I am a 29 year old female and I have zero luck on tinder why?

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I have had a profile on tinder on and off for the past two years. Back in 2019 when I first made the account I always got Snapchat’s and guys always messaged me and flirted with me and asked me out. I went out a lot actually, even slept with half of the guys I went out with (was never my intention it just kinda happened). I would lose interest in them. Now, it’s notorious for ghosting. I’m lucky if I even get messaged via Snapchat, but I won’t ever get any of them to be serious about seeing me in person. It’s crazy how it all switched upside down. After a while though, they’ll just stop contacting me, they even ignore my messages after a while, so I just don’t get it. I have been hoping I could find someone who I’m interested in and to have them interested back, but to not give up so easily. Someone who is genuinely at least I retested in talking to me, and who genuinely likes me.

RealMarek · Accepted Answer

Here is the situation according to dating site data and scientific studies. Young women are far more selective than young men due to how humans evolved. Combine that with an increase in people willing to have sex without monogamy, and many young men are left without sex partners while top-tier men get to play the field with numerous women. This was the situation before monogamy evolved and Gen-Z has partially reverted to this primitive pattern. Most of the women caught in this trend, like you, are surprised at how easily sex happened with these attractive men but are left frustrated by how none of these men would take them seriously (i. e., pursue commitment).

Once you approach age 30, your sexual attractiveness to men falls markedly because the risk of infertility increases markedly after 30. The ghosting begins. The top tier men your age (i. e., the ones who aren’t “boring,” will likely not settle down for a few more years and when they do, they’ll pick from the most desirable 20-something women.

You need to decide what you want. If you want commitment, stop having sex outside of a committed, monogamous relationship. Stay away from hook-up sites like Tinder. Have some friends honestly rate your level of attractiveness or find a website that will do it for you. If you are a 6 or 7, do not expect to date an 8. The advantage in dating shifts from women to men around your age. Start looking at the “boring” men on traditional dating sites who are in your league. Some of them are probably not as boring as you think. Some will be happy to commit to someone your age. Do not turn your nose up at reasonably fit, emotionally stable, hard working, kind men without addiction issues. They are not easy to find as many of them are already married. If you cannot find men your age who are interested in you, you can probably find someone 5-10 years older than you who is of high quality and ready to settle down. You can have a committed relationship if you want, but you need to stop playing around.

DaveJord · Accepted Answer

Also with Tinder women can act like real stuck up and entitled witches... if they report you for any reason after one or two times Tinder will boot you off the platform without any warning or explanation. And your booted for life.

1. I was chatting a girl... she kept giving me one line short answers or simple yes or no to everything I asked.

So I asked her if she was into me or not, because eventually she's got to give more inorder to move the chat long other then these short go no where answers.

*She called me a jerk, ghosted and reported me.

2. I told a girl she had gorgeous eyes and that I loved how they were unedited.

* She called and ass hole for wasting her time and how she never edits photos. Ghosted and reported me.

2. Had a girl that would only reply to a message once every other day, or two.

I told her if dating any other guys or really so busy not be about to reply to messages more often that its cool if she just tells me she's not into it.

* she lambasted me for making assumptions about her, and accusing her of things she wasn't doing. She ghosted and reported me.

I got kick off tinder without any warning, explanation a day or so later just like that

There's no way to protest it. Money wasted, so tinder treat women like queens and reinforce a lot of negative behaviors that empowers their bad behaviors.

Magicsparkle · Accepted Answer

I used tinder when I had no self esteem, and among all was obsess about men, and didn't take time for building up myself..
The more you work on yourself, the higher you will vibrate, and connect with someone you really match.
Otherwise all you will find will carry that fear you have to be alone.

Mary087 · Accepted Answer

Its the sad reality most people just want a hookup not something serious.. I've almost reached my point too with dating apps, dont take it to heart, its just much harder in this day to find a real relationship, it may take time and it may happen offline which is probably better but dont give up.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

1. You should have a guy friend read your profile and give yo some honest and candid feedback. You might be surprised, for example, at how the comments you thought were funny were perceived differently by guys.

