Someone can't open up to you and they are used to solve any problem by themselves?
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#*Note*# => i don't mean completely can't open up to you , or all the time , let's be realistic here. But i mean sometimes they can't open up to you about things embarrassing them
My ex, was a closed book. He shut down on me. If I asked him anything personal it was like I was violating him. It got to the point where I found myself baring all but it became a weapon against me. He constantly used my weakness to manipulate me. One day he did something that really scared me. And I just knew that we couldn't work through our relationship. Sometimes you can really love someone and lead a life knowing somethings, like their actions etc. But then the questioning deepens because you long to really connect.
When a person is so closed its for reasons that I feel personally you cannot trust. Especially if they behaved the way he did. I watched him more closely and I could see that it was never about us. I was a means to an end. So to save myself the insanity I did my own digging and although what I found wasn't bad it also wasn't close to the truth he tried to pretend to me.
I don't recommend a relationship like that. Im sure some will say but I betrayed his trust by digging. But he betrayed my trust the day he tried to conceal his truth from me.
@Jamie05rhs depended on what it was. Sometimes tried talking, it lead to some arguments.. But at the end of the day people can only be who they are🤷
No. I would not marry someone if she couldn't trust me. I would date her, and I would try my best; but if we weren't getting anywhere, then I don't think we should get married.
I had this problem when I first got married. I had been on my own my whole life and never had anyone look after me before. It was a pretty big adjustment.
okay- I was used to never having to rely on anyone for anything. I also never had to account for myself either. I had a relationship with some body that lived halfway across the country and just got used to never having anyone to be with. After a while I got a little too used to it.
Hell no! My recent ex was horrible with communication and did not open up at all. Whenever I wanted to talk things about our relationship he would flip out for no reason and it would turn into a nasty fight. So I cannot marry/live with someone who can't open up since I am the type of person who talks about my feelings
Love takes time... more times than not love doesn't work out... so someone wanting to solve their problems on their own shouldn't be frowned upon.. either people are complaining cause women are too needy, clingy or distant... just appreciate her for who she is stop trying to create problems out of nothing!
No I wouldn't because I am very much this kind of person and I genuinely hope I marry someone who will teach me how to open up. I went through a lot as a kid (and now as a young adult) and have just been forced to become this way.
I am very independent but deep inside I hope someone will come along, break down my walls and teach me that it's okay to open up sometimes.
Ooof. That one is tough because I'm like that. I know I'm not easy to get to know (it took a year for my best friend to get deep shit out of me) and I do prefer to handle a lot of my problems on my own. The irony/hypocrisy being that I'd want someone who can open up to me. I can understand their reluctance cuz I'm the same way, I could even find the patience for that cuz i i get it. Ultimately it would have to change to some degree.
Eventually it would bother me too much. I’m currently dating someone like that and if he can’t open up, then I’ll be out. I want everything to be fluid between me and my partner.
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Absolutely fucking not. Excuse my language. But, I literally believe that it would drive me insane. I'm a question asker and answerer and if someone can't open up to me, it's a deal breaker.
NEVER EVER EVER EVER!!! I hate mysterious people. They're very dangerous and live double lives. They aren't trustworthy themselves. I had bad experiences with secretive people. They're opportunities and will dig out all about you.
Bro, women don't want their man to "open up". Don't believe me? Just try it. Try talking with your girlfriend about your "feelings" than watch her recoil in horror. Do it more than once and she will seriously lose respect for you.
Reminds me of the true story of a guy who was engaged to get married. His fiance kept hounding him about how she wanted to see him in a dress because it would turn her on. So he puts on the dress... and then she dumps him for acting/looking like a woman. lmao. Women are always testing dudes even if she's not consciously aware of it (but often they are I bet).
They would communicate badly then be mad at you for not understanding , and then once they realise they are the problem, they get mad at themselve and they go back to loneliness and hide from you out of shame Again. They operate Alone because they are complicated
Nope I’ll eventually think she’s hiding something. I’d recommend therapy at the least and if no action is chose. I’d haft to leave. I wouldn’t want her to help raise our kids in the future.
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