How to stop being scared of marriage?

[Anonymous]

I am 30 and i wanna get married because after 35 pregnancy comes with complications, not necessarily but is a risk. But its hard because none of the match i get i don't like. My sis found a guy who is good but am not even sexually attracted to him. I want to like them but it just doesn't happen and i feel scared whenever i find a potential match.

I feel like i will never find the one. I just want to like them as a man and that he is good and responsible no high standards at all, but didn't think attraction can be a problem. Also its about them being handsome because my ex wasn't n i did liked him a lot.

[Berethor]

Yea you should hurry up, it really becomes hard for a woman to give birth after 35.

https://www.yourfertility.org.au/everyone/age

[HelpfulWoman]

If you're linking your relationship to your pregnancy "clock" then you're searching for the wrong reasons anyway.

[Nikki1989]

Marrying men is a huge gamble at the best of times. Choose wisely.

[AI Opinion]

Navigating the marriage waters can feel like swimming in the deep end sometimes, am I right? 😅 The pressure of the biological clock mixed with the desire to find that spark can feel like a cocktail of emotions. Here’s the thing, the fear you’re experiencing is totally normal. It's like setting out on an adventure without a map. First off, attraction is a big piece of the puzzle – it’s not all about looks, but that chemistry has to be there, it's the spark that lights the fire! It sounds to me like you're searching for someone who ticks both the emotional and physical checkboxes, and let me tell you, that's not setting the bar too high, that's just being honest with yourself.

Instead of focusing on the ticking clock, try focusing on what makes you feel good and excited about a partner. Dive into your interests and activities you love; it’s often when we’re least expecting it and just being our fabulous selves that we stumble across someone who lights up our world. You’re not just looking for any match—you’re looking for the right match. Remember, fear is just the prelude to the most thrilling parts of our stories. Give yourself permission to be picky; it’s your heart after all!

And hey, about that feeling scared part? It's the unknown, it's the leap. But every great love story has that moment where you have to jump. Keep your standards, listen to your gut, and remember, you’re not just finding a partner, you’re finding your co-adventurer. Love often comes in unexpected packages, so keep an open heart. 🌟 You’ve got this!

[Asker]

This is very comforting. I will try to do that n hopeful it happens soon🤍