2. It didn't just happen. You were horny and you wanted to get fucked. Be honest about it and take responsibility.

3. Tinder is a hookup site. If you want to look for more than just lust, perhaps you can get some friends to recommend better online sites.

YHL6965 · Answer

Well, that's what happened after a certain age, women aren't as big of a deal to guys as in the early 20s so you actually have to pull your weight and be appealing instead of just sitting there and having sex come to you. Younger guys get easily baited into running after women, often for sex but, after a while, things change.

Tinder might not be the right site though if you're looking for something serious, maybe try OkCupid since you can answer questions to show more what kind of person you are and see who people are too.

John987654321 · Answer

I have the same experience on Tinder and the other sites and apps, so you are not the problem. I am like you, I would like to find a quality relationship, but I keep encountering people who ghost and drop off for no reason. It's what those things are about.

AviatorTom · Answer

Tinder and similar websites are a waste of time. Sounds like you're interested in having sex, not dating and having a meaningful relationship. There are plenty of websites out there for that. where men outnumber women 5 to 1, and would be very willing to have sex with you. Just google for hook-up sites.

MzAsh · Answer

Tinder is child’s play. You’re a grown ass woman. You need a whole new mindset and strategy.

jshm2 · Answer

You're probably seen as a hoe around the block. Or your profile is just not as interesting now as it was back then.  You are getting old after all and the world is moving on.

MCheetah · Answer

Your standards are incredibly high/entitled, and you're not interested in sex on what is almost entirely a hookup app. It's as foolish as the married women who join dating apps "for friends only."

RHK36 · Answer

It could be a number of reasons, but without more info hard to tell. Maybe switch it up and meet guys differently or apps other than tinder.

Anonymous · Answer

Get off tinder and get out there in the real world and meet people

soufyan · Answer

There is still time to find the right person for you

loveslongnails · Answer

Tinder has a younger audience. You're washed up at 29, babe!

Slim57 · Answer

No idea. Gotta be your bio I would guess but even then most guys don't even read that so I don't know. Very unusual, especially if you had luck before.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Neither have I but, I guess it's because I've never been there.

Yourfriend2021 · Answer

If you stop having sex out of a committed relationship you might find someone that wants more than just sex.

Iron_Man · Answer

Because you’re going on sex sites And you’re getting bad karma

whosnumber1 · Answer

you should post your pic. I will give you a constructive opinion. or message me. I'd like to help u out

Cowboy6666 · Answer

I never had luck in Tinder too also it doesn't work in my area. Try to find another app or website, Even GAG would work for you ;)

Anonymous · Answer

Your magic disappeared. You need a witch to renew some spells.

zagor · Answer

Tinder is pretty much for sex. Which is why it's not boring.

okeydoke · Answer

Try different dating apps like Hinge and Okcupid. I feel like Tinder is flake central.

Chthou95 · Answer

If you're a women on tinder and you're having a hard time, you're seriously doing something wrong

H3LLBRING3R · Answer

Because tinder is for coomers. Go and date someone.

Anonymous · Answer

If you can’t control yourself not to have sex with a guy as soon as they want it then you’ll have a lot of trouble...

Zygum · Answer

Sincere and loyal men as less, only time pass too many

Anonymous · Answer

Posts like this is why men hate women. Just stop bullshitting

pink_and_inlove · Answer

a lot of people in tinder just want sex

anylolone · Answer

Have you swiped right to every guy?

Anonymous · Answer

Not a great place to find relationships

TheFlak38 · Answer

slut alert

Anonymous · Answer

You are aging out of Tinder

Anonymous · Answer

I love you 😘, will you marry me babe?

WowwGirl · Answer

Because it's tinder

Anonymous · Answer

Promiscuous women=🤮

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