Guy I’m seeing doesn’t like responding to my messages when he thinks it will upset so he ignores my messages and then later comes back around? Help?

aintnocandle
I’ve been seeing this guy for months now and he always does this.. there are 2 scenarios of which he will disappear and then bop back in like no big deal.

1) (this happened since before date 1) he will drop off my planet if he’s feeling overwhelmed with school/work (he’s a lawyer) and then when things calm down he then gets back to me. First time it happened he didn’t get back to me for over 24 hours. One time it was 5 days. And he acts like it’s no big deal.

2) if I send him a message that he thinks is complicated or if he knows his response will somehow disappoint or upset me, he will just ghost for a day/few days.
example, I wanted to call him one night to talk about something (didn’t tell him what). I said the day before I would be calling him the next day, and so I sent a message early in the day and he never responded. The day passed and he blew me off. He had a job interview the next day so I think he wanted to have a clear head so he just chose to ignore me entirely. But why not tell me that? He comes back around AFTER and apologizes and gives me an excuse.

Other times where he knew I wouldn’t like the response he’d seriously ignore me (I don’t push or send multiple messages) but he will disappear for a few days and then tell me he didn’t know how to respond or he “just puts off complicated answers for awhile especially if he’s busy” ... I’ve expressed my concerns and it doesn’t click for him. I once blocked him because I felt so hurt and he called me like 10 times freaking out. It’s like he doesn’t get that not responding or flaking on calls hurts me. He’s 30. What can I do for this?
Guy I’m seeing doesn’t like responding to my messages when he thinks it will upset so he ignores my messages and then later comes back around? Help?
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