I’m a 25 year old woman and I’m scared I’m never going to get married. How can I combat this fear?

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I go to the gym and use dating apps but I never have any luck. Maybe I need to go out more and try more places conducive to socializing. I’m worried that I’ll run out of time and never meet the right person. I keep myself busy with my hobbies and have my life together with my job, money, etc. so my life isn’t a mess or anything. I’m a size 2 and 5’9 and always look presentable everywhere I go. I’m also really shy and get nervous when men talk to me.

DonRollins · Accepted Answer

Why is it so important to you to get married. Who put this in your head. Look at married couples around you. You will find many of them should never have been married. They are full of regret. If it happens it happens. This is not the 16th century. Your purpose is not to just make babies and find a husband. There is no longer a need to populate the Earth. If you expect a man to always to the approaching and you just sit there, you don't really want someone.

This is also a terrible time for men. Modern 4th wave feminism has ruined men's want to approach any woman, because so many cry rape or some bs for no reason. Marriage is also a terrible contract. Lose half your stuff on divorce. Why do you need government to approve a marriage? Fuck that. If you find someone you find someone.

Personally for years I only dated girls that were young adults, 16-20 year olds, I was with one I met who was 19 for years until she passed due to very terrible circumstances - probably could have stayed with her forever. It is what it is.

The best way to make sure you are never very miserable, is to never expect to be very happy all the time. Enjoy what you have, and if you really wished marriage was a guarantee, well society decided, woman decided arranged marriages were a bad idea or they didn't want them, so they decided for all women this, and this is what society is now.

Personally I want no part of any of it. The purpose of dating, the true purpose is however, marriage/finding a soulmate. Be genuine in your search for a man then. Be willing to say something. There is literally no risk for women hitting on guys in public. But your life could always be so much worse, and you cannot control the world around you, not very much. Accept what is, genuinely look for a husband if that's your wish. Best of luck.

VanillaSalt · Accepted Answer

I think your just fishing for compliments but just invade you actually want to be married… not have a wedding but actually be married… learn to cook, clean, and take care of a man’s every needs. Even then you’ll have a hard time.

Your getting older and that should work you. Men are looking for women more in their early lives not later. A man that’s been single for 20-30 years isn’t going to just decide we now I want a woman. In the past all you have to do was be nice and pretty. Not though if you wanna keep ‘em you gotta being more than yourself to the table. Men want the same thing as they did 20 years ago except today men expect it. You gotta earn your place in his home the same as he has to earn his place in your heart.

I don’t believe women are worth committing to anymore. But if any women’s going to corrupt me it will be a housewife.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Its not you personally it just hasn't happened yet. I hear stories all the time about women in their 30s who find someone and their older so i wouldn't fret much about age as long as you care for your health, you also have a good solid 5 years before 30 so who knows if that can change. I know a girl who met her husband at 29 and they just had a baby and she's 31 and she said she felt fine and her baby was healthy no complications. Society tries to have us women set a goal before a certain age and i used to say before 30 before 30 but life doesn't always go that way so I'll be content if i have a baby at 30-32 if i don't have one yet and i know I'll meet the right guy when it happens naturally, dont force or rush it just because everyone else is doing it, it can turn bad and not go as expected. Ill be 23 soon but im not letting that stop me and im not giving up.

Alwayreckles93 · Accepted Answer

Oh girl don't feel bad I have friends that are 32 year olds single and enjoy the best of their life. I got married young and let me tell you marriage is super hard and huge headeck. Travel the world buy a house do whatever you want you have independence. I am now a divorce 28 year woman in marriage their will be times when you want something but your spouse will not agree with you that's how aurgements start or worst they cheat on you. So don't feel bad that at 25 years old you are unmarried single.

Shizunk · Answer

Now is a good time to really start taking things seriously, but you still have years to succeed. I think having a plan helps. Can you articulate what you bring to the table, what you can offer to your future husband?
If you just wait or present yourself in very generic ways, many may be interested, but few will care. Especially online, you can try to advertise something more specific. That may produce fewer responses, but hopefully make those who do respond more determined as they will have a reason to talk specifically to you instead of clicking another anonymous picture.

Browneye57 · Answer

Unfortunately you have a common malady among most women your age - your ENTIRE world and cognizance revolves around yourself. Not ever once did you even consider what you would do for your man, how you would get him or keep him, or what you bring of value to the relationship. So you're simply seen as a typical navel-gazer - just like all the rest of the bimbos.
When you change your focus to HIM, then you MIGHT land one worthwhile. Till then you'll keep trying to claim you're some kind of victim, cuz in your eyes, you're perfect, so it must be everyone else's fault for where you're at.

TheFlak38 · Answer

Ok let's go through the list here
-You're 25. If marriage is what you really wanted you should have been married already
-You use dating apps which means you're just an online prostitute whoring yourself for attention so that corporate giants can make billions out of thirsty desperate men
-No man in this world gives a flying fuck about your money and job.
-You're nervous and shy in other words you're a mental nutcase
-You're waiting for the right person which means you have astronomical standards in a gynocentric society that elevates your vagina to astronomical heights
-You complain that men do not approach you although it has happened before but of course they were the "boring guys" you didn't like. You would rather do some alpha fucks.

