I am a 29 year old female and I have zero luck on tinder why?

[FrostedFl4kes]

I have had a profile on tinder on and off for the past two years. Back in 2019 when I first made the account I always got Snapchat’s and guys always messaged me and flirted with me and asked me out. I went out a lot actually, even slept with half of the guys I went out with (was never my intention it just kinda happened). I would lose interest in them. Now, it’s notorious for ghosting. I’m lucky if I even get messaged via Snapchat, but I won’t ever get any of them to be serious about seeing me in person. It’s crazy how it all switched upside down. After a while though, they’ll just stop contacting me, they even ignore my messages after a while, so I just don’t get it. I have been hoping I could find someone who I’m interested in and to have them interested back, but to not give up so easily. Someone who is genuinely at least I retested in talking to me, and who genuinely likes me.

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Truth is, when I first made it I was surprised at how easy sex happened, so I wouldn’t contact them because I didn’t want to be sleeping around. I just want to be able to find someone who I can stay with. I’m actually very loyal but I can’t find anyone who wants me in a serious way. It makes me sad. I’ve tried other dating sites but those dating sites are boring if I’m being honest. Also, I don’t really find people who seem interesting. So maybe it’s just me. Maybe I’m not happy with myself.

[RealMarek]

Here is the situation according to dating site data and scientific studies. Young women are far more selective than young men due to how humans evolved. Combine that with an increase in people willing to have sex without monogamy, and many young men are left without sex partners while top-tier men get to play the field with numerous women. This was the situation before monogamy evolved and Gen-Z has partially reverted to this primitive pattern. Most of the women caught in this trend, like you, are surprised at how easily sex happened with these attractive men but are left frustrated by how none of these men would take them seriously (i. e., pursue commitment).

Once you approach age 30, your sexual attractiveness to men falls markedly because the risk of infertility increases markedly after 30. The ghosting begins. The top tier men your age (i. e., the ones who aren’t “boring,” will likely not settle down for a few more years and when they do, they’ll pick from the most desirable 20-something women.

You need to decide what you want. If you want commitment, stop having sex outside of a committed, monogamous relationship. Stay away from hook-up sites like Tinder. Have some friends honestly rate your level of attractiveness or find a website that will do it for you. If you are a 6 or 7, do not expect to date an 8. The advantage in dating shifts from women to men around your age. Start looking at the “boring” men on traditional dating sites who are in your league. Some of them are probably not as boring as you think. Some will be happy to commit to someone your age. Do not turn your nose up at reasonably fit, emotionally stable, hard working, kind men without addiction issues. They are not easy to find as many of them are already married. If you cannot find men your age who are interested in you, you can probably find someone 5-10 years older than you who is of high quality and ready to settle down. You can have a committed relationship if you want, but you need to stop playing around.

[DaveJord]

Also with Tinder women can act like real stuck up and entitled witches... if they report you for any reason after one or two times Tinder will boot you off the platform without any warning or explanation. And your booted for life.

1. I was chatting a girl... she kept giving me one line short answers or simple yes or no to everything I asked.

So I asked her if she was into me or not, because eventually she's got to give more inorder to move the chat long other then these short go no where answers.

*She called me a jerk, ghosted and reported me.

2. I told a girl she had gorgeous eyes and that I loved how they were unedited.

* She called and ass hole for wasting her time and how she never edits photos. Ghosted and reported me.

2. Had a girl that would only reply to a message once every other day, or two.

I told her if dating any other guys or really so busy not be about to reply to messages more often that its cool if she just tells me she's not into it.

* she lambasted me for making assumptions about her, and accusing her of things she wasn't doing. She ghosted and reported me.

I got kick off tinder without any warning, explanation a day or so later just like that

There's no way to protest it. Money wasted, so tinder treat women like queens and reinforce a lot of negative behaviors that empowers their bad behaviors.

[FrostedFl4kes]

I’m really sorry that happened to you.

[Magicsparkle]

I used tinder when I had no self esteem, and among all was obsess about men, and didn't take time for building up myself..
The more you work on yourself, the higher you will vibrate, and connect with someone you really match.
Otherwise all you will find will carry that fear you have to be alone.

[Mary087]

Its the sad reality most people just want a hookup not something serious.. I've almost reached my point too with dating apps, dont take it to heart, its just much harder in this day to find a real relationship, it may take time and it may happen offline which is probably better but dont give up.

