cosmos. By default, just because they have a vagina.

[Asker]

They are the biggest hypocrites. Agree?

[TheFlak38]

100%

[Asker]

Another thing too, is when a guy that is average, ugly, or fat wants to date a hot model, many women call him out for being unrealistic but when a woman with the same type of looks wants to date a hot guy, many women are like"She can want to date whoever she wants." That is why so many average, ugly, and fat men struggle with dating these days. Cause women encourage average, ugly, and fat women to have unrealistic expectations in dating and it causes these women to be delusional.