I am not going to be able to make it any less hard to find the right person for you. I haven't found the right person for myself yet either.
I don't think it's true that guys (generally) want you to settle. SOME guys might... but they're not the ones you want anyway.
So yea... Don't settle. All you can do is to keep looking, and hopefully, you'll find what you're looking for. The thing is... you never know WHEN you might find that person. The day before you meet the perfect guy... you'll feel like it'll never happen for you... then... bang... out of nowhere.
Just keep looking/waiting. Either that, or settle. Don't settle. 🙂
That's the only way to go. 5 years here. Good times...
Damn right 😉
High expectations I think. People have it in their head about settling and all that. That's not how it used to work. You would find someone who was loyal and treated you right. Then you would marry them. People were happy and in love. Now all this emphasis on body image, money, status, all the other shit that doesn't matter one bit in choosing a life partner. Money, looks, health, these aren't guaranteed tomorrow. Shit happens! What matters is that someone actually has your back through thick and thin till the end. You are loved, respected, and appreciated. Everything else is all noise and completely unimportant to relationships. Relationships are compromise and give and take. It's a out "us" not you. Until people get that through their heads, yes they are likely gonna die alone...
Completely understandable position to take. But some of the people bashing it have said such insane things like that to me. If they knew scripture it's clear the mark will be announced, not lied about. y neighbors died, my aunt had 3 people in her office die, my sister has attended 2 funerals because of covid as well. I take care of my dying father so I got the shot. It was a simple decision. If something happens to me, so be it. But if I was the cause for my father's death? I'm sorry I don't think I could handle that. So I had my reasons for getting it. I most certainly loath the DNC. sbd don't trust the gov. But I felt little choice in this case
Each must find their own way. Do you live in the south or out in the country? You can probably find a guy who's into the same lifestyle. You said living off grid so it sounded like homesteading tbh. But it also sounds like the guy is gonna need to be kinda loaded with cash because probably you'll not want public schooling. And to be fair I don't for my kids either but education is stupidly expensive these days just like everything else
yeah i get it. For me personally I require my own biological kids being brought into the world. That's one of only 2 actual deal breakers for me with a woman. I want to continue my family name. So if she can't have kids she would need to be okay having a surrogate. I know many would not be cool with that so I wouldn't date them. however i wouldn't waste her time either. I let people know up front what I want and what I'm about. The other deal breaker is if she's not pro life. Thats like my only real deal breakers. Race, religion, politics, ultimately irrelevant to me as I am A political.
I’m into politics and I tell me who want kids they need to find women who can bare them. I’m ok dating single dads as they have experiences with kids and or have their own kids I’m willing to accept. As for me having any kids in this day and time, no times are too much to bare kids now if I could.
@cthom1243 ofc and men shouldn't waste a lady's time just trying to get into their pants. Yeah i used to be very political but it drove too much of a wedge between me and others and eventually I said "screw it this isn't the hill i'm gonna die on". I have experience with kids, just not my own. I worked for a Christian Youth Group to help boys without fathers or brothers. I used to spend a lot of time with young kids, which is what ultimately made me want my own for sure. Changed me from a "maybe" to "i must have this"
i hear you. but it takes a certain type of man to give up his resources to kids that aren't his own. I certainly would not but that's just me personally. I would have a lot of questions on that too. As I said I'm sure someone out there might be interested. Likely more will be once the kids are out of the house so they are not his financial obligation. I hope the actual father is paying up.
No I said I don’t deal with boys in general around my kids - I deal with men who understand what responsibilities are and I’m not talking about financial obligations. It takes a lot to be around another mans child. Why I prefer dealing with men who have that responsibility and understanding already
yep my dad was dating a woman for 2 years and just about to introduce me when I was younger. Then they got into it about her wanting him to move in over at her place and me just finally settling in at my new school after the divorce. So yes, singles without kids dont get that struggle.
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I hear you sister, its tough. Its not about settling. But everyone things they know what they want until they find it.
The last couple women I have met have been through dating apps, problem with that is I can't get past date 5 or 6 without them staying active on the apps.
There like 3 guys to every gal and women seem to really enjoy playing the field, given all the options available.
Female entitlement. The existential crisis of too many choices. Women, like my mum, will die surrounded by fking cats and dogs before they "settle" for a man. And since most of them find the vast majority of men unattractive, the best course is to invest in a hedge fund devoted to pet supplies, boxed wine and pharmaceutical companies.
Personally there are so many variables in the world today. Families are being rifted apart over nonsense and most people are linear in they're thinking that they will not even listen to your thoughts and needs. Life is full of surprises when we don't seek we find.
It's never been "easy", not in my lifetime, but people do seem a lot less interested in exclusive relationships than was the case when I was a young adult. That is one reason and the other is the lack of financial stability a lot of people have.
Everyone sets their standards too high, What I look for in a girl or woman
most men wouldn't like her, but that's my decision and I do respect their
decision
Online "social" media and cancel culture has ruined dating and courtship.
Because the older you are and the more body count you have, the shittier men you will attract and the less committed men in general will be interested in.
because you want mate not love, All you need to do is fall.
At your age, with this attitude, I can nearly guarantee you'll never find a compatible guy. You've spend the past decade spurning really good prospects, and now you have to compete with much younger and prettier women in the dating pool. No, your window is closing, and by forty it will be nearly impossible to find a mate, for a lot of reasons.
Hope you like cats.
Healing from what exactly? Please don't tell us you're claiming to be some kind of victim here.
YOU asked the fucking question. The answer is, it's not hard, but YOU are making it so. And then you ramble on incoherently. WTF.
If you don't want a man then don't date. If you do, you HAVE to date them to get to know them.
Choose wisely, treat kindly. __Dr. Laura
I've answered about forty thousand questions here, trying to answer yours. So either spell out the quandary or go on your merry way. I'm good either way.
Then don't ask the fucking question.
You don't get to make the rules dumbass. You've mistaken me for someone that gives a shit. Oh well.
Now we can see why you can't keep a man. It's painfully obvious.
Dazed AND confused. A complete fucking moron, we get it. B-bye toots. What a loser.
A loser lol @Browneye57 you’re definitely one what side of the bed did you wake up on? Dazed and confused no : I get the both of best worlds nothing confused about me lol
So, what kind of guy are you looking for? What qualities make it hard for you to find a worthy date?
Because...
80% of women choose the top 20% of men. Vise versa.
The 80/20 rule.
By expecting too much, too soon.
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