Do you think it’s a bad thing if your boyfriend doesn’t have a job? (Page 2)

[HighValue]

Lazy.
I work full time (start of work day at 6:30 am and ending my work day at 4:30 pm) and am going to college online, completing 21 units this semester.

[Anonymous]

Depends on their situation. Before the pandemic, I'd say it was a bad thing, unless they were a trust fund kid who didn't need a job. During the pandemic, that's a much trickier question. It all depends on why they don't have a job.

[ArrowheadSW]

It sounds like you are of a higher maturity level than him. Not saying he is a bad guy, but he hasn't reached a point in life where he has taken on much responsibility.

[yiafgk]

He cheated on you. Fuck that guy, if he cheated on you once he’ll do it again. Get the fuck out of there. I know it’s hard but you got this!

[DeeDeeDeVour]

Even if he's inherently wealthy, I'd prefer him having an occupation.
Worse if he's broke or poor.

[exitseven]

T here are people that just are not motivated to do anything with their lives. He most likely will not change. Date this guy if you want but dont; expect him to change.

[spartan55]

It's certainly not a good thing. You really didn't know this?

[Neosporin]

I’m not so bothered that he doesn’t have a job I’m bothered that he complains and quits every job that he starts.

[IveGotNoName]

Yes, we wouldn't be compatible, and he would be bored with me, because I spend a lot of time on my studies.

[Grubhub]

Yes a woman needs a man to provide for her. If he can’t find a job and is looking for one don’t fault him for that. If he’s not looking and is lazy then dump em for a real man

[Andres77]

every adult should have a job.
if ur boyfriend doesn't then you should move on. he has no intention of growing up anytime soon.

[Justneedtokno]

Yes unless they are actively pushing towards their goals such as somebody that is in school or building a business

[Charliefretz329]

It’s your fault if you allow it. You would be an enabler.


However if you enjoy giving free money and ass away… I could always use some extra of both lol

[This_Is_My_Opinion8]

It is a problem.
Let me be clear if he was actually trying to get a job, then no problem. But from what you say he isn't. So you have a big problem in hands.

[Not_Average]

He needs to grow up and start making moves. He's still young enough to change.

[thatkendy]

Yes because he should be able to rake care of himself.

[Joeray123]

It depends on the situation. Does he have personal goal and is he proactive in them?

[Browneye57]

Yes. Don't you? How's he gonna pay for all his shit? And yours?

[Browneye57]

On update...
You picked a loser.

[dragoblack]

since I'm on disability, i worry women will see me as a jobless loser who isn't worth dating :/

[AverageGuy9037]

That's another situation entirely man. There are women who are willing to date people who are on disability, don't get discouraged.

[dragoblack]

The problem i run into is when women hear I'm on disability instead of working like abled body/minded people do, they tend to become completely disinterested in any kind of possible relationship, or interest in me whatsoever TT_TT

[AverageGuy9037]

Don't worry about that, there are lots of people like that in life, wanting to reap as many benefits as possible but barely want to put in any efforts. It's best to avoid such relationships

[ManHater]

Women love men who can't or don't want to work. For them it gives them purpose to take care of their man child.