[OlderAndWiser]

1. You should have a guy friend read your profile and give yo some honest and candid feedback. You might be surprised, for example, at how the comments you thought were funny were perceived differently by guys.

2. It didn't just happen. You were horny and you wanted to get fucked. Be honest about it and take responsibility.

3. Tinder is a hookup site. If you want to look for more than just lust, perhaps you can get some friends to recommend better online sites.

[FrostedFl4kes]

On #2. It’s not the reason I made tinder for though. I simply went on a date with those few guys and that’s how it happened. Maybe subconsciously I knew they didn’t want anything serious with me or that they were talking to others as well as with me. Im the type that doesn’t like to compete, so unless they tell me “hey I really like you, I need someone like you in my life, I would be willing to delete the app and focus on you, and I was wondering if you are on the same page?” But those guys as I spoke to them later I just didn’t feel like we connected well on our personalities.

[YHL6965]

Well, that's what happened after a certain age, women aren't as big of a deal to guys as in the early 20s so you actually have to pull your weight and be appealing instead of just sitting there and having sex come to you. Younger guys get easily baited into running after women, often for sex but, after a while, things change.

Tinder might not be the right site though if you're looking for something serious, maybe try OkCupid since you can answer questions to show more what kind of person you are and see who people are too.

[John987654321]

I have the same experience on Tinder and the other sites and apps, so you are not the problem. I am like you, I would like to find a quality relationship, but I keep encountering people who ghost and drop off for no reason. It's what those things are about.

[AviatorTom]

Tinder and similar websites are a waste of time. Sounds like you're interested in having sex, not dating and having a meaningful relationship. There are plenty of websites out there for that. where men outnumber women 5 to 1, and would be very willing to have sex with you. Just google for hook-up sites.

[MzAsh]

Tinder is child’s play. You’re a grown ass woman. You need a whole new mindset and strategy.

[jshm2]

You're probably seen as a hoe around the block. Or your profile is just not as interesting now as it was back then.

You are getting old after all and the world is moving on.

[FrostedFl4kes]

Well I look 21 so “old” is not a good argument

[FrostedFl4kes]

Also, I have decent photos. I oh have good convos w everyone, it’s just no one there is looking for anything serious, that’s the issue. The ones that are, I see them as more of a friend. Everyone either moves too fast, or loses interest. Have a good day/night.

[MCheetah]

Your standards are incredibly high/entitled, and you're not interested in sex on what is almost entirely a hookup app. It's as foolish as the married women who join dating apps "for friends only."

[RHK36]

It could be a number of reasons, but without more info hard to tell. Maybe switch it up and meet guys differently or apps other than tinder.

[RHK36]

It could be you or maybe your preferences in men. You'd have to take a look at your past serious relationships and find out why they didn't work. Do some reflection on why you might be the problem. Could also just be bad timing and bad luck.

[Anonymous]

Get off tinder and get out there in the real world and meet people

[soufyan]

There is still time to find the right person for you

[Slim57]

No idea. Gotta be your bio I would guess but even then most guys don't even read that so I don't know. Very unusual, especially if you had luck before.

[FrostedFl4kes]

Maybe it’s just the timing. Maybe the pandemic had led many people to become more comfortable being at home and not really meeting new people.

[Slim57]

Could be why would you think i'd have bad luck? @FrostedFl4kes

[FunkyMonkee]

Neither have I but, I guess it's because I've never been there.

[Yourfriend2021]

If you stop having sex out of a committed relationship you might find someone that wants more than just sex.

[loveslongnails]

Tinder has a younger audience. You're washed up at 29, babe!

[FrostedFl4kes]

Or maybe they’re just too you g for me. I don’t feel “old” I just feel like I’m lost sometimes. I don't know. Idc what age (as long as they’re not too many years different that I) I just want someone who I can connect with…. I’ll probably just stay single forever tbh.

[loveslongnails]

I doubt you'll be single forever. Try some better apps not aimed at kids trying to hook up.

[Iron_Man]

Because you’re going on sex sites And you’re getting bad karma

[whosnumber1]

you should post your pic. I will give you a constructive opinion. or message me. I'd like to help u out

[Cowboy6666]

I never had luck in Tinder too also it doesn't work in my area.
Try to find another app or website,
Even GAG would work for you ;)

[Anonymous]

Your magic disappeared. You need a witch to renew some spells.

[zagor]

Tinder is pretty much for sex. Which is why it's not boring.

[okeydoke]

Try different dating apps like Hinge and Okcupid. I feel like Tinder is flake central.