Start buying cat food. You don't know what you want in your life.

Sarahr123 · Answer

Well I felt scared until I found out some people didn’t meet the person they married until their late 20s and early 30s which made me feel like I have time as I’m only 23 which is only a couple if years younger than you so we’re not far off.

You can still get married at 31/32 and have a couple of children. It’s okay. I think it’s better to enjoy single life tbf.

casserolie · Answer

im 24 and a virgin. a lot of men just scare me but i guess the right one will come around. or they won't. but being alone with family and friends is not the end of the world and should not ever be seen as a negative or a lose. you are important and you are worth it.

Joeshamo · Answer

You’ve got to get out of your comfort zone. If you don’t feel confident in yourself no one else is going to. You need to put yourself out there. You’re finically stable you’ve got a lot going for you. You just need to push your self try public speaking or something.

SunnySensei · Answer

It's ok to get afraid Miss but don't lose hope you are on the right track by thinking that you need to socialize more but don't do that for the sake of finding someone, try something you like and enjoy when people will see you in your element they will automatically talk to you

Anonymous · Answer

I'm a slightly younger version of you and I am still tryna figure things out too. The pandemic isn't helping my situation so I guess I have learned that it will happen when it does and that having patience is key. You are only 25 and you seem you have everything else going for you. My advice is to just go for it. If you like a guy, just ask him out. If you get rejected, then that was just practice and soon you will get over the pressure of rejection.

High standards might also be an issue. It is important to have standards but not in a 'the guy needs to be...' kinda way. He doesn't need to be perfect, he needs to have potential.

noohair · Answer

I am an in person guy that thinks social media is a waste of time for dating and courtship. It has ruined courtship and dating, in my opinion. With me, I am uncomfortable around pretty women. They can seem aloof and unapproachable. I am not an attractive or slim guy, but that does not bother me anymore. I always find a smile makes a person more approachable. Good luck

Anonymous · Answer

Why do girls always post on here talking about what size they are and how they go to the gym do girls seriously think this is all that attracts a man to them and makes them want to be with them

it could be your personality that sucks and that is why you haven’t met anyone seriously stop stressing some people don’t meet the right person until their 30’s and get married in their 30’s

Jay3344 · Answer

Maybe look to old guy friends who you were close with at school. Sometimes that connection is strong enough to build a long relationship off of. Also I wouldn’t worry, things will work out.
They say mediation and envisioning things you want can help to manifest them, just be honest about what you want cause you just might get it.

exitseven · Answer

I do not know what our life situation is but 25 is not over the hill. Keep doing what you are doing, try and expand your social circle. Make new friends. Seek out new experiences. You never know when you are going to meet somebody you might like.

ohshee · Answer

Okay so tell me what makes you worried and why do you feel that you'll never get married I can tell you about 10 things you can do just change everything

shepardmaddison · Answer

Don't rush it, have you done a check up of the photos you have in your dating profile? I bet you have tons of matches and no problem to get a date.

Danny_dan92 · Answer

By accepting whatever outcome you get for what it is. I’m 29, never been and probably never will get married. And what helped me get over that is literally seeing that topic as Oh well, don’t care

jasco · Answer

People attract what they are as they old saying goes. Maybe something about you is unappealing to men. Not sure what, but who knows. Maybe stop going online because it does take a certain attraction to attract guys. However i suggest going to bars

Backseatvibing · Answer

What I’ve noticed is , love always comes when you’re not expecting it

NewgodX · Answer

I have seen Getting married at 35 so you are OK relax don't stress out too much

Anonymous · Answer

By realizing you don't "need" it. You'll only run out of time when you're dead. You're only 25. Relax! No rush.

infamous7100 · Answer

You're far too young to be having that fear, just keep doing what you're doing and don't obsess over it, it will happen when you least expect it when the right person comes along.

Yahall0 · Answer

Approch the one you like don't wait for man to Approch

Anonymous · Answer

You’re still very young so you still have plenty of time from what you described you sound like a lot of guys would approach you in most settings

Twalli · Answer

If they're flirting they're probably not all that confident if they are looking for a girlfriend (as opposed to just sex). You might say no to us.

JamesRandiDebates · Answer

You better get a move on. You only have a couple of years left before you crash head-on into The Wall.

joshctlee · Answer

I’m 30 years old and still not married. Never even came close.  I wouldn’t worry about it until you reach about 35

Grubhub · Answer

I have those fears too, no kids and everyone else in my family does

Anonymous · Answer

How long have you been single now and how long was your longest relationship?

Neilbud · Answer

Find the right guy and the fear will go away.

dolemite89 · Answer

25 is still young, just be patient i guess

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

Were in the same exact situation

Anonymous · Answer

You want a good marriage, not just a marriage.

Anonymous · Answer

Renounce materialism! Become a nun

Dinosaursandanime65 · Answer

Don’t care

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